i saw today that it was the old lady's time

[fizzgig]

she stopped eating over the weekend. no wet food, no dry food, no treats, no chicken , no cheese, nothing. she'll drink a bit of milk (i know) and she drank a bit of kitty broth tonight, but that's it. she looks and makes sounds that tell me it is time.

i will call the vet tomorrow and set the appointment. payday is friday and i'm hoping they'll be ok holding a check for a few days. if they will, i'll go wednesday. if not, it will be thursday.

i talked to the husband about it and he's in denial. he asked me if i thought i was being premature and i told him to look at her. i'm not dragging her through more tests because he isn't ready. i'm sure as hell not ready, but i love her.

i haven't talked to her original human yet, but i'll do that in the morning. she's in germany and we'll skype so she can say goodbye.

i am so heartbroken. i've said goodbye to many fur friends in my life, i've sat with them while they've crossed, but this is the first time i've had to make the decision myself. she's had a good 15 years and she's given me ten of those.

i love you my princess, my fat cat, my bella. you have given me far more love than i feel i've given you and i am going to miss you.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. Ah, my dear fizzgig...

I am so sorry...

But the reason it's this hard is because you are doing the right thing. You are taking care of her now that she can no longer care for herself and my god how much it hurts...

But it is the right thing.

Blessings on you for seeing it's time.

May she cross gently and wait for you at the Rainbow Bridge..

[fizzgig]

2. thanks, peggy

dad said i could bury her in the back yard. she'll be in good company.

i'm really wondering how the dim one is going to take it. sure, they never really had much use for each other, but they've spent their lives together.

[Behind the Aegis]

3. I am so sorry.

You are so much stronger than me. I was where your husband is. I had my husband make the appointment and not tell me. He was to call me an hour before, so I wouldn't spend all my time worrying about it. Of course, Tony decided to die at home and did so the day before his appointment, we me, my husband, and his four doggie pals.

I am so, so sorry.

[fizzgig]

4. i told my husband he didn't have to come with me

and i didn't press for an answer tonight.

if he won't come, i'll ask my sister or my dad. i can't do it alone.

[No Vested Interest]

5. So sad.

Don't be ashamed to cry afterwards.
Everyone will understand.

[fizzgig]

17. i've been crying off and on since yesterday

and i know there will be many more tears shed in the coming days and weeks.

dad said i could bury her at the house and that gives me great comfort.

[OnyxCollie]

6. (sigh)

[In_The_Wind]

7. ...

[fizzgig]

19. ...

[Skittles]

8. fizzgig be sure to get the vet's opinion regarding her status

just to be sure

[fizzgig]

18. i will ask him

but she is down to about 5.5 pounds and the look on her face tells me that it is time.

i don't know if my heart breaks more for me or for the husband. he is having a hard time accepting this.

[Skittles]

31. I am so sorry

I know the feeling as I monitor my soon to be 17 year old feline

[BlancheSplanchnik]

9. ...

You are brave and strong.
❤

[fizzgig]

20. i have never had to make this decision before

i always promised myself i wouldn't drag it out if/when the situation arose. i am very grateful for the clarity of mind i have on this.

[ginnyinWI]

33. I let one cat go on too long,

and resolved in furture to listen to the vet. If she says it is time, then it is time.

I have a husband who also dragged his foot on it and that's why the kitty went on a few months too long. Not suffering, but not getting anything out of life either. It was kidney failure so the cat was in a fog and sleeping most of the time until he finally died at home.

[shenmue]

10. {{{Peace}}}

[fizzgig]

21. thank you

[catbyte]

11. I'm so very sorry, fizzgig.

I have tears in my eyes as I type this. Hugs to you.

[fizzgig]

22. thank you

it is so devastating, but it's time. i hope there is a buffet of her favorite foods and piles of cat nip waiting for her.

[brer cat]

12. I am so sorry, fizzgig.

It is a really hard decision, and a heartbreaking time. May your princess go in peace.

[fizzgig]

23. i am glad i was strong enough and clear-minded enough to see it

she has loved me unconditionally for years and i owe the same to her.

[sinkingfeeling]

13. I'm so sorry.

[fizzgig]

24. thank you

[Curmudgeoness]

14. The hardest part of having a pet.

I am so sorry that it has come to this. I know that I have always waited longer than I should have in the past, and I have no doubt that I will wait too long the next time. But it is always all about me and not in the best interest of my pet. When it is bad enough, you know it has gone on long enough.

She gave you a lot, it is time to give her that final gift of love by allowing her to pass peacefully. Peace to you.

[fizzgig]

25. my husband isn't ready

and i have to stand strong for the both of us.

i hope she felt half the love i did in our time together.

[mopinko]

15. you are a good human.

a good woman.
so hard to do this last, responsible thing for them.

take care of yourself, and dont let hubby get under your skin. do something nice for yourself.

[fizzgig]

26. he pushed back a bit again this morning

but there is no other choice to be made. it hurts so much, but i know it's what i need to do for her.

[mopinko]

28. oh just

fuck him. wtf.
you are right. not eating is a thing. it means something.

if you like i can tell you a couple stories about what happens when you dont do the right thing.

[fizzgig]

29. i think i got him to understand

i have to remember to be patient with all of us.

[virgdem]

16. I'm so sorry...

I know the pain you are going through. I've had several kitties that I had to make the hard decision to put down and it's never easy. You are doing the right and loving thing by letting Bella go. She is suffering and her quality of life is not there anymore. I use that as my barometer-if quality of life is gone, then it is time. May you have peace in the coming days and weeks ahead as you grieve for your beloved Bella.

[fizzgig]

27. i see no quality of life for her anymore

she used to be a terrifically chatty kitty and she doesn't even talk anymore.

i don't want to say goodbye, but i know it's time.

[phylny]

30. I'm so sorry.

This time is never easy. Remember, when you can, all the laughs and giggles and cuddles thaat you shared.

[LiberalElite]

32. I'm sorry-

I've had to say goodbye to numerous kittehs and it never gets easier.

[roody]

34. This song comforts me.

[fizzgig]

35. beautiful

thank you