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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:30 PM

cannabis_flower (3,468 posts)

I need help and I'm not sure where to turn

My husband seems to have a problem with OCD and it is causing me problems.

In the morning we get up and he gets dressed and when he's ready to leave he insists we check the water. off. If I don't go he says "come on, please " until I do. He insists I go into the bathroom with me and ask me if the water in the tub is off.
Then the water in the sink. Sometimes, he wants to go back and check again.

Then the kitchen. We have to check the sink and the stove.

He also has to stare at the washer and dryer for a while and sometimes check various electrical outlets. Today he left the house and came back 15 minutes later and insisted I check the water again. He doesn't think it's a problem. We don't currently have insurance. What can I do?

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18 replies	Author	Time	Post
I need help and I'm not sure where to turn (Original post)	cannabis_flower	Sep 2020	OP
Get insurance.	dhol82	Sep 2020	#1
If I could afford insurance!	cannabis_flower	Sep 2020	#6
Hi cannabis_flower	choie	Sep 2020	#2
It's been going on a while	cannabis_flower	Sep 2020	#4
Get professional IRL help.	OAITW r.2.0	Sep 2020	#3
The post below yours is helpful	cannabis_flower	Sep 2020	#7
Fair enough. Follow that post and best! nt	OAITW r.2.0	Sep 2020	#8
Try calling SAMHSA	mecherosegarden	Sep 2020	#5
May I ask some background questions (dont answer here out loud)	Tetrachloride	Sep 2020	#9
This message was self-deleted by its author	MaryMagdaline	Sep 2020	#10
OCD components	Tetrachloride	Sep 2020	#11
Yeah..	cannabis_flower	Sep 2020	#13
I'm not a Dr. but OCD is sometimes a precursor to Dementia, my Mom	42bambi	Sep 2020	#12
211 might new a good place to start	jorgevlorgan	Sep 2020	#14
Thanks	cannabis_flower	Sep 2020	#15
Also this place works on a sliding scale and while it is probably far away from you, they	jorgevlorgan	Sep 2020	#17
There is a free app with support called	mzmolly	Sep 2020	#16
Call your local health department. They may be able to connect you with other resources and	littlemissmartypants	Sep 2020	#18

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:34 PM

dhol82 (8,914 posts)

1. Get insurance.

and make sure it has psych as part of the benefits.
Psych is not always included. OCD will def be part of a psych diagnosis.

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:37 PM

cannabis_flower (3,468 posts)

6. If I could afford insurance!

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:34 PM

choie (3,554 posts)

2. Hi cannabis_flower

I'm sorry you and he are going through this. Is this new behavior?

Choie

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:36 PM

cannabis_flower (3,468 posts)

4. It's been going on a while

but it's gotten worse lately. He doesn't usually come back home to check or make me check.

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:35 PM

OAITW r.2.0 (10,566 posts)

3. Get professional IRL help.

DU is no place to ask for anonymous advice.....nor, IMHO, should it be given.

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:38 PM

cannabis_flower (3,468 posts)

7. The post below yours is helpful

Yours isn't!

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:40 PM

OAITW r.2.0 (10,566 posts)

8. Fair enough. Follow that post and best! nt

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:36 PM

mecherosegarden (745 posts)

5. Try calling SAMHSA

Contact SAMHSA ( Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at (800) 662-HELP (4357) or online . I think they have resources for people without health insurance. Good Luck!

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:49 PM

Tetrachloride (769 posts)

9. May I ask some background questions (dont answer here out loud)

1. What kind of community do you live in as a whole: size, political makeup, distance to your region's center.

2. How about your nearest relatives.

3. And your neighbors

4. Finally, are either of you employed and in what profession.

5. Your age

Health professionals and social workers will like to ask these.

For a side project of mine, I visited the office of my local NAMI : National Alliance of Mental Illness.

Here is their main webpage. https://www.nami.org/Home

If we are lucky, some professionals will read this thread.

If you visit or call your county's health offices, they will get you started.

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:57 PM

Tetrachloride (769 posts)

11. OCD components

https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/ocd.htm

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 11:22 PM

cannabis_flower (3,468 posts)

13. Yeah..

From your link "A lot of people with OCD feel very responsible for preventing a terrible thing from happening "

I think this mostly started when the downstairs neighbor had a leak. Water was coming in from his ceiling. They thought at first nowe might have left the water running and had an overflow but what it was was a pipe that had burst. It wasn't us at all. That was about a year ago and it hasn't gotten better. I can't convince him that even if the water is running, if the stopper isn't in the sink it won't run over. It is literally impossible to have the water overflow if the stopper is not in the sink. It's illogical.

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 10:59 PM

42bambi (1,752 posts)

12. I'm not a Dr. but OCD is sometimes a precursor to Dementia, my Mom

never had OCD until just a couple years prior to her being diagnosed with dementia. So sorry you both are going through this difficult time. I wish you luck, hugs, and hope.

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 11:37 PM

jorgevlorgan (3,164 posts)

14. 211 might new a good place to start

To find affordable mental health services. Good luck!!

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 11:42 PM

cannabis_flower (3,468 posts)

15. Thanks

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 11:49 PM

jorgevlorgan (3,164 posts)

17. Also this place works on a sliding scale and while it is probably far away from you, they

Do everything remotely and over zoom now, so it might be workable if to isn't a super long waiting list. No idea if it they will take you if you arent local, but it might not hurt to ask! https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/the-maple-counseling-center-beverly-hills-ca/476798

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Tue Sep 15, 2020, 11:45 PM

mzmolly (49,566 posts)

16. There is a free app with support called

NOCD. There are discussion boards within the app where you might reach out for help.

More info on the app and its other features here:

I also recommend reading IMP Of The Mind (I forget who the author is) and Brain Lock by Jeffrey Schwartz.

I have a loved one with OCD. Yes, it’s a problem and it sounds like OCD.

You might also check for free support and resources in your area: https://iocdf.org/ocd-finding-help/supportgroups/

Good luck!!

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Wed Sep 16, 2020, 04:36 AM

littlemissmartypants (16,309 posts)

18. Call your local health department. They may be able to connect you with other resources and

may be able to provide services for free or a sliding scale. Most state Departments of Health can connect you with services in your area. Also, NAMI is a great resource.

You can call the NAMI Helpline at 800-950-6264 M-F, 10 am – 6 pm, ET Or in a crisis, text "NAMI" to 741741 for 24/7, confidential, free crisis counseling.

❤ lmsp

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