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Bonobo Apr 2013 OP
hrmjustin Apr 2013 #1
Bonobo Apr 2013 #2
hrmjustin Apr 2013 #5
libodem Apr 2013 #4
Major Nikon Apr 2013 #3
TreasonousBastard Apr 2013 #7
lumberjack_jeff Apr 2013 #6
ElboRuum Apr 2013 #8
TM99 Apr 2013 #9
Bonobo Apr 2013 #10
opiate69 Apr 2013 #11
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #22
opiate69 Apr 2013 #25
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #27
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #12
opiate69 Apr 2013 #13
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #16
opiate69 Apr 2013 #18
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #19
opiate69 Apr 2013 #20
Behind the Aegis Apr 2013 #21
opiate69 Apr 2013 #23
Behind the Aegis Apr 2013 #24
opiate69 Apr 2013 #26
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #28
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #29
Behind the Aegis Apr 2013 #15
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #17
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #14
Major Nikon Apr 2013 #30
Post removed Apr 2013 #31
maddezmom Apr 2013 #32
Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #33

Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 06:41 PM

1. um I just don't know how to react to this.

 

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #1)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 06:46 PM

2. Forgive me, but why would you respond with "I don't know how to react?"

If you have an opinion, post. If you don't, don't.


If you don't know how you feel, sit back and think or listen.

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Response to Bonobo (Reply #2)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 06:48 PM

5. you know you have a point.

 

mouth closed on this.

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #1)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 06:48 PM

4. Come here, son

Let me hold you for a moment. It will be okay. Those loaded weapons don't have to be so scary. There, there, now.

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Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 06:46 PM

3. Not just a weapon, a terrorist device

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Response to Major Nikon (Reply #3)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 07:45 PM

7. That one even had graphs! I'm tempted to make a...

wisecrack about what happens when you teach women to read and write, but I suspect it wouldn't end well.

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Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 07:31 PM

6. It seems apparent that some people come to "starve-male-babies" ideology via trauma.

 

But understanding the source of the hate doesn't really mitigate it.

If there were a method to remove the pain that underlies the hate, I'd be in favor of that. Until we hear of one, treating the symptoms by speaking up is about all we can do.

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Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 08:04 PM

8. No.

Does a bad thing happening to person A done by person B, where person A is different in some way from person B, justify whatever fear and contempt that person A develops against the particular class of individuals of whom person B might be representative? No.

While I would have sympathy for the thing that happened to person A, I would not be able to have sympathy for person A's subsequent fear and hatred of all of class B should person A turn down that road.

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Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 08:41 PM

9. Yes, and it is because

 

many if not all of these women were abused, molested, and raped as children and/or young adults.

So yes, that kind of abusive upbringing does warrant empathy and compassion. Their suffering, fear, and pain is very real.

However, when the adult, instead of resolving and healing the past, turns it into a philosophy of revenge and rage, then no, I can have no sympathy for that way of being. It is destructive and as violent mentally and emotionally as what was experienced. It is the abused become a passive aggressive psychological abuser.

They are projecting unfinished psychological business on any man they can find. If the hook doesn't stick, then they provoke such a response so that it will. All of us, men or women, have been around such people in our adult lives. They are constantly looking for a fight. Call it a chip on their shoulder. Call it hyper-vigilance. There is an expectation, though quite unconscious, that having been victimized horribly by a man, that it will always happen. Therefore all men with a penis have that weapon of abuse, shame, and fear. So even if you do not want to fight back, once attacked repeatedly, it is quite natural to begin to defend. Then that defense is seen as proof of their certainty that all men are violent, sexist, misogynistic, abusive, part of the 'rape culture', etc.

I do my best to avoid their provocation by avoiding as much as possible interactions with such women, however, as it is really no different than bullying, I rarely tolerate it if I have no choice but to relate to them, say at work or school.

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Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Mon Apr 8, 2013, 11:41 PM

10. HERE IS THE POST

Which said that penises are weapons.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=2612594

I couldn't make up something that ridiculous.

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Response to Bonobo (Reply #10)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 12:01 AM

11. Interesting... a post by someone who appears NOT to post in HoF, and yet,

 

they're in a fit of apoplexy over you posting this thread. Guilty conscience, much? Of course, also notable is the one "HoFer" who was replying in that fucked up post.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #22)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:14 AM

25. My wife actually has a customer like that..

 

Something about the fillings in his teeth or something.. no lie. There`s a group home not to far from her lounge, so there`s a few people that come in from there when they get their SSI checks and stock up on smokes.

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Response to opiate69 (Reply #25)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:16 AM

27. had a retail gig not far from a major bus hub, a couple decades ago

it was ground zero.

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Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 12:56 AM

12. For the record, does anyone think this was a genuine alert?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1255&pid=19984


I mean, it was genuine in that someone actually pressed the button and sent it... but... come on.

Still, pretty fucking funny, whoever did it.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #12)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 12:57 AM

13. LOL..my thoughts exactly...

 

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Response to opiate69 (Reply #13)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:01 AM

16. That's quite possibly the funniest thing they've done yet, at least intentionally.

My hat is off to whoever's responsible.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #16)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:05 AM

18. I know, I mean..

 

How does one not see that it`s s joke?

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Response to opiate69 (Reply #18)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:06 AM

19. We're in panic from the penis-snatchers

I knew we never should have started with that titty titty bang bang talk!

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #19)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:08 AM

20. They can have my penis when they take it from my cold dead hands!!!

 

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Response to opiate69 (Reply #20)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:09 AM

21. That would be a short feat, would it not?

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Response to Behind the Aegis (Reply #21)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:11 AM

23. Hey now, I`m half italian, I`ll have you know!

 

You know why some urinals are on the floor instead of up on the wall? So us Italians dont get our junk wet!

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Response to opiate69 (Reply #23)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:13 AM

24. Yes, but from your COLD hands?

One must take shrinkage into consideration. LOL!

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Response to Behind the Aegis (Reply #24)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:15 AM

26. damn.. yes I forgot about frightened turtle syndrome!

 

Lmao

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Response to opiate69 (Reply #20)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:30 AM

28. I'm gonna have nightmares about Skittles's cat.

I'm not letting that thing near ANY of my appendages.

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Response to opiate69 (Reply #13)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:59 AM

29. Although... I present to you, the "Hairy Frogfish"



"Watch out fellas, the females are known to eat potential mates that do not approach carefully!"



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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #12)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:01 AM

15. I don't get that alert?!

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Response to Behind the Aegis (Reply #15)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:02 AM

17. I think it was a joke.

"HoF wants to take mens penises. NOT A JOKE"

So obviously, it's a joke.

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Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:00 AM

14. A little light humor



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Response to Bonobo (Original post)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:15 PM

30. William Blakely, Former Vice Mayor, Allegedly Drove 90 MPH With Genitals Out Window

Objects in mirror are larger than they appear.

Hearings have begun for the former Vice-Mayor of a Tennessee town accused of masturbating out of his open car window while speeding down the Interstate.

William Blakely, 30, was arrested in February after another driver claimed he had "fondled himself" and tried to get her to lift up her shirt while he was driving next to her, the Bristol Herald Courier reported.

The woman also noted that the man was "looking directly at her and smiling as he drove," according to a police report obtained by the Times News.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/08/william-blakely-mayor-driving-genitals-out-window_n_3039445.html

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Response to Post removed (Reply #31)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:32 PM

32. I really hope the OP will consider self deleting this OP

This member already had been dealing with getting those disgusting pm from a zombie.

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Response to maddezmom (Reply #32)

Tue Apr 9, 2013, 01:53 PM

33. I'm locking it for the time being

it's not fair to pile on someone who obviously has stuff going on.

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