I'm better now, thank you DU. :)

[retrowire]

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Trying to make my own dinner right now.

Thank you for helping me make dinner DU. My mind wouldn't let me do it without you! And now I'm fed, full and happier.

http://imgur.com/9ugeM5w

[iwillalwayswonderwhy]

1. Hi

What are you having for dinner? We just had shepard's pie.

[retrowire]

3. I have some tofurky sausage, pasta, vegan butters, cheeses

I don't know what it's called but I'm looking at using farfalle pasta with an improvised alfredo sauce with cut up sausage. I also have herb encrusted focaccia bread from the store.

[Chipper Chat]

2. Make some comfort food:

Baked apples
Macaroni & cheese
Mashed potatoes (real ones) with lots of butter and salt & pepper.
Listen to Dixieland Music.

[retrowire]

4. I'm listening to 90's alternative because it reminds me of my wife.

She's out with her sister tonight and this solitude is killing me,

[Chipper Chat]

7. Nirvana's 'Smells Like Teen Spirit'

should assuage your loneliness. ?? Very 90s.

[Chipper Chat]

5. Talk to your cat if you have one.

If not adopt one from the local shelter.
I adopted two tabbys last November and love them. They seem to sense when you are feeling blue and need a little love.

[retrowire]

6. I have two cats

but they're sleeping elsewhere right now I don't want to bother them.

[enough]

8. It's OK to bother your cats now and then. It's their only responsibility. NT

[MFM008]

23. I bother mine

Constantly.
He has no problem jumping on me at 90mph at 3am.
Time to torment the kitties!
Good luck.
I know how you feel.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

11. Wake them up. They have work to do.

[AnnieBW]

9. Hi! You're Never Alone

When you have friends at DU! What are you up to now?

[retrowire]

10. Well I just cleaned the pots necessary.

I've got no idea how to measure how much pasta is appropriate for one serving. I need to clean a knife for the sausage still.

[pkdu]

15. As much as you can grab in one hand should be enough. nt

[retrowire]

16. I think i did twice that

But I'm hungry so I think It's safe.

[applegrove]

12. I got one of those chicken stuffed Naan bread from the grocery. Heated

it up and covered it with butter. Yum. What are you having?

[retrowire]

13. tofurky sausage with bowtie pasta and herb encrusted focaccia bread

I'll post a picture when I'm done.

[applegrove]

14. Sounds good.

[True Dough]

18. Careful not to take in any of those calories

by osmosis!

[applegrove]

19. I just ate. So someone else's meal will not make me eat more. At least not this time.

[True Dough]

20. Well, what did you have for dinner?

Inquiring minds want to know.

[applegrove]

39. Chicken stuffed Naan bread that I got at the grocery store. Delicious.

[True Dough]

40. Sounds tasty

and healthful, especially if there were some veggies in there.

[applegrove]

41. It was a curry like.

[PoliticAverse]

17. Well that sounds delicious. n/t

[spooky3]

43. Dinner at your house sounds delicious!

[irisblue]

21. Where is/are the doggos?

I could never cook alone.

[retrowire]

33. puppy on couch sleeping.

all other dogs in crates, sleeping.

[vlyons]

22. Hi retrowire

This is the perfect time to learn something important about yourself. Have you ever tried meditating? It's really very easy. You just sit comfortably in a chair and pay attention to your breathing. If your mind wanders, and it will, bring attention back to your breathing. A lot of thoughts and feelings will arise in your mind. Don't follow them. Just let them arise and be replaced with another thought and another and another. Eventually, you will discover that thoughts and feelings are not real solid things. You can't weigh them on a scale.
A 15 minute meditation is a lot for a beginning meditator. Focusing on your breathing is supposed to help you relax and be a little better at dealing with whatever you are experiencing. Cheers and good luck.

[retrowire]

34. Meditation has definitely helped me before

But I ALWAYS lack the patience. It's a character flaw.

I should persist though!

[WhiteTara]

38. When I began, 30 seconds was a long time

keep coming back to your cushion and your breath. Searching outside yourself for relief will not work. Sit on your cushion and watch your breath.

[ghostsinthemachine]

24. Put on some music, dance around your living space

TURN OFF THE TELEVISION! I'm in the same boat except I have esophageal cancer and feed via a tube. Music is the best. Right now I'm listening to Leftover Salmon via relisten.org and at 7 will be dancing to String Cheese Incident playing live via mixlr. Music is the best.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

25. My dear retrowire...

I'm so glad to see all these great responses here for you.

It's tough being alone and lonely. I hope you're feeling better now, especially if you've had your dinner and are full.

[retrowire]

31. Hey there Peggy!

I am now full. Food is definitely a mood changer, but everyone else here totally helped me to the point I could get up and make it.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

36. I am really glad to hear all of this!

We ARE here for you, dear retrowire.

[furtheradu]

26. You're such a goood writer.

I have really enJOYed many of Your posts. Do You journal? I often do, especially when having troublesome thoughts & feelings, help me sort things out. Funny, I read my writing the next day, or a week later, & I often think "why was I so upset?"! While in the midst of it, it does seem like a big deal, but the writing seems like Medicine. & doing "Self indulgent" stuff*, treating mySelf with a treat, & some physical fun activities help me, too.
*Self indulgent for me, might be watching a goofy guilty pleasure show or movie, eating TWO bowls of ice cream, or creating some art to give someone.
In the physical fun dept, I avoid the músic that reminds me of my missing loved one or other sadness, I listened to what *I* love, turn it up kinda loud, & dance my @$$ off I also often take my troubles for walks, & often lose them a long the way. Being outside is very Healing to me. I send YOU goood vibes, & Bless YOU! You aren't really alone. or, maybe we are all alone, together. Be Your own best friend & take goood Care of YourSelf. 💖 my phone is missing up, I may be off awhile, trying to figure it out, but will be sending You happy vibes,ok? O, also maybe ckout the DU loners group, there's others, too, that arehelpful, though not really active.

[retrowire]

28. I thank you for the compassionate reply.

Writing is medicine.

I often post my writings on my mixed media art blog: www.hypercyclingblogdisorder.com if you're interested in seeing what I write and make.

Thank you.

[furtheradu]

37. YAY! I'll go look for that in awhile!

Looking forward to it!
Yes! Goood Medicine!

[GP6971]

27. We'll it's a full weekend of baseball

so I'm having hot dogs and sauerkraut.

[steve2470]

29. hey glad you found some company!

Your lounge thread was hilarious!

[retrowire]

32. Which one the Intoxication one? nt

[steve2470]

35. yes it was a hoot! nt

[greymattermom]

30. I've been alone all day

I look at DU, text my family, walk around, and make plans for something more tomorrow.

[ornotna]

42. That looked yummy

Was that homemade bread?

[retrowire]

45. Bread was from whole foods ;) nt

[PatrickforO]

44. Hey, sorry you are alone. You're really not, though.

We're all here.

Here, see if this little fellow might cheer you up!

[mopinko]

46. hey there. me too.

recovering from shoulder surgery and it is crashing into spring farm work and neither are going well at the moment.
the shoulder is doing well, just was much more major of a surgery than i was expecting and thought i would get by better. seems like every little thing is screwing up. such tiny things that are hard, if not impossible.

i so very much hate to depend on anyone. i have had some wonderful support from friends, and some surly support from kids. but the loss of my autonomy, and the way it makes me see the future, old lady that i am, just scares me.
it has been 3 years since my ex and i split, and it is starting to get on my nerves.

i know once i am healed up it will be better than the last year or 2 with this mess, but i cant help wondering what the next mess will be.

hang in there, dear. food is a thing when you are lonely. i have barely cooked all this time. i just cant bring myself to do it. thank dawg for grubhub, and the great food in the big city.
i had pizza from my fave joint tonight. makes it a little better.
that and an ice pack.