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Tue Feb 13, 2018, 04:34 PM

We lost a best friend today.

Fifteen years ago we got our first Cavalier, Sancho. There were a pair
of Jack Russell terriers next door and Sancho (who was named after
Sancho Panza from 'Man of LaMancha' Don Quixote's faithful friend) and
the terriers would run the fence-line every day, back and forth and back
and forth. When Sancho was four I got transferred to Kansas City. We
got a nice house, but there were no dogs next door. So, we went looking
for a companion for Sancho.

We found a tri puppy and went to see her. If we had known then what we
know now we would have recognized a not very good backyard breeder and passed.
But fate works in mysterious ways, and she came home with us. A tiny little thing
that we named Dulcinea, who immediately became Mrs. Stonepounder's dog.
If she wasn't sleeping or outside with Sancho, you would find Dulcinea curled up
next to Mrs. Stonepounder. (Dulcinea was the love interest in 'Man of LaMancha').

All dogs are welcome in our bed, and Dulci would always curl up next to Liz at
night. When Sancho died suddenly at age 8, Dulci went into a depression
that lasted almost a year. And she became even more attached to the Mrs.


When I retired we moved back to Northern Kentucky, volunteered with
Cavalier Rescue USA, eventually growing our pack to five. Lately we noticed
that Dulci seemed do have a problem in the back of her mouth in that she
kept developing a crusty mass of hair at the back of her jaw, that hung
down like a goatee. We pointed it out to the vet a couple of times
when we were there for other things, but they didn't seem to think it
was anything to worry about. Then, a little over three months ago, our
vet looked at it again and thought it might be as a result of a bad
tooth. So, we set her up for a full dental. We took her in early on
the morning of November 11 and dropped her off. We literally had just
walked back into the house when the phone rang. It was the vet. He had
discovered a large tumor in the back of her throat which he suspected
was cancerous. The lab ended up confirming his diagnosis and found that
it was an extremely aggressive form of cancer as well. The vet told us
he took out as much as he could, but that he knew he didn't get all of
it and it would grow back.

The last couple of months have been torturous for us as we have watch
our sweet Dulcinea go downhill. We kept altering her diet as it became
more and more difficult for her to eat. Then as the tumor kept growing
she began having trouble breathing. She became withdrawn, sleeping
behind an end table rather in bed with us. Yesterday she stopped eating
entirely. Today we made that devastating decision that she was telling
us that it was time. So we made the gut-wrenching final, one-way trip
to the vet.

Run free Dulcinea. Go find Sancho, have a good romp, and wait for us.
We will be along in the fullness of time.

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Reply We lost a best friend today. (Original post)
Stonepounder Feb 2018 OP
samnsara Feb 2018 #1
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #41
Freedomofspeech Feb 2018 #2
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #42
livetohike Feb 2018 #3
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #43
femmocrat Feb 2018 #4
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #44
femmocrat Feb 2018 #60
sdfernando Feb 2018 #5
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #45
Phentex Feb 2018 #6
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #46
Ohiogal Feb 2018 #7
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #47
BigmanPigman Feb 2018 #8
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #48
BigmanPigman Feb 2018 #58
phylny Feb 2018 #9
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #51
PJMcK Feb 2018 #10
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #49
Frustratedlady Feb 2018 #11
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #50
MelissaB Feb 2018 #12
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #52
irisblue Feb 2018 #13
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #53
MontanaMama Feb 2018 #14
vercetti2021 Feb 2018 #15
onecaliberal Feb 2018 #16
Texin Feb 2018 #17
keithbvadu2 Feb 2018 #18
Upthevibe Feb 2018 #33
BittyJenkins Feb 2018 #19
Glamrock Feb 2018 #20
Angry Dragon Feb 2018 #21
Fla Dem Feb 2018 #22
williesgirl Feb 2018 #23
sinkingfeeling Feb 2018 #24
lamp_shade Feb 2018 #25
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #54
3catwoman3 Feb 2018 #59
janterry Feb 2018 #26
KT2000 Feb 2018 #27
BobTheSubgenius Feb 2018 #28
badhair77 Feb 2018 #29
TEB Feb 2018 #30
CountAllVotes Feb 2018 #31
LisaM Feb 2018 #32
Upthevibe Feb 2018 #35
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #34
nolabear Feb 2018 #36
sprinkleeninow Feb 2018 #37
Permanut Feb 2018 #38
3catwoman3 Feb 2018 #39
Skittles Feb 2018 #40
lunasun Feb 2018 #55
Stonepounder Feb 2018 #56
MLAA Feb 2018 #57

Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 04:38 PM

1. I'm in tears. Godspeed sweet Dulcinea.....

(((hugs)))

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Response to samnsara (Reply #1)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:41 AM

41. Thank you. We're a little better now, but still subject to bouts of weeping.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 04:39 PM

2. Love and peace to you...

We know our furry children are family.💕✌

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Response to Freedomofspeech (Reply #2)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:42 AM

42. That's why I love DU, the people on Pets understand that furkids ARE family.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 04:39 PM

3. So very sorry for the loss of your sweet girl. May the happy

memories overtake the stress and sadness of her diagnosis and final days. The love for our pets never dies .

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Response to livetohike (Reply #3)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:43 AM

43. I know that the sadness fades in time and the happy memories are there. We just have to get through

the grief and loss.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 04:41 PM

4. I'm so sorry, Stonepounder.

I love Cavaliers but always avoided getting one because of their health risks. They are the sweetest dogs. Her name suited her!

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Response to femmocrat (Reply #4)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:45 AM

44. Don't avoid Cavaliers. We still have 4 healthy ones, including one who is coming up on 15 years old

and has been a diabetic for 7 years. Our vet says, obviously something will get him eventually but it won't be the diabetes.

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Response to Stonepounder (Reply #44)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 11:38 AM

60. That is great to hear.

Fifteen is a testament to your excellent care, I'm sure!! I would dearly love to have one, but we are about to get another corgi! Not sure how many more puppyhoods I have in me! LOL

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 04:49 PM

5. So very sorry about Dulcinea and Sancho

Sounds like you gave them a great home and they gave you great joy.

Peace

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Response to sdfernando (Reply #5)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:46 AM

45. Yes they did. We still miss Sancho, but we remember all the good times as well. We will get there

with Dulci in time.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 04:53 PM

6. So sorry!

It's so hard. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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Response to Phentex (Reply #6)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:46 AM

46. Thank you for your understanding.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 04:59 PM

7. My sincerest sympathy

On the loss of your dear Dulcinea.

They never live long enough, do they? I will pray for strength for all of you to make it through this sad time.

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Response to Ohiogal (Reply #7)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:48 AM

47. You are right. No matter how long they live, it is never long enough.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:00 PM

8. You'll all be reunited and

will play and get all kisses and tail wags that were saved up since you were temporarily separated. It will be as if you were never apart for a second.

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Response to BigmanPigman (Reply #8)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:50 AM

48. I do truly believe to the very bottom of my soul that if there is some sort of 'afterlife'

that we will be reunited. I cannot conceive of a creature as loving as a wonderful dog (or cat) not being there for you when you 'cross over'.

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Response to BigmanPigman (Reply #8)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 01:00 AM

58. After my little girl died at home on Dec. 15, 2002

I heard her and felt her and it wasn't spooky. It was unique ans specific to her and what she used to do around our home. I am an atheist and believe ghosts exist and I know what I experienced was real. It lasted for about a week. I have since heard other people describe similar experiences with the death of their little loved ones too. I hope we are united with my current little girl. The thought pleases me.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:01 PM

9. I am so very sorry for the loss of your lovely Dulcinea.

We have had two Cavalier King Charles Spaniels, but alas, will not have another. My friend just euthanized her Cavalier - 7 years old - who had Cushings and syringomyelia. Our second Cavalier - Abby - died in my arms at age 7 with multiple health problems, including seizures, a heart murmur, inflammatory bowel disease, and deafness. A beautiful breed has all but been destroyed.

I hope you continue to have wonderful memories of your sweet girl. I know you gave her a beautiful life.

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Response to phylny (Reply #9)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:53 AM

51. Don't avoid Cavaliers. We still have 4 healthy ones, including one who is coming up on 15 years old

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:07 PM

10. I just sent you a heart

I'm very sorry for your loss, Stonepounder.

Peace.

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Response to PJMcK (Reply #10)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:51 AM

49. Thank you so much. It means a lot to us that we have y'all here on DU.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:14 PM

11. Tears here. So sorry.

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Response to Frustratedlady (Reply #11)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:52 AM

50. Thank you. We're a little better now, but still subject to bouts of weeping.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:16 PM

12. I'm so sorry.

Pets are family. Take the time to grieve in the way you need to do it.

(((Hugs)))

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Response to MelissaB (Reply #12)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:54 AM

52. Thank you. We are doing our best.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:22 PM

13. Stonepounder Family

& pack, I am so sorry for your loss.


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Response to irisblue (Reply #13)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:55 AM

53. Thank you so much. It means a lot to us that we have y'all here on DU.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:22 PM

14. RIP Dulcinea.

Please accept my condolences for your loss. What a beautiful written tribute to your dog family. 😔

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:27 PM

15. Sorry for your loss

Off to rainbow road waiting for y'all.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:31 PM

16. I'm sorry about your pup.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:38 PM

17. Deepest sympathy for you. It's one of the hardest losses imaginable.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:48 PM

18. Twilight Zone... Dogs not allowed in heaven?



(audio not very loud)

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Response to keithbvadu2 (Reply #18)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:29 PM

33. This is a wonderful episode of Twilight

zone.....

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:49 PM

19. So sorry, my uncle had a near death experience and

he said when he was crossing over he saw his sweet miniature poodle, Thaddeus. That gives me so much hope. Good pups are good pups and missed so deeply. 💕🐕

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 05:50 PM

20. I'm so sorry brother....


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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:01 PM

21. Kick for a Very Big Sorrry

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:14 PM

22. How sad for you. But Dulcinea is now pain free and romping with Sancho.

You'll have quite the welcoming committee when your time comes. Hug your other family members tight. Peace to you and your wife.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:19 PM

23. My heart aches for you, and my tears are flowing.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:28 PM

24. I'm so very sorry for your loss. They break our hearts because they

must leave us before we are ready to part with them. Hold her in your heart.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:41 PM

25. n2doc posted this in Sept 2014........

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Response to lamp_shade (Reply #25)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:57 AM

54. That set me bawling again.

She passed peacefully and we knew it was time. She was ready to go. It was us that weren't.

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Response to Stonepounder (Reply #54)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 01:11 AM

59. Me, too.

Well stated, but guaranteed to open the faucets.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:50 PM

26. I'm so sorry

Ji Jang Bosal Dulcinea

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:53 PM

27. So sad to lose such a good friend

Your memorial for both is lovely. Peace to you.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:54 PM

28. Heartbreakingly sad.

I can't imagine how bad the day is going to be when we bid our Cairn adieu. He's named Ozzie, because Toto in the W of O was a Cairn. Funny as hell, and has the temperament more like a cat than a dog.

Blessings to you, Mrs. S and your waxing and waning tribe. Special thoughts for Sancho and Dulcinea.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 06:56 PM

29. Your narrative is beautifully written.

Our pets take a piece of our hearts with them when they go. I hope you and your wife can find some peace. I am so sad for your loss.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:09 PM

30. Condolences

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:10 PM

31. They are free!

and I hope that you too will be free from the awful grief you are experiencing.

Run free indeed!

Take care.



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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:21 PM

32. She sounds sweet.

We're in between dogs right now and I miss all the dogs we had every day.

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Response to LisaM (Reply #32)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:30 PM

35. To the Stonepounder family....

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:30 PM

34. I can't respond to all of you right now, the pain is to fresh.

But please know that I will respond in a bit and also know how much all your thoughts, condolences, and shared tears mean to us.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:33 PM

36. I'm so sorry. I'm in a similar situation with our Cavalier Merrily.

I won't intrude except to say I understand both the love of Cavaliers and the sadness of that time coming up. Our girl is 13 and has congestive heart failure. You know how it is.

May Dulcinea cross easy, to wherever good, good girls go.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:34 PM

37. 🕯

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:37 PM

38. Dang that's hard..

We know we will probably outlive these little tailwaggers, but that doesn't help a bit when the time comes. Been through it several times, but it is soooo worth it to have their companionship. Little Joey the Jack Russell terrier is pushing fourteen now, and so far so good, I don't even want to think about losing him someday. Thanks for sharing your journey; you have been the angel in the lives of Dulcinea and Sancho.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:50 PM

39. Dulcinea - what a lovely name.

One of our vets once told me that we take our critters into our lives and hearts knowing we will most likely outlive them, but we do it anyway, because life is so much better with them as part of it.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 07:57 PM

40. ...


Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you -

I loved you so -
'twas Heaven here with you

~Isla Paschal Richardson

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:57 AM

55. RIP Dulcinea and condolences to you folks

May the memories give you a few smiles in this time of sorrow.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:58 AM

56. I'll try and respond to more of you tomorrow.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Fri Feb 16, 2018, 12:59 AM

57. Dear Stonepounder and Mrs.

May your little loved ones run and play on the sunny side of the fence and your hearts stay warm with memories of them. 💫

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