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Thu Jan 9, 2014, 02:08 PM

Ugh

And what is WRONG with people



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ismnotwasm Jan 2014 OP
redqueen Jan 2014 #1
cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #3
redqueen Jan 2014 #6
4Q2u2 Jan 2014 #2
redqueen Jan 2014 #7
A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2014 #4
redqueen Jan 2014 #8
geek tragedy Jan 2014 #9
redqueen Jan 2014 #10
geek tragedy Jan 2014 #12
redqueen Jan 2014 #15
nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #20
Tuesday Afternoon Jan 2014 #16
geardaddy Jan 2014 #5
In_The_Wind Jan 2014 #11
geek tragedy Jan 2014 #13
geek tragedy Jan 2014 #14
redqueen Jan 2014 #17
GeoWilliam750 Jan 2014 #18
MadrasT Jan 2014 #19

Response to ismnotwasm (Original post)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 02:31 PM

1. OK Cupid has (or had) a question like this.

There was an awesome tumblr which showed some of the men who answered "yes" to the question that was something like 'are there any situations where a woman is obligated to have sex with you?'

So... yeah.

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Response to redqueen (Reply #1)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:02 PM

3. I think it was

"nice guys" of okcupid, or something. I remember reading that tumblr because it was so awful you couldn't look away.

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Response to cinnabonbon (Reply #3)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:29 PM

6. Yes, that was it.

Funny how they're ok with rape, but consider themselves to be 'nice guys'. It's also super cute how they think their failure to have sex with women is because wimminz are bad / stupid.

Guys like that need to just use their hand and stay far, far away from women.

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Response to ismnotwasm (Original post)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 02:47 PM

2. Holy Crap

I knew that some people had some stone age ideas about men and woman but WOW. Disturbing that the question would even have to be asked. Secondly that the amount of males that responded in such a way is horrific. Lastly that the Females are not 0% across the board is very sad.

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Response to 4Q2u2 (Reply #2)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:33 PM

7. Women grow up in the same culture men do.

We are all bombarded with messages about how men and women are expected to behave 'because biology/gender'.

Women internalize patriarchal values just like men do.

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Response to ismnotwasm (Original post)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:05 PM

4. It's almost as if there is something, you know, *cultural* going on.

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Response to A-Schwarzenegger (Reply #4)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:35 PM

8. Naaaaaaaaah...

It's biology! Men have NEEEDS!



(oops better add this just in case)

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Response to redqueen (Reply #8)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:38 PM

9. its da hormoanz nt

 

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Response to geek tragedy (Reply #9)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:41 PM

10. LOL, yes, it is because hoarmoanz!

That is exactly how hormoanz work!

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Response to redqueen (Reply #10)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:49 PM

12. Treating women as human beings is a sign of low T.

 

As is not being superficial.

I wish I were exaggerating or making stuff up for comedic effect, but people actually said this stuff.

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Response to geek tragedy (Reply #12)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 04:00 PM

15. I know!

I laughed, but it really is more tragic than amusing.

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Response to redqueen (Reply #8)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 06:53 PM

20. And even if true, our "needs" don't supercede someone else's right to bodily autonomy.

This is all so basic to me. Why is it so difficult for some?

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Response to A-Schwarzenegger (Reply #4)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 04:19 PM

16. like it grows in a petrie dish, yep. culture, alright.

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Response to ismnotwasm (Original post)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:16 PM

5. What is that shit?

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Response to ismnotwasm (Original post)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:45 PM

11. AND ... This was a question ask of high school students.

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Response to In_The_Wind (Reply #11)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:50 PM

13. Who are in their 50's now and have raised children of their own. nt

 

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Response to ismnotwasm (Original post)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 03:58 PM

14. Article from 1985

 

http://articles.sun-sentinel.com/1985-05-31/features/8501210779_1_rapes-acquaintance-victims/2

``The first thing we say to women is to trust your instincts and not stereotype people,`` says SAFE`s McDonnell, who earned a black belt in the martial arts.

``Don`t get a Hollywood sense of a rapist as a man wearing a stocking mask lurking behind a bush. Instead, it will probably be someone who acts appropriately, might be well-educated, well-dressed, but he gives you a funny feeling.

``Trust your funny feelings, because your instincts are probably right.``

...

practiced in classrooms through role-playing.

``We are finding that boys believe girls say no because girls are supposed to, not because they really mean it,`` says Abarbanela. ``So if a girl says no and the boy perceives it as yes, he acts on his belief and you have trouble.

``We also found that if a girl goes back to a guy`s house, the boys say she is signing up for intercourse. We are trying to change these attitudes.``



Amazingly, these are still controversial concepts at liberal websites . . .

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Response to geek tragedy (Reply #14)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 04:35 PM

17. Almost 30 years on, and we are still shouted down when we try to discuss this shit.

But there's no such thing as "rape culture"! That's just a HoF invention!

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Response to ismnotwasm (Original post)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 05:24 PM

18. As parents

We are responsible for our children's education, both at home and in schools.

Although we are all bombarded by horrible media, parents still have power, and it is us parents that must continue to struggle against this sickness, one child at a time.

We can also make our voices heard by calling the sponsors of TV or radio programs that promote this.

A little bit,every day, we can make it better.

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Response to ismnotwasm (Original post)

Thu Jan 9, 2014, 05:29 PM

19. WHAT RAPE CULTURE??? THERE IS NO RAPE CULTURE!!!

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