one last mom thread- for all the moms whose kids are jerks.

[mopinko]

yesterday was my first post-split mothers day.
my 5 kids are all grown, and should know better. but it was a long slog of 2 f'ed up people that raised this bunch, and there are some big scars.

i wont go too far except to say that the ex still manipulates his little girls, so one was a complete no show, and the other decided it was a good time for me to go dig up shit that daddy left behind.
and the boys were, well, the boys.

so, yeah, reading all those mom threads blew chunks for me

you?

[NYC_SKP]

1. Not a mom, but feeling your pain a little.

Girlfriend has two grown sons.

One is functional and successful, but suffers from Aspergers which is no excuse for not contacting him mom in years, especially knowing that he did visit his dad at hospital.

Other son is nearer and usually OK but yesterday kept postponing lunch until it just didn't happen.

Putting a stereo in his car is more important than mothers day.

So sorry.

[mopinko]

2. its not really surprising

that our most emotionally charged relationship could go wrong. it just pisses me off that they literally have amnesia about those years when we were their everything, and they were ours.

add an insecure jerk of a dad, and things get real complicated, real fast.
or even just add dumb ass hospital procedures. i didn't get to hold my first until she was 3 days old. for no good reason.
the kind of thing that likely would not happen today. but i always knew that it screwed up our bonding in a way that i couldnt get back.

i always say all moms do the best they can. but we are only human, and compelled to error.