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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 03:25 AM

My big, fancy, fish-filled, blingy, smokey, loud, crowded Indian wedding ceremony (pics)

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OK, that was interesting.

Though we were married in the US in July (there's a thread somewhere in the lounge of those pictures), most of her family couldn't make it there from Calcutta, so we just had our Bengali ceremony in Calcutta this weekend.

Some of the customs we couldn't really do because
A: my family wasn't here, and
B: we didn't have 7 days

So this was the abbreviated version.

The morning started early for my wife, who woke at sunrise and had turmeric and ghee spread all over her face and arms by all the married women in her family:



Being a male in the patriarchy has its advantages, and I woke at my leisure and ate a breakfast of luchi (a kind of fried flatbread, like puri if you know that), eggplant, okra, papaya, mango chutney, lentils, and cauliflower. Fish, rice, meat, and onions are bad luck to eat before the ceremony.

(I have no idea who those people I'm eating with are; I think distant cousins of my wife. The younger girl painted the sandalwood design on my forehead that you'll see later, and advised me on my hair style, which in this picture was apparently unacceptable -- Calcutta is a land of Brill Cream.)



None of them are very devout Hindus in a religious sense, but a neat moment happened when a honeybee came into the apartment. They live on the 27th floor, so they don't fly that high very often. I had been talking about my grandfather who passed away this summer earlier, and mentioned he was a passionate beekeeper. "You never know", Uncle said, and hummed the "twilight zone" song...

Another interesting tradition is that the families exchange fish the day of the ceremony (this is just in Bengal, not all of India). Once upon a time the fish were dressed up in little fish-sized saree's, but nowadays they just put glitter on them.

Here's the fish we sent to my wife's family:



And here's the fish they sent back:



It was delicious (we ate it the next day).

After breakfast and a little bit of turmeric being put on my face, I changed into my first outfit, a sherwani (the shirt) with dhoti (the pants). These pants are probably the least practical garment ever designed, but they do look kind of cool. The hat is unfortunate, but part of the package. (The hat tried to kill me later in the ceremony.)



Since my family isn't here, we had to appoint an impromptu bor jathri (groom's team) to get me ready, take me to the wedding, and make sure none of the kids on the bride's side steal my shoes (if they do, I have to ransom them with some sweets). Here's me, my mesho (uncle on the mother's side -- the taller guy with the mustache) and his friend whose name I didn't catch, who were an excellent bor jathri. (For the duration of the ceremony, I called him "babaji", father.)



And here are me and the three mashis ("aunt", though a much broader term that includes basically any female of your parents' generation). The turmeric-smearing I mentioned has to be done by three married women.



Meanwhile, at my wife's family's house, they were preparing the tents for the ceremony and the dinner, plus the receiving line in the anteroom and veranda. You'll see these thrones again...



When we show up, my wife is in a back room being fawned over by the mashis, and the men and older women of the family come to greet me and the bor jathri, so there's a quick receiving line. Here's me and Dadu (maternal grandfather, though not literally in this case; like "mashi" it's more of a generational term). This guy was really funny. He points to my hat (you'll see more of it later) and says "Son, this hat is very light, yes? But beware! Every year, it gets a little heavier. I've had mine for 40 years..." There's a Bengali saying, "over time, pith (what the hat is made of) turns into iron."



I don't like the look on my face here (this was a pro photographer who kept demanding I look at the camera, which I hate -- it's a wedding, people want to see you interacting, not staring at the camera...) but I'm including it because the teenage girl who advised me on my hair did a great job of painting the sandalwood design on me, so I wanted to show off her work.



Then I have a costume change, and put on a white shawl and white dhoti. In theory I shouldn't wear an undershirt, but I'm so pale I'm afraid people might be blinded...

So, upstairs, in the ceremony tent on the roof, this is me receiving the blessings of my father-in-law (he passed away years ago, so his brother, my "kaku", stands in).





Then begins a long series of introductions of our ancestors to one another, in Sanskrit. I actually took Sanskrit in college, so I could follow a little, but this was said with a Bengali accent which made it difficult (the vowels are rounder and all the s's are sh's). I was applauded after for my patience but around the sixth or seventh time I heard "shri Sholomon" (my great-grandfather's name was Solomon, so that was how every repetition of the list started) I was starting to lose it. But, finally, after sitting cross-legged on a concrete roof for about 45 minutes, I could get up and go "meet" my wife.

This is the famous "seven steps" ceremony, where she walks around me seven times with a betel leaf fan in front of her face, and I hold up that little mirror so that if she "peeks" she'll see her own reflection instead of me.



The kids of the family count the steps, and being kids, jump back to five after six to mess with her, but she was not fooled. After the seven circumgroomigations, she stands in front of me and lowers the fan and I lower the mirror.



Then we go back to the roof tent for the final part of the ceremony. (We also exchange those garlands, she passes hers through mine three times, but apparently nobody got a picture of that. The garlands are amazing; roses and lilies, and surprisingly heavy.)

The priest has me light the fire, which represents the god Agni (or, in some schools of Hinduism, physically is the god Agni). Agni is the witness to the ceremony:





I then pour some ghee on the fire to keep it going (it's an offering, apparently). I had to repeat what the priest said; the parts I understood were "Om in the name of Shiva I give; Om in the name of Krishna I give; Om in the name of Kali I give; Om in the name of Vishnu I give; Om in the name of Holy Mother Durga I give thrice. Om peace Om peace Om peace.", for a total of seven ghee-pourings.



A ghee and bamboo fire makes a lot of smoke:



(Tattoos, incidentally, are unusual enough in India that everybody was really interested in mine. the USMC you can see above, this one I got in grad school, and is Maxwell's Equations in differential form)



We then placed our hands together over the flowers, and had them tied together by my wife's oldest female relative.



And then we have our clothes tied together.(our hands have been untied at this point).



Then we move a stone together with our feet around the fire



And walk around the fire seven times (for some reason again nobody got pictures of this...).

And we offer rice to the fire together



Now comes the climax of the ceremony: I put vermillion on her forehead





And, finally, it's over, I could change back into my sherwani, and we could go eat.



Ah, the food: goat, fish, shrimp, biryani, lentils, luchi, and sweets. The deserts in particular are amazing; basically all based on sweetened condensed milk, and often fried. (As you can see, there may have been some shenanigans with the vermillion at some point. The black marks are a blessing the priest gave us with soot from Agni.)



Even this uninvited guest was given a few goat bones to eat (traditionally you take one-eigth of the wedding feast and give it to hungry people and animals; nowadays you do a cash donation to a food bank in lieu, but it's unlucky to turn away a dog, particularly such a handsome one. )



Finally, there was another receiving line where all the relatives came, hugged us, and gave us gifts. If they were older than us (and that was most of them) we'd get up out of the chair, kneel, touch their feet, and then touch our heads and chests, while they put their hands on our heads and blessed us



Mostly the gifts were money (interesting tidbit: Bengalis and I think Indians in general consider it unlucky to give even amounts of money, so people would give us 501 rupees, or 1001 rupees, or whatever). But some people (especially the closer relatives) gave us actual stuff that they thought we might like, in particular, I'm fond of this drum my kakima (wife of father's younger brother) gave me:



So, there it is. My big, fancy, fish-filled, blingy, smokey, loud, crowded Bengali wedding.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 03:59 AM

1. Wow thanks for posting this Recursion! And Congrats!!...

You look like a wonderful couple and I really envy you being in India right now. I've lived in Asia, Malaysia China and Taiwan, as a kid and really loved it. I'm 1/2 Chinese myself though don't look it. I loved everything Malaysian at the time and about a 1/3 of Malaysian culture is actually Indian in origin and still have a great fondness for all things Asian. I'd love to travel to India some day and probably will, it's near the top of my list of countries to visit! I can only imagine what the food is like, love Indian dishes in general, I have a particular love for Asian street foods. Have you tried any of the street food in India, how is it?

Wonderful pictures, thanks for posting them, looks like an amazing experience! I've always particularly liked the wonderful colours of Indian saris.

BTW as a former off and on student of math and physics I have to applaud the choice of Maxwell's Equations for the Tattoo. One of the most beautiful discoveries in math and physics!

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Response to Locut0s (Reply #1)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:56 AM

31. I've tried the street food and rarely regretted it

Now, when I have regretted it, I've really regretted it... not that it ever tasted bad, but, well, you know...

My favorite are idlis (the closest approximation I can come to is crepes, but that doesn't really do it justice), and of course samosas. In Kolkata I'm fond of momos (pot stickers), and both cities are famous for their wraps: "frankies" in Mumbai an "egg rolls" in Kolkata.

as a former off and on student of math and physics I have to applaud the choice of Maxwell's Equations for the Tattoo

Four less things to memorize for E/Mag 101 (though as my professor said, if you're in grad school in EE and need help remembering them, you've got bigger problems than crib notes can help with...) And, yes, I think they're the most beautiful math/physics discovery there is; more even than E=MC^2 (which, after all, ultimately falls out of them, as does relativity, though it took an Einstein to see that...)

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 04:37 AM

2. Congratulations!

[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]Beautiful pictures and very interesting culturally. May you have many happy years together.



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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:01 AM

3. Congrats - Thanks for sharing!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:07 AM

4. Congratulations! And TY for sharing this wonderful event here

I remember your earlier post leading up to this. Blessings and happiness always.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:10 AM

5. Your bride looks stunning! nt

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Response to tblue37 (Reply #5)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:13 AM

6. Hey, sometimes a schlub like me lucks out

All the ladies in that family looked great but especially her.

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Response to Recursion (Reply #6)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 10:01 PM

59. You look very handsome.

 

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:24 AM

7. Yes, that was interesting! Mahalo, Recusion, for sharing your big

fancy Bengali wedding happiness with us.

To a long and healthy happy life together~

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:28 AM

8. What a wonderful experience

thanks for sharing it - beautiful ceremony and pictures. Bride is lovely, you are handsome. You will remember this forever.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:30 AM

9. Congratulations!

All I can think of is that backward Seinfeld episode.

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Response to Hissyspit (Reply #9)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 06:09 AM

13. Hissyspit, I thought of the Seinfeld episode. Elaine was so drunk and funny.

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Response to Enthusiast (Reply #13)

Tue Dec 10, 2013, 11:13 AM

77. I did too!!!

But this was so much better and nobody messed it up!



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Response to Hissyspit (Reply #9)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 12:00 PM

32. I love that one

It was set up north, though; very different area...

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:44 AM

10. Congratulations to You and Your Beautiful Bride

 

Thank you for sharing your wedding with us all. I just loved seeing and reading descriptions about your special special day. Keep your memories close to your heart!

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Response to pugetres (Reply #10)

Tue Dec 10, 2013, 11:10 AM

76. Welcome to DU, pugetres!

Glad you're here! What a cool, fun, yummy thread to be part of, 'eh? LOVE IT!!!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 06:03 AM

11. Congratulations!

Thank you for sharing!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 06:08 AM

12. amamzing

I had a similar experience getting married both in the states and with my wife's family in China-

Good Luck to you guys

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Response to weissmam (Reply #12)

Tue Dec 10, 2013, 11:14 AM

78. Welcome to DU, weissmam!

Good to have you with us! Sometimes we just have these really really WUNNNNNderful threads... This one was really fun! And a visual rhapsody at that!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 06:11 AM

14. Really cool!

I bet it was a blast and you look very happy!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 06:12 AM

15. Congratulations, Recursion! Ya done good.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 06:42 AM

16. Amazing pictures!

Congrats and thanks for sharing!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 08:00 AM

17. Wonderful!

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 08:46 AM

18. Very cool.

Thanks for sharing.

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 08:50 AM

19. Congratulations and thanks for sharing this. Beautiful and educational too.

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 09:20 AM

20. Lovely! Congratulations, and thx for sharing!

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 09:42 AM

21. Way beyond cool, congratulations!

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 10:01 AM

22. Wow.Fantastic.Congratulations.

Thanks for sharing this with us!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 10:02 AM

23. Wow! Lovely photos.

Wishing you and your lovely bride many years of health and happiness. Such beautiful clothes!

I always enjoy your posts about your life there. Kind of an up close and personal armchair travelogue. Thanks for posting.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 10:12 AM

24. Awesome. Thanks for sharing. And in that picture

you didn't like.... I think you look great!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:00 AM

25. You look great, Recursion! And your bride is beautiful!

The pics are wonderful. I wish you many years of happiness together...

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:03 AM

26. Congrats! The colors are so vivid and bright!

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Response to benld74 (Reply #26)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 12:01 PM

34. It's funny, I remember thinking that when I first got here a few months ago

It all looks normal to me now. I'm probably in for a surprise when I do my R&R back in the US next summer...

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:08 AM

27. thank you for sharing your beautiful marriage with us

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:26 AM

28. Gorgeous!!

Thank you for sharing that wonderful ceremony with us!

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:29 AM

29. Congratulations Recursion! Your wife looks beautiful and so do you

Thank you so much for sharing your special day.

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:43 AM

30. What a treat

Thank you for sharing this. I feel like I had a cultural experience. Your wife is a beauty. Congratulations!!!

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 12:01 PM

33. Congratulations!!! nt

 

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 12:37 PM

35. Congratulations! What a great documentary of one of the most important days of your life!

What a ceremony! And your bride is lovely!

Regarding the dog at the meal: it must be a universal maxim adopted by dogs everywhere, as our three dogs have always insisted that it is bad luck to turn a dog away from the dinner table (or any other place where food is present).

Blessings and long and happy life to you both.

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Response to Adsos Letter (Reply #35)

Tue Dec 10, 2013, 05:50 AM

72. And do you see that look on the dog's face?

He's no fool. He knows exactly what he's doing....

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 12:43 PM

36. Thanks! Did you show your wife's family any photos of your U.S. wedding?

 

I had an automatic reaction that some of the customs you described were silly, but of course the only reason I don't think that about all of our customs is that I'm used to them.

It's easy to picture the Bengalis being interested, but sometimes politely trying to hide their laughter, if they got a similar recap of your wedding here.

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Response to Jim Lane (Reply #36)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 03:20 PM

45. There's a large enough Anglo population in Kolkata still that it's not "exotic" to them

A lot of people don't know that, but there are still about a million Anglo-Indians living in the subcontinent, mostly in Mumbai, Madras, and Kolkata; anybody who went to school pre-Independence would have been brought up with English education, too. They did find our idea of having the US wedding on a boat kind of neat. We brought a DVD to them but I forgot that India is PAL; fortunately there's conversion software available on Linux...

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 12:56 PM

37. Fascinating post! Thanks for sharing this colorful experience with us.

 

Oh, and congratulations!

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 01:03 PM

38. Awesome photos and what a great adventure!

Cheers to you and your lovely bride and best wishes for all your lives!


I gotta admit though, I'd get a little nervous if folks from a whole other culture started smearing seasonings on me - I'd be checking around to make sure there isn't a man-sized pot full of boiling water somewhere...

And OMG that dog is awesome - what a sly grin he seems to have - like he knows he's scoring plush wedding food lol.

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Response to OriginalGeek (Reply #38)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 01:33 PM

39. Seriously!

There's some plan hatching in that canine brain. It may not go much farther than "goat bones ZOMG!!!", but then again it doesn't have to.

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Response to Recursion (Reply #39)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 03:26 PM

46. I came fo r the wedding, I stayed for the noms

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 01:50 PM

40. WOW.

 

ALL the Awesome. There is no Awesome anywhere else. It is all here.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 02:16 PM

41. Very cool, thanks for posting!

 

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 02:21 PM

42. How beautiful!

My eyes are leaking.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 02:36 PM

43. Most wonderful!


I learned a new word: circumgroomigations.

I will have to find a chance to use it.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 03:01 PM

44. Congratulations!

Long happy life to you both.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 03:35 PM

47. Mazel tov!

Great photos, too.
I love the glittery fish.

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Response to Recursion (Original post)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 04:47 PM

48. so, you didn't ride in on a white horse?

That's an old Indian wedding tradition, too!

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Response to kwassa (Reply #48)

Tue Dec 10, 2013, 05:52 AM

74. Heh... That's in the north. I haven't ridden a horse in 20 years.

I stopped myself after I wrote that, thinking that can't be possible, since it was only high school, but, yeah, that was urk 20 years ago.

Bengalis are sailors, not horsemen.

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:19 PM

49. k&r Congrats!

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 05:46 PM

50. Congratulations, Recursion.

Beautiful pictures~

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 08:11 PM

51. Awesome

Congrats BTW

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 08:59 PM

52. Thank you for sharing!

Congratulations! Wishing the two of you many happy years together!

I just love those garlands you wore!

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 09:01 PM

53. Sweet congratulations, my friend!

What an honor it is to sit in on your wedding! Thank you for posting your story and pictures, they are just beautiful. I wish much happiness to you and your bride.

Sandy

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 09:24 PM

54. Wow, absolutely amazing

What an truly memorable experience for you both - thanks so much for sharing with us.

I've been to a couple of Hindu weddings here in the States (Fremont,CA) but nothing as elaborate as this. Never seen a 'hat' like that either....never ever.

Did you have gulab jaman? I'd kill for some right now - and pooris and goat curry and.......

Belated congratulations to you both.



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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 09:26 PM

55. Beautiful!

Thanks for sharing, and have a great life together.

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 09:38 PM

56. BRAVO!




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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 09:40 PM

57. Wow, did I learn a lot from this

about Bengali traditions. Thanks.

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 09:45 PM

58. Congratulations to you and your lovely bride...

I thoroughly enjoyed seeing these pictures of your wedding and appreciate the explanation of what was happening. Lovely traditions.

May you have a wonderful life together!

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 10:41 PM

60. Congrats!

I really enjoyed the pictures.

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:07 PM

61. Maxwell's equations

Is that a sneaky way to cheat on your exams?

And is your wife's name Bonolata Sen?

My own graduate school roommate was from the Calcutta area, although last I heard he was in North Carolina. So I can still almost speak more Bengali than I can German, even though I took four years of high school German back around the turn of the 19th century or something.

As I say, somewhat ironically, ami jahni Bangla na.

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Response to hfojvt (Reply #61)

Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:20 PM

63. I love that poem

But Sen would be a caste downgrade for her, so I don't think the mashis would approve.

As far as the Bangla goes, I try to stick with "ami kichu bujte parchi na" unless absolutely necessary; the less they think I understand, the better.

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Mon Dec 9, 2013, 11:20 PM

62. very interesting. your wife is very pretty. you look almost naked during the ceremony

 

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 04:32 AM

71. Yeah; in principle I shouldn't have worn the wife-beater

But, well, I haven't been at the gym as much as I should have...

And, yes, she is absolutely beautiful.

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 12:04 AM

64. That was wonderful

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 12:13 AM

65. Many congratulations and blessings. What a wonderful ceremony. Thank you for sharing it.

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 12:56 AM

66. wow! - incredibly beautiful!!!

thank you for sharing~!

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 01:32 AM

67. Wow!

That's really interesting. Congrats and thanks for sharing! I have been kind of studying cultures of India and places a little north and east of there, this is quite a treat to see and read about.

May you both live long and prosper!


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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 02:10 AM

68. Wow - what a GREAT read!

THANK YOU, Recursion!!!! Congratulations! What a time!!! So gorgeous! Colorful, magical, exotic, mysterious, entrancing, delicious, mystical, dreamy, fascinating, ravishing, yummy! The traditions and customs that you explain, so simply but clearly, the beautiful garb - the fabrics, the embellishments, the lavishly alluring facial decorations, the jewels and trims and fabrics and flowers and other adornments, the decorated food! Those ceremonial fish! You can almost smell the aromas of the cuisine. Dayum! The familial roles and relationships, and all their meanings! I'm just delirious! MAN! What a TREAT!!! Yes, I'm SHOUTING!!!

This post of yours makes me feel like celebrating! That's one amazing hat, too - utterly architectural. A topiary for the head! The imagination that conceives and creates all this stuff - just sort of takes one's breath away. What a glorious, and richly-embroidered experience! REALLY makes an event out of it - as it deserves to be. That drum is particularly cool, btw. And how sweet the little anecdote about the dog! Just a whole buncha sweet, Recursion. What a happy, fun, and fancy day!

I've never attended a wedding like this before. Just WUNNNNNNNderful! Thanks so much for sharing this - loved following along and meeting everybody and admiring everything, and you write it up so charmingly, too. I could eat this with a very large spoon!

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 03:05 AM

69. Very cool! I didn't realize Horatio Sanz posted here.

 

J/k

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Response to Pretzel_Warrior (Reply #69)

Tue Dec 10, 2013, 04:31 AM

70. Huh. I get Jack Black and John Belushi more

Sometimes Mark Ruffalo, but I don't let that get to my head.

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 01:37 PM

83. yes. I allllmost went with Belushi

 

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 05:51 AM

73. So very cool! Thank you for shariong with us!

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 09:06 AM

75. How delightful! Thanks for sharing this with us.

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 11:54 AM

79. Congrats!

Thanks for the beautiful pictures!

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 11:59 AM

80. Incredible experience and pictures.

Congratulations and thanks for sharing!

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 12:08 PM

81. A ceremony where ancestors play a major role.

Very nice. Great pictures.

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 01:04 PM

82. Thank you for inviting us along!

Wonderful, wonderful sharing!

Congrats to you both!

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 01:46 PM

84. How marvelous!

Thanks for sharing the story of your wedding, I really enjoyed reading it and seeing the pictures. May you and your wife have many happy years together!

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 05:53 PM

85. wonderful!

Thank you for sharing this beautiful event with us. Congratulations to you both.

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Tue Dec 10, 2013, 09:00 PM

86. so cool!

thank you for sharing this wonderful event/experience with us!

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Wed Dec 11, 2013, 03:03 PM

87. Congratulations! and thank you for sharing...

 

I love that hat. It looks like something Carol Burnett would wear in some sketch or other

Btw, the fonz look becomes you. And thank you for sharing your feast with the uninvited doggie!

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Wed Dec 11, 2013, 06:36 PM

88. I accidentally clicked on DU Lounge instead of GD and saw this..absolutely awesome!

Thanks for sharing all those photos, what cool customs and such a happy time for you two...joy shined through those pictures....

Congrats to both of you, and my wishes for an equally awesome and long life together!

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Sat Dec 14, 2013, 04:24 AM

89. Congratulations to you and your lovely bride!

What an amazing day that must have been. I'm so happy for you both!

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Sat Dec 14, 2013, 10:32 PM

90. Congratulations and blessings to you both!

Thank you so much for allowing us all to be guests at your beautiful wedding!

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Sun Dec 15, 2013, 12:09 AM

91. What a wonderful wedding, so colorful and delightfully complex.

 

And such a beautiful bride. The adventure begins.

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