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Sat Sep 25, 2021, 11:38 AM

"It gets better" isn't just a cliche. Take it from me.

I recently celebrated my third year of sobriety. I hate all those cliches like "One day at a time" but this one really resonated with me. I'm not one to count the days, weeks, months, etc. but something happened when I hit 3 years. Up until then, not a day wet by when I didn't think about drinking, how much I missed it, and anger over the fact that my family did an intervention. Sometimes, I thought about drinking off and on the whole day!

But when I hit the 3 year mark, I sort of closed the door on the old drinking me. I've resigned myself to the fact that I'm just no longer a drinker. Now I go whole days without ever thinking about it. There's so much to do that fills my day--I don't have time for that to slow me down. And I'm sick of wallowing in self-pity. I want to be known for what I do, not what I don't do.

So all you folks who are new to clean living, it does get better. Just hang in there! I never thought I'd get to this stage, but here I am!

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Reply "It gets better" isn't just a cliche. Take it from me. (Original post)
bif Sep 25 OP
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Response to bif (Original post)

Sat Sep 25, 2021, 11:40 AM

1. That's wonderful news!

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Response to bif (Original post)

Sat Sep 25, 2021, 11:42 AM

2. not sure what to say - congratulations for sure

and I hope this acts as an inspiration for someone who is struggling.

Thanks for posting!

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Response to bif (Original post)

Sat Sep 25, 2021, 11:51 AM

3. That sounds like a most rewarding place to have reached.

Your description of the change is very interesting. Enjoy your accomplishment -

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Response to bif (Original post)

Sat Sep 25, 2021, 03:27 PM

4. thanks bif

As a newby this means a lot.

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Response to bif (Original post)

Sun Sep 26, 2021, 06:39 AM

5. Not only does it get better .. it affords us tools & allies that guide us for the rest of our lives

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Sun Oct 3, 2021, 04:43 PM

6. Thanks bif

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Sun Oct 3, 2021, 05:04 PM

7. What a wonderful phrase: " I want to be known for what I do, not what I don't do." . . .

That's the essence of recovery: To place ourselves outside of where we were when we were sick, and to create for ourselves a life worth living.

And you're definitely right about how it gets better. I shared this very thought last week, when I took my 34th chip. As I explained then, I no longer drink, and for that decision I've grown to where I no longer have a living problem. I live comfortably with myself these days, now that I am no longer in the chaos of my previous life.

It gets better, and then one day, it is better, and life may never be the same again. All we have to do is not drink, no matter what.

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