I wshould not be this strssed

[kozar]

I am a recovering drinker,,92 days I have a handicap daughter 31 yo and I believe,,,what I believe,,, tonmight on Du pushed me ovwesr edge. I made a post to enhancccew discusssion. 1 pewrson wanted to bring up my y extera commas, I have parkinsonns when I get excited ,,, myy hands trembale,,,, moree so since I stoppped drinking. Nows, I will go back to spellcheck and use it


It takews me 3 or 4 times longer to make a post,, I have to go back and correct. Ive lingered here quietly, but this ass questioned me tonight,,why so many commas? I am just me I fight my booze every morning,,but booze has nothing to do with my shaking.. I ma so angry right now at this person,,, how do we deal with it without booze? I want some rum right now

[Kali]

1. My sister is at this very moment dying of end stage liver failure

She drank from 8th grade until probably 10 days ago. She leaves 2 daughters who never knew her. Maybe think about your child and remember to be present for her. What some poster on the Internet does is irrelevant.

[kozar]

3. I aggree so much

this is my 1st big obstacle to my recovery,, I thought I had a block because I sing for my dhhgtr, and mde a CD for her..a church contacted me and wants me to sing at servive,,, I chose to sing,, but I wont do piano,,too much stress I even stilll have red lines here, IO cannot correct,,, tonight ,,hit me hard.

[kozar]

26. And now I realize your post when I reread

and I am so sorry for your loss

[Turbineguy]

2. Giving up drinking is hard work.

I hope your relatives and friends are there to lend a hand.

[kozar]

5. ty,,, I do

[Turbineguy]

8. ..

[Freedomofspeech]

4. So sorry that you had this experience...

I misspelled a word in one of my posts and someone attacked me....I am very limited as to what I post for that reason. I should think this would be a safe place but there is always someone who has to be a smart ass . The vast majority of people here are truly kind. You take care and rest knowing that people do care for you.

[kozar]

7. ohhh dont I see

this now,, I hve family,supporting me,,, until today,,, I thought DSu would support me GD proved me wrong today

[GitRDun]

6. There is no problem in the world that alcohol can't make WORSE

Ignore the loser who said something about the commas.

Post away and enjoy yourself.

I've been trashed plenty of times here by folks who said things they would no way say if I were standing in front of them.

It's no different than those idiots who cut in line in their cars.

Some see the anonymity of the internet as a license to ridicule, or be cruel.

Don't take it on you! IT'S ON THEM...

Peace!

[kozar]

10. ty,, I put my heart

everywher,, I have my whole life,, Trust me,,Im trying to ignore...this one hurt

[Stuart G]

42. Please, Please and Please .."Ignore the looser"

Great Advise ...Yes, we have a few losers here at Democratic Underground. Yes, I have been corrected too, (it was a while ago) but we cannot give up. Letting go of drinking and drugs is very hard. Please "Ignore the Looser and concentrate on the winners. Most of us support and do not criticize...

[irisblue]

9. (((((Koz))))), I'd like a vodka - soda-lime tonight

Spell check is my friend.

[kozar]

12. I would love some rum

spellchecked used,,, Im calmer now,, it works then,, My finngers slow down

[irisblue]

13. I have blocked some DU members, I have been sad to learn,

Some people suck bilge water

[kozar]

15. I tend to attck with facts,,

Im working oin that too

[irisblue]

18. There is a thing " Chardonnay and Rage Posting"

I have done that, when I have posted, here or on another social media place and see what/ how I posted with an alcohol influence, I have felt, again, that shame that for all the reasons.

92 days is a big freaking deal and you earned and deserve praise and encouragement and respect for that.

[kozar]

23. ty

But I still react,,even without the rum,, Im learning and trying,ty for the help and reply,,, still using spellchk,,but less as Im calmong down

[Alpeduez21]

11. We all walk this road one day at a time

It’s hard to fight every trauma and condition to walk this path. There will always be those who critique. You could explain about your Parkinson’s or don’t reply to posts that you hate

I can only clean my side of the street. I can’t control others. 92 days is a long time. Congratulations!!👍👍👍. The person who is sober longest is the one who got up earliest today. You are loved and worthy of a sober life

[kozar]

16. Im only looking aND HOPING FOR 93

yes,,it is 1 day

[kozar]

14. my first post here

(spellcheck used) disclaimer posted


and this much support! I will see day 93,, I see my psyche every Fri. not sure I will be able to ty in this group,, but is a new goal of mine

[kozar]

17. feck!!!

my fingers still put in extra comma!!!

[irisblue]

19. A ? about your keyboard

What kind of device are you using? Would a traditional keyboard or a speech to text be easier for you? My phone keyboard is only 4 inches wide & I have "fat finger syndrome"

[kozar]

21. no,,,not a keyboard thing

it is a koz thing,,I get stressed and my fingers move to fast,when I get really stressed,, my eyes and brain miss all the red lines I should spellcheck,,, trust me talk to text is useless,, I have North Dakota accent even though I live in TN,and I am so old,,that I can actually believe I can type without my dentures in,,,, hmmm lets add 2 plus 2 lol

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

20. Does your computer have controls for the keyboard?

I can adjust my mac keyboard for how fast the keys repeat - if you have that feature and adjust for a slower repeat speed, that might solve the problem. Anyhow, don't worry about someone's comma comments. They didn't know the cause and probably wouldn't have said anything if they knew. Some stuff just isn't worth it.

[kozar]

22. yes Vel

I have keys to lowest,,,when I get upset like what I hope you read tonight (wasnt your posts) my fingers go bonkers,,, nd then sometmmes I just push send

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

24. Well, hang in there. Don't worry about what people think of your punctuation.

I just attributed it to a stuck comma key but didn't think it was something that needed remarking on.

[kozar]

28. wish it was a stuck key,,

but yeah,, when someone wants to comment off topic just to be,,,whatever they are trying to be,,, I will and do, respond with truth.

once again Vel,,have a great holiday weekend,,,Im trying to find balance

Koz

[Stuart G]

40. Yes, hang in there..Velveteen Ocelot is correct..Also, I checked around, and

found out that there is NO, I REPEAT ,NO,,,, PUNCUTUATION POLICE!!!

none at all,
not even one,
no police,
no one cares,
no penalties for missing commas,
no penalties for capitalization mistakes,
no fines
no jail time
no tickets and take away your posts..if you put a period.... in the wrong place.....or too many .....................
I talked to the police...and they don't give a s**t..

[Stuart G]

44. I have cheked around here and there....and everywhere....

and found this truth,,,,,THERE IS NO,,,EXTRA COMMA POLICE,,,HERE AT DEMOCRATIC,,,,,UNDERGROUND,,,,

NO PUNCTUATION POLICE.........AND NO SPEELLINGG POLIIECE......and that is the law,,,,,,rite hear at

Demacraticc UNdergrounnd ...got that???....Stuart GGG..???

[kozar]

25. just reread my OP

Omg,,do I type that poorly when upset? I need auto spellcheck that slaps my face?

[Marie Marie]

27. I am so sorry that someone who wanted a moment of superiority upset you that much.

Most people here are kind and polite and just try to understand posts as written. I'll bet that for some on here, English might be a second language or grammar is just not their strong suit. Maybe something to keep in mind when we see a post which isn't perfect. Please don't blow your sobriety over an extra comma or two.

[kozar]

29. ty Marie

I got very upset on DU and my fingers went crazy.. I have lurked here, and tonight I reached out,, and you all helped. we got this ,,together,,I thank you all

[calguy]

30. How do you handle it without booze?

It's very simple and yet so hard. You simply "Let it Go". That's it.
Sound like something impossible?
It's not. No one can fuck with your mind without your permission.
There's a good book out there I would recommend.
" Letting Go, The Pathway Of Surrender" by Dr. David R. Hawkins.
Not the only book on the subject, the one first comes to my mind. I've had it in audio and text for quite a while. Read it several times. Always gain new insights when I get into it.
Just a little something sincerely shared to hopefully shed some light.

[kozar]

31. great insight

I wish and hope,,and OMG even try ,to say Let it go,, and if it was just me, I could( hopefully) I have always been a yes person,,make everyone happy. Until I adopted my Tess. 23 years old when I adopted,,31 now. I even spent 6 years working in upper mgmnet in mentally challenged adults since then. I have retired. I dont know how I handled tonight without booze,, prolly wife ,,prolly holiday weekend,,prolly I realized I was dealing with an ass on here.
I do know facts,,,fact is When I got pissed here on DU,,I stewed,,got pissed,,replied to all their comments on my posts. All that is here on this site and you can read.
Then I did something different,, I made a post to this group I have been lurking in.. and all of a sudden, I am replying to them, not to the ass who pissed me off.

So that is the only answer I have for tonight. I will sleep with the thought "today worked" tommorow,,we all fight again


Koz

[calguy]

34. If one can learn to let it go.....

Think of the time spent tonight, the emotional stress experienced, and the other shit I'm not aware of that you went thru. Would it have been more pleasurable to do something else? Letting go of a trivial post that some asshole wrote, someone you don't know and who does not know you, could have avoided the entire event in an instant. Holding on to those trivial words causes eternal stress and other various negative effects to whatever degree we allow and for as much time as we allow.
I wish you Peace my friend.

[Tech]

32. Maybe I am a little weird, but I love the way you write and type. It comes from your heart.

I am from a family of educators, have 2 degrees, and used to write beautifully before spell check. I remember being excited about typewriters that corrected. My skills have degraded with my health.

I have worked with so many people from different backgrounds. The most important thing to me is the ability to communicate, to get ideas across. I lived in Turkey as a young woman, did not know the language. The family I stayed with knew some English. We often communicated through what we called "Tarzan English".

I have no problem with the grammar police. One of my sisters was a phys ed teacher who would correct grammar on gym tests. She wasn't wrong, as she was an educator.
I am not sure they are of use here, but we all have our peeves don't we?

So put them on ignore, focus on yourself and your family and your sobriety. Share your views confident that many of us enjoy hearing from you, and hang in there through the holidays.

Good luck to you!

[elleng]

33. Dear koz

[dchill]

35. Respect to you. Some people... Eh.

[sprinkleeninow]

36. Yes, from me too. Dear Koz..

💓 🙏

[mr_lebowski]

37. Look at it this way brother ... you've drank only one day out of the last 93 ...

Don't think of it as 'starting over' ... when you get to 364 out of 365 (as a for-instance), this one day isn't going to matter one lick.

Of course, you don't want to get in the HABIT of letting yourself off the hook in this way, but don't beat yourself up the next few days, and try not to think about the mess up, just get back on the proverbial horse, put one foot in front of the other, and keep doing the next right thing. Worst thing is to let it bum you out to the point that you pick up again. Right?

Take care my friend. Did you do that church gig yet? If not, I would consider bowing out, honestly. It might be impacting you leading up to it, subconsciously, if you're feeling anxious about ...

And if so, how did it go?

[kozar]

38. seems to matter to my family

they let me know I screwed up a day,,,church gig is at 2nd practice tomorrow,, I will not cancel it,,when I sing,I feel good..and for reasons that will not be posted in open forum, my mics, piano,and other things I no longer have access to at home. I was told ( it took up too much space)

Thanks Leb,,,its gonna go great!!

[mr_lebowski]

39. Well, then you go head-on man. Sounded in another post like you were feeling anxious about it ...

I usually studiously avoid anything that makes me anxious in early sobriety (which I'm actually in right now myself ... not even at 1 month yet ... and it's pretty far from my first try at this ) but if you're confident it's a help not a hindrance, well ... you know yourself better than I do

[kozar]

41. the true "gig"

will happen in January, as churches now of course, are working on Cantatas. But I am having a blast with them. Very small group, but a very happy group. I tend to shy away from "old religious songs" as they are hard for me to feel and vocalize. The Christmas season is actually helping, they are working on songs I know, I feel, and I can contribute. I have been at 3 of their practices now and someone said at each one, "Let's do Doug's song." I see they want a break from Cantata practice and I need the Cantata practice from them. So, I ask , "which one? " as I have sheet music. Sometimes we do the song that will be the gig,, sometimes we laugh and goof off. Heck we even did "On the Cover of The Rolling Stone" already!! Whenever this side journey ends, I will let them know how much they are helping me, I want to tell them now, but I just feel a certain vibe with this group that I do not want to disrupt at this time.

As always lebowski,,and all,,

TY

Koz

[Stuart G]

43. You are not alone...my spelling sucks, and my punctuation is often worse.

I've been around a while..and I am grateful that I am still around. Here at Addictions & Recovery we
do not care about punctuation and spelling...Please do not give up. Keep Coming back...and ignore the losers.