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Thu Aug 11, 2016, 03:23 PM

What gift should I give?

Hi, all! I hope everyone is well.

I've known Carol for thirty years. I met her the day I was admitted to a psychiatric hospital. She was an aide on my ward. She took me under her wing and helped me get through my terror at being there (and my terror at the reasons I was there). About a year later, I became her first psychotherapy client.

She saved my life, quite literally. I was suicidal for many years. She guided me through a rocky recovery and, together with my baby nephew, kept me from killing myself.

I saw Carol for 13 years, then moved to the east coast. I came home about three months ago, and am seeing Carol again. It's very different; it's like talking over my life - and even hers - with an old, sweet friend.

September 30 will be the 30th anniversary of my admission to that hospital, the anniversary of the day I met Carol. You may think I'm being silly, sappy, ridiculous, whatever. This is important. I can't overemphasize how important she is to me.

I want to get her a special gift, but I honestly have no idea what to give her. Can you offer suggestions? Thanks.

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Bertha Venation Aug 2016 OP
PufPuf23 Aug 2016 #1
KMOD Aug 2016 #2
MicaelS Aug 2016 #7
PassingFair Aug 2016 #3
Avalux Aug 2016 #4
panader0 Aug 2016 #5
Laffy Kat Aug 2016 #6
boston bean Aug 2016 #8
mainstreetonce Aug 2016 #9
auntpurl Aug 2016 #10

Response to Bertha Venation (Original post)

Thu Aug 11, 2016, 03:47 PM

1. How about a Waterford Crystal vase? Or something else of crystal?

Classic
Enduring
Useful

You can find a fine crystal gift from under $100 to over $2500 for limited editions.

Some very fine workmanship.

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Response to Bertha Venation (Original post)

Thu Aug 11, 2016, 04:08 PM

2. I think she would be thrilled if you wrote her

 

a letter telling her how much she means to you.

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Response to KMOD (Reply #2)

Fri Aug 12, 2016, 09:16 AM

7. Agree with this.

Get some nice paper and write her a letter expressing your thoughts and feelings.

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Response to Bertha Venation (Original post)

Thu Aug 11, 2016, 04:16 PM

3. Beautiful earrings to dangle from her ears.

She must listen well to be of such help!

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Response to Bertha Venation (Original post)

Thu Aug 11, 2016, 10:06 PM

4. Is there a fond story you share?

I usually try to buy gifts for friends that will remind them of something we've done or shared with each other. Don't think about it too much, you'll figure it out!

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Response to Bertha Venation (Original post)

Thu Aug 11, 2016, 10:16 PM

5. Print this post and give it to her. It says a lot.

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Response to panader0 (Reply #5)

Fri Aug 12, 2016, 01:05 AM

6. That's what I was going to say:

Write what you wrote on your post onto a lovely card. I'm sure that would mean more than anything.

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Response to Bertha Venation (Original post)

Fri Aug 12, 2016, 09:47 AM

8. A bracelet.

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Response to Bertha Venation (Original post)

Fri Aug 12, 2016, 09:49 AM

9. A picture

Of the two of you together.

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Response to Bertha Venation (Original post)

Fri Aug 12, 2016, 10:35 AM

10. Can you make something?

I'm a knitter/crocheter. If it were me, I would make something that takes time and effort, something that shows my appreciation for the therapeutic relationship you've built. Maybe a soft, warm blanket she could use in her office on the back of a chair?

I'm not sure jewelry, as suggested above, is quite right - despite that you've known her for many years, it is still a professional relationship, as it should be. Jewelry is a little bit intimate, maybe boundary-crossing.

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