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Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:05 PM

Does anyone here fear the future?

I'll be quitting my job soon due to disability. It's a life change, and I do worry about having enough to live on. I keep worrying about my future. I know it's uncertain for us all.

Anyone else deal with future worry?

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Reply Does anyone here fear the future? (Original post)
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 OP
Anon-C Dec 2021 #1
LakeArenal Dec 2021 #2
BlueTsunami2018 Dec 2021 #3
marble falls Dec 2021 #4
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #6
msongs Dec 2021 #5
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #7
multigraincracker Dec 2021 #8
cilla4progress Dec 2021 #9
True Dough Dec 2021 #10
cilla4progress Dec 2021 #21
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #12
pamdb Dec 2021 #11
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #14
cilla4progress Dec 2021 #22
Gaugamela Dec 2021 #13
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #15
stevil Dec 2021 #17
bucolic_frolic Dec 2021 #16
Wingus Dingus Dec 2021 #18
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #20
I_UndergroundPanther Dec 2021 #19
hamsterjill Dec 2021 #28
Ziggysmom Dec 2021 #23
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #24
hamsterjill Dec 2021 #25
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #26
hamsterjill Dec 2021 #27
XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #29

Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:06 PM

1. Absolutely.

But we're going to do it anyway, so...

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:07 PM

2. We moved to Costa Rica for a cheaper laidback life

Maybe research a place youíd like to live.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:08 PM

3. Of course.

Iím concerned about how Iím going to live under the coming fascist takeover.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:08 PM

4. Absolutely not. I fear those who fear irrationally.

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Response to marble falls (Reply #4)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:10 PM

6. You're fortunate nt

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:08 PM

5. the political future yes, otherwise, no nt

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Response to msongs (Reply #5)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:11 PM

7. I suffer from anxiety

And depression. I fear political future, but more personal fears, too

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Response to msongs (Reply #5)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:12 PM

8. I can relate to that.

Older I get the less I worry.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:17 PM

9. I'm a mess and

taking it out on my husband!

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Response to cilla4progress (Reply #9)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:28 PM

10. Honey? Is that you?

I didn't realize you had a DU account as well, dear.

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Response to True Dough (Reply #10)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 06:42 PM

21. ...

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Response to cilla4progress (Reply #9)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:37 PM

12. I understand

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:29 PM

11. absolutely


Been checking housing costs in Ontario (we're in Michigan) and a house that would run
about $250,000 here is in the $600,000. Plus we would lose Medicare and have to buy health
insurance. I don't even want to guess what they would run in the Vancouver.

Our dog is 9 years old and I won't put him on a plane.

Ireland?

Portugal? They at least have what they call a retirement visa. Plus a lot of expats, mostly British.

If the big, old, lying cheating pile or orange shit does win in 2024 how would that affect housing
prices. We're old, 70 and 69, little late to start over.

I just don't know. I don't plan on living more than 85 and I'll be 75 by the time the next (or god willing Biden) is sworn in.

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Response to pamdb (Reply #11)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:40 PM

14. That's worrisome

I'm trying to find us an affordable condo somewhere. My So pays day-to-day bills, but I'd have difficulty without him

I try not to worry, I do. But it's so hard sometimes. I could never afford Canada

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Response to pamdb (Reply #11)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 06:50 PM

22. You can't live in Canada for more than 6 months at a time,

unless their immigration accepts you. Not likely at my age!

We are looking too, as we are only 3 hours from the border. Just want a soft landing spot - esp. for 28 yr. old daughter - if needed. So, will definitely be a "downsize."

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:39 PM

13. Finances are the most common cause of worry for Americans.

73% of Americans rank their finances as the No. 1 stress in life

https://www.cnbc.com/select/73-percent-of-americans-rank-finances-as-the-number-one-stress-in-life/

My experience is the best way to alleviate an anxiety is to examine the problem and come up with a plan. Donít try to ignore it because it will wake you up in the middle of the night with cold sweats.

Figure out as best you can what your income will be, what your expenses will be, and come up with a budget. Your budget might show your income falling short, but you will know by how much, and you can start to think about how to address it. In my experience, once you start to address the problem, the anxiety immediately starts to fall away. For me, the anxiety derives more from the failure to do anything than from the problem itself. And once you take the first step, ideas start to come to you, and the problem becomes easier to talk about and work through.

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Response to Gaugamela (Reply #13)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:42 PM

15. Thank you for your kind reply

It's because of this I love DU

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Response to Gaugamela (Reply #13)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 06:21 PM

17. This

It's expected that we prepare ourselves for the worst possible outcomes in EVERY situation but more often that not we surprise ourselves when things turn out much better than we anticipated. I lost it all TWICE in the last month but a plan and action gave me confidence and a renewed sense of security. There are tough times but as someone once said: Sometimes things work out for the better, sometime the worst but things always work themselves out.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 05:53 PM

16. Most worries don't pan out

It's the other things we didn't see that surprise. I have every worry in the book. I don't know if I need a shrink, a lawyer, a guru. I don't know what to do most days. But I did learn to micromanage everything. Each movement, each mile, each trip to the fridge. Make sure it provides good benefit at good value. Then you can face the bigger issues on solid ground.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 06:24 PM

18. I fear what's coming for our country and politics.

As far as my personal future, I worry that our retirement plans won't work out for a variety of reasons, worry about my adult kids and whether they're happy and healthy, worry about my elderly parents' wellbeing, and so on. Just buckets of worry. Not a new issue for me though, I am a worrier by nature.

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Response to Wingus Dingus (Reply #18)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 06:32 PM

20. It's awful nt

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Tue Dec 7, 2021, 06:29 PM

19. I worry about it

Rethugs are sociopaths.

They have no empathy and they are amoral.

They hate poor people,disabled people along with a whole lot of people not listed here.

I get disability and I know republican thieves want the money I live on for themselves and the people with wayy too much money..

They like abusing people and hurting them and ruining thier lives.

I feel like I got a target on my back.

I wish the Dems would kill the filibuster and pass the voting laws.

I hope they go after trump soon. I want him to not be able to run,and I wish theyd
Prosecute De Satan and all high ranking republicans.

I wish I felt more convinced that the dems are on it and they have my back.

But they refuse to do it and let manchin and senima stomp all over them.

At some point they are going to have to do something. This is not business as usual ,so why do it in the usual way?.

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Response to I_UndergroundPanther (Reply #19)

Wed Dec 8, 2021, 05:54 PM

28. Well said

n/t

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Wed Dec 8, 2021, 08:42 AM

23. Very much so! I'm 62 and will need to work till I'm at least 70. My husband is 72 and disabled

with severe COPD and pulmonary hypertension. Staggering health care costs have prevented us from saving enough for retirement. A common inhaler costs up to $80.00 with insurance. Funny, the same one in the UK is barely 8 dollars. It's so nice to live in a country where you can go bankrupt from medical bills 🙄

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Response to Ziggysmom (Reply #23)

Wed Dec 8, 2021, 09:21 AM

24. I'm so sorry

Yes, it's disgusting the prices in this country.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Wed Dec 8, 2021, 04:14 PM

25. Most definitely worry about the future.

With good reason as far as Iím concerned. Anyone who isnít worried isnít paying attention. I admire people who have positive attitudes, but those who have to disparage people who dare say anything negative are unrealistic in my view.

Our country is in the middle of an internal struggle for the life of the democracy. Our very Capitol was attacked. We are still in the middle of a pandemic.

We should all be worried.

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Response to hamsterjill (Reply #25)

Wed Dec 8, 2021, 04:18 PM

26. Hi Jill

Totally agree about sometimes necessity to be "negative". I'm more negative , I guess, but my life is uncertain and in upheaval right now.

I was talking more about personal future fears, but I'm sure worried about our country. I'm on Xanax

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #26)

Wed Dec 8, 2021, 05:53 PM

27. It's kind of all intertwined for me.

I canít separate it. Wish I could.

Sending good thoughts your way. Hang in there!

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Response to hamsterjill (Reply #27)

Wed Dec 8, 2021, 05:56 PM

29. Thank you!

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