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Tobin S.

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Sat Oct 12, 2013, 11:22 PM Oct 2013

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K&R, my dear Tobin! CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2013 #1
Thank you Tobin S. Oct 2013 #2
Will do. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2013 #3
I don't know why some people are so mean tandot Oct 2013 #4
Thanks, tandot. Tobin S. Oct 2013 #7
I was only mean to mean people, Tobin Skittles Oct 2013 #5
There's nothing wronmg with righteous anger. Tobin S. Oct 2013 #8
...Nice people lick. Flying Squirrel Oct 2013 #6
cute. mopinko Oct 2013 #11
sometimes i wonder where the line is. mopinko Oct 2013 #9
I want to emphasize one thing here that you said, my dear mopinko... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2013 #10
thank you peggy. mopinko Oct 2013 #12
I fail to understand the motivation to tear others down instead of trying to lift them up. Denninmi Oct 2013 #13

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,562 posts)
1. K&R, my dear Tobin!
Sat Oct 12, 2013, 11:31 PM
Oct 2013

Since I said what I wanted to say in the Lounge.

Tobin S.

(10,418 posts)
2. Thank you
Sat Oct 12, 2013, 11:33 PM
Oct 2013

Check your PM in a few minutes.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,562 posts)
3. Will do. n/t
Sat Oct 12, 2013, 11:39 PM
Oct 2013

tandot

(6,671 posts)
4. I don't know why some people are so mean
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 12:45 AM
Oct 2013

maybe they are so unhappy with themselves or never were able to get past their own horrific experiences...or, maybe they are just selfish individuals who were never taught to treat others like you want to be treated.

I am upset when I come across people like that because I just can't understand it. But, I just can't let that get me down. I try to make myself feel sorry for them ... because there must be something wrong to act that way?

My sister had a similar experience like you (I was the youngest child and too sick to be abused). My sister was the one who got most of the abuse. She is now over 50, has adopted 4 children, has a Master's degree and works at a residential facility with kids with severe developmental disabilities. I admire her for what she has accomplished, her resiliency and patience, and she is the poster child for putting ones own horrible experiences behind her and helping those who are in need.

Just remember that you are not alone

Tobin S.

(10,418 posts)
7. Thanks, tandot.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 11:08 AM
Oct 2013

Skittles

(153,138 posts)
5. I was only mean to mean people, Tobin
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 12:59 AM
Oct 2013

I made it a mission to stick up for the underdog

Tobin S.

(10,418 posts)
8. There's nothing wronmg with righteous anger.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 11:10 AM
Oct 2013

And I know you are one righteous woman.

 

Flying Squirrel

(3,041 posts)
6. ...Nice people lick.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 04:15 AM
Oct 2013

(Addition to sticker in my area)

mopinko

(70,070 posts)
11. cute.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 05:54 PM
Oct 2013

mopinko

(70,070 posts)
9. sometimes i wonder where the line is.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 11:40 AM
Oct 2013

just where does mean end and just not human begin? there are some people so mean, that i hate being the same animal as they are.
been one of my big life lesson to be pissed at something, strongly opposed to something, but not let it eat me up to the point where it eats my humanity as well.

good thing there are folks like you who know that the more you banish mean, and replace it with acceptance and good will, the bigger that cloud of good around you is. you deserve your many friends and your good life tobin. you earned them.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,562 posts)
10. I want to emphasize one thing here that you said, my dear mopinko...
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 01:12 PM
Oct 2013

This is so good:


been one of my big life lesson to be pissed at something, strongly opposed to something, but not let it eat me up to the point where it eats my humanity as well.


That is one excellent insight, and I thank you for saying it!

mopinko

(70,070 posts)
12. thank you peggy.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 05:56 PM
Oct 2013

that was a hard fought one, and one that is especially hard to fight in times of depression and trouble. easy to get sucked into the muck.


Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
13. I fail to understand the motivation to tear others down instead of trying to lift them up.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 08:23 PM
Oct 2013

The person who seeks to feel good about themselves by feeling bad about others is truly pathetic.

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