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tillikum

(105 posts)
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 05:56 PM Oct 2013

hi! new guy here and wow you guys seem to have a little gender war here.

been browsing and this was an interesting and very disturbing list of "abusive" behaiviors from a pinned thread.....elsewhere.

while some are common sense (hits you, belittles you) some of this is lunacy:

http://www.cdh.org/medical-services/services-a-z/emergency/domestic-abuse/abusive-behavior-checklist.aspx

Some of my favorites:

"Withholds approval, appreciation or affection

Makes contradictory demands

Breaks dates and cancels plans without reason

Comes home at late hours refusing an explanation"


Its' like anything other that indentured servitude to your spouse is abuse now. Fuck that. Relationships are give and take.

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hi! new guy here and wow you guys seem to have a little gender war here. (Original Post) tillikum Oct 2013 OP
There are people on this board who are deeply invested in the idea of one, but this group isn't the Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #1
fair point but outside looking in... tillikum Oct 2013 #2
It's been done before. Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #3
DU is like a church with a half dozen different sacred texts. nt rrneck Oct 2013 #4
There is no gender war here ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2013 #5
how old are you, if you don't mind me asking? Blue_Tires Oct 2013 #6
No, the gender war ended in March LadyHawkAZ Oct 2013 #7
That's funny. HappyMe Oct 2013 #8
Hmmmm.... I don't know. I take the long view. Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #9
no its a strategic ceasefire until the participants get more propaganda from the dvorkians loli phabay Oct 2013 #10
Mothership? Gore1FL Oct 2013 #11
more like a hive with a queen like red ants or bees. loli phabay Oct 2013 #12

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
1. There are people on this board who are deeply invested in the idea of one, but this group isn't the
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 06:01 PM
Oct 2013

place for it.

Nor is anyone in this group likely to be maneuvered into a position where others can disingenously portray their words -not that anyone on DU would try to do such a thing - as "defending domestic abuse".

Frankly, my read is that most of the people in this group find the tired shtick of the "DU Gender Wars" repetitive, played out, lame, and boring.

That said, I think that those particular examples from that list, taken by themselves, do not always indicate "abuse" but certainly may likely indicate at best a shitty relationship.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
3. It's been done before.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 06:15 PM
Oct 2013

Trust me. You might find other hobbies more rewarding. People here don't really fall for it anymore.

LadyHawkAZ

(6,199 posts)
7. No, the gender war ended in March
Thu Oct 17, 2013, 02:02 PM
Oct 2013

What we have now is more like Occupy Gender: some little camps for everyone to look at, but not a lot of action.

HappyMe

(20,277 posts)
8. That's funny.
Thu Oct 17, 2013, 03:20 PM
Oct 2013


An occasional empty water bottle is flung, but that's about it.

I'm glad that it's over.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
9. Hmmmm.... I don't know. I take the long view.
Thu Oct 17, 2013, 05:48 PM
Oct 2013

A thorough search of the DU archives will show that many of the same characters were starting the exact same flamefests, 10 years ago.

The only thing that's changed is, more people see through it and just don't play along.

 

loli phabay

(5,580 posts)
10. no its a strategic ceasefire until the participants get more propaganda from the dvorkians
Fri Oct 18, 2013, 09:54 PM
Oct 2013

Probuably beamed straight from the mothership circling uranus.

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