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yuiyoshida

(41,759 posts)
Tue Jan 14, 2014, 07:29 PM Jan 2014

The unsolicited message.


Lately I have been playing this on line game... its been hella fun! However...

While working on upping some of my power points, and gathering coins for the next round of purchasing Rune stones.. a message pops up. Now, granted I have not even tried to make any friends here. Mostly been ignored for the most part... I even tried sending a message to one person in the game, and received nothing but stone cold silence, so...seeing a message pop made me curious...and so I clicked on it.

"HELLO, YOU WANTA FUCK?"

Huh? Someone I don't even know, or who has never seen me, asks this question. Thoughts ran though my mind... Maybe its just some stupid teenager, trying to goad me, or was it really some troll out looking for fun. It occurred to me I really had no way to report this, or to block this individual from sending me further messages. I mean, it was totally annoying to know, that if this person wanted to, they could harass me enough to consider leaving the game.

I thought of a billion replies I could send back, but that would only inflame the situation, so I simply erased it. I figured maybe if I didn't respond he (or she?) would go away. I have since not received any more nasty messages. But, I won't soon forget how I felt, thinking I have received a message from someone enjoying the game like I was and just wanted to reach out.

No such luck I guess.
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The unsolicited message. (Original Post) yuiyoshida Jan 2014 OP
Ew ismnotwasm Jan 2014 #1
of course... yuiyoshida Jan 2014 #2
That's just disgusting ismnotwasm Jan 2014 #5
Gender neutral names can help a great deal Warpy Jan 2014 #3
LOL, I named myself after one of my cats. MadrasT Jan 2014 #6
Its a little hard to be gender Neutral yuiyoshida Jan 2014 #7
Females shouldn't have to hide their gender sufrommich Jan 2014 #8
too right! yuiyoshida Jan 2014 #9
Jeez, I'm sorry about that. So many creeps and assholes online. nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #4

ismnotwasm

(41,917 posts)
1. Ew
Tue Jan 14, 2014, 07:45 PM
Jan 2014

Are you identified as female? Because there's a huge problem with gamers and this kind of thing. Mostly male, but it certainly wouldn't exclude females I guess

yuiyoshida

(41,759 posts)
2. of course...
Tue Jan 14, 2014, 08:06 PM
Jan 2014

Last edited Tue Jan 14, 2014, 11:50 PM - Edit history (1)

the photo in my posting is of my character with my name on it. She clearly is female sitting on that black horse.

Warpy

(110,900 posts)
3. Gender neutral names can help a great deal
Tue Jan 14, 2014, 08:39 PM
Jan 2014

which is why every bit of my online presence is gender neutral.

I was lucky to be sitting next to one of my looms when I registered here, otherwise I might have been Doorknob or Stucco or even Hariball.

yuiyoshida

(41,759 posts)
7. Its a little hard to be gender Neutral
Tue Jan 14, 2014, 11:42 PM
Jan 2014

When you are a female on a big black horse


Difficult to change horses in the middle of a stream.

sufrommich

(22,871 posts)
8. Females shouldn't have to hide their gender
Wed Jan 15, 2014, 09:56 AM
Jan 2014

to survive the internet,that's the problem." Hide your gender" shouldn't be the acceptable compromise.I don't have an answer for you,I'm just sick of the answer being "pretend you're not a woman".

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
4. Jeez, I'm sorry about that. So many creeps and assholes online.
Tue Jan 14, 2014, 09:38 PM
Jan 2014

In a way it's not unlike the school bully who torments kids to get a rise out of them, then enjoys the hell out of their reactions. But in a potentially scarier adult version.

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