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FirstLight

(13,352 posts)
Tue Mar 7, 2023, 03:45 PM Mar 2023

The snowmageddon and roof damage is taking a toll... nightmares, etc

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The 20+ feet of snow everywhere has already got my Seasonal Depression going nuts. I can't tell you how bad I want grass and DIRT in the yard again! I already have issues with winter and have been trying to get over that for years...

NOW add a snowpack in my yard that baffles the mind, and with NO end in sight or concept as to how long it's gonna take to MELT.

Last week, the worst happened, something finally broke through the roof and the ceiling of the kitchen bubbled and broke through. I STILL havent been able to get someone over here to shovel it off. (One estimate was over $5K!)

Now my stomach has been on the fritz for days, and I'm having multiple nightmares a night, waking in a sweat or in massive pain in my joints.
Last night I had a full sleep-paralysis phenomenon with someone in my bed holding me and unable to breathe or speak.

Yes, I have tools to use for these things. Yes, I have anti-anxiety meds from when my mom dies last year, but I don't know if they are worse for sleep stuff. Yes, I know eventually things will work out ...
But I just needed to vent and cry and be told I'm ok.

(On top of this my daughter moved across country and decided to stop talking to me after telling me via text that I was a horrible parent, etc. My other kid is in crisis living in CO and he KNOWS I can't help him and he's gotta "adult" his way out of it... Both kids are just fine when I can "help" them or give them money....but when I can't it's "you suck" so I am having to distance myself from THAT damaging relationship.
My daughter trashed the family cabin and my sister is now in charge of the family estate since dad's in memory care...and our relationship is strained at best....so I'm worried my daughter's actions are gonna fuck up THAT relationship.)
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Laffy Kat

(16,354 posts)
1. So sorry you are going through all of this.
Tue Mar 7, 2023, 03:56 PM
Mar 2023

There is more piling up than just snow. One damn thing after another. Positive vibes your way is all I can offer.

stevil

(1,537 posts)
2. Wintertime can be hard.
Tue Mar 7, 2023, 03:58 PM
Mar 2023

It WILL be ok. Get your mind off the negative for a bit. Helps for me. I used to love Winter.....now I have to manage it.

SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
5. Have you called your senior center, council on aging, police nonemergency for help?
Tue Mar 7, 2023, 09:59 PM
Mar 2023

There are likely groups of people out there helping, it's just a matter of finding them.

FirstLight

(13,352 posts)
6. rural area, not much in the scope of services and I'm not technically a senior yet
Tue Mar 7, 2023, 10:55 PM
Mar 2023

will try social services tomorrow

FirstLight

(13,352 posts)
10. an ice dam and hole in the roof isn't a collapse...it's the coming rain that could be a shitstorm
Tue Mar 7, 2023, 11:17 PM
Mar 2023

thanks for holding for the least of these to be a problem...

SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
11. For sure rain could be a problem!
Wed Mar 8, 2023, 04:13 AM
Mar 2023

Have you filed an insurance claim yet?

Sending good vibes your way! 💓💓💓

FirstLight

(13,352 posts)
12. filed last week, nobody has called back after emails and voicemails...
Wed Mar 8, 2023, 10:28 PM
Mar 2023

even got the supervisor's number of the adjuster and i got THEIR voicemail...

Got a message from the county about emergency services and replied immediately, unfortunately it was after 5 so we'll see if they can help

FirstLight

(13,352 posts)
7. And let's PILE ON...Dad is having a medical issue tonight that might mean hospital
Tue Mar 7, 2023, 10:56 PM
Mar 2023

my sister is texting with the staff at memory care...

SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
9. Do some deep breathing.
Tue Mar 7, 2023, 11:02 PM
Mar 2023

Nothing you can do, from what I understand of your situation.

Punch a pillow? Make art? Read as a distraction?

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