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Bertha Venation

(21,484 posts)
Mon Aug 5, 2013, 12:17 PM Aug 2013

confession

Yesterday I replied to a post from someone in pain with a bit of a harsh, strident tone. The OP replied that s/he couldn't yet do what I suggested (too harshly) and asked me not to judge. I apologized but I don't think it was enough.

The OP is in terrific pain and I made it worse. I am deeply ashamed.

Would sending the OP a PM with another apology do any good?

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confession (Original Post) Bertha Venation Aug 2013 OP
It wouldn't hurt IMO n/t sharp_stick Aug 2013 #1
Don't beat yourself up. redwitch Aug 2013 #2
My dear Bertha... CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2013 #3
I thought your apology was heartfelt but maybe you would snappyturtle Aug 2013 #4
I'm in favor of kindness. If you don't think it will cause more hurt, sure. nolabear Aug 2013 #5
you are a good person , Bertha. JitterbugPerfume Aug 2013 #6
Awww..... Misunderstandings are way too easy on the internet. femmocrat Aug 2013 #7
Send one hibbing Aug 2013 #8
Well... pipi_k Aug 2013 #9
Everyone who has read your posts knows you have a good heart, Bertha. LeftofObama Aug 2013 #10

redwitch

(14,933 posts)
2. Don't beat yourself up.
Mon Aug 5, 2013, 12:26 PM
Aug 2013

You apologized and we all know you are a very kind person. The OP probably knows it too but is hurting too much to acknowledge just now.

nolabear

(41,915 posts)
5. I'm in favor of kindness. If you don't think it will cause more hurt, sure.
Mon Aug 5, 2013, 12:55 PM
Aug 2013

We all make those kinds of mistakes. It's what we do when we make them that makes a difference. You're doing fine.

femmocrat

(28,394 posts)
7. Awww..... Misunderstandings are way too easy on the internet.
Mon Aug 5, 2013, 01:27 PM
Aug 2013

A PM would be a thoughtful gesture, IMO. If the person is still miffed at you, well at least you did everything you could to make it right.

hibbing

(10,076 posts)
8. Send one
Mon Aug 5, 2013, 01:36 PM
Aug 2013

Hi,
I agree with others that a note certainly wouldn't hurt. Stuff happens, I've never seen any posts from you that would indicate anything else but you being a kind and considerate person.

Peace

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
9. Well...
Mon Aug 5, 2013, 01:43 PM
Aug 2013

I don't see where it would hurt.

I've done the same thing in the past, and yeah...it feels awful later to realize I've hurt someone else.


Some people wouldn't care.

I can see you have a good heart.

LeftofObama

(4,243 posts)
10. Everyone who has read your posts knows you have a good heart, Bertha.
Mon Aug 5, 2013, 07:08 PM
Aug 2013

Heck, the proof of that is that it is still bothering you today. Go ahead and send a PM if you think it would make the OP feel better, but I think your previous apology was sufficient.

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