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applegrove

(118,022 posts)
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 10:56 PM Nov 2022

Photos of mom and dad:

Miss you mom and Dad. Here they are at their NOVA SCOTIA wedding 64 years ago. Mom passed away 7 years ago. Dad 6 weeks ago. In the group picture Dad is holding the little flower girl's basket of flowers. She must have given it to him. He was such a softie. Children loved him. I miss him today and every day.



MOMandDAD

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Photos of mom and dad: (Original Post) applegrove Nov 2022 OP
Sorry for your loss, but that is a wonderfully long time to be married. Be proud! Enter stage left Nov 2022 #1
Yes. They liked the same people and had the greatest friends. Family applegrove Nov 2022 #5
On the flip side, just heard a comedian say the secret to marriage Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2022 #37
They didn't gossip. They were guileless. They were lucky to make such good friends. applegrove Nov 2022 #38
Yes! Wonder if there was a perfect time to be alive?? Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2022 #40
Thank you. applegrove Nov 2022 #41
Losing a parent is very tough brer cat Nov 2022 #2
They are a couple again. We buried them in the same hole. In the winter you can see applegrove Nov 2022 #6
What beautiful people montanacowboy Nov 2022 #3
The view is from the farm my mom grew up on. I think that view of the East River valley applegrove Nov 2022 #4
They look so happy. greatauntoftriplets Nov 2022 #7
Thanks. I miss him. I still sometimes feel he is at the nursing home applegrove Nov 2022 #9
Beautiful pic. Such a pretty and handsome pair. Hey looked so happy. MLAA Nov 2022 #8
Yes. My parents loved the same things. I'm glad they found each other. applegrove Nov 2022 #11
Hugs to you, dear applegrove. I wish you tranquility. alwaysinasnit Nov 2022 #10
I go on a road trip with my brother on Sundays because that was the day we would bring dad dinner applegrove Nov 2022 #12
Thank you for sharing this slice of your life, and for a bit of history I was totally unaware of. alwaysinasnit Nov 2022 #13
Beautiful photos of your parents, apple. sheshe2 Nov 2022 #14
Thank you. He was a lovely person. Staff would gather there to get in on the teasing applegrove Nov 2022 #15
💐💐 blm Nov 2022 #16
oh my Skittles Nov 2022 #17
They were very kind people. My mom wanted to be a missionary doctor in Africa. Then applegrove Nov 2022 #18
What a lovely couple. I am so sorry for your loss of them irisblue Nov 2022 #19
Thank you. applegrove Nov 2022 #22
This help? KS Toronado Nov 2022 #20
That is so nice of you. applegrove Nov 2022 #23
I am so sorry for your loss. lucca18 Nov 2022 #21
Yes. My parents took lots of photos. It is what we are left with and applegrove Nov 2022 #24
This message was self-deleted by its author applegrove Nov 2022 #25
Joyful lives, beautiful to see JudyM Nov 2022 #26
Oh they had some tough times but did not complain. applegrove Nov 2022 #29
A fine thread. ty for sharing. Tetrachloride Nov 2022 #27
Thank you. applegrove Nov 2022 #31
My heart breaks for you. There is nothing that Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2022 #28
Yes. It is a new relationship with my Dad. When my mom died I went back to applegrove Nov 2022 #30
Confused a bit. You said your dad was always nurturing Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2022 #32
I meant the saying, Your parent is not gone, it is just that your relationship applegrove Nov 2022 #33
What lovely memories... Want to write more but getting Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2022 #34
Enjoy Thanksgiving. applegrove Nov 2022 #35
That is exactly what they say we should be doing when Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2022 #36
Oh you were robbed if it was Covid. Think if Trump had been people mask applegrove Nov 2022 #39

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
38. They didn't gossip. They were guileless. They were lucky to make such good friends.
Tue Nov 29, 2022, 07:05 PM
Nov 2022

Last edited Tue Nov 29, 2022, 07:57 PM - Edit history (1)

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
40. Yes! Wonder if there was a perfect time to be alive??
Wed Nov 30, 2022, 01:24 AM
Nov 2022

And the female/male mix was perfect? In a marriage that is. Sounds like your parents found that mix. What a great example to aspire to!!

brer cat

(24,402 posts)
2. Losing a parent is very tough
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 11:01 PM
Nov 2022

It will take time to grieve and adjust. I enjoyed seeing the wedding pictures. They were a very handsome couple

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
6. They are a couple again. We buried them in the same hole. In the winter you can see
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 11:09 PM
Nov 2022

downtown Ottawa through the trees of the cemetery.

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
4. The view is from the farm my mom grew up on. I think that view of the East River valley
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 11:05 PM
Nov 2022

in Nova Scotia is lovely.

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
9. Thanks. I miss him. I still sometimes feel he is at the nursing home
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 11:17 PM
Nov 2022

5 blocks away. I'm glad he had a great experience there. His private health care aide had him laughing the whole time.

MLAA

(17,165 posts)
8. Beautiful pic. Such a pretty and handsome pair. Hey looked so happy.
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 11:15 PM
Nov 2022

My dad passed a year ago and I miss him but can mostly just think of the funny things he would say and knowing he had a very good life.

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
12. I go on a road trip with my brother on Sundays because that was the day we would bring dad dinner
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 11:24 PM
Nov 2022

(before covid). Yesterday we went to the aviation museum at the old airbase he used to hang out at as a kid. I could remember a few of his stories about different planes. They had a Harvard plane there. My dad told me that at the start of WWII the isolationist in the US got laws passed that no planes were to be flown to Canada (which was at war in 1939). So Roosevelt had some ground paved across the Canadian border and they'd roll the Harvard planes to Canada and get around isolationist laws that way.

sheshe2

(83,355 posts)
14. Beautiful photos of your parents, apple.
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 11:32 PM
Nov 2022

I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. It is so hard, I know.

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
15. Thank you. He was a lovely person. Staff would gather there to get in on the teasing
Mon Nov 21, 2022, 11:37 PM
Nov 2022

his amazing caregiver would unleash. And he was lots of fun to tease. I'm glad he and they had fun.

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
18. They were very kind people. My mom wanted to be a missionary doctor in Africa. Then
Tue Nov 22, 2022, 12:00 AM
Nov 2022

she met my dad and it was marriage and 4 kids in 3 years.

Response to lucca18 (Reply #21)

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
28. My heart breaks for you. There is nothing that
Tue Nov 22, 2022, 01:46 AM
Nov 2022

makes it better. Time will help. You have to just assimilate those great things you remember into your life.

Thanks for posting.

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
30. Yes. It is a new relationship with my Dad. When my mom died I went back to
Tue Nov 22, 2022, 01:55 AM
Nov 2022

my tween years and our great relationship then and settle there often. I wonder where I will land with Dad. He was always nurturing and supportive.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
32. Confused a bit. You said your dad was always nurturing
Tue Nov 22, 2022, 02:14 AM
Nov 2022

and supporting... But that it was a new relationship with your dad?

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
33. I meant the saying, Your parent is not gone, it is just that your relationship
Tue Nov 22, 2022, 02:45 AM
Nov 2022

to them has changed one more time. (After death). It is my father's character to be nurturing and supportive. I'll get that through the memories: him constantly sending me newspaper articles to read when I lived away from my hometown, trying g to convince me when I was an angel in a school play when I was 5 or 6 that I had in fact flown around the stage and he mimicked flapping wings (i did not buy it but thought he was nice and fun), talking politics with me every dinner after I came home from college so I got some sturdy political sea legs (he came from a political family, we talk long after the wine glasses were empty and the table cleared of dishes), creating the summer Olympics at our cottage in 1976 where we kids jumped over a horizontally held broom handle and into the lake as the high jump, etc, teaching me how to change a tire including the part where you roll a big stone under your car near the flat in case your jack fails,
buying me a stuffed animal when he took me to what I think was the dentist, helping me clean out the larder in the cottage from top to bottom when my parents had given us adult kids the cottage to invite our friends up to because they wanted us to have fun, cooking dinner all the time when he was newly retired, making pound cakes for family and friends every Christmas, teasing my 97 year old grandmother, his mother-in-law, that she put a hex on his foot because he voted for the Conservatives a few times (she loved being gently teased and I don't know that she was someone who had been gently teased a lot in her life), supporting me in many ways when I was harrassed, he was constantly thinking of others etc.. He could be grumpy and sometimes said stupid things as most people do, but he was overwhelmingly thinking of others all the time. So I'm sure I'll land on a few more aspects of his personality but on the whole he was a pretty nice guy. It is nice that his death was not shocking and that he was 92. I tried to nurture him back. I find myself thinking of others these days. And that makes me think maybe my relationship to him has already changed as I mimic that love and support. It is time for me to nurture and support the great people in my life, to pass it on and to say "What would Dad do?".

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
36. That is exactly what they say we should be doing when
Tue Nov 29, 2022, 04:54 PM
Nov 2022

our loved ones are gone - try to incorporate the good things about them in our everyday lives.

Rereading what you wrote makes me feel that you were very very lucky to have such clear memories the wonderful things your dad did. I think if I have any regret it would be that I didn't REALLY get to know my dad as well as you must have. Like there's a big swath of time when you're young and when they're still young that you just exist.

I think I teared up almost every night for the first year - looking up at the stars each night. And still have bitter hatred for trump for not warning everyone about Covid early on. But that is dissipating. When family got together over Thanksgiving it had turned into remembering the happy times and the funny things that happened or that he said or did.

I think it's human nature -- the evolution of grief. And everything is so raw to you right now. I wish you only the best.

applegrove

(118,022 posts)
39. Oh you were robbed if it was Covid. Think if Trump had been people mask
Tue Nov 29, 2022, 07:15 PM
Nov 2022

all along. I'm so sorry for your loss. Talk to those who knew your dad and follow the stories you hear. I've pursued genealogy and discounted some family fables. Others look very plausible. I was lucky my dad told his stories his whole life I know. My mom, not so much. But she told my sister so I'm learning all the time things about Mom and she's been gone almost 8 years. Vibes to you on your shocking loss.

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