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True Dough

(17,099 posts)
Sat Oct 15, 2016, 09:38 AM Oct 2016

How do you feel about DU threads

where the OP responds to every post? I'm not fond of that practice. It's not the worst offense of forum etiquette, by any stretch of imagination. But it seems to scream "Look at me," especially when some of the OP's replies (or many of them) are simply an acknowledgement that you posted.

Just curious how others perceive it.

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How do you feel about DU threads (Original Post) True Dough Oct 2016 OP
Testing . . . . rug Oct 2016 #1
. femmocrat Oct 2016 #3
I'm gonna guess True Dough Oct 2016 #5
Well played Egnever Oct 2016 #31
I have the opposite opinion. femmocrat Oct 2016 #2
That"s how i feel... Phentex Oct 2016 #4
That's where I land too. OriginalGeek Oct 2016 #14
I fall in this camp too. I think it is rude to not respond. AgadorSparticus Oct 2016 #33
I'm with them ^^^^ hermetic Oct 2016 #6
when I posted about the passing of Princess Peanut, irisblue Oct 2016 #7
Several years back, here in the Lounge... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2016 #8
Our dear gregarious Peggy annabanana Oct 2016 #13
it tells me they have the time and patience to follow-up Skittles Oct 2016 #9
Yes, And How Many Times Have We Been Annoyed. . . ProfessorGAC Oct 2016 #20
absolutely correct Skittles Oct 2016 #30
I don't think it screams Look at Me NJCher Oct 2016 #10
I agree! cwydro Oct 2016 #11
Love 'em! Iggo Oct 2016 #12
I'm okay with it shenmue Oct 2016 #15
I always saw it Jamaal510 Oct 2016 #16
I don't think its an issue one way or the other. astral Oct 2016 #17
Personally, I check back and add something when inspired lindysalsagal Oct 2016 #18
It depends on the person I think. betsuni Oct 2016 #19
Not into pithy responses just for the sake of keeping a post kicked. Fla Dem Oct 2016 #21
That would depend on the person's history, I suppose True Dough Oct 2016 #22
If you post a thread on a subject and most of the responses are along the lines of.... A HERETIC I AM Oct 2016 #23
Fair enough True Dough Oct 2016 #25
"Imagine if every thread was like that" A HERETIC I AM Oct 2016 #26
But important enough to have responded twice in this thread! True Dough Oct 2016 #27
This is YOUR thread in which you asked a question of the readers A HERETIC I AM Oct 2016 #28
Okay, thanks for the advice True Dough Oct 2016 #29
I've found you can't win Algernon Moncrieff Oct 2016 #24
I think it is generally considerate to acknowledge the people ohnoyoudidnt Oct 2016 #32

True Dough

(17,099 posts)
5. I'm gonna guess
Sat Oct 15, 2016, 12:07 PM
Oct 2016

that this ground has been covered before. I realize the DU has been around for a long time and I haven't (at least not as part of this discussion board).

Anyway, it's not a "die on this hill" sort of issue, of course. I just wanted to stick my finger in the air and see which way the wind is blowing.

Phentex

(16,330 posts)
4. That"s how i feel...
Sat Oct 15, 2016, 11:16 AM
Oct 2016

Unless the thread is very old, i try to respond to anyone who takes the time to post to me.

OriginalGeek

(12,132 posts)
14. That's where I land too.
Sat Oct 15, 2016, 10:19 PM
Oct 2016

At at least, if the reply warrants a response and I can do it with something more substantial than a "yep".

For instance:
OP: Puppies are the best!
Reply: Yep!

I wouldn't likely respond to that yep.

But
OP: Puppies are the best!
Reply: I agree! What's your favorite flavor?

I'd respond with "why, chocolate lab of course!"

Or
OP: Puppies are the best!
Reply: Kittens only you dickbag!
My response would be "what are you? Communist?!"

But mostly i appreciate when people take the time to reply to my ops and I want them to know it.

hermetic

(8,258 posts)
6. I'm with them ^^^^
Sat Oct 15, 2016, 03:08 PM
Oct 2016

If I start a conversation, when someone replies I will most certainly acknowledge them, when possible. Not to is rude, IMO.

irisblue

(32,829 posts)
7. when I posted about the passing of Princess Peanut,
Sat Oct 15, 2016, 03:57 PM
Oct 2016

I felt it was necessary& polite to say thank you to those who sent condolences. If I'd asked for ad ice & DUers answered, again I'd say thank you, seems polite. Just my opinion.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,308 posts)
8. Several years back, here in the Lounge...
Sat Oct 15, 2016, 04:08 PM
Oct 2016

I used to post a lot more than I do now.

People often chimed in and I felt as several folks have said today, that it's the nice thing to do to respond to everyone.

I felt that if people were nice enough to chime in on my OP, the least I could do was respond.

So I did.

I always tried to have intelligent responses.

ProfessorGAC

(64,427 posts)
20. Yes, And How Many Times Have We Been Annoyed. . .
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 11:08 AM
Oct 2016

. . .when the poster of an OP never joins back into the discussion. This seems far worse than in participating in one's own OP.

NJCher

(35,435 posts)
10. I don't think it screams Look at Me
Sat Oct 15, 2016, 07:50 PM
Oct 2016

Just the opposite. It is a nice, friendly touch to the forum and I, for one, appreciate it. As long as the person has something to say in response, I say more power to responses.

I remember when SCE used to respond to each post on the Sunday LOLkatz thread. I understand why he doesn't do that anymore, but I miss it.


Cher

 

astral

(2,531 posts)
17. I don't think its an issue one way or the other.
Sun Oct 16, 2016, 01:03 PM
Oct 2016

A person may feel interested in an engaged conversation, may have an interest in the replies, may just post to find out what others think, or may post and be busy with other things and just neglect, or forget, to come back to the thread.

I really dont think its bad etiquette one way or another.

lindysalsagal

(20,444 posts)
18. Personally, I check back and add something when inspired
Sun Oct 16, 2016, 02:57 PM
Oct 2016

but not out of obligation. I like to see where it goes on its own.

Sometimes my fav posts die on the spot. Go figure?

betsuni

(25,139 posts)
19. It depends on the person I think.
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 09:29 AM
Oct 2016

Some have something to say for every response and it's interesting, others are obviously responding just to keep their post kicked. I feel guilty when I post something and can't think of anything to say to comments and also when I post something and reply to comments just to keep it kicked. This is why I don't do OPs very often.

Fla Dem

(23,354 posts)
21. Not into pithy responses just for the sake of keeping a post kicked.
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 11:24 AM
Oct 2016

But I do get a little peeved when someone starts a controversial post that creates a lot of give and take and the original poster just checks out and never joins in the debate.

True Dough

(17,099 posts)
22. That would depend on the person's history, I suppose
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 12:51 PM
Oct 2016

If the individual has a penchant for winding people up, then I understand where you're coming from.

But some people may occasionally broach controversial subjects to "check the temperature" or to better educate themselves, then it's not offensive to sit back and absorb the replies rather than to advertise one's rather limited grasp of the subject matter.

A HERETIC I AM

(24,321 posts)
23. If you post a thread on a subject and most of the responses are along the lines of....
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 01:58 PM
Oct 2016

"Thanks for this. That was really funny/sweet/interesting etc, I think it is perfectly fine to respond to each with a "You're welcome! Glad you enjoyed it" or similar.

After all, if you are in a crowd and people say those sorts of things to YOU, don't you respond to each individual?

True Dough

(17,099 posts)
25. Fair enough
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 02:58 PM
Oct 2016
if that is the nature of the thread. There are a few DU members, on the other hand, who respond to all posts (or the vast majority of them) even in issue-oriented topics. You'll notice after a while some repetition from the OP because there's only so much to say from a single POV. Imagine if every thread was like that. You'd eventually be trying to skip to every second post to avoid reading the OP's reiterations.

There's a middle ground. Most DUers find it.

A HERETIC I AM

(24,321 posts)
26. "Imagine if every thread was like that"
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 03:23 PM
Oct 2016

No need. I don't read every thread, so that point is irrelevant. Do you read every single thread on this website? That must keep you VERY busy!

There are a few DU members, on the other hand, who respond to all posts (or the vast majority of them) even in issue-oriented topics.

Yeah, but so what? That's what the ignore function is for. If there are certain posters who consistently post in a manner that you find annoying, place them on ignore.

Problem solved.

Look, I get the point you are trying to make, but there are things that people do on DU that I find MUCH more aggravating.

Responding to others on a thread they started is not high on my list.

A HERETIC I AM

(24,321 posts)
28. This is YOUR thread in which you asked a question of the readers
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 03:55 PM
Oct 2016

I answered. You responded with what I consider an absurdity that deserved a response. Now we are having a conversation.

If you don't want to have a conversation, or don't care to read a facsimile of one, then I would suggest there are better ways to spend your online time.

Algernon Moncrieff

(5,780 posts)
24. I've found you can't win
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 02:04 PM
Oct 2016

If you post, and just let others respond, you get accused of "post and run." If you respond to everything, you get accused of "look at me."

Honestly, it depends on the thread.

ohnoyoudidnt

(1,858 posts)
32. I think it is generally considerate to acknowledge the people
Mon Oct 17, 2016, 10:27 PM
Oct 2016

who took the time to give you response/feedback on your OP. It is something I need to work on myself.

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