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liberal N proud

(60,869 posts)
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 02:57 PM Jun 2023

So I recently changed jobs, now a former coworker is stalking me

At 64 I changed jobs, in part, because the place I was working had become a toxic situation.
So I started looking and found a better paying job, a new adventure and a better environment.

Funny thing happened, the very person who was the biggest pain in the a$$ and big part of why I moved on now checks my LinkedIn profile every 3 hours.

I posted my change on there, don’t know what he is looking for. Must be separation anxiety.

I don’t know if I should appreciate the attention or fear for my life. When I left, I took a huge bank of knowledge with me, something the company took for granted until I turned in my notice.

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So I recently changed jobs, now a former coworker is stalking me (Original Post) liberal N proud Jun 2023 OP
I would suspend my LinkedIn account for the time being kimbutgar Jun 2023 #1
absolutely. you have a job and don't need to be visible for now. CurtEastPoint Jun 2023 #2
I use it to keep in touch with many former colleagues liberal N proud Jun 2023 #4
block that person CurtEastPoint Jun 2023 #8
Block the stalker on LinkedIn: Ptah Jun 2023 #3
You can also report them liberal N proud Jun 2023 #6
I'm not sure I see what's amusing... MutantAndProud Jun 2023 #11
Did you sign any kind of non-compete agreement when you started Hugh_Lebowski Jun 2023 #5
Nope liberal N proud Jun 2023 #7
Wow. But some companies are like that. They think you should be grateful to be working halfulglas Jun 2023 #21
He lives on his phone liberal N proud Jun 2023 #22
Congratulations on the new job Effete Snob Jun 2023 #9
Thanks liberal N proud Jun 2023 #13
I'd be a little nervous, a little more alert. Change your routines a little, it does make one ... SWBTATTReg Jun 2023 #10
I must be out of touch or somerthing intrepidity Jun 2023 #12
It's the every three hours part that's weird liberal N proud Jun 2023 #14
I guess it may mean you're a topic of conversation at the old place? intrepidity Jun 2023 #15
No, except sharing industry articles liberal N proud Jun 2023 #17
That is not the definition of stalking or harassment MutantAndProud Jun 2023 #16
I just blocked him liberal N proud Jun 2023 #18
Possibly another person not doing well in the toxic environment MutantAndProud Jun 2023 #19
He was part of the problem liberal N proud Jun 2023 #20

CurtEastPoint

(19,086 posts)
8. block that person
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:24 PM
Jun 2023

Go to the profile of the person you'd like to report or block. Tap the More icon and select Report or block from the list. Tap Block [member name] from What do you want to do? Tap Submit.

Ptah

(33,411 posts)
3. Block the stalker on LinkedIn:
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:13 PM
Jun 2023
When you block a member on LinkedIn, here's what will happen:

You won't be able to access each other's profiles on LinkedIn.
You won't be able to message each other on LinkedIn.
You won't be able to see each other's shared content.
If you're connected, you won't be connected anymore.
You won't see each other under Who's Viewed Your Profile.


https://www.linkedin.com/help/linkedin/answer/a1380117

liberal N proud

(60,869 posts)
7. Nope
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:23 PM
Jun 2023

They were not that smart

They just thought I liked working for dirt. I had not had but one raise in 5 years.

halfulglas

(1,654 posts)
21. Wow. But some companies are like that. They think you should be grateful to be working
Thu Jun 8, 2023, 09:15 AM
Jun 2023

For them.

This other person may be extremely jealous of you and will try applying for a job at your new company. How does he find the time to check on you on Linkd-in every 3 hours?

liberal N proud

(60,869 posts)
22. He lives on his phone
Thu Jun 8, 2023, 09:44 AM
Jun 2023

It is what will bite him, now that I am no longer there.
He always spends hours on his phone and then complained about the demands.

Not sure how he is handling the pressure now.

 

Effete Snob

(8,387 posts)
9. Congratulations on the new job
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:27 PM
Jun 2023

And on the resolve to get out of a situation in which you did not want to be.

SWBTATTReg

(23,833 posts)
10. I'd be a little nervous, a little more alert. Change your routines a little, it does make one ...
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:28 PM
Jun 2023

wonder why are they so obsessed!

intrepidity

(7,773 posts)
12. I must be out of touch or somerthing
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:38 PM
Jun 2023

Looking at a page online is considered stalking nowadays? Since I don't engage in "social media" I guess I never thought too much about this. But putting a page online and making it public, and then people look at it, well isn't that sort of the point?

I dunno, I must be missing simething.

liberal N proud

(60,869 posts)
14. It's the every three hours part that's weird
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:40 PM
Jun 2023

He wouldn’t talk to me when I worked there. Now he needs to know what’s going on

intrepidity

(7,773 posts)
15. I guess it may mean you're a topic of conversation at the old place?
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:45 PM
Jun 2023

Do people update linkedin frequently, typically, like facebook or something?

 

MutantAndProud

(855 posts)
16. That is not the definition of stalking or harassment
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 03:52 PM
Jun 2023

Your profile page is public. It doesn’t have to be.

If you make false accusations or get him ‘help’ by calling others to pursue this without anything else in evidence you may end up crossing a line of your own… do not make this situation you have described as toxic more toxic or complex.

Restrict your visibility settings if you want or block the individual or remove your profile if being viewed offends you.

liberal N proud

(60,869 posts)
18. I just blocked him
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 04:43 PM
Jun 2023

But as I was doing that, it came up that you could request help for them.
It was like one of those evil moments that I never follow through on because I have morals

But after working with him for several years, he is neurotic and flies off the handle all the time.

 

MutantAndProud

(855 posts)
19. Possibly another person not doing well in the toxic environment
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 04:51 PM
Jun 2023

People get neurotic and pent up in situations like that very easily. Best to let it simmer down on its own if possible, the more triggers pulled the worse things become.

liberal N proud

(60,869 posts)
20. He was part of the problem
Wed Jun 7, 2023, 06:28 PM
Jun 2023

Most of it actually.

I was the manager and he wanted to fight.
I was out the minute that my managers didn’t back me up.

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