11 Habits of Genuinely Likable People

[steve2470]

https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/11-habits-of-genuinely-likable-people.html

(I admit I was put off both by the title and the source, but I think it's worthwhile regardless)

(heavily edited to meet DU's copyright rules)

1. Give before you receive, knowing you may never receive.

2. Shift the spotlight to other people.

3. Listen three times more than you talk.

4. Never practice selective hearing.

5. Be thoughtful simply because you can.

6. Put your stuff away.

7. Never act self-important ...

8. ... Because other people are always more important.

9. Choose your words wisely.

10. Never talk about the failings of other people...

11. ... But readily admit your own failings.

[democratisphere]

1. Explains a lot.

[NJCher]

2. esp'ly #6

Nothing says "you're not important" more than that cell phone lying close by, while your eyes wander to it every few minutes.


Cher

[Bernardo de La Paz]

3. 11 habits of a widely disliked personage

1. Always wants to know what's in a deal for him and thinks of every interaction as a deal.

2. Constantly shifts the spotlight to himself with self-congratulatory tweets and inappropriate content in speeches.

3. Talks more than he listens.

4. Hears only what he wants to, which is not much because he won't study more than one page and seeks confirmation of preconceived notions.

5. Incapable of introspection and thoughtfulness.

6. Always strutting his stuff.

7. Always acting self-important ...

8. ... because nobody else is as important.

9. Speaks and tweets brashly without consideration.

10. Always blaming other people and airing their faults as he perceives them ...

11. ... Never admits his own faults.

[steve2470]

5. I think we all can identify Exhibit A of this in an instant! :) nt

[IronLionZion]

4. #10 is unavoidable with our miserable failure of a president

but for everyone else, sure.

This is a good list

[Honeycombe8]

6. A good reminder. Thanks. nt

[Coventina]

7. Good list, but I take issue with #8

This is something women have had pounded into them to the extent that we can sometimes kill ourselves with neglect.

Balance is key.

[steve2470]

8. very true! nt

[Generic Brad]

9. I practice all 11

And I am despised. At least I feel as though I am despised and unpopular. I'm certainly treated that way.

(Don't mind me. I have been experiencing an exceptionally bad time lately)

[steve2470]

10. ......

[Ohiya]

11. You are not despised here!

Things will get better, I hope for all of us.

[lunatica]

12. We all feel like that at times

And most of the time people like us just fine. We just forget to notice it.

[Stuart G]

13. number 12....an extra that could help, and people appreciate this one..

12...When others are speaking in a relatively small group..say 8 to 15....act as if ..you are paying attention..
.....put your eyes on the speaker, and listen if you can....If you cannot listen, (sometimes our minds really do wander, or are obsessed about something) then act as if you are listening....people talking appreciate if others are listening to them, and...when my turn comes..then people will pay attention to me..