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smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
Sun May 28, 2017, 01:32 PM May 2017

5 Stupid Pieces Of Advice That People Need To Stop Sharing

http://www.cracked.com/blog/please-stop-sharing-dumbass-advice-facetwitter/

If your life is anything like mine, I am so, so sorry. Between the general malaise and the fact that your many illegitimate children have tracked you down and launched a class-action suit for all the Christmas presents they missed out on, you're probably having a bit of a rough time. You also probably have a habit of consulting the internet for advice on how to handle your many failings and, in doing so, noticed that the vast majority of life advice being bandied about on social media alongside hassle-free cupcake recipes is total garbage. And a lot of that garbage falls into a few specific categories, such as ...

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"Travel Or Your Life Is Wasted!"

Hey, have you been traveling lately? No? Well then, fuck you, you ignorant yokel. You've never backpacked across Nepal with nothing but a Lonely Planet book and your own soul to guide you, you self-centered jerk?

I enjoy traveling. Stealing the hotel's nice towels, using the WiFi in a new and exotic Starbucks, asking the locals if they speak American -- it's a great experience. And I understand that these quotes are supposed to inspire us to see the world, which is indeed a great way to learn about humanity and grow as a person. But I'd estimate that approximately 100 percent of the time you try to distill the appeal of traveling into a single pithy quote, you come across as an arrogant braggart.

"Don't worry about the money" is not something people who have actually had to worry about money say. That's a really inspirational thing to say for someone who can almost certainly ask their rich parents for rent money. Yes, you can travel on a shoestring budget. But you can't "just make it work" if taking two weeks off of your job to hitchhike across Peru means you don't make enough money that month to pay your bills.

I know plenty of people who haven't traveled much, if at all, and it's not because they have closed minds or bad priorities. It's because, when they were young, their parents were too busy working their asses off and saving every dollar so their children could go to school and, you know, eat. Then, when they grew up, they worked their asses off at school and a job so they could have a better life. A life where they could keep their ass. And I'm sure there's nothing someone who put in exhausting hours to pay their way through college loves more than seeing a rich friend post a fake Muhammad quote about how traveling the world is how someone really educates themselves. A quote about how education isn't that important, which, incidentally, has missing punctuation." (more...)


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5 Stupid Pieces Of Advice That People Need To Stop Sharing (Original Post) smirkymonkey May 2017 OP
That was great. Thanks for sharing! lunamagica May 2017 #1
You're welcome! smirkymonkey May 2017 #4
"Travel Or Your Life Is Wasted!" is an example of the all-or-nothing binary thinking fallacy. Bernardo de La Paz May 2017 #2
I agree that travel is a great way to enrich your life, but it's the way the smirkymonkey May 2017 #3
Sorry, just now getting around to replying... klook May 2017 #5
*snort* smirkymonkey May 2017 #10
Choose to be happy. Ha, ha... hunter May 2017 #6
I think I hate that one the most of all. smirkymonkey May 2017 #8
It often boils down to True Dough May 2017 #7
I just want to smack people who say things like this. They obviously don't understand smirkymonkey May 2017 #11
Among all the sarcasm, there is some good advice in there, such as..... DFW May 2017 #9
I do agree about the Facebook thing! smirkymonkey May 2017 #12
It contains one advantage for us DFW May 2017 #13

Bernardo de La Paz

(48,988 posts)
2. "Travel Or Your Life Is Wasted!" is an example of the all-or-nothing binary thinking fallacy.
Sun May 28, 2017, 04:22 PM
May 2017

Reject it for that reason alone.

The advice is better phrased as "Travel some and then your life will be enriched". Put that way, the four excerpted paragraphs crumble.

The other four advice items have much better wisdom.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
3. I agree that travel is a great way to enrich your life, but it's the way the
Sun May 28, 2017, 08:45 PM
May 2017

advice is phrased is what I think he is complaining about. Not everyone can afford to travel. I think it's the idea that if you don't travel that there is something wrong with you.

klook

(12,154 posts)
5. Sorry, just now getting around to replying...
Sun May 28, 2017, 10:04 PM
May 2017

I was too busy dancing like no one is watching and loving like I'll never get hurt. Just taking a short break from doing a job I love so I'll never have to work a day in my life.

That last one is the one that really galls me for some reason. Most of us have jobs we tolerate because they pay the bills -- and maybe we get to use some of our skills and aptitudes, and hopefully do work we can, well, not be proud of exactly, but at least not be (particularly) ashamed of. I'd love to follow my bliss, but until I retire that's something I do on my own time, for free.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
10. *snort*
Mon May 29, 2017, 08:32 AM
May 2017


I know, some of these just really annoy me, especially "You are as happy as you choose to be". Ugh! If most of us had all the time and money in the world it would be a little more realistic, but we don't. Most of us are too busy making a living in order to put a roof over our heads and food on the table.

hunter

(38,310 posts)
6. Choose to be happy. Ha, ha...
Sun May 28, 2017, 10:40 PM
May 2017

Happiness is possible when my meds are right, but I wouldn't wish my darkest experiences on anyone. I become a danger to myself when I want to feel *something* anything, even pain. I used to think it could be worse, that I could be a cutter (I knew a woman who was a high functioning cutter, she wore long sleeves and none were the wiser), but I've come to realize that my own dangerous behaviors, whenever my world comes crashing down, are no different, same as cutting; same bleeding, same mess. (And it's not even something in my distant past, last year I enjoyed a very expensive vacation to a locked psych ward... Does that count as traveling? I met all sorts of interesting people, nice people mostly, but dysfunctional in ordinary society.)

Telling someone with a dangerous depressive disorder that they can simply choose to be happy is just cruel, and it's likely to make them feel worse. *Why can't I be happy?*

Telling someone in grim living situations they can choose to be happy is likewise cruel.

That's what was so fucking offensive about Ben Carson's opinion that "Poverty is a state of mind." It brings up images of all those happy slaves singing and dancing and cheerfully working in the cotton fields... an image those who were forcing them into slavery made up so they wouldn't feel bad.

*He's not happy because he chooses not to be happy.* Yeah, fuck yourself, Ben. With a cholla cactus.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
8. I think I hate that one the most of all.
Mon May 29, 2017, 02:53 AM
May 2017

"You can choose to be happy"! I know what clinical depression is and believe me it was not a choice. it was hell on earth. If someone had said that to me I would have strangled them.

True Dough

(17,301 posts)
7. It often boils down to
Sun May 28, 2017, 11:42 PM
May 2017

EASIER SAID THAN DONE!

There are times when we can pull ourselves out of a funk, other times circumstances conspire against us. If only life were as simple as a bunch of collected adages.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
11. I just want to smack people who say things like this. They obviously don't understand
Mon May 29, 2017, 08:35 AM
May 2017

what it is like for people who suffer from depression and other disorders of which they have no comprehension. It just shows a complete lack of empathy.

DFW

(54,341 posts)
9. Among all the sarcasm, there is some good advice in there, such as.....
Mon May 29, 2017, 03:53 AM
May 2017

And, oh shit, don't spend too much time on Facebook bragging about how you don't spend too much time on Facebook!

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
12. I do agree about the Facebook thing!
Mon May 29, 2017, 08:37 AM
May 2017

I rarely go on that board. I actually find it kind of boring.

DFW

(54,341 posts)
13. It contains one advantage for us
Mon May 29, 2017, 09:32 AM
May 2017

Our daughter in New York is always on the go somewhere and rarely thinks to tell us, assuming we always follow her on Facebook. I don't but my wife does, and that is how we know what she is up to.

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