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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 12:30 PM

Do you ever do this?

I find myself encouraging other people to drink in social situations. Especially my wife and kids. Maybe they think it makes me feel awkward if I'm the only one not drinking, but the opposite seems to be true for me. I feel weird if I know they're not drinking because of me. Anyone else?

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Reply Do you ever do this? (Original post)
bif Jun 2019 OP
mr_lebowski Jun 2019 #1
Faux pas Jun 2019 #2
bif Jun 2019 #3
Faux pas Jun 2019 #5
irisblue Jun 2019 #4
Rhiannon12866 Jun 2019 #6
bif Jun 2019 #7

Response to bif (Original post)

Wed Jun 12, 2019, 12:46 PM

1. If you deep-down feel like your motives are right for doing this ...

Then trust your instinct on it.

Back when I actually was sober, I did do this as well, to answer your question.

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Response to bif (Original post)

Wed Jun 12, 2019, 12:55 PM

2. Are you newly

sober? If so, maybe that's why they're unsure of how you'd feel. My last drink was new years eve 1992 and the only time I feel uncomfortable about people drinking around me is if they act like asses Best to you and your sobriety!

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Response to Faux pas (Reply #2)

Wed Jun 12, 2019, 02:40 PM

3. It's been nine months, so

Newly is a relative term. I've told them many times how I feel. It's all a learning experience. I'm way more comfortable being around drinkers than at first.

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Response to bif (Reply #3)

Thu Jun 13, 2019, 09:00 AM

5. The old

one day at a time is a great rule.

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Response to bif (Original post)

Wed Jun 12, 2019, 03:58 PM

4. I have not done so

Their beverage choices are their business, it's not mine. My BFF has commented a few times on the wine with dinner, and, I'm not invested in that.

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Response to bif (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 03:23 AM

6. No, even after more than 10 years, I stay away from places where drinking is the focus

Though when I've been to dinner with family or friends, they've asked if I mind if they have a glass of wine with dinner and of course I don't. I just avoid occasions where people are apt to be drunk, not something I feel like dealing with.

BTW, congratulations on 9 months! That's a real milestone! I order coins for the beginners' meeting I attend and we give out coins for 24 hours to 11 months and you deserve one, too!

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Response to Rhiannon12866 (Reply #6)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 03:46 PM

7. Thanks!

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