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herding cats

(19,549 posts)
Fri Feb 24, 2017, 11:59 PM Feb 2017

My cat Tink and I are spending our last weekend together.

I read these to her while she was hanging out in my lap this weekend. We both appreciated the overwhelming love we received here.

She went peacefully this morning.


******************

I'm sorry to share sad news. I know we all are dealing with so much right now. I feel selfish even mentioning this now.

Tink's around 21-22 years old (yes, she's extremely old for a cat), and she's been with me for more than 20 years now. When I found her she'd been badly mangled in a dog attack and the vet said I should seriously consider euthanasia. Her huge golden-green eyes had already told me that wasn't an option, and I told him no way are we putting her down. It wasn't her time yet. It almost broke me financially back then, but I never regreted my decision. She went on to become my dearest companion, neck masseuse, therapist and general confidant. She's a Main Coon, big beautiful and one tough cookie. Most important, she's a dearly beloved part of my family.

She'd been losing some weight over the past year and the vet changed her food to a prescription. No big deal, she's an older cat and such is normal. Then I noticed blood in her urine on November 12th of 2016. A week and two vet trips later and I find out it was kidney cancer. There's no cure according to my vet, and we've been on supportive care ever since. Which reaching an end now. She went in today for an evaluation, it wasn't good. Even I see the fading with my jaundiced eyes. She had a treatment of medications today and I was told to consider euthanasia in the next week. Much as it breaks my heart, I don't want her to suffer so I scheduled to bring her in early Monday. I wanted one last weekend with my little buddy.

I purchased her a fresh tuna steak today, her favorite, and seared it for her tonight. The leftovers are hers for the next two days. Not that she has much of an appetite compared to her old self, but she still seems to appreciate fresh tuna.

I know she's had a very long life, but my heart is still breaking knowing our time is almost over. Please, just keep her in your thoughts if you have room, and wish her a gentle passing

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My cat Tink and I are spending our last weekend together. (Original Post) herding cats Feb 2017 OP
Very sorry! It's so tough. Chasstev365 Feb 2017 #1
Thank you. herding cats Feb 2017 #14
So very very sad for you elfin Feb 2017 #2
She deserves more treats than she can eat now. herding cats Feb 2017 #16
My cat Tink and I are spending our last weekend together. LenaBaby61 Feb 2017 #3
Thank you. herding cats Feb 2017 #17
I am so sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester Feb 2017 #4
I'm sorry for your loss, too. herding cats Feb 2017 #19
Thanks for that. Lifelong Protester Feb 2017 #22
It is so hard, isn't it? I hope you find comfort in knowing that you gave her a good, long life skylucy Feb 2017 #5
I am so sorry to hear about Tink... chillfactor Feb 2017 #6
Thank you. herding cats Feb 2017 #24
((((((hugs)))))) so sorry... but I am glad she had such a good long life with you Lisa0825 Feb 2017 #7
Thank you. herding cats Feb 2017 #25
I'm so sorry. "When time with our beloved pets comes to an end, it's very hard on both you napi21 Feb 2017 #8
I don't want her to suffer either. herding cats Feb 2017 #30
SO SORRY, cats. elleng Feb 2017 #9
Thank you, elleng. herding cats Feb 2017 #31
I am so sorry. Doreen Feb 2017 #10
Thank you. herding cats Feb 2017 #32
Hugs boo. elehhhhna Feb 2017 #11
Ah, thank you. herding cats Feb 2017 #34
My thoughts are with you and beloved Tink Frogg Feb 2017 #12
Your words are beautiful. herding cats Feb 2017 #40
Hugs to you both ... PsychoBabble Feb 2017 #13
Yes, it is a final gift we can give, isn't it? herding cats Feb 2017 #42
I'm sorry TDale313 Feb 2017 #15
Thank you. herding cats Feb 2017 #45
It's so hard to let them go montanacowboy Feb 2017 #18
Exactly. It feels like shoving a white hot knife into my heart, but I know it's best for her. herding cats Feb 2017 #48
Of course. I'm so sorry you had to make this decision, but I know Tink sinkingfeeling Feb 2017 #20
Thank you, that's so very kind. herding cats Feb 2017 #51
Cats don't say much but they sure get the point across Warpy Feb 2017 #21
You just characterised Tink to a tee. herding cats Feb 2017 #66
No one will ever write a eulogy for me as babylonsister Feb 2017 #23
Tink! barbtries Feb 2017 #26
My sincere condolences... Tink is fortunate that you know when to let go... targetpractice Feb 2017 #27
Billy Collins--our nation's Poet Laureate from 2001-2003. classof56 Feb 2017 #103
So sad for you both😿 martigras Feb 2017 #28
She's had a good, long, happy life with you The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2017 #29
That's tough Lotusflower70 Feb 2017 #33
There is an old expression with cats Lithos Feb 2017 #35
OMG my heart breaks for you gopiscrap Feb 2017 #36
So sorry, herding cats. Laffy Kat Feb 2017 #37
I am so very sorry for the pain you are now enduring... Jack-o-Lantern Feb 2017 #38
It's a bummer, been there hibbing Feb 2017 #39
Nothing compares, and nothing prepares you...oh. I'm making a big note to light a candle for Leghorn21 Feb 2017 #41
So difficult volstork Feb 2017 #43
I'm so sorry oldtime dfl_er Feb 2017 #44
So sorry. FuzzyRabbit Feb 2017 #46
I do wish her a gentle passing IcyPeas Feb 2017 #47
Just herd her right on over the rainbow bridge. She's going to be happy there. leftofcool Feb 2017 #49
Hugs to the herding cats family.... Tikki Feb 2017 #50
I am so sorry. murielm99 Feb 2017 #52
My heart is with you... 2naSalit Feb 2017 #53
You brought me to tears LishaD35 Feb 2017 #54
My sincerest condolences Gore1FL Feb 2017 #55
Wishing her a gentle passing qanda Feb 2017 #56
I wish you well. Love is precious-that will stay with you. riversedge Feb 2017 #57
😢 Snackshack Feb 2017 #58
My heart is breaking for you... Glamrock Feb 2017 #59
I am so sorry for your loss. irisblue Feb 2017 #60
I am so sorry Mz Pip Feb 2017 #61
I'm so sorry, herdingcats. Solly Mack Feb 2017 #62
So sorry for your impending loss. Maynar Feb 2017 #63
Maine Coon cats are so special radical noodle Feb 2017 #64
My heart breaks for you. AJT Feb 2017 #65
I'm so very sorry. They are family. catbyte Feb 2017 #67
Sending a pat-pat to Tink. democrank Feb 2017 #68
I'm so sorry BringBackBarack Feb 2017 #69
Oh soooo sorry Thekaspervote Feb 2017 #70
So sorry that you're losing your kitty of 20+ years. Just remember she won't be in pain anymore... iluvtennis Feb 2017 #71
For Tink.. SammyWinstonJack Feb 2017 #72
We hope it helps you to know colorado_ufo Feb 2017 #73
I'm glad you and Tink had so many years together. raccoon Feb 2017 #74
So sad for you, the loss will be hard to get over. But celebrate the wonderful life she gave you Fla Dem Feb 2017 #75
Your bond and your love is strong to sustain you. no_hypocrisy Feb 2017 #76
Bless your heart... Raster Feb 2017 #77
Will be giving my cats a little extra love today randr Feb 2017 #78
I'm so sorry TuxedoKat Feb 2017 #79
Tears in my eyes, I feel you. Been there, too. What a beautiful love story you have. JudyM Feb 2017 #80
So very sorry... Freedomofspeech Feb 2017 #81
It is always tough heaven05 Feb 2017 #82
21-22 year old cat! What a fantastically long life you and Tink have enjoyed together. democratisphere Feb 2017 #83
It is so hard to say goodbye! redwitch Feb 2017 #84
Sending my sympathy. brer cat Feb 2017 #85
My first cat made it to 22 TexasBushwhacker Feb 2017 #86
I'm so sorry... but you are performing an act of love... moriah Feb 2017 #87
Hugs Bayard Feb 2017 #88
Oh my heart goes out to you and precious Tink nadine_mn Feb 2017 #89
I am so sorry ... DarleenMB Feb 2017 #90
Love to you and Tink. Granny M Feb 2017 #91
It's tough to lose an animal.....and I wish your animal a gentle passing!!!! onecent Feb 2017 #92
My heart is breaking for you. I'm weeping, sharing your sorrow. BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2017 #93
I am crying..... samnsara Feb 2017 #94
My heart aches for you. What wonderful years you both enjoyed. williesgirl Feb 2017 #95
it's so hard Skittles Feb 2017 #96
Tink knows oldcynic Feb 2017 #97
Deepest sympathy. Scarsdale Feb 2017 #98
I'm in tears bucolic_frolic Feb 2017 #99
So sorry about your dear cat Tink. lucca18 Feb 2017 #100
Hugs shenmue Feb 2017 #101
You both are in my thoughts... Phentex Feb 2017 #102
Remember the good times. ginnyinWI Feb 2017 #104
I'm so sorry. Duncan Grant Feb 2017 #105
Words can't help. I'm so sorry. Jakes Progress Feb 2017 #106
My little critters (three cats and a dog) join me in offering our sympathy. Old Terp Feb 2017 #107
My heart goes out to you. Third Doctor Feb 2017 #108
My heart is breaking for you. BeekeeperInVermont Feb 2017 #109
So sorry you just lost your loved kitty. Hugs to you. Fla Dem Feb 2017 #122
I'm so sorry Peachhead22 Feb 2017 #110
I am so so sorry. benfranklin1776 Feb 2017 #111
I am so sorry herding cats. sheshe2 Feb 2017 #112
Sad news, so very sorry. Greybnk48 Feb 2017 #113
I'm so sorry for your loss. Susan Calvin Feb 2017 #114
I'm sorry you are going through this cate94 Feb 2017 #115
You're a great caretaker More_Cowbell Feb 2017 #116
I believe that when we are kind to our furry friends, Ilsa Feb 2017 #117
I know this pain goes deep. Shoonra Feb 2017 #118
I'm so sorry. I know this is very hard. CousinIT Feb 2017 #119
I'm sorry for you and your beloved kitty. denbot Feb 2017 #120
You have given her a great life. Lochloosa Feb 2017 #121
Like the others on this thread, I, too, am so sorry red dog 1 Feb 2017 #123
Oh, it hurts so much, doesn't it? hamsterjill Feb 2017 #124
Thank you everyone. herding cats Feb 2017 #125
The only thing of worth I can share are my tears. procon Feb 2017 #129
Thank you. herding cats Feb 2017 #132
So sorry tparrett62 Feb 2017 #131
Thank you, and yes it sucks. herding cats Feb 2017 #133
RIP, Tink. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2017 #134
Someday I'll start this journey again. herding cats Feb 2017 #136
no words will ease your pain Angry Dragon Feb 2017 #126
Sorry Metsie Casey Feb 2017 #127
Just saw this... deepest sympathies on your loss. 50 Shades Of Blue Feb 2017 #128
I know your pain. Chipper Chat Feb 2017 #130
Just Read . . . RIP DarthDem Feb 2017 #135
Rest in peace shenmue Feb 2017 #137
the last day of my way too young Basil was spent visiting his favorite spots. pansypoo53219 Feb 2017 #138

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
14. Thank you.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:15 AM
Feb 2017

It is tough. I have to be the one to make the decision for her, but I know it's right. Even if it breaks my heart.

elfin

(6,262 posts)
2. So very very sad for you
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:04 AM
Feb 2017

All the treats for her are well deserved after giving you so much love and joy over the years. And you gave the same to her.

I wish I didn't know how hard this is for you, but I do, and share your grief, even though from afar.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
16. She deserves more treats than she can eat now.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:17 AM
Feb 2017

She's that special.

Peace and love for you, too. I feel your empathy. :group hug:

Lifelong Protester

(8,421 posts)
4. I am so sorry for your loss.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:05 AM
Feb 2017

I well remember our dog's last day at home. I am still sad about it, although it was better for him. It is called being a responsible pet owner, but still hurts.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
19. I'm sorry for your loss, too.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:21 AM
Feb 2017

It is easier on our beloved pets in that they don't know. For which I am grateful. I want her to know nothing but happiness in her last two days.

skylucy

(3,734 posts)
5. It is so hard, isn't it? I hope you find comfort in knowing that you gave her a good, long life
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:06 AM
Feb 2017

with lots of love. In a day or two you are going to do what is best for her, even though it is heartbreaking for you. May Tink cross the Rainbow Bridge gently. Hugs.

chillfactor

(7,566 posts)
6. I am so sorry to hear about Tink...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:08 AM
Feb 2017

I had tears in m eyes while reading your post.

I have a 4# Chihuahua that I have had since 2002. I have noticed in recent days she is slowing down and not able to jump up on the bed any more.....she sleeps with me at night so I have to lift her up onto the bed. It breaks my heart to know that some day I will have to face what you are going through now. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
24. Thank you.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:30 AM
Feb 2017

I want you to know I'm sending love and healing thoughts toward your sweet baby. One thing I've learned is age doesn't mean as much if we've taken loving care of our pets. My thoughts are with you both.

napi21

(45,806 posts)
8. I'm so sorry. "When time with our beloved pets comes to an end, it's very hard on both you
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:10 AM
Feb 2017

and them. I'm sure she wants to be with you, but she doesn't want to suffer. She will be waiting to see you again some day across the Rainbow Bridge.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
30. I don't want her to suffer either.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:41 AM
Feb 2017

Which is something I'm no longer able to prevent. Much as that frustrates and hurts me, it doesn't change reality.

Thank you so very much for your kind words. They helped me think.

Doreen

(11,686 posts)
10. I am so sorry.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:12 AM
Feb 2017

I know the feeling and wish for you to be able to work through it. Blessings also to Tink.

Frogg

(365 posts)
12. My thoughts are with you and beloved Tink
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:14 AM
Feb 2017

Sending you both love and blessings. It is one of the hardest things to do but your courage is beautiful and I wish you comfort as you navigate this process together.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
40. Your words are beautiful.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:01 AM
Feb 2017

I thank you from my heart. Your words touched me and made me cry, but it was a good kind of crying. Again, thank you.

PsychoBabble

(837 posts)
13. Hugs to you both ...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:15 AM
Feb 2017

Sitting here w my Hazel-cat on my lap, and remembering the pain of putting her predecessors down. It is our best final gift to them, however. Peace to you both.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
42. Yes, it is a final gift we can give, isn't it?
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:04 AM
Feb 2017

Not that it feels good right now, but I do believe it's definitely kind and in a painful way loving.

montanacowboy

(6,053 posts)
18. It's so hard to let them go
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:21 AM
Feb 2017

There is no solace, it hurts us to our core. They are such a part of our life. Hugs to you and Tink.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
48. Exactly. It feels like shoving a white hot knife into my heart, but I know it's best for her.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:10 AM
Feb 2017

The best I can come up with is I love her that much. I'd much rather suffer than her.

sinkingfeeling

(51,279 posts)
20. Of course. I'm so sorry you had to make this decision, but I know Tink
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:23 AM
Feb 2017

thanks you for your care, love, and last weekend together. Blessed are those who treat animals with such great kindness and love.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
51. Thank you, that's so very kind.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:19 AM
Feb 2017

I just want her to go gently, and know how loved she is this weekend. She deaseves at least that much, but really so much more.

Warpy

(110,913 posts)
21. Cats don't say much but they sure get the point across
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:25 AM
Feb 2017

HRH was a hissing, spitting ball of fury when she was taken out of the cage to meet me. They dumped this angry little cuss into my lap and she went boneless and started to purr and solicit pets. I lived with her for over 20 years and took her for her last vet visit 2 years ago. She was also a Maine Coon, full of long haired tortietude.

I think sometimes it's harder to say goodbye to a four footed friend than a two footed one.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
66. You just characterised Tink to a tee.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:56 AM
Feb 2017

That was her when I found her. Still I picked her scary butt up and stuffed her shivering body in my jacket. Luckily for me she melted and showed her tender side, after shredding my hands. Granted, she was missing most of her fur due to malnutrition and her face was basically a weeping infection when I first met her. But still, her passion was amazing. Her first instinct was to destroy me. Until she knew I came in peace and had food in my pack. Then she softened on me. And, the rest is history.

babylonsister

(170,964 posts)
23. No one will ever write a eulogy for me as
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:29 AM
Feb 2017

beautiful as you did for your friend, and before the fact.

She's really special and you've been lucky. Now I need a pet, again.

Thanks.

barbtries

(28,702 posts)
26. Tink!
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:33 AM
Feb 2017

My first cat was Tinkerbelle. The next one was too, and then my daughter named her kitten juniorbelle.

I think her passing will be peaceful, I hope you are okay. 20-22 years old is ancient for a cat, I never had one live that long. It appears that you gave her a wonderful life.

targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
27. My sincere condolences... Tink is fortunate that you know when to let go...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:34 AM
Feb 2017

After rescuing our cats and dogs... I think the most important role we play in their lives it to know when it's time to let them go.

This following is a poem about a dog, but I think any pet guardian can relate...

A dog on his master...

As young as I look,
I am growing older faster than he,
seven to one
is the ratio they tend to say.

Whatever the number,
I will pass him one day
and take the lead
the way I do on our walks in the woods.

And if this ever happens
to cross his mind,
it would be the sweetest
shadow I have ever cast on snow or grass.

— Billy Collins, poet

classof56

(5,376 posts)
103. Billy Collins--our nation's Poet Laureate from 2001-2003.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 06:17 PM
Feb 2017

I have his most recent book of poetry, and what a wonderful volume it is. Thank you for posting this one. I'm reminded of my late doggie Cammy who left me after 13 years of love, companionship and joy. When I knew her passing was inevitable, I scheduled a visit to the vet to insure her peaceful transition. I'm convinced she knew how difficult that would be for me, and the day before, she quietly lay down on our front lawn, one of her favorite places, and left on her own. Been a lotta years, but I still weep when I remember our time together, our daily walkies, and her sweet presence.

Blessings to all of you pet guardians who provide loving care for those who deserve it most. The love is always mutual and unconditional.



martigras

(151 posts)
28. So sad for you both😿
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:34 AM
Feb 2017

She sounds like she has had a wonderful life with you.It hurts that our furry friends don't live as long as we would like them to. Give your kitty a kiss for me.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,280 posts)
29. She's had a good, long, happy life with you
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:39 AM
Feb 2017

but it's never long enough, is it? She'll enjoy her weekend of tuna and your company, and when she goes she won't be tired and sick any more. But it's so, so hard.

Lotusflower70

(3,077 posts)
33. That's tough
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:45 AM
Feb 2017

I am so very sorry for you and Tink. Our animals are family and give us so much. Enjoy your weekend together and cherish the memories. Sending positive thoughts and healing vibes.

Lithos

(26,397 posts)
35. There is an old expression with cats
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:46 AM
Feb 2017

While they are only part of our lives, we are their whole life.

We're a multi-cat household and we've got a whole set of geriatrics - most of our household are now 16+, so I can definitely understand whatever you are going thru. I'm very glad she found you when she did. Many thoughts for a peaceful, gentle and loving transition.

L-

Laffy Kat

(16,356 posts)
37. So sorry, herding cats.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:51 AM
Feb 2017

This sucks. It never gets easier. Hope you find comfort in knowing what a wonderful cat parent you are, right up to the final moment. Twenty-two years proves how well cared for Tink was. Cats don't grow that old unless they are pampered and loved.

Jack-o-Lantern

(965 posts)
38. I am so very sorry for the pain you are now enduring...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:55 AM
Feb 2017

When you turn the corner and feel sunlight on your face again, may sweet peace be what you find…

hibbing

(10,076 posts)
39. It's a bummer, been there
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:55 AM
Feb 2017

It's so hard. I got a new cat in December after about 2 years of mourning my last one.

Peace

Leghorn21

(13,520 posts)
41. Nothing compares, and nothing prepares you...oh. I'm making a big note to light a candle for
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:02 AM
Feb 2017

you and Tink on Monday. So glad she is getting some tuna noms, as much as she pleases!! Do give her a gentle "scritch" under her neck for me and, obviously, all of DU.

- Sandy

oldtime dfl_er

(6,930 posts)
44. I'm so sorry
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:06 AM
Feb 2017

I've been rescuing (and eventually saying goodbye to) cats all my life, so I understand what you're going through. There's nothing harder than making that decision when the little furball trusts you so much. But know that you're honoring that trust, and not violating it, with your decision. I feel for you, but you've given Tink so much and I know she's grateful for her life with you. Virtual hugs sent!

FuzzyRabbit

(1,958 posts)
46. So sorry.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:07 AM
Feb 2017

I don't have words right now to describe my feelings. My thoughts will be with you and Tink this weekend.

murielm99

(30,657 posts)
52. I am so sorry.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:22 AM
Feb 2017

Think about the good times, about how great a companion she was after you rescued her and got her healthy.

She has been with you a long time.

I remember when we had to help our Claudia cross the bridge. She was sixteen. I try to remember her when she would sit in the picture window or on the window seat. I remember her biting my arm if I was inattentive. I remember her attacking the printer and walking on the keyboard. You will have great memories, too.

2naSalit

(86,071 posts)
53. My heart is with you...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:23 AM
Feb 2017

It's one of the things in life that is difficult to get through, been through it, even with friends' pets.

Gore1FL

(21,034 posts)
55. My sincerest condolences
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:24 AM
Feb 2017

I've lost may a dog in my life. The love is real. The loss is real.

I'm glad Tink had you for 20 wonderful years. The pain of your loss is not something I'd wish on anyone. Tink, however, was worth every tear of it.

I am sorry for your loss.

Glamrock

(11,781 posts)
59. My heart is breaking for you...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:36 AM
Feb 2017

I have a Tink of my own (although, she went from Tinkerbell to Tink to tinkerbean to Beans). 20 years of unconditional love is as much of a burden (at the end) as it is a blessing. This athiest is sending good vibes.

Solly Mack

(90,740 posts)
62. I'm so sorry, herdingcats.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:46 AM
Feb 2017

I know what you're feeling.

I am so very happy to two of you found each other and loved each other for all these years.

Maynar

(769 posts)
63. So sorry for your impending loss.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:46 AM
Feb 2017

You gave her a great life, and well done.

Went through pretty much the same with my Frankie, late last November. Sincere condolences.

radical noodle

(7,990 posts)
64. Maine Coon cats are so special
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:47 AM
Feb 2017

You've made the most difficult decision for her and she will go on her next journey having known love, warmth and family. May your broken heart mend and leave only the good memories of her.

My cats Phoebe and Binx will be purring that her journey is a gentle one.

 

BringBackBarack

(31 posts)
69. I'm so sorry
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 02:23 AM
Feb 2017

We have five cats who are our babies, and I know Tink means the same to you. You can given her a wonderful life, and I know she knows how much you love her. Many hugs to you and to Tink.

Thekaspervote

(32,606 posts)
70. Oh soooo sorry
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 02:28 AM
Feb 2017

My daughter just put down her 18 yr old. She has 3 more seniors, one that is 21. She's hoping they are spread out a bit. It just sucks!!

Give your kitty lots of big hugs. Maybe you've seen this. My older sister who has over the years lost so many pets keeps this lovely prose. I hope it will help you too!
http://www.rainbowbridge.com/Poem.htm

iluvtennis

(19,758 posts)
71. So sorry that you're losing your kitty of 20+ years. Just remember she won't be in pain anymore...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 02:53 AM
Feb 2017

...and cherish all the joy she brought to your life.

colorado_ufo

(5,717 posts)
73. We hope it helps you to know
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 02:59 AM
Feb 2017

that you are not alone. The thoughts of many souls who understand will be with you, every minute of this difficult time.

Fla Dem

(23,352 posts)
75. So sad for you, the loss will be hard to get over. But celebrate the wonderful life she gave you
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:02 AM
Feb 2017

and the love you both shared. Tink knew you saved her all those many years ago and showered you with her love for 20 years. A peaceful passing is all we can give our loved pets in the end. My heart goes out to you.

no_hypocrisy

(45,780 posts)
76. Your bond and your love is strong to sustain you.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:12 AM
Feb 2017

Your bond and your love saved Tink's life and helped her grow. It is now her time and again, with your bond and love, she will pass with comfort and warmth.

I wish you happy memories. Safe journey Tink.

randr

(12,408 posts)
78. Will be giving my cats a little extra love today
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:29 AM
Feb 2017

So sad that we all out live our beloved friends so often. I can remember all of mine and there have been many; always hard no matter the circumstances.
Cherish the memories and honor the grieving.

JudyM

(29,122 posts)
80. Tears in my eyes, I feel you. Been there, too. What a beautiful love story you have.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:45 AM
Feb 2017

Putting her out of pain is your last beautiful gift you can give her, that's what I was told, and it helped a little. There's a deep honoring in being there with her for that.

Wishing you as soft a landing as humanly possible... and blessings to Tink...

Freedomofspeech

(4,218 posts)
81. So very sorry...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:52 AM
Feb 2017

Love and peace to you. We have two rescue cats...age 19 and 16 and two rescue dogs. We understand your love and your loss.

 

heaven05

(18,124 posts)
82. It is always tough
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:58 AM
Feb 2017

yet she had 20 years of love and gave it back...you should take that as the present of her life to you. Never forget...I've had cat friends since 1975... always sad.

democratisphere

(17,235 posts)
83. 21-22 year old cat! What a fantastically long life you and Tink have enjoyed together.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 11:01 AM
Feb 2017

I celebrate your long, loving friendship with one of life's greatest assets, the cat! Maine Coon cats are one of my favorite breeds and I will be thinking of both of you through the weekend.

redwitch

(14,933 posts)
84. It is so hard to say goodbye!
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:09 PM
Feb 2017

My old Trouble girl ( 18) is starting to fade and I am dreading the parting that is inevitable. Your Tink got an amazing second chance because of you and I know she is grateful. I wish kitties lived longer lives like parrots or tortoises. I am sorry you are going to have to say goodbye but you are a great kitty mom.

brer cat

(24,402 posts)
85. Sending my sympathy.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:15 PM
Feb 2017

It is very hard to let go of a treasured and much loved friend and companion. I do hope she has a gentle passing.

TexasBushwhacker

(20,044 posts)
86. My first cat made it to 22
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:59 PM
Feb 2017

We animal lovers volunteer to have our hearts broken. Our pets will almost always die before us, but the thought of living without animal companions in our lives just isn't imaginable.

Please have some peace knowing that, not only did you save her, but you have given her a wonderful life, full of love for over 2 decades. My first cat lived to 22 and I also had to put her down. I also had a last supper with her of her favorite Popeye's chicken. But she was ready, and I was ready to help her go.

Check with your local SPCA and Humane Society. They often have pet loss support groups. I found it very comforting to be in a room, sharing stories with people experiencing the same kind of grief I was. Take care. ❤

moriah

(8,311 posts)
87. I'm so sorry... but you are performing an act of love...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 01:27 PM
Feb 2017

... just as you did when you rescued her and refused euthanasia then.

My Ninja came to me with bladder problems and finally had to have PU surgery. It had a great success rate. I maxed out my CareCredit to get it done. Otherwise he would have required euthanasia, and it seemed so wrong to euthanize a cat when a surgery to fix the problem was available and very successful.

But when his time actually came -- oral cancer, less than 1% one-year survival rate even with treatment.... I was with him to make sure he knew he was loved as he peacefully went to sleep, and knew he would be there watching for me on the Rainbow Bridge.

Don't ever doubt that you are doing the right thing as a response pet owner -- you're stopping her pain.

Much love to you, and to Tink....

Bayard

(21,806 posts)
88. Hugs
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 02:23 PM
Feb 2017

I'm so sorry. Our little Pet Sematary here keeps expanding. It never gets any easier.

I've posted this before, but worth it again. Its the love they leave behind. Makes me cry every time.....



nadine_mn

(3,702 posts)
89. Oh my heart goes out to you and precious Tink
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 02:24 PM
Feb 2017

What a wonderful life you gave her and how sweet it is that she is able be surrounded by so much love in her final days.

20 yrs is a long time (we lost our cat who was 17 last yr) but it never seems like enough does it?

And please, you are not being selfish for mentioning it - thank you for sharing your love and Tink's story. It is never easy to say goodbye to our furry companions - even when we know it is for the best.

So much love to you and Tink

DarleenMB

(408 posts)
90. I am so sorry ...
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 03:07 PM
Feb 2017

We lost our 21 year old cat 2 years ago. It was difficult but she had a long and happy life with us. And she just went due to old age. I was grateful that for once I didn't have to call the vet. Missy died peacefully in her sleep after giving me one final hug.

Granny M

(1,395 posts)
91. Love to you and Tink.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 03:09 PM
Feb 2017

My heart hurts for you.

Cross gently, Tink. Look up my Guinness when you get to the rainbow bridge. Just like him, you are well loved.

samnsara

(17,572 posts)
94. I am crying.....
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 04:10 PM
Feb 2017

..what a beautiful tribute to your best friend and fur child. I am keeping you in my thoughts and close to my heart during this sad, sad time. Godspeed sweet Tink.. you are such a good girl!

Skittles

(152,967 posts)
96. it's so hard
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 05:14 PM
Feb 2017

Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you.....
I loved you so --
'twas Heaven here with you.
--by Ilsa Paschal Richardson

oldcynic

(385 posts)
97. Tink knows
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 05:27 PM
Feb 2017

If you are with Tink, look in her eyes at the end. I've done it too many times and have always seen the same thing: forgiveness and gratitude. Gotta go...crying for you.

Scarsdale

(9,426 posts)
98. Deepest sympathy.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 05:39 PM
Feb 2017

These animals so easily make their way into our hearts, with their loveable ways. She sounds like a real prize. You were lucky to have her for so long, but it is time now to do what is right for her. Fond memories will last forever. Be brave.

lucca18

(1,238 posts)
100. So sorry about your dear cat Tink.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 05:50 PM
Feb 2017

I know you will miss her so much.
How lucky you both were to have had each other .
Tink sounds like a wonderful cat.

ginnyinWI

(17,276 posts)
104. Remember the good times.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 06:39 PM
Feb 2017

We lost our tabby two months ago, and we still think of her. There's an empty space in the bed where she used to purr me to sleep at night.

Jakes Progress

(11,121 posts)
106. Words can't help. I'm so sorry.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 06:51 PM
Feb 2017

I pray for peace and contentment for your friend. I know you will hurt for a long time. Just know that she won't be.

Old Terp

(464 posts)
107. My little critters (three cats and a dog) join me in offering our sympathy.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 07:05 PM
Feb 2017

It's always hard to lose our dear friends. If there is a heaven, I'm sure our animals are there, and when we leave this world, they will be there to greet us. Just right across the Rainbow Bridge.

Third Doctor

(1,574 posts)
108. My heart goes out to you.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 07:09 PM
Feb 2017

Pets have their own personalities and are truly a part of the family. I remember seeing a friend's dog put to sleep and it gutted me. That was such a sweet dog but she was very old and was suffering. Tink will l be in cat heaven where there will be all the cat treats in toys she wants.

109. My heart is breaking for you.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 07:25 PM
Feb 2017

I just lost my oldest kitty a few days ago. He was at least 19 and had been slowing down over the last month or so; we knew the end was near, but it's so, so, painful to lose a friend. I'd known this kitty longer than many of my human friends - and he was nicer than some of them. Blessings and comfort to you and to your beloved cat.

Peachhead22

(1,077 posts)
110. I'm so sorry
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 07:54 PM
Feb 2017

She sounds like a real sweetheart, and you have beautiful heart for being her companion and helper all these years. My sympathies.

benfranklin1776

(6,427 posts)
111. I am so so sorry.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 08:00 PM
Feb 2017

That really sucks. It's like losing a member of the family. If it's any consolation you gave her a lot of good years she wouldn't have had otherwise and she'll always be with you no matter what.

cate94

(2,797 posts)
115. I'm sorry you are going through this
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 08:46 PM
Feb 2017

You are an amazing pet parent and I am sure Tink knows how lucky she is....

More_Cowbell

(2,190 posts)
116. You're a great caretaker
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:01 PM
Feb 2017

I did this with my cat who had FIP, six years ago. When he stopped eating, we had a nice day sitting together and I told him over and over how much I loved him. At the vet's, he lay purring on the table on a soft blanket with my arm next to him. The vet gave him the injection and his purring suddenly stopped. He didn't move; it was instantaneous and peaceful.

I used to work with a woman who had an old, sickly dog. Every day this woman used to say she wished she'd find that the dog had fallen down the stairs and died. She didn't have your courage and love, to make sure that your loved one passed peacefully in the arms of a friend.

I'm sending you both good thoughts, and spoiling my cat tonight.

Ilsa

(61,675 posts)
117. I believe that when we are kind to our furry friends,
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:08 PM
Feb 2017

When we make new ones, give them forever homes, we make the world a better place.

Thank you for your kindness to this sweet kitty. Enjoy your weekend. My condolences and Peace to your family.

Shoonra

(518 posts)
118. I know this pain goes deep.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:11 PM
Feb 2017

Your very sad story comes almost a full year after I had to have our beloved cat put to sleep. He was a very genuine rescue, having been found by a co-worker of my wife while driving to work, huddling under a shrub on an island in the Interstate in freezing rain. He was tiny - everyone guessed a 4-month old kitten - no fur, only peachfuz, not an smidge of body fat, you could see every bone and muscle, you could see his little heart beating. The coworker put him in a cardboard box and took him to her job. My wife phoned me about adopting him and of course I said yes. Every one of her coworkers looked inside the cardbox and several of them told my wife to prepare for the worst - that he wouldn't last the night. And they were off by only fourteen years. It turned out he must have wandered away from his home a year earlier because, despite his very small size, the x-ray of his bones showed he was about 18 months old, and once he started eating meals regularly he got taller, longer, and finally wider, and his fur grew in like fleece. But, by the time he was about 16, the injuries and ailments of his infancy caught up with him and he was in terrible pain.

Every pet lover knows your misery. It never really goes away. But there's another cat that desperately needs a home.

CousinIT

(9,151 posts)
119. I'm so sorry. I know this is very hard.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:14 PM
Feb 2017

I had to do this with one of my little babies. SO HARD knowing ahead of time it's your last days and minutes with them. You're doing the right thing and you're doing it out of love - she'll go with that and no baby kitteh could ask for more. Unfortunately they can't live as long as we do!



Spoil her rotten until Monday and I know you'll be there looking into her eyes as she dozes off peacefully. The last thing she'll see is the face of Love.

denbot

(9,894 posts)
120. I'm sorry for you and your beloved kitty.
Sat Feb 25, 2017, 10:56 PM
Feb 2017

Ya done good by her, like she has to you. Peace to your house.

red dog 1

(27,648 posts)
123. Like the others on this thread, I, too, am so sorry
Sun Feb 26, 2017, 04:22 PM
Feb 2017

The reply right above mine rings true:

"You have given her a great life"..(and vice versa)

God Bless her little, tuna-loving heart...and God Bless you, too.

hamsterjill

(15,214 posts)
124. Oh, it hurts so much, doesn't it?
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 04:18 PM
Feb 2017

I wasn't on DU much the weekend and am just reading this now. I am so sorry.

Thank you for not having given up on her in the beginning and for understanding that she needs a peaceful exit now. Don't blame you at all for wanting a last weekend to love on her. She will know how she was cherished, and she will appreciate your bravery for her.

You are in our thoughts, and we all wish you peace and comfort. I fully expect to see mine again at the Bridge. It's where I will belong when it's time for me to go.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
125. Thank you everyone.
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 08:28 PM
Feb 2017

I read these to her while she was hanging out in my lap this weekend. We both appreciated the overwhelming love we received here.

She went peacefully this morning.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
132. Thank you.
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 09:00 PM
Feb 2017

I've been shedding many of those for her today myself. She was an amazing companion, and I can't believe I'm about to spend my first night in all these years without her in our bed.

tparrett62

(268 posts)
131. So sorry
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 09:00 PM
Feb 2017

Been there too many times myself; it's always the pits, but it's the price you have to pay for being a good cat parent. It's always easier to kick the can down the road, but when it's time, it's the kindest thing you can do. Try to have a good night...

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
133. Thank you, and yes it sucks.
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 09:04 PM
Feb 2017

I'm just focusing on the fact she went gently. It was the right thing to do, but what's right is all too often not easy.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,280 posts)
134. RIP, Tink.
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 09:06 PM
Feb 2017

You'll miss her a lot and she'll leave a cat-shaped hole in your life and your heart. In time you might want to fill that hole with a shelter cat who needs a home - not a replacement, because she can't be replaced; but because giving another cat a good home would be a nice way of remembering her. I bet she'd like that.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
136. Someday I'll start this journey again.
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 09:18 PM
Feb 2017

I said I'd never do this again this morning when we were heading to the vet, but I've had hours of wandering around looking at all her things and remembering her since then. Eventually, someday, I think I'll honor her by saving another cat. An adult again, like she was when she came into my life. They're too often overlooked, and Tink's proof they shouldn't be.

50 Shades Of Blue

(9,777 posts)
128. Just saw this... deepest sympathies on your loss.
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 08:51 PM
Feb 2017

It's very hard to do what you had to do. I hope there is some comfort in knowing you gave her a good life to the very end.

Chipper Chat

(9,637 posts)
130. I know your pain.
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 08:59 PM
Feb 2017

A feral cat abandoned 2 kittens at my back door 17 years ago. The male died but the female lived on to become a wonderful pet which is unusual for a feral cat. I named her Rugrat because she was born in a rug out in a field and she looked like a rat when I found her. She developed pneumonia at age 15 and went downhill fast. She refused to eat or drink and got down to 5 lbs. The vet said he couldn't do anything for her and suggested she be put down. That was hard. The morning came and she purred as I petted her for the last time. I felt awful. I buried her in the back yard and still plant Impatiens on it in the summer. It took me 21 months before I even wanted a cat again. But I adopted not one but TWO tabby cats from the local shelter and they are a joy. Trust me - it works so you can look forward to a cat to replace Tink in due time.

pansypoo53219

(20,908 posts)
138. the last day of my way too young Basil was spent visiting his favorite spots.
Mon Feb 27, 2017, 10:34 PM
Feb 2017

including the bathtub. he could not longer drink. it was time. need kittens. Turnip therapy.

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