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Sun Apr 11, 2021, 05:58 PM

I've gotta stop being afraid

fear stalks me. I'm worried I'll give myself a heart attack. I'm going to ask for FMLA at the start of June. I'm scared to ask, though I've done so before. Fear, fear, fear.

I hope everyone is doing okay!

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Reply I've gotta stop being afraid (Original post)
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 OP
StrictlyRockers Apr 2021 #1
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #2
TygrBright Apr 2021 #3
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #4
SheltieLover Apr 2021 #5
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #6
SheltieLover Apr 2021 #8
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #7
SheltieLover Apr 2021 #9
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #10
SheltieLover Apr 2021 #13
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #20
SheltieLover Apr 2021 #24
Baked Potato Apr 2021 #16
SheltieLover Apr 2021 #17
Karadeniz Apr 2021 #11
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #22
Karadeniz Apr 2021 #23
MFM008 Apr 2021 #12
SheltieLover Apr 2021 #14
SheltieLover Apr 2021 #15
hamsterjill Apr 2021 #19
XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #21
hamsterjill Apr 2021 #18

Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 05:59 PM

1. Therapy can be helpful.

I need it, and I'm intending to start this week.

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Response to StrictlyRockers (Reply #1)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:03 PM

2. I'm glad to hear that good luck

I have a great therapist and psychiatrist. I just get so far gone sometimes, even with meds

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:06 PM

3. I've spent a fair amount of time where you are...

I call it "worst case scenario hell" in which I can go from zero to Apocalyptically Bad Outcome in .0018 seconds in virtually every situation.

Keep reminding yourself it's your jerkbrain fuckin' witcha... not objective reality, no matter how much the cortisol in your system argues agin that.

Take walks outdoors if you can. Or just sit outdoors someplace pleasant, and concentrate on steady breathing for a few minutes.

Therapy does help.

This, too, can pass.

Holding you in the Light.

sympathetically,
Bright

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Response to TygrBright (Reply #3)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:08 PM

4. thanks, Bright

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Response to SheltieLover (Reply #5)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:19 PM

6. Hi, Sheltie!

thanks! Hope your weekend is going well

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #6)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:22 PM

8. Yw!

I've posted this before & several folks replied, saying it really helped them!

Another nice feature: as soon as very brief registration is completed, the first week's videos are immediately available!

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Response to SheltieLover (Reply #5)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:20 PM

7. Hi, Sheltie!

thanks! Hope your weekend is going well

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #7)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:23 PM

9. Ty

Another day in paradise.

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Response to SheltieLover (Reply #9)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:30 PM

10. Ha

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #10)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 07:44 PM

13. Joke is that

I'm in red hellhole TN. But I have my own home, food, utilities, all I need. So I'm grateful for these aspects.

Have you ever done a gratitude journal?

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Response to SheltieLover (Reply #13)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:20 PM

20. No I should try nt

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #20)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 07:56 PM

24. It's a great practice to jumpstart & maintain positivity,!

Write 3 things you are grateful for each night just before bed, then reread list from start to end.

Entries can be anything such as sunshine, new shoelaces, or the name of a 0erson ypu are grateful for. 👍

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Response to SheltieLover (Reply #5)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 08:38 PM

16. Thanks for that link.

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Response to Baked Potato (Reply #16)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 12:25 AM

17. Yw!

Several DUers have done the course & said it helped a lot!

Please share liberally!

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:59 PM

11. I suggest reading Many Lives, Many Masters. Highly reputable psychiatrist author. His patient

Sounds like your twin! It might help you find a more beneficial therapy! All the best to you! You always have friends here!!!

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Response to Karadeniz (Reply #11)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:21 PM

22. I know i love DUers nt

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #22)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 03:25 PM

23. Take care of yourself!!!

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 07:37 PM

12. welcome to my world.

These past 6 months or more have been a nightmare.
They have tried medication after medication.
They just seem to make things worse.

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Response to MFM008 (Reply #12)

Sun Apr 11, 2021, 07:45 PM

14. Please see #5 above.

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Response to MFM008 (Reply #12)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 01:56 PM

19. I (personally) believe that meds are prescribed too often

Iíve been offered meds before and have chosen not to get started. I prefer to try to ďdeal withĒ things (bad choice of words, I know - and this applies only to me) as naturally as possible. Concrete things like breathing and sunlight, talking to anyone who will listen, and trying to write things down.

My story isnít anyone elseís story and we are all unique and different. Just wanted to send a waive and a hug. Hang in there.

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Response to hamsterjill (Reply #19)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:21 PM

21. thanks!

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Mon Apr 12, 2021, 01:52 PM

18. Fear is hard.

I feel like Iím on an adrenaline drip these days. Itís always something. Much of it is real life situation - like being unemployed and facing some major, major home repair issues.

I wish I could run away. Add COVID to life issues (for all of us) and no wonder we are all about to crumble.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other. One step at a time. Sit down and breathe when you need to, but always get back up.

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