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OldBaldy1701E

(5,092 posts)
Thu Sep 29, 2022, 06:18 PM Sep 2022

I wonder about my doctors sometimes...

Nowadays, we all have to fill in various forms and stuff online, and offices and hospitals have sites where one can do many things in regards to their health. However, I wonder if they actually read them. Case in point: I have now filled out some 'forms' that the orthopedic doctor requested. And, for the third time, they asked me about mental aspects of my life and the effect that my injuries may be having. Now, I decided a while back to stop holding back when it comes to being honest about my medical state, regardless of whether I like it or not. And, for the third time, I point out that I am suffering from issues regarding being a crippled failure, and that I don't see anything ever improving. So far, no one has said anything to me about these 'forms'. I will await the next appointment and see if they mention anything. I bet they won't. I suspect that they are thinking, "Well, that is a can of worms that I do not want to open!". And, I consider them smart for thinking that way. Because it is a can of worms. Hell, it is a VAT of worms. And, although all of this was in place before the accident, said accident has given the monster fresh fuel. I don't know... maybe I thought that reading this would at least warrant a question or two... maybe a referral or something? But, I also know the greed that lives in the medical profession these days. Whichever it is, I find it very unsettling that one can point out something as serious as my mental state is and get nothing back from the medical profession. Kind of telling, actually. Anyone care to bet on why?

I am thinking, "Nah, he can't afford that kind of help, So best to just hope it doesn't act up until we release him. Then, we won't have to worry about it."

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I wonder about my doctors sometimes... (Original Post) OldBaldy1701E Sep 2022 OP
I had a close family member that was going through a severe case of depression. Chainfire Sep 2022 #1
That's the way it is here. Haggard Celine Sep 2022 #2
A lot of people do not WANT to realize... or understand. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Sep 2022 #7
I am sorry for what you are going through questionseverything Sep 2022 #3
My tendency to help people is partly why I am in this boat. OldBaldy1701E Sep 2022 #6
If you have a primary, ask or a referral. 3Hotdogs Sep 2022 #4
I have inquired about it before. OldBaldy1701E Sep 2022 #5

Chainfire

(17,474 posts)
1. I had a close family member that was going through a severe case of depression.
Thu Sep 29, 2022, 06:28 PM
Sep 2022

His primary care doctor recommended a psychologist or psychiatrists. The earliest appointment that could be had, in one of the few offices accepting new patients, was six months out.

Haggard Celine

(16,838 posts)
2. That's the way it is here.
Thu Sep 29, 2022, 07:12 PM
Sep 2022

If you need to be seen by a mental health physician and you've never seen one before, it takes a very long time to get in as a new patient. We've got a mental health crisis in this country, and it's been that way for a lot of years. It would be a good idea to start looking into mental health hospitals. Your friend would need to check if they take his insurance. He might have to travel to find the right facility. I hope your friend gets the help he needs soon. I know what it's like to feel the way he does. A lot of people don't realize how hard depression is on a person. You can get to the point where you don't even want to get out of bed. It's as debilitating as a physical ailment.

OldBaldy1701E

(5,092 posts)
6. My tendency to help people is partly why I am in this boat.
Fri Sep 30, 2022, 08:53 AM
Sep 2022

I spent my entire life helping others. Brief time as a EMT. USAFR. Being in bands that played far too many benefits for others. Doing acting gigs for free because it was a 'benefit'. All I have ever heard my entire life is that I am 'too nice'. I just cannot any more. I can barely move around sometimes. I am sitting here with my arm in a sling and a bandage on my leg from an infection. I am sitting here alone. No one is helping me. No one is here. My hubby is on a different schedule so we seldom get to hang out these days. No one in this city seems to want to have anything to do with me. After six years, I gave up on that. Now, I sit. Nothing to do and nothing that wants me to do anything anyway.

3Hotdogs

(12,333 posts)
4. If you have a primary, ask or a referral.
Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:25 PM
Sep 2022

Next time, ASK what to do about your feelings. Don't wait for them to suggest.

or

go into your municipal social worker (if your town has one) and ask for a referral.

OldBaldy1701E

(5,092 posts)
5. I have inquired about it before.
Fri Sep 30, 2022, 08:44 AM
Sep 2022

And, they referred me to some clinic. One that des not take my insurance. One that, like so many others, are far more concerned with their bottom line than my health. I do not have the riches needed to get real help. And, having tried several times over the years to find it with my county or state, all they ever wanted to do was toss pills at me. Nothing else, except in one county facility where I was able to meet with a psychiatrist for fifteen minutes once a month. What help! And all he did was constantly harp on me to go get a job so I could afford to go to his private practice and pay him to do what he was suppose to be doing at the clinic. I replied that if I could get a job, manage to stay employed and able to afford his 'help', I would not be there in the first place. I stormed out and have never tried to find help again. The only real mental help in this nation is priced so that only the top tier can get it. And, that is because they don't want the masses to seek help for things. Getting help usually means losing wage slaves, so the top percentile does not want that to happen. At all. So, here I sit, wishing that I was not suffering from 'survival instinct', because then I could finally end this stupid crap.

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