What Is Sexy, Exactly? Absolutely Anything.

[ismnotwasm]

We tell men things like, real sexiness is when you do the dishes, and we tell women things like, real sexiness is when you have bulletproof confidence. But real sexiness is both everywhere and elusive, and could be any of the following items from this extremely impartial list:

Sexy-insecure
Sexy-ugly
Sexy-portly
Sexy-scrawny
Sexy-androgynous
Sexy-dumb
Sexy-smart
Sexy-funny
Sexy-serious
Sexy-nice
Sexy-mean
Sexy-controlling
Sexy-generous
Sexy-clean
Sexy-dirty
Sexy-goofy
Sexy-bored
You get the point. The sheer range of what could be considered sexy is so vast, so expansive, because at our core, most of us want to have sex at some point or another, meaning, it behooves to not be limited in what turns us on, no? It would be problematic, population-wise, if the only thing we thought was sexy was, say, the smell of jasmine on Saturdays in July for a five-minute window.

And when you are a sex-having people, it would seem then that inclusivity would be a good thing. But don't go looking for that over in Esquire's thing — but should you want to read it anyhow, go for it. It involves a dude talking to a bunch of models and a woman who doesn't think men should Care about how they look. Sure, I love when investigations turn over precisely one leaf, and one leaf only. But nowhere are the following obviously sexy things covered:

Avocados
Volcanoes
The word desiderata
Reading out loud
Screeds
Drawers that open slowly
The explaining of scientific/sophisticated concepts in lay terms
Big, long, tedious, nuanced debates
Old books
Handwritten letters
People who are willing to talk about handwritten letters
Fog

http://jezebel.com/what-is-sexy-exactly-absolutely-anything-1446619602

(Old books--very sexy to me )

[malthaussen]

1. This is why when someone says "isn't that sexy"...

... I always respond "To whom?"

-- Mal

[Rex]

2. So sexy is in the eye of the beholder.

Like beauty or a nice day outside.

[ismnotwasm]

3. Kind of

What the article is saying is "sexy" or substitute "sensual" is everywhere. This isn't really a matter of sexual arousal as much as a feel for the sensuous. Too many people limit their experience and simple don't see/feel it because it's not standard pre-packaged "sexy"