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Thu Apr 16, 2020, 07:48 PM

Wearing a mask I picked up my son's ashes

and brought him back home. My friend who drove me also had her mask. When we arrived in the parking lot we called the Research for Life office. Their person came out gloved and masked and gave us the box containing his ashes. My son is now home.

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Reply Wearing a mask I picked up my son's ashes (Original post)
ChazII Apr 2020 OP
MaryMagdaline Apr 2020 #1
dewsgirl Apr 2020 #2
Blue Owl Apr 2020 #3
Ohiogal Apr 2020 #4
UpInArms Apr 2020 #5
sheshe2 Apr 2020 #6
peacebuzzard Apr 2020 #7
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Freedomofspeech Apr 2020 #11
spooky3 Apr 2020 #12
rurallib Apr 2020 #13
secondwind Apr 2020 #14
applegrove Apr 2020 #15
JohnnyLib2 Apr 2020 #16
mostlyalurker Apr 2020 #17
Laura PourMeADrink Apr 2020 #48
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Ptah Apr 2020 #19
democrank Apr 2020 #20
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iluvtennis Apr 2020 #24
ancianita Apr 2020 #25
sagetea Apr 2020 #26
AllyCat Apr 2020 #27
tavernier Apr 2020 #28
sdfernando Apr 2020 #29
Delmette2.0 Apr 2020 #30
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Kali Apr 2020 #31
Danmel Apr 2020 #32
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pnwmom Apr 2020 #35
ArizonaLib Apr 2020 #36
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pazzyanne Apr 2020 #40
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cate94 Apr 2020 #43
Initech Apr 2020 #44
CaptainTruth Apr 2020 #45
FailureToCommunicate Apr 2020 #46
Laura PourMeADrink Apr 2020 #47
cydney_wong Apr 2020 #49
ChazII Apr 2020 #50
sellitman Apr 2020 #51
Maraya1969 Apr 2020 #52
deek Apr 2020 #53
cornball 24 Apr 2020 #54
ChazII Apr 2020 #55

Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 07:52 PM

1. Oh so sorry. What a dreary day

Grieving I isolation is just so cruel

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 07:52 PM

2. I'm very sorry about your son.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 07:52 PM

3. Peace be with you ChazII

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 07:54 PM

4. I am so sorry

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 07:54 PM

5. I am so sorry





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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:02 PM

6. I am so sorry, Chaz.

My thoughts are with you and yours.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:04 PM

7. I am so sorry ChazII,

no words, I am so sorry for the loss of your son....

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:05 PM

8. Oh, my dear. I am sorry.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:09 PM

9. I am so sorry for your loss.

You have my deepest sympathy.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:15 PM

10. Deepest condolences, Chaz

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:18 PM

11. Oh, my....

I have no words to ease your pain but I am so very, very sorry for your loss.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:26 PM

12. Condolences to you and your family.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:27 PM

13. So sorry

perhaps the saddest errand anyone could ever do.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:31 PM

14. Oh m god, so tragic.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:32 PM

15. So sorry for your loss.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 08:48 PM

16. I'm very sorry. What a heartbreaking time.



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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:10 PM

17. I'm sorry for your loss

My mother and I did that drive to the mortuary for my sons ashes in 2013. We still hurt when we remember.

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Response to mostlyalurker (Reply #17)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:52 PM

48. So sorry mostlyalurker.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:10 PM

18. I remember when he passed from brain cancer . Can't imagine this last 30 days or so for you

He is home
Take care

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:15 PM

19. .

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:20 PM

20. I'm so, so sorry

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:26 PM

21. 💕💕💕💕 love and kind thoughts

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:27 PM

22. May grace find you and bring you peace and healing...

I am so very sorry to hear of your pain...may you find the support and love needed to make it pass.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:28 PM

23. Sending wishes for peace your way. So sorry for your loss.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:36 PM

24. My heart goes out to you ChazII. May your son Rest In Peace.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:37 PM

25. So sorry for your great loss.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:39 PM

26. sending you a virtual

blanket to wrap around your shoulder to bring you some comfort. I keen with you. It's never easy losing a child. Be in peace.


A-ho~

sage

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:40 PM

27. Oh dear Chaz.

So sorry you have lost your son.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:42 PM

28. So so sorry.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:45 PM

29. I'm so very sorry

I wish there was more I could do for you.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:46 PM

30. I am so very sorry for your loss.

From one mother to another I understand your grief. I lost my son just over 2 years ago.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Reply #30)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:14 PM

41. Deepest sympathy.

I lost my son 9 years ago, and it still hurts deeply. Words can not describe the pain of losing a child, no matter what their age. Stay strong. My thoughts are with you at this sad time.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:47 PM

31. my heart breaks for you

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:50 PM

32. How heartbreaking

Sending virtual hugs to you.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:52 PM

33. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I hope you will find peace.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:55 PM

34. Worst hurt ever. I'm so deeply sorry.

Sending my deepest sympathy. My heart is breaking for you.



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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 09:56 PM

35. I am so very sorry for your loss.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:03 PM

36. I can't imagine

Our family's strongest love to you.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:06 PM

37. He will forever be in your heart, ChazII.....

Virtual hugs and vibes sent.....

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:07 PM

38. ...

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:08 PM

39. So very sorry for your loss.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:12 PM

40. Sincere condolences to you and your family, ChazII,

Take special care of yourselves and each other at this sad time. Know others are here for you.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:17 PM

42. I'm so very sorry 😐 nt

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:18 PM

43. I'm so very sorry.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:21 PM

44. OMG. So sorry!

God this is such a nightmare.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:29 PM

45. My Lord ... words cannot express how sorry I am...




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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:33 PM

46. It should NEVER have to be this way. I am so sorry for all that was taken from you ChazII

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:49 PM

47. Omg. How horribly sad. I am so sorry Chazll

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 11:05 PM

49. I am so sorry

I have been a DU'er for many years, just never post. When I saw your post, it was like a kick in the gut. It took me back to when I picked up my son and I felt like I had to write to you. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you have support. I want to suggest an article easily found online "The 5 Stages of Grief and Other Lies that Don't help Anyone." The woman who wrote that article, Megan Devine, also wrote a book "It's OK That You're Not OK". It was my bible for 2 years until I lent it to another grieving mother, now it's her bible. The loss of a child, no matter what the age, is such a dreadfully painful experience. It is like no other death in our lives. I know no words can express the pain you are going through, there is simply no comfort. I am thinking of you tonight.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Thu Apr 16, 2020, 11:08 PM

50. Thank you everyone for your responses they

are like a comforting quilt around my shoulders.

As some of you know my son, Jay, was diagnosed back in March of 2019 with a glioblastoma tumor. It is the same tumor that killed Sen. Kennedy, Sen. McCain and Vice President Biden's son. He was given 15 months and passed 2 weeks shy of the one year mark.

When Jay's body was picked up by Research for Life I gave him one last kiss on his forehead. His body was first taken to Barrow Neurological Instute Ivy Tumor Research here in Phoenix. While it is a blind study Jay's brain is going to a study being done by Dr. Nadir Sanai who happened to be his neurosurgeon. The rest of his body was used in an orthopedic study. Jay looked like the Disney version of Quaismodo in Hunchback of Notre Dame. Truly, they could have been brothers.

When the virus started shutting things down I was told his ashes would be held here in the Research for Life facilities. Yesterday, they called and told me I could come and get them. I was so happy that I did not ask why. My only question was could some of the ashes be placed in a necklace one of his friends gave to me. They said that they could do that for me.

The necklace is a TARDIS. Those who know about Dr. Who know what a TARDIS is and what the letters represent. I am thankful/grateful to have him back with me and that while he is no longer with us, all of this crap started last year and I was able to be his side through the surgeries (he had to have a shunt later in 2019) the radiation, cyber knife treatments and that I could be in the hospital 24/7. He was 35.5 years old when he passed.

Again, thank you for your love, your prayers and positive thoughts. They helped me get through 2019, they are helping me now and they will help through the rest of this year. You guys are really the best.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Fri Apr 17, 2020, 10:42 AM

51. My heart breaks for anyone losing a son or daughter

i cannot imagine.

Only once did I face this possibility and it sucked me dry. We were lucky and his brain tumors were removed and benign.

I'm so sorry

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Fri Apr 17, 2020, 01:43 PM

52. I am so sorry ................ May he rest in peace. And may you find some

peace during this hard time also.

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Fri Apr 17, 2020, 02:24 PM

53. I hope your memories help you through this difficult time

My condolences

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Response to ChazII (Original post)

Fri Apr 17, 2020, 07:19 PM

54. My tears are all I have to give you.

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Response to cornball 24 (Reply #54)

Fri Apr 17, 2020, 07:58 PM

55. Thank you. Know that

my son is in a better place.

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