Broke Up, Feeling Depressed
I met a woman on Plenty of Fish and we texted for a few months. At first we'd text every other day but then she wouldn't respond for several days and would barely answer. So I tried to set up a phone call date hoping it might work better if we had one every week instead like I did with a different woman before I met her. But I tried to organize that for a month and she wouldn't answer. Finally when I set it up she missed it because she got stuck on a hike. So finally I said I wanted to get to know her better by talking on the phone then maybe going out for coffee in hopes that we become boyfriend and girlfriend. She said she'd like to get to know me better and we had a lot in common but stay as friends. I've seen this kind of thing before; a woman will blow me off than suddenly it's "I've met someone better, don't contact me anymore". So I said that makes me very sad but if you're not open to a romantic relationship I'd rather spend my time pursuing someone who is".
Now I'm depressed. No one has ever wanted to be my girlfriend, not once. I'm autistic and have a 134 IQ; it's extremely hard to find compatible women. One thing online dating has beaten into my head is there aren't very many people like me out there. I hate online dating; most women ghost me- stop contact with me without saying why. Now Eharmony is being stupid and not letting me log in so I have to work that out because I'm paying over 200$ a year for it.
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Online relationships are a crap shoot.
I tried it for awhile after my ex and I split. There are scammers that prey on the lonely. But the gems I met made it worth it. Two became very good friends, another one I dated for 2 years and he wanted to get married, the last one is now my husband.
Since we can now get out and about some, it improves your options. Are there community classes available? I met my ex in one, and we were married for 30 years. Explore your interests--Music? Art? History? Its a good way to meet people who share them.
Best.
back off a little and don't act so desperate. That advice having been given, keep in mind that I am 73 and have been single for the last 15 years.
the men she found on these sites were mentally dysfunctional, IMO. One was barely able to make a living and the other had issues with that, too, though he did hold a degree from a good institution and he eventually found a decent job. But same as what you say, they have issues with their spouse and child support and seeing their children.
I repeat, after what I've seen (and I've listened to stories for 10 years now 
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I would not bother with these sites. They have to be the biggest collection of looking for love losers at life ever.
I will admit I've never once gone on these sites and my opinion is based strictly on my friend's practical experience.
asking women out in person just doesn't happen much anymore, might even get young men labeled a "creep". They're all screening each other first, and if you don't come off good in your profile, forget ever meeting someone, I guess. I will point out, having read your first post upthread, that being short doesn't equal defective as a person (speaking as a 4'10" woman with a son who is 5'5" 
I'm sure there are women who automatically reject him on that basis, so his available pool of women is smaller--he's upfront about it, he knows honesty is key. But he's got other things going for him, and I hope he'll find someone nice. That's really been his problem--just finding someone decent who isn't an asshole or really fucked up in some way.
