Sending strength and emotional fortitude to debm55

[Alpeduez21]

I know you're going through a lot right now. Hang in there. We are behind you 100%. If I could do this for you I would. If I could sit beside you and give you comfort I would. You are loved.

[50 Shades Of Blue]

1. K & R!

[MLAA]

2. For sure! We are here for you.

[OAITW r.2.0]

3. For sure....debm55 is a rather new DUer, but she's fit right in from the getgo.

Rough times, I am sure....best wishes!

[fierywoman]

4. I send you light and love and, most of all, peace.

[Quakerfriend]

5. We are thinking about you, deb!

[Tetrachloride]

8. that we are -- and other DU members

[ms liberty]

6. This. n/t

[Bluethroughu]

7. Love and strength coming your way ❤️

[Deuxcents]

9. (((👍)))

[tblue37]

10. K&R!

[Laffy Kat]

11. Sending love and positive vibes your way, Deb.

[70sEraVet]

12. Healing takes time.

Just make sure that you do some of the little things that have always brought you joy.

[electric_blue68]

17. Important Advice! But as you can...

Somethhing tangential...maybe useful

I remember the first time I really laughed after my mom died.
Then I felt guilty. Did I "not love her enough" to continue feeling so bad?

Otoh... bc my mom had been sick off & on since I was 5 1/2 (much better in her ?mid 50s) when she hit 80+ I started thinking ..."uh oh". I thought about it, and came up with a "mantra":
"she wouldn't want me to be too sad for too long".

Of course, I'd be how ever I'd be. But the thought was true. I know it helped me from being completely overwhelmed.

Take those moments of joy, forgetting briefly why you're so upset, etc.

Step by step.

[niyad]

13. Holding you in light and love. Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as

you need.

[KatK]

14. Visualizing your well-being and thriving, debm55! n/t

[Mr.Bill]

15. Thinking of you, Deb.

You have a lot of people here that care about you.

[debm55]

16. Thank you, Alpeduez21. I have been here since 2004, just read , If I can make

it through the next two days, I will be happy. In our family, it used to be 3 days visitation and a high Mass., plus the service at the burial site. It was exhaustion. They say that funeral bring out the best and worst of people. Yes, it has.My parents never got along. My husband is doing a eulogy--Mother can't understand why. I will keep my mouth shut. It's rather a shame. I made a board of pictures of my father's life. I was going to present to my mother--she doesn't want it. You typical crap.