UPDATE: My best friend passed away at 4 a.m.

[Marthe48]

Last edited Fri Oct 4, 2024, 04:26 PM - Edit history (1)

We have been friends for 67 years. She lived with chronic health problems her whole life. In spite of challenges that would have sidelined or floored anyone else, she persisted. She prevailed. She got a degree in Edu. She got a Masters in Psychology. She saved abused children, saved suicidal youngsters. She coached h.s. and community soccer teams. She was an artist. She was a superb photographer. She loved animals and lived her whole life with special pets. She went to hospice Sat. I loved her like a sister.

UPDATE 10/04/24: I got home today after staying at my friend's house since last Friday. On Monday, I took her kitty, who is about 18, to the vet to get her updated vacs, bloodwork and so on. I saw my friend for the last time that evening. She was sleeping away, but I told her the kitty had a good checkup, and all was well. When I came home today, I brought the kitty with me. We will keep each other company now. This is the same kitty I wrote about in the Pets Forum, who wakes me all night. I'm wondering if she'll change her schedule to mine, actually hoping she will. She did well on the ride down from Cleveland, 2 1/2 hours. I got her in the house and uncrated. I got her litter box set up, her food and water dishes filled and set out. She has been getting oriented ever since we got here, tail up. She is sleeping on one of my friend's teeshirts now.

Thank you all for the loving support. It has been tough, and we are all in disbelief that my friend is gone. I'm tired from all of the travelling. Being tired softens the emotions and maybe when I am rested up, I won't feel as sad.

[XanaDUer2]

1. I'm so sorry

RIP

[Dennis Donovan]

2. My sincere condolences.

May she cross gently.

[onecaliberal]

3. I'm very sorry...

[hlthe2b]

4. I am sorry--for your loss and that I never met such a special person...

[FirstLight]

5. Oh, I'm so sorry

This could have been me and my bestie...we've known eachother since we were 12.

There's nothng I can say except thank you for sharing about her>>> and if you need to continue talking about her, feel free to post more

[mahina]

6. Thank you for telling us about her.

hoping for comfort for your heart. Your love lights her path home. Aloha e Marthe48.

[50 Shades Of Blue]

7. Deepest sympathy.

[DarthDem]

8. I'm so very sorry

She sounds like a wonderful person, who lives on in your memory. May she cross gently.

[Diamond_Dog]

9. Please accept my sincerest condolences, Marthe48.

She sounds like a wonderful person and was lucky to have you as her best friend. May she rest in peace.

[cate94]

10. I'm so very sorry

[Tadpole Raisin]

11. She sounds like an incredible woman and human being!

What a privilege that you two were lifelong friends and you can tell us about her. We should all be so lucky.

A life well lived! My condolences.

[irisblue]

12. Marthe, I am so so sorry.

I grieve with you in losing your friend

[lark]

13. I'm so sorry for your loss, I know what it is to lose a best friend.

I lost my best friend of 50 years last year. I loved her so much! She lived in CA and I live in FL, but we still talked 3-5 hours per week, minimum. Days with a bunch of tcf shit, we'd talk for hours! She had a troubled son with mental issues, just like I do. We so got each other and relied on each other for solace when no one else understood what we were going through. She was a light in my life and it hurts so much to have it extinguished! I miss her so badly! At first, I was all caught up in her death and how the stupid doctors killed her and it was preventable. Her family didn't want to pursue the case, so I let it be. Now, I mainly miss sharing things with her, thinking about how we'd laugh at JD and tcf and call them weird! It's not easy getting old and dealing with loss.

[chowder66]

14. My deepest condolences.

[pandr32]

15. I am so sorry for the loss of your amazing friend.

[Picaro]

16. Condolences

She sounds like she was a wonderful person. She left a positive impact on life and the people that knew and loved her.

[Collimator]

17. My heart goes out to you.

My best friend is, when needed, my sister, my mother or my friend. She lives in a time zone six hours ahead, so I often call her at 4 am.

I couldn't imagine not having her as a sounding board, so your grief is very real to me, Marthe. May something of her live on in you, rather than a part of you dying with her. You KNOW that is what she would want.

All comfort to you in this time of loss.

[livetohike]

18. I'm so sorry for the loss of your best friend. May every

good memory of your times together comfort you and make you smile. The world lost a special person .

[ancianita]

19. Sincerest condolences, Marthe48.

May your heart heal and you find peace in the time ahead.

[c-rational]

20. So sorry for your loss Marthe48. Her spirit remains alive with you. Peace.

[LisaM]

21. I'm so sorry.

I just went through a similar loss, though we had not been friends as long. Now I do the thing where I look for "signs" from her, and there have been plenty.

I hope that you see things every day that remind you of her and if your friendship. It will help keep it alive for you, I hope.

[OldBaldy1701E]

22. I am sorry about that, Marthe48. (n/t)

[Hope22]

23. My heart is with you.

She sounds like an amazing soul. The sisters that we choose live in our hearts forever. Love and more love to you. 💗💗💗🙏🏼💐

[virgdem]

24. My heartfelt condolences to you, Marthe48.

The loss of such a special friend Is so difficult. Your friend persevered in the face of multiple challenges. She was a good friend to you and will be missed.💔

[Elessar Zappa]

25. RIP to your friend.

My condolences to you.

[sdfernando]

26. I'm so sorry you friend has passed

She sounds like such a wonderful and caring person that enriched the lives of so many people, including you.

[angrychair]

27. So sorry

I hope her memory lives in your heart and those that lived her forever.

Peace be with you.

[LoisB]

28. I am so very sorry. Your friend sounds like a really, really special person. May her spirit live into eternity.

[marble falls]

29. A lot us moving on over to the other side. I am sorry to hear of your loss. She seems like a golden friend.

[Marthe48]

30. One of her other long time friends and I

want to stay in touch and see what else we have in common beside our wonderful friend

[marble falls]

34. Very seldom we have loss where there is not some gain.

[KT2000]

31. I am so sorry

you lost your friend.

[rockbluff botanist]

32. My sincerest condolences, Martha.

"Don’t Cry Because It’s Over; Smile Because It Happened."

This is a quote from Dr. Seuss that I hold close to my heart, dear Martha48. It has helped me often.

[world wide wally]

33. Peace

[IbogaProject]

35. So very sorry for your loss

Offering my condolences to you. Loosing a good friend is tough, loosing a best friend is similar to loosing a partner or a close family member.

[V850i]

36. Sad to hear your best friend passed away

I truly believe we are never gone, time has no meaning and you are still together now and always. I had a near death experience several years ago and see us almost like a root on a plant. Our experiences feed the plant but we are down in the dirt and don’t see our whole self or the sky and sun above us. Take care and just try to enjoy the memories.

[TygrBright]

37. Holding you in my heart.... a painful loss. n/t

[MLAA]

38. Your friendship was a special gift to you both. ❤️

What an incredible, rare person. She contributes so much to others during her lifetime. She is an example to us all to give more of our time and abilities, whatever they may be, to others. A true inspiration.

[NNadir]

39. I am very sorry you will miss that life well lived. n/t.

[70sEraVet]

40. So sorry, Marthe48.

She sounds like a wonderful person who lived a life well-spent.

[people]

41. How very, very sad

She sounds like a wonderful person. You have both been so lucky to have one another for best friends. I will be thinking about you . . .

[littlemissmartypants]

42. So sorry, Marthe48. Deep condolences to you and all of her loved ones.

I hope you find comfort in the memories she left behind.


❤️

[Lulu KC]

43. Sending all sympathy

Grief is sometimes like swimming through mud. You were a wonderful friend. She will rest in peace and in power.

[niyad]

44. Rest in power, brave soul. I m so very sorry for the loss of your dear friend.

The line "There's a hole in the world tonight" from (I think) the Eagles, is in my head. Please know that your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need.

[Mad_Dem_X]

45. She sounds like a wonderful person. I'm so sorry for your loss.

May she rest in peace.

[Lonestarblue]

46. Long-time friends become family and loved just as much. I'm so sorry for your loss.

May your lifetime of memories bring you peace.

[iluvtennis]

47. My condolences. May she Rest in Peace and May her Memory be a Blessing. 🙏

[gademocrat7]

48. Sincere condolences, Marthe48

on the loss of your dear friend. May she Rest in Peace. Sending you hugs of support and love.

[HeartsCanHope]

49. I am so sorry, Marthe48, please accept my deepest condolences for your loss.

I will be thinking of you, her family, and her other friends as you grieve. Take care.

[DemonGoddess]

50. Sorry for your loss

[BlueTexasMan]

51. Life is hard sometimes,

but you shared joy with her and love. Sometimes life is beautiful also. Peace be with you.

[wendyb-NC]

52. I'm so sorry for your loss

She sounds like an amazing person. I know you will never forget her. It is hard to loose someone you've known, just about all your life. She was family, maybe closer than family. My heart goes out to you. Peace.

[Docreed2003]

53. My deepest condolences on your loss Marthe48

[claudette]

54. 🥲

[BigMin28]

55. Im so sorry

The pain now is part of the happiness then. That's the deal"

May her memory bring you comfort.

[Evolve Dammit]

56. So sorry for your loss. Sounds like an amazing person. Take care Marthe48.

[Clouds Passing]

57. I'm sorry for your loss of your best friend

[Ruby the Liberal]

58. I am so very sorry for your loss

Thank you for sharing her amazing life experience with us. May her memory be a blessing.

[sinkingfeeling]

59. Deepest condolences.

[SheltieLover]

60. Deepest condolences, Marthe.

May she rest in peace.

[Skittles]

61. this is a very lovely tribute to her

yes indeed

[cachukis]

62. Saddened for you.

[Saoirse9]

63. So sorry for your loss.

[TNNurse]

64. That is an impressively long friendship.

I will be thinking of you, because you will need time to grieve. You have lost a family member.

[UpInArms]

65. I am so sorry, Marthe

[Iris]

66. I am so sorry for your loss.

What a wonderful woman your friend was.

[babylonsister]

67. She's at peace

but I feel your pain. I lost my twin at 67. I still think it's not fair selfishly.

[mountain grammy]

68. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[area51]

69. I'm so sorry.

[calimary]

70. Friends for 67 years. That's such a remarkable statement!

I wish everybody had a long-running friendship like that.

I can only imagine how much you miss your friend. You can talk about it here and gain the wisdom and sympathy that is so easy to find. Talk about it. Share how you feel. Every one of us can relate. And it WILL help you get through it.

I like to quote DU’s own Skittles, who said “someone’s always here.” Keeping that in mind has been very helpful to me during some difficult times (including at 2 or 3 or 4 in the morning). We’re here. Across the time zones. Someone IS INDEED always here. And here when you just need somebody to talk to.

[Marthe48]

73. We had our moments

We'd have a fight, over who knows what, and swear we'd never speak to each again. Her mom, or my mom or her little sister would referee and get us to make up. We laughed about those times often.

[tavernier]

71. Mine passed years ago

And I still talk to her about fun stuff and important stuff and silly stuff. Stuff I can’t share with anyone else.

So sorry.

[Figarosmom]

72. So sirry

She sounds like a gem in a world of stones.

[barbtries]

74. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[MontanaMama]

75. Oh my word.

She sounds like one of a kind. I’m so so sorry for your loss.

[Bayard]

76. She will be remembered for her good deeds and a kind heart

My condolences, Marthe48.

[AllaN01Bear]

77. ""

[OverBurn]

78. Sorry for loss. She seemed like a very special person.