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FirstLight Apr 12 OP
samnsara Apr 12 #1
FirstLight Apr 12 #7
soothsayer Apr 12 #2
RainCaster Apr 12 #3
multigraincracker Apr 12 #4
MacKasey Apr 12 #5
gibraltar72 Apr 12 #6
FirstLight Apr 12 #8
rsdsharp Apr 12 #11
Binkie The Clown Apr 12 #9
bucolic_frolic Apr 12 #10
Midnight Writer Apr 12 #12
PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 12 #13
Phoenix61 Apr 12 #14
FirstLight Apr 12 #15
MLAA Apr 12 #16
FirstLight Apr 13 #17
FirstLight Apr 13 #18

Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 01:54 PM

1. YAY!!!! I have 2 sisters who tried to do the same thing with my parents estate..

..I no longer even communicate with them. Not even for emergencies. Start buying cool stuff for YOUR new home! starting with new touch faucet that you can control with an app.

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Response to samnsara (Reply #1)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:02 PM

7. I dont expect to be social with her ever again...

...and yeah! I have already re-done my son's room and made a beautiful study/office... and I got big plans for my bedroom and the side yard

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 01:55 PM

2. Congrats!

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 01:58 PM

3. Congratulations, welcome to a greater sense of security

This should help you breath easier now.

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 01:58 PM

4. Happy for you.

I’m living in my forth forever home.

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:00 PM

5. Congratulation!! So happy for you!!

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:01 PM

6. Welcome to the joys of home ownership.

$5,000 will split a family. A trust with multiple assets will fracture it. I was in financial services and insurance I counseled my clients to make sure things go to the person you want to have them. If they told me their family was different they could be trusted to share I'd give them examples. People will always justify their selfishness.

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Response to gibraltar72 (Reply #6)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:03 PM

8. yep...happened to a couple friends of mine too..

and I finally said to my mom " god, you and dad are STILL here and already the vultures are circling"

sad, but true

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Response to gibraltar72 (Reply #6)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:34 PM

11. I handled several will contests over the years, and they were god awful.

Entire families would be at each other’s throats over a few thousand dollars.

My humanities professor used a quote about nations going to war: “When the flags unfurl, the brains go in the trumpet.”

That’s what family disputes are like. No rational thought, just “I want mine. And yours.”

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:07 PM

9. I was lucky.

I was sole caregiver for my mom while her dementia progressed over a period of 8 years. My mom wanted to leave her entire estate to me as payment for my 7/24 live-in care giving. Both of my sisters agreed, and when my mom passed my sisters were happy to make sure it all came to me, including the house. It worked out to way less than minimum wage, and I gave a big chunk of it to charity. But in the end everybody was happy.

I love my sisters dearly, even though they are both pretty right-wing.

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:10 PM

10. Congrats

Be aware of tax and elder law issues. They can stick their nose in when you least expect it.

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:49 PM

12. Glad your Dad decided it was time to settle some issues.

My Dad refused to deal with anything in his dotage and left a hell of a mess for his family to deal with.

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:55 PM

13. Good. I'm glad your dad did that.

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 03:19 PM

14. If you're looking for cool stuff for your home that

is ridiculously inexpensive check out your local Habitat Restore.

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Response to Phoenix61 (Reply #14)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 03:50 PM

15. nice!

Im also looking forward to qualifying to have my house evaluated by a non-profit energy program...they will re-do storm windows, check your furnace and even reccomend you to another non profit in CA that will do solar!

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 04:19 PM

16. Congrats!

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Tue Apr 13, 2021, 12:49 AM

17. ...so someone who is friends with someone told my sister I was HAPPY

someone on FB who is a mutual friend of my sister ....most likely my son's wife (they are BFFs and yet my son has cut me out of everything...seriously, my sister has probably seen my own grandkids more than I ever have...it's another line of BS in our stupid family)

My sister actually called my dad (who is 87 and still not ALL gone thank you_) and told him he shoud get a lawyer...how dare he give ME the house that was bought for ME in the first place?

so tomorrow I got ALLLLL the forms and we are getting it notarized & filed!!!!


I am so angry that she would try to intimidate my dad like that

when it's all stamped at the recoreder's office tomorrow...though I havent talked to her in weeks..I wanna send her a pic and tell her to FUCK OFF!

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Response to FirstLight (Original post)

Tue Apr 13, 2021, 01:09 AM

18. kick

i've got the forms all printed...done.

notary tomorrow and filed with recorder-clerk before 5 ...Beyotches!

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