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Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:12 AM Apr 2016

Dear Clinton followers:

Do you remember when Hillary implied that Monica Lewinsky and the others that came forward deserved the backlash they received in the media for being sexually promiscuous when they had sex with Bill Clinton and -- as Hillary implied -- they were 'sluts' for what they did?

That is your future feminist president. Don't worry, she did an interview with Diane Sawyer, et al, in her run up for the 2008 campaign to apologize. Please go look back at what Hillary said, and ask your self if that is what a feminist would say.


Please note I am not calling anyone those names, nor would I ever. I was paraphrasing Hillary and not attacking anyone. If you find this offensive enough to alert, then you must find what Hillary said offensive as well. Because she said some awful things...

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Dear Clinton followers: (Original Post) Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 OP
of course you're not attacking anyone lol nt msongs Apr 2016 #1
No, I am not. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #2
I don't find it offensive at all. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #7
Haha, my retired SS family friend... Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #11
SS? nolawarlock Apr 2016 #99
Secret service. Sorry, I am just used to using that abbreviation. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #114
Ah nolawarlock Apr 2016 #116
Indeed. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #117
I loved Bill and I don't blame her. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #119
The slut shaming on the hillary camp only proves... Bohemianwriter Apr 2016 #84
I've often wondered what actually went on between Bill and Hill after that. pangaia Apr 2016 #101
Now THAT would be a story... Bohemianwriter Apr 2016 #103
They incorporated. nt ChisolmTrailDem Apr 2016 #118
LOL!! pangaia Apr 2016 #120
This is some serious spin nolawarlock Apr 2016 #105
Love the slut shaming from people who claims to be feminists.. Bohemianwriter Apr 2016 #106
I threw both of them under the bus. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #107
Well, Hillary loves her husband and found herself in an untenable position ... Onlooker Apr 2016 #3
I agree. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #4
Monica Lewinsky was not a victim. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #8
Ok. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #10
Yes, it was consensual. She was an adult, who had graduated from university muriel_volestrangler Apr 2016 #15
If she were afraid for her job as an intern... Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #16
No, you don't understand the idea of 'consent'. Your hypothetical situation muriel_volestrangler Apr 2016 #24
Her entire conversation on this is out of line. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #52
I love all these scenarios that never happened COLGATE4 Apr 2016 #79
Nice try. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #28
You realize what I said has nothing to do with what Bill did. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #34
Hillary was the victim here. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #37
So it is okay... Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #39
I am saying ... nolawarlock Apr 2016 #44
Because if Hillary said nothing this wouldnt have happened Travis_0004 Apr 2016 #62
Now it's Hillary's fault that Monica screwed up? COLGATE4 Apr 2016 #80
That's not what happened annavictorious Apr 2016 #58
Uhh, I remember it quite well. And Sanders has nothing to do with it nor does Hannity. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #60
What, specifically, are you claiming she said about Lewinsky in the first video? muriel_volestrangler Apr 2016 #77
Thanks for these. peace13 Apr 2016 #96
She BRAGGED about blowing the President of the United States. ieoeja Apr 2016 #100
I don't see why Hillary would be "pissed" as you say... she put up with Bill's cheating for YEARS. InAbLuEsTaTe Apr 2016 #81
This message was self-deleted by its author InAbLuEsTaTe Apr 2016 #82
This message was self-deleted by its author BreakfastClub Apr 2016 #115
Um .... nolawarlock Apr 2016 #5
Clenis now? Really?! Do you think stuff like this would really change a mind or hit at a point? uponit7771 Apr 2016 #6
Hillary victim shamed Monica in the national media... Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #9
Change minds? Yes. frustrated_lefty Apr 2016 #13
What do you expect a woman to say about the women who had affairs with her husband? Arkansas Granny Apr 2016 #12
So, it is okay that she victim shamed monica? Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #14
Hillary was the victim leftynyc Apr 2016 #17
I don't blame Hillary for what Bill did Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #20
Couldn't say no? leftynyc Apr 2016 #22
So... Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #23
That's not what happened here leftynyc Apr 2016 #26
I am not concerned about what Bill and Monica did. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #35
I UNDERSTAND it leftynyc Apr 2016 #38
No, but she says her time as first lady and first lady to the governor Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #40
Hillary was the victim in that situation. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #45
Ok, so say... Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #53
Once again leftynyc Apr 2016 #73
If my (adult) child had an internship with the White House Haveadream Apr 2016 #108
They have no real answers. Their only answer is whatever they need to say at the time. pdsimdars Apr 2016 #68
She's a WIFE leftynyc Apr 2016 #71
Once again, the totally false premise of the question. COLGATE4 Apr 2016 #87
By the time Lewinsky story broke anyone with half a brain knew Bill was a serial philanderer azurnoir Apr 2016 #55
You have ZERO idea leftynyc Apr 2016 #72
I know she's still married to him azurnoir Apr 2016 #76
Well, let's burn the witch leftynyc Apr 2016 #78
I didn't say that however let me pose a hypothetical question or 2 azurnoir Apr 2016 #86
I think it would be better leftynyc Apr 2016 #90
I don't and I think that's why she stayed azurnoir Apr 2016 #91
So we're not only to trash leftynyc Apr 2016 #92
Monica initiated the encounter by herself and on COLGATE4 Apr 2016 #83
+1000! Thank you! N/t nolawarlock Apr 2016 #30
It's hard for me to see Monica as the victim here. She had told friends Arkansas Granny Apr 2016 #18
Indeed. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #21
What were the exact words that Hillary used that you object to? Arkansas Granny Apr 2016 #25
Okay. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #36
Sorry. I'm not watching a 20 minute interview to pick out Arkansas Granny Apr 2016 #48
Watch it. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #50
Nope. You're the one trying to make a point. Make it. Arkansas Granny Apr 2016 #56
Bloody hell. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #57
No one is asking for a transcription of the interview. COLGATE4 Apr 2016 #88
So now you're whining that leftynyc Apr 2016 #74
Because, you know, victims are not allowed to have feelings Haveadream Apr 2016 #109
Hillary was the victim there not Monica. Nice try. N/t nolawarlock Apr 2016 #32
My ex had an affair many years ago before I married my true love Demsrule86 Apr 2016 #64
Don't forget the "bimbo eruptions". Yup, they actually used the word bimbo. jfern Apr 2016 #19
It was 20 years ago Demsrule86 Apr 2016 #65
Sad that you have to reach back 20 years, to throw shade on Hillary, PBass Apr 2016 #27
What I said has nothing to do with what bill did. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #33
Then why are you shaming the victim? nolawarlock Apr 2016 #46
Ok. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #49
Not at all. nolawarlock Apr 2016 #51
Ok. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #54
Hahahhaha nolawarlock Apr 2016 #59
So... Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #61
I don't consider it slut shaming leftynyc Apr 2016 #75
Totally false narrative COLGATE4 Apr 2016 #89
There, there Arneoker Apr 2016 #29
So did Monica and her family Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #31
Slut Shaming is a very toxic cultural phenomenon Haveadream Apr 2016 #110
What sort of pigeonhole should feminists be confined to? procon Apr 2016 #41
Uhhhh... Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #47
Hogwash. procon Apr 2016 #66
sanders turning his back when my friends and family were fighting and dying in Vietnam is way beachbum bob Apr 2016 #42
And where did I mention Sanders or Vietnam. Else You Are Mad Apr 2016 #43
Your post and others Demsrule86 Apr 2016 #63
I don't want a Republican president and that's why I don't support Hillary pdsimdars Apr 2016 #70
Does this post make you feel better? nt geek tragedy Apr 2016 #67
I don't get a chance to read through threads like this much any more` pdsimdars Apr 2016 #69
Yes, fits perfectly! InAbLuEsTaTe Apr 2016 #85
This post was in very poor taste. Darb Apr 2016 #93
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross says hi./nt DemocratSinceBirth Apr 2016 #94
Bingo! We're Looking at a full tilt level 2 here Haveadream Apr 2016 #111
I support Clinton. I am not a "follower" (it's not a cult), I am not a fan (not a band), I am not a PeaceNikki Apr 2016 #95
Whether sexual assault, or homeownership ruined, it's their own fault. ViseGrip Apr 2016 #97
This is in poor taste, really. No need for this OP. Please reconsider. eom Hiraeth Apr 2016 #98
It was consensual. stonecutter357 Apr 2016 #102
women who sleep with other womens husbands are sluts Fresh_Start Apr 2016 #104
I do not care what Hillary said in the 90s treestar Apr 2016 #112
Interesting username. You sound mad that NY didn't go the way you wanted. randome Apr 2016 #113

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
2. No, I am not.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:23 AM
Apr 2016

Those that weren't alive or politically aware in the 90s that support Clinton need to know what she said.

If you find it offensive, then, you find what Hillary said offensive.

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
7. I don't find it offensive at all.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:38 AM
Apr 2016

I loved Bill as a president but if I'd have been Hillary, I probably would have built a doghouse on the Rose Garden and stuck him in it for a month, with breaks only to go to the "situation" room.

You're really going to fault a woman for being angry at someone who slept with her husband? This is as bad as Trump tweeting pics of his wife next to cruise, implying to women victors everywhere that, "you too can have a hot wife if you trade in your two old ones."

I think Hillary is quite presidential. Many women I know would have thrown down in that situation.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
114. Secret service. Sorry, I am just used to using that abbreviation.
Thu Apr 21, 2016, 01:56 AM
Apr 2016

I, in not way, am saying or implying anything nazi.

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
119. I loved Bill and I don't blame her.
Thu Apr 21, 2016, 02:30 AM
Apr 2016

There are some things that suck no matter where you are on the spectrum of success. Betrayal is definitely one of them. I really liked Bill as president even in spite of his flaws. It was a successful time for lots of regular people. Some of that may have had to do with the internet boom and not him but either way, it was a good time. And while ultimately, his dalliances with interns has no impact on my life beyond what right wingers chose to make of it, it was definitely Hillary's business to be angry and I don't blame her one bit. I think she lacks her husband's savvy and finesse but I think she genuinely wants to do a good job.

 

Bohemianwriter

(978 posts)
84. The slut shaming on the hillary camp only proves...
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:15 AM
Apr 2016

That their "feminist" credentials are as valid as the word of Trump.

Hillary is not presidential unless you think that the reckless irresponsibility of Bush where he pointed to everybody else to put the blame on for his own blunders.

Hillary is not a leader. Nor is she presidential. She is more like a spoiled toddler who wants your toys to destroy.

Blaming an intern while forgiving her husband who abused his power to put his dick where it didn't belong is beyond disgusting and makes me wonder about the moral state of Hillary supporters who continues to throw Monica Lewinsky under the bus.

pangaia

(24,324 posts)
101. I've often wondered what actually went on between Bill and Hill after that.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 12:07 PM
Apr 2016

..what kind of deal they made..


nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
105. This is some serious spin
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 03:25 PM
Apr 2016

Monica and Bill were two adults who made adult decisions. She was neither a child nor brought to her knees in chains. In fact, much evidence exists that she cheerfully pursued this. Hillary was still the victim there. I LOVED Bill Clinton as president and I still think to this day she should have locked him out of the White House. To blame her for being angry at a woman who had sex with her husband is just beyond the pale of spin. You can say all you like that that equates us with Trump. I think advocating having sex with married men is far more Trump-like, since he was the one advocating on Twitter that it's ok to cheat on your your old wives and trade them in for younger models.

 

Bohemianwriter

(978 posts)
106. Love the slut shaming from people who claims to be feminists..
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 03:33 PM
Apr 2016

Who thinks that everything is about voting for genitalia over merit.
One is the most powerful man on Earth, the other is a 1st year intern...

Off course it was on equal terms, and the first have never had a history of using his power to exort sexual favors from women on a lower social echelon...

Keep throwing Lewinsky under the bus. Makes the crocodile tears from the Hillary camp on behalf of sellouts even more hollow,

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
107. I threw both of them under the bus.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 03:53 PM
Apr 2016

Both Bill and Monica were at fault here and even if you can muster that Bill was more at fault than Monica (at the very least he should have been more responsible in his choices, given his position), it changes nothing about the fact that Hillary was the victim. She had every right to criticize someone who had sex with her husband.

 

Onlooker

(5,636 posts)
3. Well, Hillary loves her husband and found herself in an untenable position ...
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:28 AM
Apr 2016

...

I think overall she handled an impossible situation reasonably well. I'm sure she doesn't believe Bill was a rapist, as some of the more extreme right-wingers maintain, but simply that he was promiscuous. Who know, with polyamory being so common today, it's possible that they had a somewhat open relationship, but under the public eye, they were forced to adopt a more traditional frame.

I won't fault Hillary for standing by the man she loves, but I will fault Bill for putting a young intern into such a terrible situation. He got what he deserved.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
4. I agree.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:30 AM
Apr 2016

Though, I never thought Bill raped anyone, but she shouldn't have said what she did or implied what she did.

she was victim shaming and that is never acceptable.

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
8. Monica Lewinsky was not a victim.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:40 AM
Apr 2016

She and Clinton were both adults and they were both guilty of what happened. Hillary had every right to be pissed. I think Bill was a great president and I still would have kicked his ass to the curb. How would you have felt if someone slept with your husband and it become front page news around the world? I thought she handled it well. Heck, I've often wondered if she demanded no less from Bill than all the support for her political activity since all that.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
10. Ok.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:44 AM
Apr 2016

It was consensual? Think of it this way... If a first year law student intern told a managing partner that she had a crush on him and he said let's go to the back office, would she be able to consent because she was afraid she would lose her job. Better yet, exchange teacher for president in that situation... That is OK? Then would it be OK to victim shame the girl?

muriel_volestrangler

(101,308 posts)
15. Yes, it was consensual. She was an adult, who had graduated from university
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:52 AM
Apr 2016

She was neither Bill Clinton's victim, nor was she a girl. It was foolish, and he bears more responsibility, being the senior person, but she initiated it, and consented.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
16. If she were afraid for her job as an intern...
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:55 AM
Apr 2016

Consent cannot be given, regardless of age, when one has authority over the other. Bill used his authority to have sex with Monica, then Hillary used her bully pulpit to victim shame Monica.

It was tantamount to teacher/student or Priest/Alter Boy.

muriel_volestrangler

(101,308 posts)
24. No, you don't understand the idea of 'consent'. Your hypothetical situation
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:14 AM
Apr 2016

('if she were afraid for her job', 'Bill used his authority') isn't what happened. She made the first move, and was always happy to continue. So she wasn't a 'victim'. So Hillary did not 'victim shame' her.

I'm going to do a bit of shaming now - you should be ashamed to say it was "tantamount to teacher/student or Priest/Alter Boy". That really is out-of-line.

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
52. Her entire conversation on this is out of line.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:19 AM
Apr 2016

The only one victim shaming in this particular situation is her.

COLGATE4

(14,732 posts)
79. I love all these scenarios that never happened
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:12 AM
Apr 2016

that always start with "IF.....???". It's a dishonest question since there are absolutely no facts whatsoever to support the basic premise. Pretty much in the same bag with "Some people say...".

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
34. You realize what I said has nothing to do with what Bill did.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:34 AM
Apr 2016

I am only speaking to the fact that Hillary slut and victim shamed Monica on national news programs. So, are you saying it is OK to victim and slut shame a woman? That doesn't seem right.

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
37. Hillary was the victim here.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:39 AM
Apr 2016

Monica slept with her husband. But again, this is the new normal. Bernie people are celebrating women who sleep with married men and Trump is celebrating cheating on your older wives and trading them in for younger models. Sorry. Not buying what you're selling.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
39. So it is okay...
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:42 AM
Apr 2016

For Hillary to go on national TV and ruin the life of a 20 something year old intern because her Husband couldn't keep it in his pants? So, you are saying the person that was propositioned by the president to have sex in his office is at fault. Last time I checked that was called victim shaming.

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
44. I am saying ...
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:58 AM
Apr 2016

That both Bill and Monica were at fault and that Hillary was the victim. And I'm not going to say otherwise no matter how many ways you try to put words in my keyboard. Lol

 

Travis_0004

(5,417 posts)
62. Because if Hillary said nothing this wouldnt have happened
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:55 AM
Apr 2016

If you sleep with the president and you are too stupid to keep your mouth shut its going to be national news.

Bill gets half the blame, and Monica gets half the blame.

Monica is not a victim, she is equally at fault.

 

annavictorious

(934 posts)
58. That's not what happened
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:27 AM
Apr 2016

You need to do a bit of research. Your narrative doesn't fit the facts.

And Hillary never said anything publicly about Monica Lewinsky. She never called anyone a slut or promiscuous. Hillary referred to Monica as a "loony toon" in a private email to a prominent friend whose correspondence was left to a university library and released after her death. That's the extent to what Hillary actually said.

It's never good when you have to distort facts to support your claims. Many Sanders supporters have bought the right wing story line, no questions asked. Do you really want to be the person who parrots the Sean Hannitys of the world?

One of Sanders's surrogates made a reference last week to "corporate Democrat whores". Did you express outrage over that?

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
60. Uhh, I remember it quite well. And Sanders has nothing to do with it nor does Hannity.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:37 AM
Apr 2016

I would suggest you watch this Hillary interview:



Then, maybe watch this:

muriel_volestrangler

(101,308 posts)
77. What, specifically, are you claiming she said about Lewinsky in the first video?
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:59 AM
Apr 2016

Tell us the words, and the time in the video.

In that video, she says the allegations are false. So how could she be 'victim shaming' Monica Lewinsky?

 

peace13

(11,076 posts)
96. Thanks for these.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:55 AM
Apr 2016

Worth the watch. Two strong women. It appears that they each took different paths.

 

ieoeja

(9,748 posts)
100. She BRAGGED about blowing the President of the United States.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 11:54 AM
Apr 2016

She told her friends she was going to get her "presidential kneepads".

Is it really so shocking to hear that a woman would want to have some fun with the world's most powerful man? More than one female pundit on TV at that time proudly said she would suck a POTUS's cock in a second!

InAbLuEsTaTe

(24,122 posts)
81. I don't see why Hillary would be "pissed" as you say... she put up with Bill's cheating for YEARS.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:14 AM
Apr 2016

Clearly they had an "understanding"... most likely for political purposes.

Response to nolawarlock (Reply #8)

Response to Onlooker (Reply #3)

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
5. Um ....
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:34 AM
Apr 2016

Monica Lewinsky slept with Hillary's husband. I thought she was far more gracious than I would have been.

uponit7771

(90,335 posts)
6. Clenis now? Really?! Do you think stuff like this would really change a mind or hit at a point?
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:34 AM
Apr 2016

I don't see us talking to each other any longer, talking past each other and not listening

Arkansas Granny

(31,515 posts)
12. What do you expect a woman to say about the women who had affairs with her husband?
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:47 AM
Apr 2016

Bill should have kept it in his pants, for sure, but these women were willing participants who knew he was married. Do you think Hillary should have invited them to tea, formed a support group, arranged counseling.

She was hurt, angry and many even blamed her for Bill's indiscretions (if she'd been taking care of things st home. . .). What would you have had her say about these women? Should she have apologized to them, divorced Bill, retired from public life?

I'm dying to know what you feel would have been the proper response.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
14. So, it is okay that she victim shamed monica?
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:49 AM
Apr 2016

Hillary victim shamed Monica on national media... When it was her husbands fault. So that is OK? What if it were your daughter?

The absolutely most incorrect answer is to victim shame.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
17. Hillary was the victim
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 04:58 AM
Apr 2016

that's what you (and so many others) don't seem to understand. Shaming the victim is what everyone who puts one scintilla of blame on Hillary for what her husband and this woman did.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
20. I don't blame Hillary for what Bill did
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:04 AM
Apr 2016

But, would it be OK if the wife of a professor that had sex with his teachers assistant went on national news programs victim blaming the TA and implying she was a slut? You realize Monica told Bill she had a crush on him. Is there a higher authority than the president. She couldn't say no. And, that gave Hillary card blanche to victim shame her on national TV?

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
22. Couldn't say no?
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:09 AM
Apr 2016

She was getting exactly what she wanted, with no thought that she was having sex with another woman's husband. I don't blame any wife for what they do in that case (short of physical violence which I would never support).

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
23. So...
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:13 AM
Apr 2016

Does a girl that has sex with her teacher or her boss because she was worried about her grades or her job got exactly what she wanted? Or was she coerced into having sex because of the power ad authority the person had over them?

So, is it OK if girls at college are victim shamed for having sex with a frat brother? Because that is what you are implying?

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
26. That's not what happened here
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:20 AM
Apr 2016

AND you know it. Monica was quite open about how shamelessly she flirted with him (flashing her thong and such) - this wasn't a more powerful figure taking advantage of a weaker person and insisting they better have sex or there would be some punishment. THAT would be real sexual harrassment. This isn't even in the same hemisphere. I have no idea what your last question means - why would someone who slept with a frat brother be shamed?

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
35. I am not concerned about what Bill and Monica did.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:36 AM
Apr 2016

I am only concerted about the fact that Hillary slut and victim shamed Monica on national news programs so, you are saying that it was OK for Hillary to slut and victjm shame monica because it was consensual?

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
38. I UNDERSTAND it
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:39 AM
Apr 2016

Any woman who wants to keep their family together would do the exact same thing. She wasn't a woman running for President at the time, she was just a wife who had been cheated on - not for the first time. She was humiliated by Bill and Monica.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
40. No, but she says her time as first lady and first lady to the governor
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:43 AM
Apr 2016

Count as her political experience, and you want to support someone that victim shamed a 20 something year old intern seduced by her boss? That doesn't seem presidential to me.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
53. Ok, so say...
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:21 AM
Apr 2016

Your daughter just landed an utterly impressive internship with the white house. Your daughter, just a 20 something had a crush on the president, who is very flirtatious and attractive. Your daughter, the intern, expresses the fact to the president that she has a crush on him. Instead of saying he was flattered but married, he asks her to go to the back office. Everything was consensual.

Then, the president's political rivals find out and, on the record, your daughter has to explain in detail what she did with the president. This was not only on the record, but aired on Cspan and every news program. You turned on CBS just to hear about how she gave felatio. Then, to make matters worse, the first lady is slut and victim shaming your daughter for what she did.

Now, please tell me who was the victim.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
73. Once again
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:48 AM
Apr 2016

Hillary was the victim. I can't believe you want to blame her for trashing the woman who slept with her husband. What woman wouldn't trash her? And she never called Monica a slut - so you're lying also. But even if she did - the woman slept with her husband - I would have called her much worse. And you want to blame their disgusting sexual liaison on Hillary. That is seriously fucked up.

Haveadream

(1,630 posts)
108. If my (adult) child had an internship with the White House
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:13 PM
Apr 2016

and had a crush on the President, I would be able to count on my child to behave professionally. If my adult child engaged in extramarital sexual behavior with anyone --without the consent of the other partner--I would be furious WITH MY CHILD. What a selfish, cruel, unethical, self absorbed, reckless thing to do. Those sentiments are for both parties but you are asking what I would do were it my child. And, if the situation became public or known to the wife, I would have my child APOLOGIZE to the wife for having intruded on her marriage and for having been responsible for causing so much emotional pain.

Hillary is the VICTIM. There is nothing, zilch, nada to support the argument that Hillary shamed anyone. Hillary behaved with far more grace, restraint and composure than most people could muster. The lack of compassion shown towards Hillary by Monica is something I would be ashamed for my child to do. The expectation that it is somehow Hillary's responsibility to protect the very individual who caused her injury is pure, unadulterated victim blaming.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
71. She's a WIFE
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:38 AM
Apr 2016

and MOTHER before any of that. And seduced by her boss? We are talking about a woman who went to Washington to get her Presidential kneepads and shamelessly flirted with the President - that relationship was ENTIRELY consensual. She wasn't seduced by any definition. You seem awfully eager to blame the victim here - are you letting your politics get in the way?

COLGATE4

(14,732 posts)
87. Once again, the totally false premise of the question.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:19 AM
Apr 2016

Does a girl have sex with her teacher because she was worried about her grades
Or was she coerced into having sex because of the power and authority the person had over her

Neither of which situation applies here.

Have you stopped beating your significant other?

azurnoir

(45,850 posts)
55. By the time Lewinsky story broke anyone with half a brain knew Bill was a serial philanderer
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:24 AM
Apr 2016

this wasn't a first , second or even third, at a point most smart women stop blaming the other woman and start taking a long hard look at hubby. Nor was this the first time Hillary did this to the 'other' woman and that includes women that say Bill attempted to force himself on them

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
72. You have ZERO idea
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:40 AM
Apr 2016

of what kind of blame she gave to Bill. Zero idea of what was going through her mind. But anyone who blames Hillary for Monica is just looking to blame a victim of a cheating husband. There were only two people to blame for what happened, Bill and Monica.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
78. Well, let's burn the witch
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:09 AM
Apr 2016

for wanting to keep her family together, like millions of other women do every single day.

azurnoir

(45,850 posts)
86. I didn't say that however let me pose a hypothetical question or 2
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:18 AM
Apr 2016

which is better for her political career being the present Mrs Clinton or the ex-Mrs Clinton?

more over what if she had divorced Bill he very likely would have remarried long before now, where would that have left her?

also maybe I know more about serial philandering spouses from a number of angles - starting with my own parents-hint my Mom was 20 years younger than my Father right through my own first marriage

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
90. I think it would be better
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:23 AM
Apr 2016

if she was the ex wife for her career. A lot of women didn't understand her staying with a cheating husband (I wouldn't, but it's not my business).

azurnoir

(45,850 posts)
91. I don't and I think that's why she stayed
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:27 AM
Apr 2016

moreover IMO if Bill remarried she's become an after thought, the focus would have turned to his new wife

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
92. So we're not only to trash
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:29 AM
Apr 2016

her for staying but also for the reason you say she stayed. One day you'll admit you just want to trash her and that's why you're focusing on the cheated upon rather than the cheaters.

COLGATE4

(14,732 posts)
83. Monica initiated the encounter by herself and on
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:15 AM
Apr 2016

her own terms. All the twisting and turning won't change that.

Arkansas Granny

(31,515 posts)
18. It's hard for me to see Monica as the victim here. She had told friends
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:02 AM
Apr 2016

that she was going yo Washington to earn her presidential knee pads. She had had a previous affair with a married man. She engaged in consensual sex with a married man.

And speaking of daughters, you might remember that Chelsea had to see her father's infidelities slathered across the media for month, if not years, while she was a teenager.

Now, tell me about victims.

BTW, I have a daughter. I advised her not to mess around with married men. To my knowledge, she has needed that advice.

COLGATE4

(14,732 posts)
88. No one is asking for a transcription of the interview.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:20 AM
Apr 2016

A couple of succinct quotes verbatim should do nicely. Waiting...

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
74. So now you're whining that
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:50 AM
Apr 2016

she was smug. First it was because she had the nerve to trash talk the WOMAN WHO HAD SEX WITH HER HUSBAND. Now she's just too smug and awful. That's pathetic.

Haveadream

(1,630 posts)
109. Because, you know, victims are not allowed to have feelings
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:42 PM
Apr 2016

and they have to be publicly 'tone policed'.



The culture is disgustingly sexist because it routinely holds victims accountable for the crimes of the perpetrator. And, in this case, the perpetrators were Monica and Bill. If Monica is a victim of anyone, it is her own poor choices, flexible set of ethics and the Right Wing who callously used and humiliated her for their own craven political ends. Something like what is going on in this thread.

Demsrule86

(68,555 posts)
64. My ex had an affair many years ago before I married my true love
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:01 AM
Apr 2016

You better believe I talked trash about that that ...well you get the idea.

PBass

(1,537 posts)
27. Sad that you have to reach back 20 years, to throw shade on Hillary,
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:21 AM
Apr 2016

based on something that Bill did.

Keep repeating the Republican talking points, lets get them all out of the way, well before the general election.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
33. What I said has nothing to do with what bill did.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:31 AM
Apr 2016

Hillary publicly slut and victim shamed Monica in the 90s on national news programs. That is OK because it happenes in the 90s? Most millennial Clinton supporters weren't there to witness it and I am just making it is an issue, because It is never OK to victim shame a woman.

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
46. Then why are you shaming the victim?
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:01 AM
Apr 2016

Hillary was the victim in that situation of Bill and Monica's indiscretions. Why are you shaming her?

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
49. Ok.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:11 AM
Apr 2016

Let me use a hypothetical to explain what you are missing. Your 24 recent college graduate daughter just got an internship that is very selective. Now, your star eyes daughter has a crush on the president and told him. Instead of telling your daughter he is flattered but is married, he told her to go into his back office with him. She didn't want to lose her job, so she had sex with the president. Then, some political opponents become aware of what happened, and, your daughter had to give grueling testimony about every sexually act she did with the president.

At this point, the president's wife is also calling your daughter a liar and a slut on national TV. An act that not only utterly bullied your daughter, but was heard by her grandparents, friends, her father and mother. In that scenario is victim and slut shaming OK, and would you want to refine who you think the victim is?

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
54. Ok.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:22 AM
Apr 2016

So it was OK for Hillary to slut shame monica? Also, please tell me when Hillary decided it was a good idea to apologize for what she did to Monica. Hint: just before she first ran for president.

Watch Monica's TED talk to understand how awful Monica's life was in the mid 90s

nolawarlock

(1,729 posts)
59. Hahahhaha
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:30 AM
Apr 2016

So now you're going to whittle it down? What's next? Are you going to ask if I think it's ok that Hillary mentioned Monica's name?

For the record, I fully support Hillary taking a shot at the woman who slept with her husband and I don't see it as slut shaming. Frankly, some people should be shamed.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
75. I don't consider it slut shaming
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:53 AM
Apr 2016

WTF did you expect Hillary to do? And why can't you find one ounce of sympathy for the women who had the entire world know her husband was cheating but have tons of sympathy for the woman who slept with her husband? AND you're trying to make it because you care about women. I see right through you.

COLGATE4

(14,732 posts)
89. Totally false narrative
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:23 AM
Apr 2016

She pulled up her skirt and showed him her tango panties. Obviously she did it because 'she didn't want to lose her job'. Give it a rest. No one (including yourself, I suspect) is buying it.

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
31. So did Monica and her family
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:29 AM
Apr 2016

When Hillary slut and victim shamed her. But, that was a long time ago so it is OK she did that? Heck, go listen to Monica's TED talk if you want to know how her life was ruined...

Haveadream

(1,630 posts)
110. Slut Shaming is a very toxic cultural phenomenon
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:57 PM
Apr 2016

and applying that term to Hillary's response completely subverts it's intended meaning.

procon

(15,805 posts)
41. What sort of pigeonhole should feminists be confined to?
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:44 AM
Apr 2016

Must we always be benevolent and forgiving to meet your standards? Do feminist need to talk in a specific way, use secret code words, or say certain things that you approve of?

I honestly don't know because I didn't get the memo, yeah? So please understand my confusion when I learned that we feminists must fit a right proper mold of ladylike deportment to earn our activity badges. See, I've considered myself a feminist for the better part of a century and during that time I've worn many hats and had many roles, often concurrently. In a similar position, I found great satisfaction in indulging in a spectacular raging at both the ex and the other woman, and even a sly vindication in giving fate a wee nudge to end her stay in my community. I wanted to do more.

You have no idea of what feminism is, but until you do, know that it doesn't have anything to do with playing nice with anyone you dislike simply because of the happenstance of a shared gender

Else You Are Mad

(3,040 posts)
47. Uhhhh...
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:02 AM
Apr 2016

One of the very fundamentals of feminism is concerned about the power balances between those that have power and, thus can act, and those that are power-less and are subject to the whims and authority of those that are in power that results from, inter alia, shame, violence etc. But thanks for trying to lecture me.

And, in our little scenario at hand, who with the power is trying to use their inequitable authority to shame someone to prove ones power?

procon

(15,805 posts)
66. Hogwash.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:05 AM
Apr 2016

Power is the antithesis of feminism. While there isn't just one type of feminism, in general most of us want to see the end of patriarchy and discrimination based on gender stereotypes, much as the views you are promoting now. What feminists, and specially those of us who are women, really want is social, political, and economic equality, not superiority or power.

Your perception of feminism is skewed by a man's traditional point of view towards women. Most men want power and when they get it, they wield it and use it against those they view as lesser beings, so they think feminists must desire the same thing.

Defend Lewinsky with due caution. She was the perpetrator and she cannot be a victim. She made a bad decision and earned her public walk of shame from the instant she made that fateful choice. Whatever guilt she may have suffered is the direct consequence of her own actions, no one else's. The only victim is Hillary Clinton, and nothing she might have said after the deed was done will change those facts.

 

beachbum bob

(10,437 posts)
42. sanders turning his back when my friends and family were fighting and dying in Vietnam is way
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 05:44 AM
Apr 2016

more egregious in my view and the view of 10's of millions of other americans....no way America will ever elect a pacifist to keep our country save....

Demsrule86

(68,555 posts)
63. Your post and others
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 06:59 AM
Apr 2016

This is why Bernie needs to get out and now...you are helping the GOP at this point. You really think you will like a GOP president? Time for him to go...and the posting here to stop being so negative...they post your sort of comments on Free Republic and gloat.

 

pdsimdars

(6,007 posts)
70. I don't want a Republican president and that's why I don't support Hillary
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:32 AM
Apr 2016

If she wins, we have a Republican president
and if she loses we have a Republican president.
Either way, we get a Republican president.

 

pdsimdars

(6,007 posts)
69. I don't get a chance to read through threads like this much any more`
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 07:30 AM
Apr 2016

because I have so many on ignore that I don't see the nonsense too much (it's much nicer this way).

But I did see some of it here.
What came to mind was robocop and those robots that have a "prime directive", which is usually "don't harm humans" or something like that.

There seems to be some programming here too, the prime directive is to say anything to defend the candidate, no matter where that takes you. If you have to go against your aversion to war, no problem as long as the queen bee is protected. Or your aversion to slut shaming, whatever. In the moment of an argument say or do anything so you don't go against the prime directive.

THAT is what this reminds me of. Kind of fits doesn't it.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
95. I support Clinton. I am not a "follower" (it's not a cult), I am not a fan (not a band), I am not a
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:32 AM
Apr 2016

sycophant. I fully understand that she is a flawed human and candidate. Sometimes she says or does things with which I don't agree. But I still support her over the alternative. We get it, you disagree and feel it important to fling poop to discredit her. Have fun, but I still support her.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
112. I do not care what Hillary said in the 90s
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 09:17 PM
Apr 2016

about a woman who had an affair with her husband! FCOL! Nobody thinks well of a person when that's their relationship!

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
113. Interesting username. You sound mad that NY didn't go the way you wanted.
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 09:24 PM
Apr 2016

So you've latched onto something from the 90s hoping to sow some discord.

It did not work.
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The lyrics to the songbird's melodious trill go something like this:
"Stay out of my territory or I'll PECK YOUR GODDAMNED EYES OUT!"
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