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fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
Tue Feb 28, 2012, 05:11 PM Feb 2012

i'm back on the med wheel and we're starting marriage counselling

spent an hour talking to the new doc yesterday, feel like i got a little more information about treating bp than i had from the others. he also asked for a copy of my last labs, something none of them have ever done.

i'm back on lamictal as i figured i'd be, but he's also starting me on trileptal to augment the lamictal. he explained to me that multiple drugs are often needed to tread bp. given my past experience with meds, this makes sense, but i have my concerns about over medication.

he also gave me a monster scrip for ativan, easily enough to get me through six or nine months, so it's nice to know that i don't have to worry about that.

took my first dose of lamictal today and will start the trileptal next week and the dosage increases will be staggered.

i'm not sure what to expect, but i'm willing to give it a shot.

and, yes, i know to watch for the rash.

i spent a lot of time the last couple days researching marriage counselors and left a message today for the one i picked out.

i'm optimistic, but cautiously so, but i'm concerned about money. i want us to see the marriage counselor once a week/every 10 days to begin with because i think we have a lot of work to do, so we're looking at about $350 a month with three therapists, a psych and my meds, and that's only if i cut my therapy down to once a month. but i'll make it work.

we've had a good couple of days, including a date night last night. i just have to remember to not get my hopes up too much.

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i'm back on the med wheel and we're starting marriage counselling (Original Post) fizzgig Feb 2012 OP
Sounds like you have a lot going on. EFerrari Feb 2012 #1
thanks fizzgig Feb 2012 #4
Good luck! Tobin S. Feb 2012 #2
thanks, tobin fizzgig Feb 2012 #5
Good to hear all this, fizz, elleng Feb 2012 #3
thank you fizzgig Feb 2012 #6
GREAT news! BeHereNow Feb 2012 #7
i'm trying to normalize certain behaviors right now fizzgig Mar 2012 #8
yeah! mopinko Mar 2012 #9
i'm a bit concerned about the tides fizzgig Mar 2012 #10
best of luck to you ! nt dem4mylyfe Mar 2012 #11

fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
5. thanks, tobin
Wed Feb 29, 2012, 12:16 AM
Feb 2012

the biggest obstacle is going to be his willingness/ability to see how his mental health and his attitude affect us and our relationship. some of his behaviors and thoughts are concerning to me and others who know him, but he just tells me we're all having the same delusion.

all i can do is be supportive, lead by example and keep talking. the man i fell in love with is still in there, he's just buried under tons of shit and it's ultimately up to him to dig out of it.


fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
6. thank you
Wed Feb 29, 2012, 12:17 AM
Feb 2012

we'll see how it goes with the doc, he's a bit odder than most, but i think we'll get along

BeHereNow

(17,162 posts)
7. GREAT news!
Wed Feb 29, 2012, 02:47 PM
Feb 2012

Yes, do watch for any rashes!
And I think "leading by example" the BEST choice you can make!

BHN

fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
8. i'm trying to normalize certain behaviors right now
Thu Mar 1, 2012, 04:17 PM
Mar 2012

but i'm working against all the garbage from his childhood. he was raised to not have emotions, to not talk about them, to not talk about conflict, to not talk about anything, basically. i was raised in the opposite environment - my family talks about everything, you do not apologize for your feelings as long as you act on them appropriately, we respect each others feelings and talk through problems. i'm trying to show him that asking questions to understand his feelings/thoughts does not mean that i'm questioning or challenging the feelings or thoughts themselves, but how he got there or why he may be feeling that way. he's been in a defensive posture for so long, the simplest question will sometimes set him off.

i'm also trying to show him that taking medication is not only ok but beneficial. he's so opposed to taking meds, but i know that getting his anxiety under control will help him deal with everything else. he's not opposed to taking my ativan from time to time, but told me it was hateful and nasty to suggest that he could benefit from daily meds.

i called the marriage counselor on tuesday and still haven't heard back from him. i'm on the fence about calling him again or moving onto another one.

mopinko

(69,803 posts)
9. yeah!
Sat Mar 3, 2012, 03:28 PM
Mar 2012

my one bit of advice- be aware of the pre/post therapy session "tides". so much shit is stirred, then u have to swim in it for the week. hard. hard.

fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
10. i'm a bit concerned about the tides
Mon Mar 5, 2012, 12:59 AM
Mar 2012

we're stalled out on the marriage counselor, i never heard back from the one i called, so i think i'm just going to go back to the list i put together. have to put it off til later in the week, my boss is out of town so i have to be him and me and i'm just trying to keep my shit together.

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