S.O.S. cat intimidating cat UPDATE

[Catmusicfan]

Last edited Mon Jul 17, 2017, 10:18 AM - Edit history (1)

So poor Mollie peed the bed again this morning. This time because Manny was in the room and she is starting to feel intimidated by him.

As much as Brooks and Manny are coming out around my husband ( mostly me )and me. Mollie is getting more and more intimidated by Manny.


I am not sure what to do and I am getting more and more pissed off at the rescue we got them from.

Hubby is talking about one or both going ( as in Manny an Brooks.) and I am pissed that I haven't been able to make this work.

I am a firm believer of Forever Homes. I don't want to be a failure.

Help. I have tried to do the Jackson Galaxy method Hunt, Caught kill but again these cats don't play like normal cats.

( cross post in pet section.)

UPDATE: got the Feliway plug in and placed it in the bedroom. I also picked up calming chewables and got something to clean the mattress. We did mop it up and got a orange stain remover to get the smell out. I just hope the orange smell fades so the cats can get on.

[applegrove]

1. Have you tried putting a door closed between them. Cats are curious and will

want to smell and find out what I'd going on on the other side of the door. After a few days of separation they might all welcome being together again. Worth a try?

[Catmusicfan]

2. I will try.

[catbyte]

3. Have you tried Feliway or any other anti-anxiety scents? When I moved in with friends

who had 2 cats, one of them was scared of one of my two cats, even though he isn't aggressive, just playful. My guy was less than a year old but 15 pounds at the time (he's a beast.) We used Feliway spray & plug-in for the first few months & it really did stop the inappropriate spraying & peeing. It might be worth a shot.

[Catmusicfan]

4. going to get some as soon as Petco opens.

[Fla Dem]

5. Give it a while more.

If I am correct you just moved and yesterday you had a house full of people, plus you're stressed about a new job. All this change and stress could be have an impact on your 3 cats. Manny, I think he was your original cat, has been uprooted from an environment he was comfortable in. Add to that you introduced 2 new cats into his world. He can also probably feel the stress both of you have been under during the move, and certainly this weekend with the family visiting.

Mollie and Brooks need time to feel comfortable, understand the routine of the family, feel secure. Once things settle down when your move is finished, you and your husband are less stressed, give it another month. They need time to adapt and understand the rhythms of the household. I don't think they've had that opportunity to do that yet. Everything is still in a state of flux and has been since they joined your clan. Give Mollie extra attention. Hold her (if she allows it) brush her, give her treats. Make her feel loved and wanted.

She is the one female with 2 males in the house and may just need to know she is loved and protected.

Just my musings. You may in fact be doing all of this, but I hope you'll just give it time.

I'm not sure what a normal cat is. Mine was very playful as a kitten, but once she was about a year old, has absolutely no desire to play. I have spent a fortune on cat toys, but she just isn't interested. I'm envious every time I see a cat video of playful adult cats and cats that show real affection toward their humans. But that's just not my girl. She shows her affection in subtle ways.

Also you didn't say why you're upset with the rescue org you got the cats from. These rescue orgs can't predict a cats behavior once they are introduced to a new environment, all they know is how the cats acted while under their care.

Best of luck to you, (including your job) and your husband and I hope all works out well with Manny, Brooks and Mollie.

[Catmusicfan]

6. Manny and Brooks are the brothers we got them about 1 month before Mollie

The Rescue stated that they got Manny and Brooks at 4 months old and had been with the rescue since (a year now.) Brooks and Manny movement and actions reminded an ex-coworker of mine of cats who had been abuse. She works with a lot of cats. She will rescue them. It just seem every time we talk to the rescue we got a different story.

Then Husband took Mollie from the same rescue they told him that in Feb Manny Brooks and Mollie had all been housed in the same foster home and they all got along well. They told us. There should be no problems at all that the cats should remember each other.

Brooks still stays in the basement most of the time. ( hubby's man cave) and if hubby or I are down there he stays on the other side of the room.

[Fla Dem]

9. Sorry, I was mistaken on the timeline of when you rescued your pets

I had looked for your original post and couldn't find it. Thought you had Manny before bringing home Brooks and Mollie. But I still think some of the issues might be related to your current move. These poor kitties have been in a shelter for a year, then brought to a new environment and before they could acclimate they move to someplace new. Cats, unlike dogs take a while to adjust to their new surroundings.

It may very well be they could have been abused. I hope not. It could be they just did not receive a lot of love and caring as kittens in the shelter. I applaud you for taking them in and trying to help them acclimate. All cats are not playful, cuddly and/or out going. I sincerely hope they bond with each other and with you and your husband. Returning them would be a sad outcome.

[Catmusicfan]

10. I think right now our biggest fear is we come home and poor Mollie is badly hurt or worse.

But I watch Manny playing with Brooks and He was stalking Brooks and they do play rough. I did get the Feliway in our bedroom where most of the fights take place. So I am hoping they relax. Mollie is half the length and 5:30 AM like clock work (no matter when we go to bed.) is usually when they get at it

[Sanity Claws]

7. I have an aggressive foster and need to do something

What is the Jackson Galaxy method?

[Fla Dem]

8. Link to his web site.

http://jacksongalaxy.com/

[shenmue]

11. Hug