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Alpeduez21

(1,800 posts)
Sat Sep 30, 2023, 07:32 PM Sep 2023

Sending strength and emotional fortitude to debm55

I know you're going through a lot right now. Hang in there. We are behind you 100%. If I could do this for you I would. If I could sit beside you and give you comfort I would. You are loved.

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Sending strength and emotional fortitude to debm55 (Original Post) Alpeduez21 Sep 2023 OP
K & R! 50 Shades Of Blue Sep 2023 #1
For sure! We are here for you. MLAA Sep 2023 #2
For sure....debm55 is a rather new DUer, but she's fit right in from the getgo. OAITW r.2.0 Sep 2023 #3
I send you light and love and, most of all, peace. fierywoman Sep 2023 #4
We are thinking about you, deb! Quakerfriend Sep 2023 #5
that we are -- and other DU members Tetrachloride Sep 2023 #8
This. n/t ms liberty Sep 2023 #6
Love and strength coming your way ❤️ Bluethroughu Sep 2023 #7
(((👍))) Deuxcents Sep 2023 #9
K&R! tblue37 Sep 2023 #10
Sending love and positive vibes your way, Deb. Laffy Kat Sep 2023 #11
Healing takes time. 70sEraVet Sep 2023 #12
Important Advice! But as you can... electric_blue68 Sep 2023 #17
Holding you in light and love. Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as niyad Sep 2023 #13
Visualizing your well-being and thriving, debm55! n/t KatK Sep 2023 #14
Thinking of you, Deb. Mr.Bill Sep 2023 #15
Thank you, Alpeduez21. I have been here since 2004, just read , If I can make debm55 Sep 2023 #16

OAITW r.2.0

(25,692 posts)
3. For sure....debm55 is a rather new DUer, but she's fit right in from the getgo.
Sat Sep 30, 2023, 07:36 PM
Sep 2023

Rough times, I am sure....best wishes!

70sEraVet

(3,728 posts)
12. Healing takes time.
Sat Sep 30, 2023, 08:59 PM
Sep 2023

Just make sure that you do some of the little things that have always brought you joy.

electric_blue68

(15,898 posts)
17. Important Advice! But as you can...
Sat Sep 30, 2023, 10:42 PM
Sep 2023

Somethhing tangential...maybe useful

I remember the first time I really laughed after my mom died.
Then I felt guilty. Did I "not love her enough" to continue feeling so bad?

Otoh... bc my mom had been sick off & on since I was 5 1/2 (much better in her ?mid 50s) when she hit 80+ I started thinking ..."uh oh". I thought about it, and came up with a "mantra":
"she wouldn't want me to be too sad for too long".

Of course, I'd be how ever I'd be. But the thought was true. I know it helped me from being completely overwhelmed.

Take those moments of joy, forgetting briefly why you're so upset, etc.

Step by step.



debm55

(27,316 posts)
16. Thank you, Alpeduez21. I have been here since 2004, just read , If I can make
Sat Sep 30, 2023, 10:28 PM
Sep 2023

it through the next two days, I will be happy. In our family, it used to be 3 days visitation and a high Mass., plus the service at the burial site. It was exhaustion. They say that funeral bring out the best and worst of people. Yes, it has.My parents never got along. My husband is doing a eulogy--Mother can't understand why. I will keep my mouth shut. It's rather a shame. I made a board of pictures of my father's life. I was going to present to my mother--she doesn't want it. You typical crap.

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