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wnylib

(21,431 posts)
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:11 AM Feb 2021

Who else cries easily over sad movies?

I have always been moved by emotional scenes in movies, but usually just got a lump in my throat, or had my eyes well up a bit.

But now that I'm older, I actually cry, with tears on my cheeks and a runny nose that sends me grabbing for tissues. Do we get more sappy with age?

I have a collection of old movies, some classics, and even though I have seen them before, and know the outcomes, I still cry over them. This includes West Side Story when Maria leans over Tony's dead body, Ghost when Sam Wheat (Patrick Swayze) is saying his last good-bye to Molly (Demi Moore), and Forest Gump when he stands at his dead wife's grave. I even cry when Dobby the elf dies in the first half of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows.

I can't even chalk it up to the stress of being cooped up during the pandemic because I noticed this tendency to cry more easily before covid. I thought getting older meant that I was stronger from life experience, but I'm apparently more sentimental than I realized.

Any one else feel more sentimental with age?

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Who else cries easily over sad movies? (Original Post) wnylib Feb 2021 OP
Sad movies, Lefta Dissenter Feb 2021 #1
Commercials? Which ones? wnylib Feb 2021 #5
Anything that's remotely touching Lefta Dissenter Feb 2021 #9
Same swimboy Feb 2021 #21
! swimboy Feb 2021 #22
I cried over the coke ad over Christmas malaise Feb 2021 #24
Old Yellaw. OAITW r.2.0 Feb 2021 #2
Oh yeah, classic tear jerker, for sure. wnylib Feb 2021 #6
Lets not forget "The Yearling" OAITW r.2.0 Feb 2021 #11
Never saw that one. wnylib Feb 2021 #13
You have to watch this. OAITW r.2.0 Feb 2021 #15
Finding out that Apollo 13's heat shield held gets me every time! lastlib Feb 2021 #3
One of the Greatest Movies that combined good ole ingenuity and onboard order execution. OAITW r.2.0 Feb 2021 #16
Henry Fond once said, Oldem Feb 2021 #4
Thanks. That's reassurring, not to be the only one. wnylib Feb 2021 #7
Even if you were the only one Oldem Feb 2021 #30
I'm female. Books and songs get to me, too. wnylib Feb 2021 #31
If it's a symptom of aging, Oldem Feb 2021 #32
oh fuck yes Kali Feb 2021 #8
I cry at sad movies and happy movies- my wife looks at me redstateblues Feb 2021 #10
Often, and if animals are involved, always. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2021 #12
Yes! If an animal is hurt or killed in a movie, I start bawling. Mad_Dem_X Feb 2021 #28
Movies get me, too. Cracklin Charlie Feb 2021 #14
Several years ago, my husband and I wnylib Feb 2021 #17
The Color Purple KT2000 Feb 2021 #18
I cry all through that movie Mad_Dem_X Feb 2021 #29
I've even cried during dog food commercials. Laffy Kat Feb 2021 #19
This message was self-deleted by its author wnylib Feb 2021 #20
The movie, Hidden in Silence, wnylib Feb 2021 #23
Yup and I try to avoid them--especially anything where the beloved dog/pet/animal dies hlthe2b Feb 2021 #25
I think it's because we see the animals wnylib Feb 2021 #26
I cry at everything nowadays, it seems. Mad_Dem_X Feb 2021 #27
I whimper over any number of movies, both new and old. Paladin Feb 2021 #33
I can be a very joyful person, and I've always been teary-eyed electric_blue68 Feb 2021 #34
I do. Harker Feb 2021 #35
Some things TuxedoKat Feb 2021 #36
The movie doesn't have to be sad Martin Eden Feb 2021 #37
The scene where everyone in the balcony wnylib Feb 2021 #38

Lefta Dissenter

(6,622 posts)
9. Anything that's remotely touching
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:33 AM
Feb 2021

Or if it has puppies tumbling with kids.

I’m a terrible consumer of advertising, because I never pay attention to what is being advertised - I’m just in it for the feels.

A friend who isn’t quite as sentimental as I am figures the world has stopped turning and the day doesn’t end in “y” if I haven’t cried that day.

wnylib

(21,431 posts)
13. Never saw that one.
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:42 AM
Feb 2021

Last edited Wed Feb 10, 2021, 06:44 PM - Edit history (1)

Speaking of Gregory Peck, To Kill a Mockingbird gives me chills at the end, but not tears.

Edit to add: The scene where Atticus tells Tom Robinson's wife that he has been killed DOES bring tears. The look on her face as she collapses is heartbreaking. (The story that he was shot while running away always makes me sneer, too, in skepticism.)

lastlib

(23,213 posts)
3. Finding out that Apollo 13's heat shield held gets me every time!
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:23 AM
Feb 2021

But I think it starts with finding out that Jim Lovell DID earn his Eagle Scout badge. Hey, after that, everything's good!

BJ telling Hawkeye goodbye in the final MASH will do it, too!

OAITW r.2.0

(24,455 posts)
16. One of the Greatest Movies that combined good ole ingenuity and onboard order execution.
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:59 AM
Feb 2021
This my vote for who we are.

Oldem

(833 posts)
4. Henry Fond once said,
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:27 AM
Feb 2021

when asked what was different now that he'd gotten old. He said he cried more. "Hell, I'll cry over a good steak"!

Films get me teary-eyed, too, so don't feel alone.

Oldem

(833 posts)
30. Even if you were the only one
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:08 PM
Feb 2021

embrace it; have fun. Emotion is a good thing. I don't know your gender, but I'm male; and I think if men cried more, we'd be healthier. The stigma against it is damaging and archaic. Btw, it's not just movies that get to me, but books and music, too.

wnylib

(21,431 posts)
31. I'm female. Books and songs get to me, too.
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:19 PM
Feb 2021

I was a little concerned (but not too much) because, although I've always been affected by books, songs, and movies, I usually did not cry so easily over them until I got older. Thought it might be another symptom of aging, which is unavoidable anyway, so I guess there is nothingvto do but go along with it.

Oldem

(833 posts)
32. If it's a symptom of aging,
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 01:25 PM
Feb 2021

it's a good one. Tears mean something has affected you deeply, and allowing yourself to affected deeply means you're open. It's OK to be unashamed.

redstateblues

(10,565 posts)
10. I cry at sad movies and happy movies- my wife looks at me
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:34 AM
Feb 2021

wondering what’s going on. She is not a crier!

Cracklin Charlie

(12,904 posts)
14. Movies get me, too.
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 12:46 AM
Feb 2021

I remember about 40 years ago watching a movie with my mom. It got really sad, and quiet, and I looked over at my mom. We both had tears streaming down our faces, and we’re just boo-hooing.

The movie? It was the Eight is Enough Christmas movie!

I think I’ve gotten less sentimental with age.

wnylib

(21,431 posts)
17. Several years ago, my husband and I
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 01:23 AM
Feb 2021

watched Camelot on TV. At the end, when they did the lines associated later with JFK, both my husband and I were crying together. We did not meet until 10 years after the JFK assassination, and he was 7 years older than me. But we had both been so affected by the event that those lines brought us both to tears at the memory of it.

KT2000

(20,576 posts)
18. The Color Purple
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 03:04 AM
Feb 2021

When the sister reunite - box of Kleenex required. Now I know it is coming so it is ready.
Ads for abused animals - so bad now I quickly turn the station.

Response to wnylib (Original post)

wnylib

(21,431 posts)
23. The movie, Hidden in Silence,
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 05:27 AM
Feb 2021

Last edited Wed Feb 10, 2021, 05:59 AM - Edit history (1)

brings tears at the happy ending.

It's the true story of a 16 year old Polish girl, Stefania Podgorska, and her 6 year old sister, Helena, who hid 13 Jewish men, women, and children in the attic of their small rented house for 2 1/2 years when Nazis occupied their city. They accomplished this even when the Nazis sent 2 German Army nurses to live with the girls.

When Russian soldiers liberate the city, they think that Stefania was a collaborator because of things the Nazi nurses left behind and they're ready to shoot her. But one of the Jews comes down from the attic, followed by the rest, to explain that she hid them. One of the Russian soldiers is also Jewish and he thanks Stefania while he welcomes the survivors. That's the point when the tears start, as, one by one, they walk out into the sunshine while the screen tells what happened to each of them afterward.

Stafania married one of the men that she had been hiding. He was the brother of her boyfriend from before the war, who had been killed by the Nazis.

hlthe2b

(102,225 posts)
25. Yup and I try to avoid them--especially anything where the beloved dog/pet/animal dies
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 07:23 AM
Feb 2021

I guess we expect people to die, but the animal deaths hit so close to home it still comes as a gut wrench in a movie.

wnylib

(21,431 posts)
26. I think it's because we see the animals
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 11:05 AM
Feb 2021

as innocents. We feel like we want to protect them because we are used to feeling responsible for them. When we see them hurt in a movie, we feel helpless.

When I see horses hurt in battle scenes, I feel bad for the horses. They did not start the wars, but got dragged into them by people who used them.

Mad_Dem_X

(9,555 posts)
27. I cry at everything nowadays, it seems.
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 11:09 AM
Feb 2021

Movies, commercials, songs. I've always been emotional, but as I've gotten older it seems just about everything makes me cry.

Paladin

(28,252 posts)
33. I whimper over any number of movies, both new and old.
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 02:00 PM
Feb 2021

New: "The King's Speech," "Schindler's List"; old: "Random Harvest," "Twelve O'clock High."

electric_blue68

(14,883 posts)
34. I can be a very joyful person, and I've always been teary-eyed
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 04:56 PM
Feb 2021

at movies, songs, TV shows.

I cry at sad scenes, sometimes cry in relief at scenes of triumph over evil, injustice, cruelty.

Like Borimir pledges his alliegence to Aragon. sniffles.
When Samiwise says "...but I can carry you ! Wah!!!
Spoiler:
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What happens to Root/Ms Groves... Wail!

Harker

(14,012 posts)
35. I do.
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 05:19 PM
Feb 2021

Romantic comedies. Heartfelt dramas.

Sometimes it's the dialogue. Sometimes it's the music. Sometimes, I'll cry because of a beautiful camera movement, or fine acting.

Japanese films.

Kirk Douglas getting killed.

Etc.

TuxedoKat

(3,818 posts)
36. Some things
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 10:10 PM
Feb 2021

I will usual tear up at sad scenes especially if I like the actors or characters. There are a few movies though with certain scenes when I see them I will just cry buckets. I haven’t changed much over the years still more or less the same about things like this.

Martin Eden

(12,863 posts)
37. The movie doesn't have to be sad
Wed Feb 10, 2021, 10:22 PM
Feb 2021

Two scenes in To Kill a Mockingbird really start me flowing:
1. In the courtroom when Atticus to leaving and the black pastor tells Scout to stand (as all the colored folk in the balcony stand) to honor her father for the courageous work he was doing on behalf of one of their own.
2. Towards the end after Boo Radley had saved Jem, when Scout finally sees Boo Radley behind the door in their house and says "Hey, Boo."

Moments of pure joy also bring tears. The scene in Return of the King when Frodo (after destroying the Ring in his heroic quest with Sam) wakes after he's rescued up and sees Gandalf, who he thought was dead.

wnylib

(21,431 posts)
38. The scene where everyone in the balcony
Thu Feb 11, 2021, 12:56 AM
Feb 2021

stands up for Atticus gives me an awesome sort of feeling, but not tears. Same when Scout sees Boo. The scene that makes me cry is when Atticus tells Tom Robinson's wife that he's dead. She's expecting good news about an appeal being arranged, and collapses from the shock of the news that he's been shot. Absolutely heartbreaking.

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