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Sat Jul 6, 2019, 03:07 PM

My mother passed, we think, from cancer.

A former long-time smoker, she was already in poor health when her lung cancer was diagnosed a few months ago. I never found out just what kind she had (I live 1,000 miles away), but immunotherapy was prescribed. She got one dose of Keytruda and went downhill so fast it was astounding.

My sister and brother were there to help almost full-time, and it was suggested to me to visit at the end of June. How I wish I had gone sooner! I got one smile and that was it. She was almost ready for hospice at that point and they kept her at home as long as they could. There came a day when it was time to let the pros take over, and she didn't last two days in the facility.

It was not pretty to see someone who was such a huge part of your life deteriorate as she did...but all I could see when I looked at her was my Mom still young and beautiful as she was when I was a kid.

I lucked out with" only" breast cancer...thus far.

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Reply My mother passed, we think, from cancer. (Original post)
PennyK Jul 2019 OP
SHRED Jul 2019 #1
MaryMagdaline Jul 2019 #2
mr_lebowski Jul 2019 #3
dixiegrrrrl Jul 2019 #4
sheshe2 Jul 2019 #5
DarthDem Jul 2019 #6
mopinko Jul 2019 #7
irisblue Jul 2019 #8
Karadeniz Jul 2019 #9
KT2000 Jul 2019 #10
PennyK Jul 2019 #11

Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 03:09 PM

1. That's what took my Mom

 

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 03:10 PM

2. So sorry, PennyK. Terrible loss

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 03:14 PM

3. Sorry for your loss Penny ...

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 03:17 PM

4. So sorry for your loss, Penny.



My Mom died same way, same cause, 30 years ago.

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 03:21 PM

5. So sorry for your loss, Penny.

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 03:35 PM

6. Oh, I Am So Very Sorry

Sorry to hear this news. All my best to you and your family.

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 04:01 PM

7. pretty much how my dad went. it was a shock.

 

but he had been in poor health, w a collapsed vertebra for years that left him taking lots of pain meds. fell one day, and hurt his arm. took him for an xray and 3 days later he passed.

that was a long time ago, and there wasnt much they could have done had they caught it. but it was still so quick.

it really does make a difference to be able to say goodbye. i'm glad you got that chance.

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 04:05 PM

8. Penny I am so so sorry

I grieve with you for her
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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 05:09 PM

9. Deepest sympathy. She's happy now and thankful for not having to suffer longer. Lung

cancer is a witch, for sure.

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 06:17 PM

10. I am so sorry

it is hard when we lose our mothers and there is so much to remember. Peace to you.

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Response to PennyK (Original post)

Sat Jul 6, 2019, 09:03 PM

11. Thanks so much, all of you

She had a very large personality and she has been a part of so many things I do...she taught me so much. I was a rebel-without-a-cause teenager, and we fought a lot, but once I hit, oh, 50 or so, things between us became easier. I visited a few months ago and spent a lot of time with her; at that point we were planning to move her close to me in Florida.

I forgot to mention that she was 91.
Her father died of lung cancer at 57, and she used to think she would go at the same time, for the same reason.

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