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Soph0571

(9,685 posts)
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:37 PM Dec 2021

Raise your hands if you are alone this New Years Eve. DU give us some New Year love.

As I write this it is 2230 in my corner of the planet and I sit alone listening to the fireworks outside. I am using my time alone this eve to reflect on the last year, much of which has been horrid, as many as you know, and some of which has been absolutely splendid. But I am still alone on NYE and that is lonely. I have much loved friends and family, but with Omi being nasty in London - that was never going to happen. So for all of us, for whatever circumstance find ourselves alone - a DU spirited hug of marvelousness seems like a plan.

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Raise your hands if you are alone this New Years Eve. DU give us some New Year love. (Original Post) Soph0571 Dec 2021 OP
Sending you a hug. Happy New Year! Joinfortmill Dec 2021 #1
Happy New Year Soph0571 Dec 2021 #9
Oh my dear Soph! It's enormously hard to be alone when you want company! CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2021 #2
Thanks love Soph0571 Dec 2021 #12
I'm gonna wear my favorite purple pajamas !! alittlelark Dec 2021 #3
Just me and my sweet girly dog curled up next to me. It is snowing outdoors, I'm listening to hlthe2b Dec 2021 #4
Me, too, but that's fine. Ocelot II Dec 2021 #5
I'm alone too.... Dale in Laurel MD Dec 2021 #6
Hugs are always good n/t Soph0571 Dec 2021 #15
I'm not gonna be alone. Just by myself Deuxcents Dec 2021 #7
;-{)🖖‍ Goonch Dec 2021 #8
LOL Soph0571 Dec 2021 #17
Taking care of my dad who's hospice. roamer65 Dec 2021 #10
Much love Soph0571 Dec 2021 #18
My Dad passed in October after being in Hospice care at home for a month and in their facility for MLAA Dec 2021 #22
Thank you both! roamer65 Dec 2021 #28
Oh, that's so hard. femmedem Dec 2021 #30
Alone by choice Glorfindel Dec 2021 #11
I'm marinating chicken I will have for supper. Two cans of beer (my limit these days) and Midnight Writer Dec 2021 #13
Happy New Year Soph0571 Dec 2021 #24
Hand raised. Mr. Femmedem is quarantining with covid. femmedem Dec 2021 #14
Pheobe rocks Soph0571 Dec 2021 #20
Thanks. So far he feels as if he has a cold plus a lot of fatigue. femmedem Dec 2021 #37
DU love and hugs and may you find more joy than sadness in 2022. You just inspired me to make that a ShazamIam Dec 2021 #16
I will be joyful Soph0571 Dec 2021 #25
Oh, that's wonderful! femmedem Dec 2021 #29
Here you go! MLAA Dec 2021 #19
Now that is what we are talking about! Soph0571 Dec 2021 #21
Alone, I hate NYE. sheshe2 Dec 2021 #23
hugs to you... markie Dec 2021 #26
Hugs to you, markie! femmedem Dec 2021 #31
"Comedy is Tragedy plus Time" markie Dec 2021 #33
Yes, I'm sure he would have wanted you to laugh. femmedem Dec 2021 #36
I will be alone but it is not a problem. Delmette2.0 Dec 2021 #27
Just me and Zeus Dog, some appetizers and bubbly from Trader Joe's zeusdogmom Dec 2021 #32
Me. Will be asleep by 10. sinkingfeeling Dec 2021 #34
me mike_c Dec 2021 #35
Oh! The worst reason to be alone. I hope she will be ok. femmedem Dec 2021 #39
Hugs back to you, Soph. mnhtnbb Dec 2021 #38
I'm alone I_UndergroundPanther Dec 2021 #40
✌🏻 dweller Dec 2021 #41
raises hand . happy post year . AllaN01Bear Dec 2021 #42
Raises hand. Alone this year, hubby in hospital since Christmas. He was in ICU on a ventilator Ziggysmom Jan 2022 #43
I'm alone tonight Green Line Jan 2022 #44
A big hug for you Cosmo Blues Jan 2022 #45
I'm a bit late for your post PJMcK Jan 2022 #46

Joinfortmill

(14,397 posts)
1. Sending you a hug. Happy New Year!
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:40 PM
Dec 2021

I am alone, a state some say I enjoy far too much. I think they may be right.

Soph0571

(9,685 posts)
9. Happy New Year
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:50 PM
Dec 2021

I am a weird mix of social and introvert. When I am out there I love it! When I am home I appreciate it so much.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,534 posts)
2. Oh my dear Soph! It's enormously hard to be alone when you want company!
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:42 PM
Dec 2021

Especially when we ring in the New Year!

So here's my spirited hug of marvelousness for you!

And let us hope for a much better New Year.

Another hug for good measure!

Happy New Year, dear Soph!

alittlelark

(18,890 posts)
3. I'm gonna wear my favorite purple pajamas !!
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:43 PM
Dec 2021

Making shrimp scampi that I’ll share with my dog and 23 yr old cat, find something good on Netflix, and watch the snow come down.

hlthe2b

(102,141 posts)
4. Just me and my sweet girly dog curled up next to me. It is snowing outdoors, I'm listening to
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:43 PM
Dec 2021

classic "oldies" and have the "top-four" college football bowl games on tv muted but playing in the background. After yesterday's horrific fires in nearby South Boulder, Louisville, and Superior, CO, seeing the snow fall gently is tremendous on the soul. (Second only to my warm, sleeping, and very content pup).

May all find happiness in the hope of a much better New Year.

Ocelot II

(115,615 posts)
5. Me, too, but that's fine.
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:43 PM
Dec 2021

I can't remember that last NYE that I wasn't. Alone is normal and it doesn't bother me. I have a sweet cat to keep me company. Happy New Year to all; may it be better than the last.

Deuxcents

(16,094 posts)
7. I'm not gonna be alone. Just by myself
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:44 PM
Dec 2021

And I like it this way! I’ll txt n talk w/ longtime friends who aren’t out these days.. got a bottle of nice wine n will probably greet 2022 in my dreams. Happy New Year to all my DU friends. I thank you for teaching me so many things and I wish all a happy n very healthy New Year.

MLAA

(17,254 posts)
22. My Dad passed in October after being in Hospice care at home for a month and in their facility for
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:58 PM
Dec 2021

2 days. The best thing was they made sure he felt no pain at all. Sending you both

femmedem

(8,197 posts)
30. Oh, that's so hard.
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 07:24 PM
Dec 2021

I'm sure you're treasuring your time with him, hard as it is. And I'm glad hospice is there to make things easier for both of you.

Glorfindel

(9,720 posts)
11. Alone by choice
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:51 PM
Dec 2021

I don't like "endings," so I really never celebrate New Year's Eve. I can wake up tomorrow filled with delight at the start of a bright, shiny new year and be filled with hope and optimism, at least for 24 hours or so. I wish all of us a very, very happy new year!

Midnight Writer

(21,719 posts)
13. I'm marinating chicken I will have for supper. Two cans of beer (my limit these days) and
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:51 PM
Dec 2021

an old tomcat and a young dog.

Probably eat in front of the TV and stream a movie. Then to bed with a book.

I know it's not for everyone, but it is my idea of a good time.

Happy New Year to all, and to all a Good Night.

femmedem

(8,197 posts)
14. Hand raised. Mr. Femmedem is quarantining with covid.
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:51 PM
Dec 2021

I almost hope I test positive tomorrow morning so we can spend the day together. (Not really, but at least we are both vaxxed and boosted.)

Sending you some DU love, Soph0571--and a picture of my cat Phoebe to cheer you up.



femmedem

(8,197 posts)
37. Thanks. So far he feels as if he has a cold plus a lot of fatigue.
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 08:11 PM
Dec 2021

He slept for twelve hours last night, then was up for about three hours this morning, then fell back asleep for four more. But he says he is breathing ok, just very tired.

ShazamIam

(2,564 posts)
16. DU love and hugs and may you find more joy than sadness in 2022. You just inspired me to make that a
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:53 PM
Dec 2021

a goal, to find something to be joyful about every day, not merely thankful, joyful.

Soph0571

(9,685 posts)
25. I will be joyful
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 07:02 PM
Dec 2021

I am in a place now where joyful seems possible again - that is huge!!!! Therapy has been a god send this year.

sheshe2

(83,669 posts)
23. Alone, I hate NYE.
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 06:59 PM
Dec 2021

Mom and Sis having dinner downstairs. Eating mine here then putting mom to bed at 8:30.

That's it.



markie

(22,756 posts)
26. hugs to you...
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 07:02 PM
Dec 2021


I tried a bereavement group this morning and I was the only one there (...only in my world!) ...besides the Chaplin who runs it ...I did so want a group so I could just sit and listen to their stories and concerns

so, yes, I am alone tonight... I put the chickens (my only companions these days) to bed, made some coffee, checking DU and now just might watch a movie... or???

enjoy the evening everyone!!

femmedem

(8,197 posts)
31. Hugs to you, markie!
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 07:27 PM
Dec 2021

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Being the only person there in the bereavement group is so bad it would be comical if it were in a movie. But real life, ouch.

I hope you find a good movie. I'm going to look for one, too.


markie

(22,756 posts)
33. "Comedy is Tragedy plus Time"
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 08:00 PM
Dec 2021

having a hard time processing my husband's death and need a group... I can still laugh though... he would have wanted me to!!

I tell everyone this is our last official portrait together... really, us by the end of the day towards the end (he was very sick and we had tough times)

femmedem

(8,197 posts)
36. Yes, I'm sure he would have wanted you to laugh.
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 08:08 PM
Dec 2021

And I'll bet he would have gotten a kick out of your "last official portrait together."

My husband said a few months ago that he hoped he outlived me because he thought being alone would be harder on me than on him.

I hope the bereavement group here on DU tides you over until you can find a local group.

Decades ago, when I was thirty-five and my fiance died, I found books on bereavement to be helpful, too. I especially liked a memoir by the poet Mark Doty about losing his beloved to AIDS.

Delmette2.0

(4,158 posts)
27. I will be alone but it is not a problem.
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 07:04 PM
Dec 2021

My sister is 50 miles of snowy roads away. My son and DIL are just across town but she is sick. I can't even visit the grand puppies. I will have phone calls and text messages so none of us are forgotten.

Happy New Year DU!!

zeusdogmom

(987 posts)
32. Just me and Zeus Dog, some appetizers and bubbly from Trader Joe's
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 07:32 PM
Dec 2021

I was suppose to hang out with the manatees during Wild Lights at the zoo (docent gig) and enjoy those tasty snacks and bubbly when I got home later in the evening, but thanks to the 🤬🤬🤬🤬 COVID numbers here in Ohio, all of the zoo buildings are closed during evening zoo hours. And I am enjoying the snacks and bubbly right now.

This can be such an uncomfortable and sad evening for many. If you are in that group, sending an electronic hug 🤗. I’ve been there. I cried a lot the first couple of years alone. Truth be told, kind of like it now. But that is me.

Here is to a wonderful 2022. It will be a challenging year I am sure. But challenges can bring out the best in us. They help keep us sharp.

Love to all here in DU.

mike_c

(36,270 posts)
35. me
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 08:01 PM
Dec 2021

I'm way past partying age, and quite happy with alone time, but I'm alone this particular NYE because my partner is in the hospital. I spent the day with her but I really wish she was at home tonight.

mnhtnbb

(31,374 posts)
38. Hugs back to you, Soph.
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 08:12 PM
Dec 2021

I am alone, too.

I thought about going out with my friend who was widowed this year to dinner at one of our favorite restaurants that managed to survive these last two years. But, not now. Our Covid case numbers are a straight line up--more reported new cases in the last few days than since January of this year.

So, I am going to fix myself a nice dinner and toast the New Year in alone.

I_UndergroundPanther

(12,462 posts)
40. I'm alone
Fri Dec 31, 2021, 10:12 PM
Dec 2021

🖐️🐅☕

Just me and my cat Othello here. Watching the new years twilight zone marathon on the syfy channel. Also sipping some really good tea in my shiny golden age antique cup.

Ziggysmom

(3,399 posts)
43. Raises hand. Alone this year, hubby in hospital since Christmas. He was in ICU on a ventilator
Sat Jan 1, 2022, 12:04 AM
Jan 2022

for 4 days, he suffered seizures & stopped breathing after contracting pneumonia (not Covid). He's awake and off the vent now; I stayed visiting with him as long as I could tonite. His speech and thinking are slowed due to the hypoxia & seizures, but I'm thankful he is alive. Thankful he was able to get treatment and an ICU bed here in SE Wisconsin.

Happy New Year to all of DU. Extra Cheers to all us loners.





Green Line

(1,123 posts)
44. I'm alone tonight
Sat Jan 1, 2022, 01:28 AM
Jan 2022

I lost everyone in my life in 2021. Now Betty White and Billy Turner, the very sweet man who trained Seattle Slew, horrible, sad year.

Cosmo Blues

(2,467 posts)
45. A big hug for you
Sat Jan 1, 2022, 12:17 PM
Jan 2022

Technically I wasn't alone because I had my cat Ruthie, I had some garlic black pepper shrimp, with red skin mashed potatoes, Wilson Creek almond champagne, some grass called animal face, with Ruthie on my lap, watched some Curb Your Enthusiasm, Rashida Jones, Tina Fey, and Amy Poehler, topped it off with fireworks from around the world. A hug and empathy to all here in need and a wish for a happier New Year

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