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bif

(24,141 posts)
Tue Apr 2, 2024, 04:16 PM Apr 2024

I've got a challenging evening coming up this Thursday

It's called "Gin & Jazz" and it's a fundraiser for the Detroit Sympony. I just hate these kinds of events where the booze will be flowing and I won't know anybody there. My wife loves to meet new people and she's perfectly comfortable in situations like this. I've been sober for 5 1/2 years and almost never think about booze and am never really tempted to drink. But I know I'll be looking at my watch the whole evening. And I won't feel comfortable until I'm in bed with a bowl of ice cream watching a good movie.

Wish me luck!

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I've got a challenging evening coming up this Thursday (Original Post) bif Apr 2024 OP
Good luck! XanaDUer2 Apr 2024 #1
Good luck PJMcK Apr 2024 #2
You'll do great! happybird Apr 2024 #3
I found when others drink and I did not, that they were so sweet applegrove Apr 2024 #4
Easy does it. You'll be fine. onecaliberal Apr 2024 #5
I have faith in you. badhair77 Apr 2024 #6
Thanks for your support of the sympony mdmc Apr 2024 #7
Easy does it. DEbluedude Apr 2024 #8
It's my drug of choice bif Apr 2024 #9
Been there, done that. DEbluedude Apr 2024 #10
Yikes, good luck! Sounds like drinking is planned as part of the evening! Rhiannon12866 Apr 2024 #11
Drinking is definitely a big part of the evening bif Apr 2024 #13
Good luck cate94 Apr 2024 #12
It was every bit as lousy as I thought it would be bif Apr 2024 #14

applegrove

(123,448 posts)
4. I found when others drink and I did not, that they were so sweet
Tue Apr 2, 2024, 04:33 PM
Apr 2024

and easy to laugh. So I get high on their alcohol buzz. I'm sensitive so it works for me.

bif

(24,141 posts)
9. It's my drug of choice
Tue Apr 2, 2024, 07:30 PM
Apr 2024

It's my reward not drinking. I've been doing it every night for several years now. Keeps me sober.

DEbluedude

(827 posts)
10. Been there, done that.
Tue Apr 2, 2024, 07:39 PM
Apr 2024

After about ten years had to slow down on the ice cream. Triglycerides skyrocketed. Added a few belt sizes. Now its maybe twice a week. Going on seventeen years and yes, it is rewarding!!

The ice cream AND the sobriety.

Rhiannon12866

(223,396 posts)
11. Yikes, good luck! Sounds like drinking is planned as part of the evening!
Wed Apr 3, 2024, 02:34 AM
Apr 2024

A few weeks ago I went to a class reunion with a friend of mine - and it turns out I didn't know anyone, either. I had a chat with someone's husband who didn't know anyone either - and since there was an extensive bar, I told him I was in AA, so he shared the details of how he makes his own beer.

I assumed there'd be coffee, since most people drink that, but all I could find was the bar. So I finally spoke to a friendly waitress and she brought me a cup of coffee from the kitchen. Wishing you much better luck!

bif

(24,141 posts)
13. Drinking is definitely a big part of the evening
Wed Apr 3, 2024, 10:49 AM
Apr 2024

I'm sure there will be plenty of gin-based cocktails on offer (as the Brits say). I'll just have my usual soda water on the rocks with a lime twist.

cate94

(2,892 posts)
12. Good luck
Wed Apr 3, 2024, 10:24 AM
Apr 2024

I hope it is more comfortable than you expect and there are interesting people you can talk with. Personally, I still need an escape plan for something like this. I hope as I get further along in my sobriety it gets easier.

bif

(24,141 posts)
14. It was every bit as lousy as I thought it would be
Fri Apr 5, 2024, 11:05 AM
Apr 2024

My wife was the social butterfly--she loves meeting new people. And she got moderately hammered. I stood by myself for the better part of the evening and listened to the band. It was a friend of mine's group so I talked to him between sets. Fortunately, we got to leave at around 9:30-ish, so that was good. Thank god I don't have to attend these kinds of things very often.

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