Have you ever had deceased relatives show up in your deams?

[bluestateguy]

My father died in February 2015. I won't get into details, but his health had been getting progressively worse for 15 years. He died of a heart attack at the age of 66.

Anyway, about 3 weeks ago I was awoken from a spectacular dream. It was short, and I was sitting in (I think) my living room talking to my father. I remember that he had smile on his face, and that he looked as he did when he was in his early 40's, thin, with just a little gray hair on the sides, but otherwise healthy.

But all I really remember about the content of the conversation was that he remarked on how my upper body looked really good (I've been working out quite a bit for a year now , and I sheepishly replied "Well, I don't know about that". Then the dream faded out.

I woke up kind of shaken.

[applegrove]

1. My Aunt Jean died in around 2000. She was my grandmother's sister. I

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always identified with her because she was single and cool. She worked her whole life and was such fun. Up to date on issues well into her 90s. Kind of dowager countess quick quips about the modern world but where she really liked most modern stuff.Anyhow, in the years since she has died I've dreamt that she is still alive but everyone just forgot about her. And I'd try in my dreams to visit her in her nursing home or whatnot. She'd just show up in any dream of mine. And I'd dream "oh my god aunt jean is alive". And I always apologize to her that the whole family had forgotten about her. She was always nice and understanding..but independent and not dependant on my reuniting her with the family at all. I have probably had that dream a lot over the years. But my mom passed away a year ago and I do not recall dreaming about aunt Jean since.I know I dream about my mom but can't remember what. Mom was sick for a long time and struggled so much at the end that I think it is much deeper. A much deeper loss. Maybe Jean represents me giving up the good times as I have had to over the years. And I try to drag myself back into the social world in my dreams of aunt jean (my social life was always tiny with only close friends but that is how I liked it). But I really don't want to reconnect to the world that way. I'm fine on my own. I have a great family and that and the memories of family are what i need. So aunt Jean is the fun social me. And the family, in the aunt jean dream, is the rest of the social world.Too much ptsd for me to do anything but live an independent life and an even quieter one. Mom I think about a lot these days. And some days I struggle. But it is more an awake thing. But obviously I am no longer shocked, that I gave up my social life when i dream, since mom has passed. I'm on to a new stage of life. One where I can connect at will to my mom when we were closest. Good times are just different for me and so are my connections to the world.

[Hoyt]

2. I still have dreams about my parents, dad died in 1978, mom in 2003. I think it's common.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

3. My parents, regularly.

They've been gone since 2004 and 2011 but they turn up in my dreams pretty often.

[Still Blue in PDX]

4. My mom turns up quite frequently in my dreams.

She died in 1987. We'll be going along doing ordinary dream stuff, and sometimes I tell her, "I had an awful dream where you were dead." And then we do some more ordinary dream stuff. I wake up happy because it really does feel like we were just hanging out together like we used to. I guess that means that I've finally adjusted to her being gone, because I don't have that acute sense of loss when I wake up and realize that she really is gone.

I don't dream about my dad, but a couple of times when I've needed to wake up for something but neglected to set the alarm clock, my dad's voice wakes me up. It's odd, because I don't recall him ever being the one to wake me up in the morning; that was my mom's job--much to her dismay, because oftentimes our dog, who slept underneath my bed, would growl at her.

[KentuckyWoman]

5. My dad has talked to me twice while I was awake.

He died in 2008. In 2010 I had some trouble with my car that I couldn't figure out and putting a LOT of miles on it. Had it to the local shop twice and they couldn't figure it out. I was on a I-75 and the car was not handling well at all. I said out loud "What is wrong with this damn car." My dad answered " Watch your mouth. Your tie rod is breaking."

Well I didn't know what a tie rod is but that sounded bad. I got off the next exit and ended up at a Ford dealership. Sure enough basically the axle that holds the two front wheels together was almost completely broken and I could have died if it snapped at freeway speed.

I never ever believed in that sort of thing. Thought it a bunch of bullfeathers. But considering I never heard of a tie rod before and that is what it turned out to be - I never doubt anyone again after that. I don't know what I believe about afterlife anymore but I can say my dad saved my life that day.

The second time was actually before that but I discounted it to wishful thinking. That was more private in nature and I suspect that was really just my mind talking to me and me missing him.

[elleng]

10. WOW!

[grasswire]

6. yes

but I also have people show up that I don't know at all and never met.

[mopinko]

7. for years after my dad died

i would have dreams of him coming back from the grave. usually he was like something out of the walking dead, and angry that he had been buried alive.
i have little doubt that the seed of that was the relief that most of the family felt at his death.
i rarely dreamt of my mom.

[Throckmorton]

8. My first wife, April.

A few days after she died she appeared to me in a dream, and started to berate me about her funeral. I told her that she's was dead, which she acknowledged, and that she wasn't going taunt me from the grave. in the 12 years since then, I have never again dreamed about her in the present tense.

[Little Star]

9. Shortly after my husband passed

I was sound asleep having what must have been a dream. It starlted me so much that I sat straight up and said outloud "what are you doing here?" It didn't scare me but I still wonder if it was really just a dream. Weird!

[Ilsa]

11. I had an old boyfriend show up in a dream, but

It felt more like an astral projection. He was telling me, "I just needed to tell you, to let you know."

Then about 10-11 days later I get a letter from him (literally from the other side of the planet) explaining how a mutual friend had died in an accident. He knew I would not have heard about it without him telling me.

[CanSocDem]

12. Friends AND relatives.

Usually soon after they pass as if to re-assure me that their spirit lives on. Since I already know that, it is usually just a quick "hello" and a friendly wave.

Having a non-religious and non-scientific appreciation of the after-life makes it all possible.


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[KamaAina]

13. Friends and even kittehs, yes. Relatives, not that I can recall.

[raccoon]

14. My mother passed away more than ten years ago. I've dreamed about her some. Usually, in the

dream, she's there but we don't interact. It's like I see her across a room.

Then sometimes, I'll dream that I'm visiting her at her house. Then I wonder how that is possible since
before she died she wasn't at her house but in a nursing home.

[Phentex]

15. I just dreamed of my grandmother last night!

She was younger than she was when I knew her. She was in a beautiful spring dress and had her hair styled in a way I had never seen it. She wasn't walking with any difficulty at all but for some reason I was helping her walk along some brick paved streets like I was worried she'd fall.

She still didn't speak much English but it was just a pleasant visit on a sunny day. I was sad to wake up!

[trueblue2007]

16. my mother. she died when i was only 13.

[Major Nikon]

17. I still have dreams about my dad

He passed away 20 years ago.

[Fla Dem]

18. Yes I have. Had a whole scene enacted in my Grandmother's kitchen.

My grandparents house was where the entire family gathered for special holidays and events. The women would always gather in the kitchen. In my dream my Mom, Grandmother and an Aunt all deceased were there and I think even some relatives still alive. I was sitting on a stool at one end of the room just watching the whole scene unfold. I think there was dialogue, I'm not sure I participated. I just remember watching in awe.

I became aware at some point that it was a dream because I tried not to wake up. I don't know if that makes sense, but I realized I was asleep and if I woke up it would end, so I kept my eyes shut putting off awakening. When I did awake, I felt very sentimental; sad that I had to leave the dream, but also so happy I got to see people I loved. A very warm, good feeling washed over me as if I had just been hugged.

That was the most detailed dream I've ever had, but have had short fleeting ones with departed relatives.

[Fla Dem]

19. All these are wonderful stories. For the most part the relatives are welcomed and loved. nt

[Phentex]

31. I've really enjoyed reading these too...

I have always been fascinated by dreams and I like to hear about others. These about family have been so meaningful.

[RebelOne]

20. Yep. My mother and my ex-husband

Both nave been dead for over 10 years. I am an atheist and hope there is no afterlife as I really don't want to spend eternity with either of them.

[Fla Dem]

23. You made me LOL and smile Good job! nt

[HeiressofBickworth]

21. My aunt -- only once

She died in 1988. Sometime around 1997-99, don't remember exactly when, I dreamed she was standing at the foot of my bed. She said only one thing: "Everything will be ok." She stood there for a moment and was gone. I don't believe there is anything after we die, so I know it was only a dream. There was nothing particularly difficult going on in my life at the time, so I don't know why I needed a dream to reassure me that everything will be ok. Anyway, it was vivid enough to remember.

[orleans]

22. it sounds like a visitation dream

(if you've never heard of it before i suggest you look it up and do a little reading on the subject--there are a lot of "woo woo" books that talk about them; and i mean "woo woo in the best of ways btw)

and they (our departed ones) tend to revert back to the prime of their lives in appearance when they were at their best. and of course they are healthy again.

sounds like he wanted to let you know he's still aware of you/what you're doing/and what's new.

here's a suggestion
say, OUT LOUD, dad--if that was really you in that dream then give me some sort of sign to let me know you came to visit me. (say it out loud a few times, over the course of a day or two--spirits can communicate with us but not all of them are mind readers)

then *pay attention* to things--watch for the sign(s) or the connection
you may find it/see it/recognize it--and it probably won't be more than a few days coming.

even if you don't pick up on any sign (and that doesn't mean you didn't get one--just that you either didn't notice or make a connection) i am pretty sure it was a "visitation" dream.

they (visitation dreams) tend to be a more outstanding than regular dreams, they stay with us, and seem very realistic. (for example: you were talking, you were in your living room, he was commenting on how you looked--all very normal conversation and in a normal/natural setting.)

visitation dreams are one of the ways spirits can communicate with us.
he's letting you know he's still with you.

[IrishEyes]

24. No

I would like to have a dream like that someday. Most of my family is still alive.

I do have a recurring dream where I'm in a room with some people I don't know. They all know me and they are nice and friendly. They have all have died. Some of them died before I was born and some when I was a kid.

[fishwax]

25. relatives and friends, yes

A long-time best friend of mine passed away when we were in our 20s. For a long time I'd have dreams where I'd run into him or he'd show up at my house and I'd be like: "Man, i thought you were dead" and he'd be like "Nah, man, I've been around." Sometimes the conversation would go on for a long time, and I'd say something like: "Why didn't you let me know" and he'd say "how was I supposed to know you thought I was dead? Why are you making such a big deal of this?"

I'd wake up shaken, and wishing I could get back to sleep and back into that dream.

[valerief]

26. Once I dreamed I was in the back of a crowded church. I fell backward into the arms of someone and I

was headless.

I always wonder what that means.

Usually I remember my navigation dreams--subways, streets, office buildings, over and over trying to find my way from point A to point B. I think my brain is just creating new memory pathways when I'm dreaming these dreams.

[Blue_Tires]

27. I lost my father in '09

he appeared in my dreams numerous times in the first 2-3 years

[woodsprite]

28. A couple of times in very vivid dreams.

One time my dad came to our door with a package. I couldn't see him, the light was too bright and white, but it didn't hurt to look at it. What he had brought was a package of boy baby things. I told him that he was mistaken, it was for my SIL who had just found out she was pregnant. He told me no, it was definitely for me, but I would have to wait a bit. My husband and I had been going through IF treatment and it hadn't been working, but 4 months later it did! I had a 5% chance of it working. Out of 14 embryos, only one lasted long enough to transfer. He turns 16 yo this year

Another time, 12 yrs ago, I was having female problems. The dr thought it was menopause starting with excessive bleeding. He did two biopsies 6 mo apart, before doing a uterine ablation and everything came back clear. About two years after that, I had been having some cramping, but no periods, and had been short of breath. I had a dream one night that a much loved aunt, my mom and grandmother were in examining gowns in a Drs waiting room. I was there, but I could look in the waiting room and hear them talking. They said "Did you hear about Lisa? It's such a shame." Just about then, they came out into the hall where I was, and I asked them what they meant. My aunt said "Lisa has cancer but she doesn't know about it yet." My grandmother said "but don't worry because everything will work out just fine." I called my OB/GYN the next day and asked for an appt. The dr said I may need another ablation. He was going away to a conference, but would check up on me in 3 months and we'd decide after that. I asked him if he could do a repeat biopsy right then and there instead of waiting. He had time and was able to do that. I got a call the following Monday morning. I had cancer. The day I had scheduled that 3 month checkup was the day I ended up having a total hysterectomy and bilateral oopherectomy. It was my mom's birthday. All it took was the surgery. No rads, no chemo, despite the fact I was staged and graded at IIB. I'm 10 yrs out now. If I hadn't had that dream that prompted me to request an in office biopsy, the outcome could have been much different.

[Wolf Frankula]

29. My Grandfather showed up in a dream once.

He was saying something I couldn't understand, then I realized he was speaking Euskera. When I realized that, I woke up.

Wolf

[Myrina]

30. No, but I used to have the exact same dream, same time every year with an ex-bf in it.

He died young - in an accident - and about 10 years after, the dream started. I'd have at the same time every year (NOT around his birth or death day) for 3 or 4 nights in a row. Couldn't figure it out.

In the dream, he would show up at random, regular places and try to 'fit in', but I would tell him 'you can't be here'. He couldn't see or hear me, and nobody else in the dream could see him, only me.

Finally after about 7 years, I somehow managed to make 'eye contact' with him and said 'you can't be here, you need to go'. And he reached out & touched my arm and then walked away.

Haven't had the dream since.

Was it my internal psychology trying to put his memory / my grief to rest? Was it latent clairvoyance on my part (seeing 'beyond the veil') trying to help him move on? I have no idea, but it was the strangest, oddest thing that's ever happened to me.

[nadine_mn]

32. Not long after my grandma died she showed up in mine

We were very close - she was more of a mom to me than her daughter was.

I was having a hard time dealing with the loss of her and my grandpa (he passed away a few months before her). All I remember now is that she was there, comforting me like always... helping me get through another tough time like she always had before.

Every now and then she still pops in - we usually play cards or talk.. I wake up feeling like I just saw her again.

[Art_from_Ark]

33. Not a relative, but...

One time in high school, the French explorer Robert Sieur de La Salle, appeared in a dream and helped me solve an advanced algebra word problem that had been bugging me for hours. As it turned out, "La Salle" was the only one in the class who had solved the problem.

[TexasBushwhacker]

34. My mother often, dad occassionally

They got divorced after 35 unhappy years of marriage, but when tbey're both in the dream they are still married.

[KT2000]

35. Yes -

my mother. She was younger, healthy, had clear blue eyes and looked lovely. Too personal to explain what she said though.
A straggly cat I used to feed quit coming around and sometime later I saw him in a dream. He emerged from a juniper bush. He looked young, beautiful white fluffy fur and clear blue eyes. He had come to tell me he had died and was OK. Then he receded back into the juniper bush.
My father - I only observed him so am not sure about that one.

[cynatnite]

36. My Dad, twice...

The first time wasn't long after he died. I think it'd been a month or so. Turns out he was still alive and everyone was happy about it. I was pissed and refused to talk to him.

The second time was a few years later. It was the same scenario, but this time I was so happy to see him that I hugged him and told him I loved him.

I figured it was a way of showing how I'd come to terms with his death. I never really got over it and for a long time I believed that every bad thing that happened after he died wouldn't have had happened otherwise.

I still miss him like crazy and cry sometimes, but the anger I used to have is gone.

[2naSalit]

37. Yup...

several times. My only older sister killed herself last summer and I had my first dream with her in it last night. I am "visited" often by relatives, people I don't know, people I do know, animals. Most are pleasant so I don't mind.