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Just stop in to say I won't be posting much (not that I posted much), (Original Post) sarge43 Feb 2021 OP
Oh I'm so sorry. underpants Feb 2021 #1
My sympathy. nancy1942 Feb 2021 #2
My heart goes out to you sarge, and the journey you will be enduring. I am sorry. LizBeth Feb 2021 #3
My sincere sympathies... my heart aches with you. Raster Feb 2021 #4
Deepest condolences! 50 Shades Of Blue Feb 2021 #5
I am sorry to hear this, sarge43. Condolences to you and your family. tblue37 Feb 2021 #6
oh damn, I'm so sorry handmade34 Feb 2021 #7
I am so sorry MackinacBridge Feb 2021 #8
So very sorry.... CherokeeDem Feb 2021 #9
How awful...my deepest sympathies... regnaD kciN Feb 2021 #10
So very sorry.... CherokeeDem Feb 2021 #11
Oh no!!! I am so very, very sorry. I know that no words can help, but know that your DU niyad Feb 2021 #12
so darned sorry stopdiggin Feb 2021 #13
Oh, I'm so, so sorry! catbyte Feb 2021 #14
Oh, sarge43, I am so sorry for your loss. In_The_Wind Feb 2021 #15
So, so sorry to read this! babylonsister Feb 2021 #16
That's awful Wicked Blue Feb 2021 #17
Oh no! UpInArms Feb 2021 #18
That's terrible news, sarge! PJMcK Feb 2021 #19
Oh sarge blm Feb 2021 #20
Oh no - I'm so sorry for your loss. n/t Backseat Driver Feb 2021 #21
I'm so sorry! The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2021 #22
omigawd. barbtries Feb 2021 #23
I'm so, so sorry for your loss, sarge... dixiechiken1 Feb 2021 #24
oh no! Kali Feb 2021 #25
Sorry to hear,... Be Well Yourself.... magicarpet Feb 2021 #26
I am so sorry for you. What a terrible tragedy for you and your family. Fla Dem Feb 2021 #27
So sorry... dawg day Feb 2021 #28
Deepest Sympathy. NNadir Feb 2021 #29
I am so very sorry. KarenS Feb 2021 #30
I'm so, so sorry to hear this. Hela Feb 2021 #31
... Aristus Feb 2021 #32
So sorry jpak Feb 2021 #33
Oh, how very sad. 3catwoman3 Feb 2021 #34
Peace and comfort offered Wawannabe Feb 2021 #35
I am so sorry for your loss Tumbulu Feb 2021 #36
Deepest sympathies BlueMTexpat Feb 2021 #37
Oh no - KT2000 Feb 2021 #38
🕯️I am so sorry for your great loss Sarge irisblue Feb 2021 #39
Oh, sarge43, I'm so sorry. ancianita Feb 2021 #40
What a terrible shock! So sorry to hear this, sarge43. Deepest condolences to you and family. littlemissmartypants Feb 2021 #41
Oh how horrible. My deepest condolences to you. Marie Marie Feb 2021 #42
I'm so sorry... WinstonSmith4740 Feb 2021 #43
Good advice above. Also, I can tell you're in shock, your brain probably calculating a good time to Karadeniz Feb 2021 #66
OMG...that "brain fall apart" thing? WinstonSmith4740 Feb 2021 #82
I feel so bad for you OLDMDDEM Feb 2021 #44
So sorry to hear this, dear sarge43! pazzyanne Feb 2021 #45
I am so very sorry for your loss. Ford_Prefect Feb 2021 #46
Oh no! FailureToCommunicate Feb 2021 #47
My deepest condolences. blueinredohio Feb 2021 #48
Horrible. My condolences. Pepsidog Feb 2021 #49
My heart is with you blogslut Feb 2021 #50
I'm so sorry for your loss! AwakeAtLast Feb 2021 #51
Oh my, that's devastating. Sunny Daze Feb 2021 #52
Oh my god. How horrible for you Kimber432 Feb 2021 #53
We'll be here sending you love lunatica Feb 2021 #54
How tragic and heartbreaking! I am so sorry for your loss. OMGWTF Feb 2021 #55
My condolences, sarge True Dough Feb 2021 #56
Wow. I'm so sorry. SunSeeker Feb 2021 #57
Such sad news. Love and peace to you, sarge43. 🕯 SaveOurDemocracy Feb 2021 #58
My deepest sympathy. sinkingfeeling Feb 2021 #59
Sorry to hear this. Jim__ Feb 2021 #60
Wow. That's a lot to handle. SergeStorms Feb 2021 #61
I am so sorry. yardwork Feb 2021 #62
Very sorry for your loss. Just_Vote_Dem Feb 2021 #63
Sending a hug cp Feb 2021 #64
Sincere condolences to you and your family....... Heartstrings Feb 2021 #65
... N_E_1 for Tennis Feb 2021 #67
Holding you in my heart. n/t TygrBright Feb 2021 #68
My Deepest Condolences DemUnleashed Feb 2021 #69
So very sorry, sarge44 Granny M Feb 2021 #70
I'm so so sorry... CaptainTruth Feb 2021 #71
Oh, Sarge. Oh, no. murielm99 Feb 2021 #72
Oh my, I am so sorry for your loss. cayugafalls Feb 2021 #73
OMG how awful for you and him lillypaddle Feb 2021 #74
Thank you, everyone. DU: Always there for you sarge43 Feb 2021 #75
how terrible--i'm so sorry this happened. i'm hoping you have orleans Feb 2021 #86
deepest sympathies rurallib Feb 2021 #76
Deepest condolances DFW Feb 2021 #77
So sorry SallyHemmings Feb 2021 #78
I am SO sorry. trof Feb 2021 #79
I am so sorry for your profound loss. stuffmatters Feb 2021 #80
I'm so sorry. qanda Feb 2021 #81
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Feb 2021 #83
My deepest Condolences. Bluethroughu Feb 2021 #84
No words. MontanaMama Feb 2021 #85
So sorry to hear this. duforsure Feb 2021 #87
Condolences to you and yours. eom sazemisery Feb 2021 #88
I am so very sorry for the sudden loss of your husband. You must be in shock. mnhtnbb Feb 2021 #89
So sorry for your loss, sarge43. Lars39 Feb 2021 #90
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. Please take care of yourself. CaliforniaPeggy Feb 2021 #91
Oh, sarge! I am so sorry to hear that. smirkymonkey Feb 2021 #92
Im very sorry for your loss. 💔 live love laugh Feb 2021 #93
Sorry to hear that. Take good care, hard times for sure. Pobeka Feb 2021 #94
I am so sorry. MuseRider Feb 2021 #95
Oh no! Evergreen Emerald Feb 2021 #96
OMG, this has to have been such a horrible shock for you! greatauntoftriplets Feb 2021 #97
I'm so sorry. Solly Mack Feb 2021 #98
Very sorry to hear this. JohnnyLib2 Feb 2021 #99
... Laffy Kat Feb 2021 #100
I am so sorry. PA_jen Feb 2021 #101
How horrible wryter2000 Feb 2021 #102
Hugs to you, sarge. Totally Tunsie Feb 2021 #103
So very, very sorry! TruckFump Feb 2021 #104
This is terrible. LisaM Feb 2021 #105
... Nevilledog Feb 2021 #106
I am so sorry that this has happened. The loss of a beloved spouse Tanuki Feb 2021 #107
I am so very sorry MissB Feb 2021 #108
Oh, no... pacalo Feb 2021 #109
Woah... So sorry to hear! electric_blue68 Feb 2021 #110
Terrible news. Deepest condolences to you Coventina Feb 2021 #111
Because I can't sleep, stopping by to say thank you again. sarge43 Feb 2021 #112
Soar on the wings of spirit Donkees Feb 2021 #113
no words kpete Feb 2021 #114
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family. flying_wahini Feb 2021 #115
So very sorry DownriverDem Feb 2021 #116
Wow, that sucks. Take care of business. We'll be here with hugs for you... Wounded Bear Feb 2021 #117
Oh no, I am so sorry. Blue_playwright Feb 2021 #118
Yes, I have already posted and leaned on quite a few shoulders. sarge43 Feb 2021 #125
Would that it were not so... Blue Owl Feb 2021 #119
So very sorry for your loss... Freedomofspeech Feb 2021 #120
So sorry! colorado_ufo Feb 2021 #121
This is just sad............ turbinetree Feb 2021 #122
So sorry!... Phentex Feb 2021 #123
Sympathies... farmbo Feb 2021 #124
So tragic! BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2021 #126
So sorry ... nt bluecollar2 Feb 2021 #127
Omg. I am so sorry. 💔 onecaliberal Feb 2021 #128
I'm so sorry to hear your awful news. BobTheSubgenius Feb 2021 #129
So sad and sorry for your loss. virgdem Feb 2021 #130
So sad for you. So tragic riverbendviewgal Feb 2021 #131
I am so very sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Texin Feb 2021 #132
How awful! pandr32 Feb 2021 #133
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Feb 2021 #134
Please accept my condolences. n/t malthaussen Feb 2021 #135
I'm sorry for your loss, sarge. demmiblue Feb 2021 #136
No! So, so sorry, sarge! cilla4progress Feb 2021 #137
So very sorry cate94 Feb 2021 #138
I am so very sorry. c-rational Feb 2021 #139
I'm so sorry, Sarge. My heart goes out to you and your family. (((hugs))) sueh Feb 2021 #140
CAVU Ceiling And Visibility Unlimited philly_bob Feb 2021 #141
It's the blessing and pray for any air force member. sarge43 Feb 2021 #147
I'm so sorry to see this. GreenEyedLefty Feb 2021 #142
So sorry to hear this Sarge..... Irish_Dem Feb 2021 #143
So Sorry marieo1 Feb 2021 #144
So sorry for this tragedy... Trueblue Texan Feb 2021 #145
Sarge, I'm sorry you have to bear this, hopefully not alone. yonder Feb 2021 #146
My heart hurts for you. n/t myccrider Feb 2021 #148
I'm so sorry. mountain grammy Feb 2021 #149
You'll always have family here. JohnnyRingo Feb 2021 #150
Deepest condolences Roc2020 Feb 2021 #151
I'm just seeing this today and am so very sorry, sarge43. You have a lot of friends here who hlthe2b Feb 2021 #152

niyad

(112,063 posts)
12. Oh no!!! I am so very, very sorry. I know that no words can help, but know that your DU
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 04:18 PM
Feb 2021

family is here for you, however we can help.

stopdiggin

(11,037 posts)
13. so darned sorry
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 04:19 PM
Feb 2021

you do what you need to do -- and take care of yourself. talk when you get back. --- ---

PJMcK

(21,859 posts)
19. That's terrible news, sarge!
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 04:24 PM
Feb 2021

I'm very sorry to hear of your tragedy. In time, I hope you'll find peace.

Hela

(434 posts)
31. I'm so, so sorry to hear this.
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 04:54 PM
Feb 2021

My sympathies to you for the loss of your dear husband, Jim. Take care of yourself.

KT2000

(20,534 posts)
38. Oh no -
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 05:21 PM
Feb 2021

I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you now. I am so sorry. Please tune in to Du if you need virtual hugs.

ancianita

(35,711 posts)
40. Oh, sarge43, I'm so sorry.
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 05:27 PM
Feb 2021

This is a horrible loss. We're with you knowing you'll do what you must. But when you need some virtual hugs, advice, help, we'll be here to do what we can.

WinstonSmith4740

(3,047 posts)
43. I'm so sorry...
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 05:32 PM
Feb 2021

I walked a different road, but to the same destination, and this was the first place I came to in the aftermath.
Please take time and take care of yourself. It's easy to forget to do things like eat, and sleep can be tough to come by. It does get better, and we're all here for you.

Karadeniz

(22,156 posts)
66. Good advice above. Also, I can tell you're in shock, your brain probably calculating a good time to
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 06:15 PM
Feb 2021

Fall apart. Nothing wrong with that, but do try to take care of yourself.
Deepest sympathy to you and your family at this time of loss.

WinstonSmith4740

(3,047 posts)
82. OMG...that "brain fall apart" thing?
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 06:59 PM
Feb 2021

Totally true. Also, allow yourself to feel what you're feeling...don't deny anything. I tried that for a while..."He was suffering, now he's in a better place, his pain is over" ad nauseum, and it broke me. If you want to cry, cry. Rail at the heavens. Scream if you want. I found it helpful to have empty boxes around the house that I could kick. Friends and family will understand and be there for you and nobody else matters.

pazzyanne

(6,500 posts)
45. So sorry to hear this, dear sarge43!
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 05:35 PM
Feb 2021

Sending prayers for strength for you, for people to help you, and healing for you and your family.

Sunny Daze

(209 posts)
52. Oh my, that's devastating.
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 05:54 PM
Feb 2021

I’m so very sorry for your loss. Hugs and please accept my deepest condolences.

Kimber432

(74 posts)
53. Oh my god. How horrible for you
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 05:54 PM
Feb 2021

I haven't posted much either but I am so sorry for your family and friends with this terrible loss. Prayers...

True Dough

(17,038 posts)
56. My condolences, sarge
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 05:59 PM
Feb 2021

That's terrible news. Sorry to hear it.

I wish you great strength, but let the emotions do what they must for a while.

SergeStorms

(18,758 posts)
61. Wow. That's a lot to handle.
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 06:06 PM
Feb 2021

I hope you have loved ones nearby to help you through this. Were always here for you, for what it's worth. My most heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

murielm99

(30,617 posts)
72. Oh, Sarge. Oh, no.
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 06:25 PM
Feb 2021

Many of us here have faced bereavement. But to have it so suddenly!

Don't hesitate to talk to us when you need to do that. Hugs, prayers, good thoughts....whatever you need.

lillypaddle

(9,580 posts)
74. OMG how awful for you and him
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 06:31 PM
Feb 2021

and your family. My deepest condolences to you. Don't forget to take care of yourself, and remember that DU is a great place to go for hugs and wisdom. May Jim rest in peace.

sarge43

(28,935 posts)
75. Thank you, everyone. DU: Always there for you
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 06:35 PM
Feb 2021

Your messages mean more than I can say. They do help.

If I can get through tonight (still waiting for him to pull into the driveway), I think I'll be ok.

He was a good man who gave more than he took. I was lucky to have him.

Again, CAVU Airman.

orleans

(33,949 posts)
86. how terrible--i'm so sorry this happened. i'm hoping you have
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 07:13 PM
Feb 2021

family around you that you can talk with and lean on and who will just let you talk and cry, and even cook for you.

it's a huge change when we lose someone in our day-to-day because there is always that constant reminder in whatever you're doing to include them

just take it easy--take it slow (and i mean from decision-making to walking around the house)

sending both of you light and love.

we're here for you.




DFW

(53,930 posts)
77. Deepest condolances
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 06:39 PM
Feb 2021

It's my worst fear, too. My wife takes frequent long drives on streets and highways populated by maniacs.

I'm so sorry for you that my worst fear had to happen to you.

mnhtnbb

(31,302 posts)
89. I am so very sorry for the sudden loss of your husband. You must be in shock.
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 07:45 PM
Feb 2021

There are quite a few DU'ers who have lost spouses in the last year or two. Some will probably stop in on this thread with condolences. We're here for you.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
92. Oh, sarge! I am so sorry to hear that.
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 08:31 PM
Feb 2021

What terrible news. Please check back in with us to let us know how you are holding up.

My sincere condolences. May Jim rest in peace.

MuseRider

(34,051 posts)
95. I am so sorry.
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 10:41 PM
Feb 2021

Know that we are all here for you. Thinking of you and sending loving and healing thoughts to you. Many warm hugs.

greatauntoftriplets

(175,654 posts)
97. OMG, this has to have been such a horrible shock for you!
Fri Feb 19, 2021, 10:59 PM
Feb 2021

Please accept my condolences for your loss. I am so sorry to hear that you and your family have suffered such a terrible tragedy.

Tanuki

(14,887 posts)
107. I am so sorry that this has happened. The loss of a beloved spouse
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 01:02 AM
Feb 2021

is one of life's most difficult passages, and having it happen so unexpectedly must be especially hard. I wish you the very best as you process this very great loss and begin to put your life back together. There will always be someone here at DU awake and ready to respond with compassion and encouragement at any hour if you want to chat. Peace and blessings to you, sarge43.


electric_blue68

(14,512 posts)
110. Woah... So sorry to hear!
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 01:21 AM
Feb 2021


Strength to you for it all, and to whom else that you're close to who will be grieving.

sarge43

(28,935 posts)
112. Because I can't sleep, stopping by to say thank you again.
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 05:35 AM
Feb 2021

Last edited Tue Mar 2, 2021, 07:46 AM - Edit history (1)

Your kind words, advice and offers of help mean more than I can say. I love this place. DU is the best.

I can't sleep because the old brain keeps putting up fire walls. "What am I going to do with all his stuff??" He was king of the pack rats -- everything from cars to ancient manuals about repairing antique sewing machines. "How am I going to do this or that or the other thing, etc?"

Of course, the old brain is avoiding dwelling upon the reality of "I'll never see him again." In the morning I would find him at the kitchen table net surfing the news. Getting my coffee and sitting with him and snark, analyze or rage about what's going on. I'll never tell him again "Hey, the bees are out and the daffodils are starting to bloom." Him telling me the cardinal pair showed up. Just two old folk married forever getting through the day.

Yes, I will get on, but it will never be the same.

Thank you for letting me do a little virtual grieving.

Donkees

(30,998 posts)
113. Soar on the wings of spirit
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 09:27 AM
Feb 2021

The famous aviation poem written in 1941 by 19-year-old Pilot Officer John Gillespie Magee Jr, three months before he was killed.

sarge43

(28,935 posts)
125. Yes, I have already posted and leaned on quite a few shoulders.
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 11:45 AM
Feb 2021

I'll lose it during his funeral at NH Veteran's Cemetery. I'll be in uniform and during Taps I'll have to salute. Guarantee the old sarge will have do everything to keep from coming apart.

Thank you for the kind thoughts.

pandr32

(11,419 posts)
133. How awful!
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 01:13 PM
Feb 2021

I am so sorry. I hope you find the strength to navigate through it all and that you have support from family and close friends.
We are here waiting your return.

dlk

(11,378 posts)
134. I'm very sorry for your loss
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 01:15 PM
Feb 2021

Sending prayers of comfort and peace to help you through this difficult time.

cilla4progress

(24,554 posts)
137. No! So, so sorry, sarge!
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 01:21 PM
Feb 2021

Thank you for coming to this community for support and love.

Holding you in my heart!

sarge43

(28,935 posts)
147. It's the blessing and pray for any air force member.
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 03:07 PM
Feb 2021

Like fair winds and following seas for sailors.

Thank you.

Trueblue Texan

(2,342 posts)
145. So sorry for this tragedy...
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 02:44 PM
Feb 2021

The last year has been full of this sort of stuff...sorry you're suffering more of it. Peace to you and your family.

JohnnyRingo

(18,563 posts)
150. You'll always have family here.
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 03:27 PM
Feb 2021

If you need a shoulder, we have many and they're broad.

Sorry for your loss.

hlthe2b

(101,534 posts)
152. I'm just seeing this today and am so very sorry, sarge43. You have a lot of friends here who
Sat Feb 20, 2021, 04:07 PM
Feb 2021

will have you in our thoughts today and well into the future.

If anything can help with grief, it is the good memories you have of Jim. Please let them bring you peace.

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