Should I stay (in my anti-marriage state) or should I go?

[Not Me]

I live in Florida. (Need I say any more?)

With the DOMA ruling that provides for Federal recognition, it still leaves us in a place where our marriage is not recognized and will not be unless a court ruling intervenes. I was hoping for a more broad pronouncement in the DOMA case to include Section 2...requiring recognition of all legal marriages, but that was beyond the scope of the plaintiff's case and the Court reserved its decision to the merits of her suit.

The problem here in FL is that the constitutional amendment process requires a 60% majority for passage. In 2008, the amendment passed narrowly with 61.8%. Given the deeply established conservative/tea party Republican legislature, and this high bar, it is not likely that it will be repealed any time soon.

My job ties me to Orlando. My husband's field is pretty mobile.
I could early-retire in less than two years, and am willing to sell the house and move to a place where we can plan our future and finances, and move on with our lives. We have a rental condo here that could be a part time home if we need to get away in the winter.

Anyone else in this situation? I am curious as to how you all feel about this.

[MillennialDem]

1. Not in a totally similar situation, young couple in WI. I just finished grad school a few years ago

and I am a professor. My wife is in school to get a media arts and game design degree (she is 3 years younger than me, and no she is not a former student).

It's quite possible her future job will lead to California. I would move there with her if it did.

We bought a house and I'm not sure if we would sell or rent it or keep it as a summer/get away home.

At least the repeal of section 3 of DOMA will make filing federal tax returns jointly possible (as long as you take a trip to a state that allows SSM) and this will likely lead to court challenges out the ass against these awful state laws.

[Buzz505]

2. I believe that you can marry in a Blue state

and having done so, the federal govt. must now provide the rights that you will have under federally. Ten years from now, a lot of old bigots will be dead and you might get your state seeing sunshine again.

[Not Me]

5. It's not that easy

Many federal rights are dependent on the state you live and whether they recognize the relationship.
He were married in NY two years ago.
I just wish that the Marriage Equality states would refuse to recognize any marriages from the neanderthal states until their is reciprocity.

[plantwomyn]

3. I'll see you and raise you.

I live in Indiana. At least y'all have good weather and Gay meccas within reach. The day DOMA was struck down our illustrious Governor put out a statement that he intends to pass a DOMA Amendment in Indiana forthwith. With our uber Republican legislation it will be the fight of our lives to defeat.
I'm only here because my mother is entrenched in her cute little home. But after 20 years here, 4 of which my wife and I have been married without recognition, I AM DONE. We are within months of hearing a ruling on our federal lawsuit and WHEN our ship comes in we are SOOOO out of here. California here we come.

[Not Me]

4. My husband is from NW Indiana

He left after high school and we only go back for the holidays.
I didn't know about the IN Doma proposal. Ultimately, by shrinking their tent, the Republicans will die.
But true, some places it'll take a little longer than others.