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mrmpa

(4,033 posts)
Mon Feb 18, 2013, 10:00 PM Feb 2013

Simple things over the past week have made my 82 year old mother happy..................

Last Sunday, mom & I went to the cemetery to put flowers at my dad's grave. It was the day after what would have been their 62nd wedding anniversary. We place them every February in honor of their anniversary, Valentine's Day & Dad's birthday. He would have been 84 this month.

After the cemetery, we always stop at this deli/local country store. We get the best sandwich ever, it is bavarian ham, gouda, and apple butter. They also have a bakery & I pick up a half dozen cookies. Mom always is a bit sad after the cemetery, so it's a nice day, no snow & we go for a ride to a small town about 4 miles from our home. They have a general store, so I get us a couple hot chocolates & I drive down to their small park, which has a pond. The pond is half covered by ice, but there are plenty of ducks and geese on land, on water and on the ice. For about half an hour, we drank our hot chocolates and watched the fowl. My mom was mesmerized by them.

When we get home, mom says many times how much she enjoyed the day.

Today, mom had to go the lab for blood work (coumadin levels). I needed to go to the mall. I asked her if she would go with me after her blood work and she could sit in the food court and wait for me. She was in agreement. She said she would like a drink like a frappucino while she waited and she could read her book.

When going into the mall parking lot, I remembered that the Barnes & Noble has a Starbucks inside. I told her I would take her inside & get her a seat & her order. She uses a three wheeled walker & her mobility is limited. She asked if anyone would mind, if she sat in there reading her book. I said no, it's a bookstore & they want you to read. Well I dropped her off, got her a frappucino and a biscotti and then left.

I came back about 45 minutes later. She was reading and still drinking. She wasn't ready to go, so I looked around for awhile. When I went back to get her, she said, that this was a wonderful place, and anytime I was going to the mall she would like to tag along.

Several times this evening, she has told me that she had such a wonderful day. And the biscotti was the best she had ever had.

Doctor's office called, she continues with the coumadin she's taking & goes back in a month.

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Simple things over the past week have made my 82 year old mother happy.................. (Original Post) mrmpa Feb 2013 OP
My dear mrmpa... CaliforniaPeggy Feb 2013 #1
It's touching how much pleasure these seemingly simple activities gave her. Tanuki Feb 2013 #2
It is a great sandwich............. mrmpa Feb 2013 #6
LOVE this lovely story, mrmpa. elleng Feb 2013 #3
Glad your mom is enjoying life. My mom sometimes enjoys Downton Abby applegrove Feb 2013 #4
What a lovely story. Almost made me cry. You are a better child than I am. Honeycombe8 Feb 2013 #5
No I am not a better child than you................ mrmpa Feb 2013 #7
Wonderful story. Grantuspeace Feb 2013 #8

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,584 posts)
1. My dear mrmpa...
Mon Feb 18, 2013, 10:07 PM
Feb 2013

They are such little, simple things, and yet they bring so much contentment.

I'm glad you and your mom were able to do all those, and that you got such wonderful feedback from her.

I hope you both will enjoy many more such times!

Tanuki

(14,918 posts)
2. It's touching how much pleasure these seemingly simple activities gave her.
Mon Feb 18, 2013, 11:02 PM
Feb 2013

I have an elderly relative that I spend a lot of time with, as I am her only family in the area, and I can relate to what you wrote. It is easy for people to get caught up in their daily lives and forget how isolating it is to be that age, to have lost many of your peers and loved ones, and to have limited mobility. (I think I would have been pretty happy after scarfing down that Bavarian ham and gouda sandwich, btw.)

mrmpa

(4,033 posts)
6. It is a great sandwich.............
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 12:45 AM
Feb 2013

we could easily make it at home, but we've decided that it's so special, we will get it at the farm everytime we go to the cemetery.

elleng

(130,865 posts)
3. LOVE this lovely story, mrmpa.
Mon Feb 18, 2013, 11:28 PM
Feb 2013

Thank you.

Going to Florida to see my folk's resting place soon, and will think of you and your family.

applegrove

(118,620 posts)
4. Glad your mom is enjoying life. My mom sometimes enjoys Downton Abby
Mon Feb 18, 2013, 11:51 PM
Feb 2013

or such movies. But she can't follow them. Actually the thing she has enjoyed the most in the last few months was "Faulty Towers". She laughed and laughed. That is nice to see.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
5. What a lovely story. Almost made me cry. You are a better child than I am.
Mon Feb 18, 2013, 11:55 PM
Feb 2013

I never did these things with my mom, and she's deceased now.

mrmpa

(4,033 posts)
7. No I am not a better child than you................
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 12:53 AM
Feb 2013

we all do what we can. And don't do what we can't. I have the circumstance that my mom lives with me, so there is opportunity.

I have 3 brothers all within 20 minutes of my home and don't do what they can do. They by proximity have opportunity and one brother does what I can't, that is shopping with my mom. If she and I go shopping, I have to call her on her cell because she disappears from sight when she sends me down an aisle or to the deli. I hate it. But this brother doesn't mind, he goes to Costco with her every 4-5 weeks. A grandson takes her to the grocery story.

I am sure that if you give it time, you may remember something.

Grantuspeace

(873 posts)
8. Wonderful story.
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:20 AM
Feb 2013

Sometimes it seems like only the very young and the old can see the beauty of nature or enjoy the simpler more subtle pleasures in life. We can all learn something from your mother!

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