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Tue Mar 31, 2015, 12:18 AM

My son-in law just died.

He was 52. My daughter is 35. They had been together for a few years, but only married for less than two years. This is so unfair.

He was a wonderful man, and they were very happy. He had a heart attack.

I need whatever support you can lend, and so does my wonderful daughter. Thanks for being my friends on DU.

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Reply My son-in law just died. (Original post)
murielm99 Mar 2015 OP
elleng Mar 2015 #1
PADemD Mar 2015 #2
murielm99 Mar 2015 #3
japple Mar 2015 #4
NJCher Mar 2015 #5
onecent Mar 2015 #6
Delphinus Mar 2015 #7
moonbeam23 Apr 2015 #8
Digit Apr 2015 #9
murielm99 Apr 2015 #10
japple Apr 2015 #11
murielm99 Apr 2015 #12

Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Tue Mar 31, 2015, 12:21 AM

1. Very sorry, murielm.

Good they had happy years together.

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Tue Mar 31, 2015, 12:53 AM

2. Condolences to you and your daughter.

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Tue Mar 31, 2015, 04:23 AM

3. I will keep you posted.

I expect to be gone for awhile.

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Tue Mar 31, 2015, 09:24 AM

4. Oh so sorry, Muriel. Such a young man. Sending positive energies to you and your

daughter. Asking the Universe to comfort and surround you both with light.

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Tue Mar 31, 2015, 09:24 AM

5. Life is so difficult

Sometimes I just can't fathom it.

My nephew, too, died at a similar age of a heart attack. It was so hard to get used to the idea that such a young person was gone.

I will send positive thoughts to you and your daughter.


Cher

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Tue Mar 31, 2015, 10:49 AM

6. OMG murieim I am so sorry.

It is so difficult to lose them when they are just beginning their lives. i lost my 51 year old nephew to a snowmobile accident year ago january in No. Indiana. I will never get over it, his first grandaughter (first grandchild) was born after his death and before the funeral.
My thoughts go out to your daughter and all your family.

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Tue Mar 31, 2015, 07:20 PM

7. Muriel,

{{hugs}} and love to both you and your daughter.

I am sorry that he is gone too soon.

Love ...

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Wed Apr 1, 2015, 12:24 AM

8. OMG

That is so so sad...and it's hard for you to see your daughter so devastated and not be able to fix it...

Love and light to all of you...

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Wed Apr 1, 2015, 10:49 PM

9. You and the family have my condolences n/t

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Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Thu Apr 2, 2015, 12:12 AM

10. We will be coming home with a dog

and a car. She doesn't need his car. I think we will be taking over the payments. She loves the dog, but can't care for it.

She has been living in an apartment, away from him, because of her job. She was home at their house this week, when he died. Thank God. She was at a training session closer to their home.

There is a lot to do. We will all help as much as we can.

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Response to murielm99 (Reply #10)

Thu Apr 2, 2015, 09:16 AM

11. Your daughter is very lucky to have such a kind, caring family. When my husband died

suddenly from a heart attack 10 yrs. ago, I could not have made it without my friends and loved ones (including angels) holding me aloft. When I look back on that time, it is such a blur.

Hold each other close and let your daughter know that it is okay to lean on family and friends. I am sure she is grateful for the support.

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and sending positive energies.

ETA: Bless you for taking in the dog. I work in animal rescue and it is so very sad how many pets end up in the animal control shelter. Most are traumatized by the loss of their human companions and are grieving, then they get sent to a loud, smelly, prison cell and become broken animals. It is very sad. If you don't already have dogs, you might not realize that they grieve for their missing loved ones, and s/he might whine or bark or act depressed.

Please PM me if you just want to talk about any of this. When my mother, father, husband died, I found that a lot of folks wanted to avoid talking about death and dying, and that is what I needed to talk about at the time. Whenever anyone I know has lost a loved one, I now make it a point to reach out and let them know that I will listen and will be there to hear what they want to share.

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Response to japple (Reply #11)

Mon Apr 13, 2015, 12:24 AM

12. Maybe I will talk to you more in-depth later.

I will tell you this much:

There have been many times I have gone to a visitation or sent a card, and avoided going to a funeral. Never again! I was so grateful to see the family and friends who travelled to Tom's funeral. They did not have to do this.

There will be a memorial service for him in Illinois this summer. I expect to see people from all over the world. He had friends everywhere.

Please go to memorials and funerals, people. Please send cards, if that is all you can do. Even though I have been through other losses, the outpouring of love really has struck a chord for me this time around.

I posted his obituary in the bereavement group, if anyone wants to see it.

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