Addiction & Recovery
Related: About this forumCalled an enabler
I met a woman on reddit, since my doctor told me get out more. I've listened to her rant about her personal issues hours on the phone. Weve been to the beach twice over months. I felt us doing anything was predicated on her health issues.
I thought I could open up a bit about my home life. I e my SO drinking. He asked us to buy wine while out. I asked her could we stop at a grocery store. She called me an enabler. So, I was sorry I said anything to her. She's a chain smoker.
Maybe I am an enabler, but if buying wine keeps me from fighting and getting yelled at, I'm buying the fucking wine for peace and quiet. Wish I never said anything. Shes annoyed with me anyway, so that short-lived "friendship" is over. I've posted on a local meetup site, still awaiting approval.
She also stressed me out about money and told me she'll be well off when her husband dies. That made me feel shitty.
Just my tale. Don't judge until you've walked in my shoes. Been depressed. Thanks
ETA my SO is an adult and will start screaming if I even broach the subject of his addictions.
Walleye
(35,973 posts)I think of the Tom Petty song. Nobody knows what its like to be me
XanaDUer2
(14,307 posts)I let her know I can't drive long distances due to a shitty old car. She said that was NO PROBLEM and she loves to drive. Now she's pissed I can't drive to her house. And she's sick of planning. But I figured she's the sick one. Isn't it up to her if she can do something?
I would every few days, text and say, how's your sick mother? How you doing? Etc. She never texted me once to ask how I'm doing.
Walleye
(35,973 posts)I thought every thing was fine.
MotownPgh
(364 posts)meetings? These people will understand what you are dealing with much more than a new acquaintance.
XanaDUer2
(14,307 posts)Probably. Am sorry I said anything. I had to hear her rant about her problems
Walleye
(35,973 posts)The only real friends I have Ive known for 50 years.Keep believing things will get better. Its all we can do.
XanaDUer2
(14,307 posts)It was embarrassing picking up wine, but i didn't want a fight when I got home.
So I'm an enabler.