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Related: About this forum6 things that happen when you write about feminism
4. You will be asked whether youre a single parent or a lesbian or childless or fat, as if these things were accusations
And when theyre wrong, you will have to resist triumphantly shouting something like: No! Ha! I am a straight, married mother of average BMI! In your STUPID PRESUMPTUOUS FACE! Because to do that would, of course, be to endorse the hatstand morality that says being a single parent or a lesbian or childless or fat is a shameful condition that invalidates anything you have to say and it would leave you at a distinct disadvantage if they ever fluked into being correct.
Yet there is some purpose in your impulse to deny: when people say these things, theyre saying that nothing you ever do can be uninflected by the physical. Theyre saying that you are the deviation from the reliable, masculine norm and your words proceed from your ovaries. You would understandably like to disabuse them of that notion.
And you may do so gently, and without accepting that theres any justice in their hatreds.
5. You will hear: Not everything is a feminist issue, you know
Some people think sexism should get a pass for the greater good. Their version of the greater good is shitting on half the world, which doing some maths tells me is not actually the greater good at all. Ignore them.
6. You will be told: Enough with the isms and ists
Personally, I dont feel like it is enough. I dont think its good enough for my daughter and her peers to grow up in a world where some chump can go on TV and joke about his instincts telling him to grope a womans breasts, and then use the image of her giving someone (implicitly him) a hand job to embarrass her. I am not cool with that.
Before we had the language of ists and isms we had no property rights and legal marital rape. Were a tiny way out of a history of seeing women as things not people, and I want the next generation to grow up knowing that they do not have to put up with this rudeness.
Because thats why I write about feminism: in the hope that some time, eventually, no one will have to.
And when theyre wrong, you will have to resist triumphantly shouting something like: No! Ha! I am a straight, married mother of average BMI! In your STUPID PRESUMPTUOUS FACE! Because to do that would, of course, be to endorse the hatstand morality that says being a single parent or a lesbian or childless or fat is a shameful condition that invalidates anything you have to say and it would leave you at a distinct disadvantage if they ever fluked into being correct.
Yet there is some purpose in your impulse to deny: when people say these things, theyre saying that nothing you ever do can be uninflected by the physical. Theyre saying that you are the deviation from the reliable, masculine norm and your words proceed from your ovaries. You would understandably like to disabuse them of that notion.
And you may do so gently, and without accepting that theres any justice in their hatreds.
5. You will hear: Not everything is a feminist issue, you know
Some people think sexism should get a pass for the greater good. Their version of the greater good is shitting on half the world, which doing some maths tells me is not actually the greater good at all. Ignore them.
6. You will be told: Enough with the isms and ists
Personally, I dont feel like it is enough. I dont think its good enough for my daughter and her peers to grow up in a world where some chump can go on TV and joke about his instincts telling him to grope a womans breasts, and then use the image of her giving someone (implicitly him) a hand job to embarrass her. I am not cool with that.
Before we had the language of ists and isms we had no property rights and legal marital rape. Were a tiny way out of a history of seeing women as things not people, and I want the next generation to grow up knowing that they do not have to put up with this rudeness.
Because thats why I write about feminism: in the hope that some time, eventually, no one will have to.
http://sarahditum.com/2013/06/21/6-things-that-happen-when-you-write-about-feminism/
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6 things that happen when you write about feminism (Original Post)
ismnotwasm
Jun 2013
OP
If it's for the greater good of the world and society sexism can't be ignored
Arcanetrance
Jun 2013
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Arcanetrance
(2,670 posts)1. If it's for the greater good of the world and society sexism can't be ignored
Only by ridding the world of sexism can the human race evolve. Sexism has horrendous consequences on both sexes but it seems my gender doesn't always see it.
niyad
(113,259 posts)2. thank you for that
niyad
(113,259 posts)3. k and r
niyad
(113,259 posts)4. yes the "but what about the MENNNNNNN???" cry is always there.