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Lady Freedom Returns

(14,120 posts)
Mon Jan 25, 2021, 03:34 AM Jan 2021

I have found myself in a situation I haven't been in for a while.

One of my neighbors seem to be showing interest in me.

I've been burned so many times that I'm a piece of toast. So I'm not really in the market for romance. I'm keeping my distance, but he is showing signs of being the patience and persistent type.

I don't know what he sees that he likes. I'm like a beat up old truck anymore. And I really don't know how to handle this. Been thinking about this for the last week, thinking that he was just being neighborly. But he asked me out today. Told him I'll think about it.

Maybe that was a turnoff, but I'll know if he asks me again.

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I have found myself in a situation I haven't been in for a while. (Original Post) Lady Freedom Returns Jan 2021 OP
Try being friends first. cayugafalls Jan 2021 #1
Coffee is good, walking not so much. Lady Freedom Returns Jan 2021 #2
There is a lid for every pot. safeinOhio Jan 2021 #3
All women are beautiful. MicaelS Jan 2021 #4
Are YOU interested is the more important question. Don't approach it from his needs... Guilded Lilly Jan 2021 #5
If he is republican tell him hell no... Beachnutt Jan 2021 #6
What he sees in you Sanity Claws Jan 2021 #7

cayugafalls

(5,639 posts)
1. Try being friends first.
Mon Jan 25, 2021, 04:03 AM
Jan 2021

Getting to know someone before, "going out" can do wonders.

Take a walk, hang out and have a cup of coffee, it goes well with toast...

Be safe lfr.

Lady Freedom Returns

(14,120 posts)
2. Coffee is good, walking not so much.
Mon Jan 25, 2021, 04:18 AM
Jan 2021

I can't really walk anymore. That is why I can't understand why he is interested.

safeinOhio

(32,641 posts)
3. There is a lid for every pot.
Mon Jan 25, 2021, 04:21 AM
Jan 2021

I'm proof. Didn't meet the love of my life until I reached my mid 60s. I had given up.

MicaelS

(8,747 posts)
4. All women are beautiful.
Mon Jan 25, 2021, 04:45 AM
Jan 2021

Each in her own way. If he asks you out, he sees something in you he likes, something you may not be aware of. Something he finds attractive. Give him a chance. Give love a chance.

Guilded Lilly

(5,591 posts)
5. Are YOU interested is the more important question. Don't approach it from his needs...
Mon Jan 25, 2021, 04:47 AM
Jan 2021

First, do it from yours
Think about it, yes. But don’t overthink it to either of your detriments.
Breathe.

Sanity Claws

(21,841 posts)
7. What he sees in you
Mon Jan 25, 2021, 08:11 AM
Jan 2021

Maybe he sees a kind, compassionate person. Maybe he sees the real you. Don't put yourself down like that.
Also, allow yourself to be his friend, even if nothing else. We learn a lot about ourselves and others through our personal relationships.

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