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Um, did you see this in GD? (Original Post) CTyankee Feb 2014 OP
Unfortunately, Kelvin Mace Feb 2014 #1
Nice description Warpy Feb 2014 #28
"Culturally relevant"? To knuckle-dragging throwbacks, I guess. redqueen Feb 2014 #47
The question of standards, Kelvin Mace Feb 2014 #116
Seriously. nt cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #2
and i was gonna jump in to ask.... OMG, is this where the really cool women hang out seabeyond Feb 2014 #3
back to my loud music and enjoy a day with windows open.... breeze flowing.... seabeyond Feb 2014 #4
Oh goodness! Tumbulu Feb 2014 #5
Clearly it belongs in the "Sports" group. MadrasT Feb 2014 #6
The purpose of that and the blow job thread BainsBane Feb 2014 #7
you are so smart. right on. and this needs desperately to be an OP. seabeyond Feb 2014 #9
Yep. They are just marking territory. DURHAM D Feb 2014 #14
people were getting along too much. be respectful. appreciating. that is all. backlash to seabeyond Feb 2014 #15
This: CrispyQ Feb 2014 #16
You've been doing a fine damn job of taking words out of my mouth of late! Scootaloo Feb 2014 #29
Blow job thread? cui bono Feb 2014 #54
Adding one more voice to say "beautifully stated." Squinch Feb 2014 #57
You make an important point here YoungDemCA Feb 2014 #113
+100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 YoungDemCA Feb 2014 #112
It's bait. n/t seaglass Feb 2014 #8
It is. And posted by the same cast of characters sufrommich Feb 2014 #10
Well at least they're admitting they aren't feminists, so there's that. n/t seaglass Feb 2014 #11
haha. as if we didn't already know. sheesh. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #37
My thoughts, exactly. UtahLib Feb 2014 #12
Wow, at 100+ posts, by now it's like a pissing contest to mark GD as "anti-feminist" territory. MadrasT Feb 2014 #13
Isn't it lovely BainsBane Feb 2014 #17
Baines. You are on fire tonight. Have you ever Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #18
LOL. Not a good fit BainsBane Feb 2014 #20
I understand, totally. The public's loss. Ever considered Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #21
Yes, actually I have thought of that BainsBane Feb 2014 #22
I think you would be excellent at it. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #23
Well, then at least make this an OP, would ya??? Squinch Feb 2014 #58
Indeed. MadrasT Feb 2014 #59
Bain,you are a treasure. sufrommich Feb 2014 #60
Exactly and well said. ismnotwasm Feb 2014 #137
CTyankee with all due respect Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #19
You know, you have a point there...rereading it, I can see it... CTyankee Feb 2014 #30
thank you CTyankee. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #32
that became clear to me after my initial response...I went out and started thinking about it CTyankee Feb 2014 #33
This has been going on since the inception of DU3. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #34
why was DU3 such a signal event? CTyankee Feb 2014 #36
Self Moderating ... was the catalyst ... the culmination of society's degradation along with Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #38
and I am Marie of Romania...like dorothy parker once wrote... CTyankee Feb 2014 #40
yep. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #42
About intentions... redqueen Feb 2014 #49
you know what they say ... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #72
I'm gonna guess... redqueen Feb 2014 #75
yep. Rock On. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #77
Yep, the MRA talking points are flying fast and freely in that thread. redqueen Feb 2014 #48
I don't doubt it, redqueen - Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #61
Just found out that one of the women who claimed she didn't know she was spewing MRA talking points redqueen Feb 2014 #73
haha ... nuance and subtlety ... some are better at it than others ... one more time: Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #76
well, that would be interesting seeing how she caught the naked girls to put up the op for all the seabeyond Feb 2014 #80
well, you know sometimes Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #84
i am a pacifist and have never hung out with hunters, so i am totally clueless what you are talking seabeyond Feb 2014 #87
Doesn't matter. Intellectual honesty isn't something certain types care anything about. redqueen Feb 2014 #82
That was one of the most epic misrepresentations in the history of misrepresentation. MadrasT Feb 2014 #86
It's just faux-nooz style dishonesty. And when it's used to demonize the feminists here who dare redqueen Feb 2014 #93
--- Bro-approved feminism is the only welcome kind. --- Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #88
Ha but if you're still one of the few feminists desperately clinging to that 'sex positive' bullshit redqueen Feb 2014 #95
thing is, redqueen Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #96
of course sex positive was meant as an insult to other women.... that is the whole purpose and how seabeyond Feb 2014 #98
Just about everyone has. Sex is fun for the vast majority of people. But that movement stopped being redqueen Feb 2014 #99
as a movement, they have been left behind and need to catch up Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #101
biggest couple decade fail, except the recognition and acknowledgement of diversity. seabeyond Feb 2014 #100
And this is one of the reasons tumblr is amazing. On DU there is little participation from WOC. redqueen Feb 2014 #102
interesting. i am gonna have to get on tumblr. nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #103
We really do need a womanist presence here on DU. cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #119
hey, a thread where someone died, the boys giggln and playing with milf. i got a post hid for sayin seabeyond Feb 2014 #91
some of my hides ... just blew my mind ... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #94
yup. a fuckin game with men having a huge advantage on the courts. any other game and they would seabeyond Feb 2014 #97
On a more positive note... redqueen Feb 2014 #74
Loving It !!! Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #78
yes it is. and htat would be about the point the poster of the OP cries out... it has been posted seabeyond Feb 2014 #81
Yeah, that's super double plus good logic redqueen Feb 2014 #85
the women on the cover and who do similar things do it for the money JI7 Feb 2014 #24
that is the problem, the lack of respect all the way around. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #26
You know -- Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #25
no, not really Kali Feb 2014 #27
thank you, Kali ... I trashed the thread early this morning, first thing. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #31
it is clear to me now that the motivation for posting this is marking territory and CTyankee Feb 2014 #35
Please, take note that the thread was started by a woman. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #39
IF it is a woman...remember, I am Marie of Romania... CTyankee Feb 2014 #41
Point taken - but, this one has posted pictures and, iirc has been to DU meet ups. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #43
heh, history has shown that those women opposing women's suffrage have been largely FORGOTTEN... CTyankee Feb 2014 #44
hehe ... and on that note ... I simply must say ... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #45
me, too...have a nice rest... CTyankee Feb 2014 #46
Really? Not a single one of those names surprises me. At all. redqueen Feb 2014 #50
I see two I know to be skin-waste bigots. Scootaloo Feb 2014 #51
It wouldn't matter BainsBane Feb 2014 #52
The GD hosts let it stand BainsBane Feb 2014 #53
i think it was a little bit to get some hidden posts and a little bit of people getting along too seabeyond Feb 2014 #67
up to Eighteen now ... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #69
I suspect many of those 18 recs are basically a virtual middle finger flipping off this group. MadrasT Feb 2014 #70
love it when they throw a tantrum ... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #71
the whole Op, rec and many of the posts is all about flipping us off, yes. lol. duh.... seabeyond Feb 2014 #83
adding two more ;;; Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #104
nobody really cares that much. we already know who they are... shhhhh seabeyond Feb 2014 #105
well, sea Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #107
add one more Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #136
Reading those names makes the intention crystal-clear YoungDemCA Feb 2014 #114
Not even in the lounge please. cui bono Feb 2014 #55
so TIRED of our new and improved LockerRoom Lounge Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #111
Lordy... 600+ posts now MadrasT Feb 2014 #56
This. If women making choices regardless of sufrommich Feb 2014 #62
virtual locker room, complete with congratulatory backslapping and high fiving...simpering cheerlea seabeyond Feb 2014 #65
again, hypocrisy, i have a huge problem. each of these posters are all over the coulters, palns, seabeyond Feb 2014 #66
Yes, that "I choose my choice" dubmassery is fucking laughable. redqueen Feb 2014 #79
A women can make many choices that goes against feminism cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #106
I was tempted to spam the thread with Hawkeye Initiative cover mock-ups. KitSileya Feb 2014 #63
Nor mine when I signed up in fall, 2004! CTyankee Feb 2014 #64
i often wonder, what would happen if your husband was so invested in his porn life? the man you love seabeyond Feb 2014 #68
Very well stated. Succinct and accurate. redqueen Feb 2014 #89
exactly. clear and obvious. nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #92
This would be the New and Improved Model = DU3 Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #90
It also reminds me of the post where men where asked cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #108
interesting angle there, cinnabonbon Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #117
My problem is that I read posts like that as if cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #120
i had the host of the mens group specifically tell me that Op was to get back at a small vocal group seabeyond Feb 2014 #121
At least they admit it. cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #122
that whole thread, half was them denying it is a fuckin game for them. nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #123
Wow, how embarrassing. cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #124
But seriously cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #125
To "get back at" a group on DU? MadrasT Feb 2014 #126
What we keep doing is calling out objectification. redqueen Feb 2014 #128
how abotu that. makes us bullies. someone says... "she'll do". like a thing he owns. seabeyond Feb 2014 #133
Well when you criticize objectification, and male entitlement to female bodies, redqueen Feb 2014 #134
I love this post: redqueen Feb 2014 #109
yup. nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #110
Horrible YoungDemCA Feb 2014 #115
Freedom of speech apparently cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #118
If THAT! elleng Feb 2014 #127
I'm glad to hear it. I've been cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #129
We don't! elleng Feb 2014 #130
Yay! I will! cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #131
Good! elleng Feb 2014 #132
You'd have to have a pea size Texasgal Feb 2014 #135
 

Kelvin Mace

(17,469 posts)
1. Unfortunately,
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 10:46 AM
Feb 2014

the argument is that this is "culturally relevant" for discussion as the Sports Illustrated annual Photoshopped cutlet display is a "tradition".

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
47. "Culturally relevant"? To knuckle-dragging throwbacks, I guess.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:48 AM
Feb 2014


And "tradition"? Really?

How fucking low are standards here going to sink?
 

Kelvin Mace

(17,469 posts)
116. The question of standards,
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:06 PM
Feb 2014

sad to say, is not just relevant to DU, but society at large.

Yes, it is depressing and very frustrating that we are having this kind of argument on DU, where we expect that people should know better, that people would NOT post an SI cover of women in provocative sexual poses, then offer the lame "they are consenting adults and empowering themselves" argument.

But, on the bright side, there was a time, within my lifetime, when the propriety of such a cover would never have come into question in a public forum. If you look through this thread you can see substantial pushback against the sexist nature of the cover and discussion such as we are having with various people.

So, we have come a ways, just not far enough.

When our destination is the Lonely Mountain and it is still shrouded in mist in the intimidating distance, it behooves us to look behind and note that we can't see Hobbiton, our starting point, at all.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
3. and i was gonna jump in to ask.... OMG, is this where the really cool women hang out
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 10:54 AM
Feb 2014

to help the men objectify those women. a whole lot of high fives, lmao.

then i thought... meh. that was kinda the purpose of the thread. i couldnt get away with just one comment and walking from the thread.... would attract a certain... hm... trying to think of the right word.

i read a post about language and how "really really" should never be written. that would be lazy language. that there are so many nifty words we are not using. so, i pause any more when wanting to pull out a certain word. what use to be a vast vocabulary, has really (oops) diminished with computer chat.

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
7. The purpose of that and the blow job thread
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:18 AM
Feb 2014

Is to claim DU as white male space only and make sure women who don't buy into photoshopped media images know they are not welcome here, and jurors who allow those posts to stand are reinforcing that claim.

There is no public space that would allow either of those threads, no Democratic Party office, no politicians office, no workplace that bothers with following the law in any way. The reason is that it creates a deliberately hostile environment. But DUers who enforce that notion of community standards do not seek to be inclusive of all Americans. Instead they deliberately and purposefully seek to exclude anyone who isn't white, old, male, or thinks women are full human beings with equal rights. This is not the philosophy or demographic of the Democratic Party, which is predominately women and people of color. This is rather a bunch of old men and their allies who are pissed off society advanced past 1962 and are doing everything they can to roll back the clock to a period before they had to compete with women and people of color in the workplace, before LGBT folks had basic rights, before married women could own property, before women and people of color could legally be denied work and housing based on their sex or race. That is why they target African American members and feminists and why they are starting to tell LGBT members to keep their mouths shut about their rights. These are supremely reactionary people who have so interpolated capitalist commodity fetishism that they think Sports Illustrated is "human sexuality," as one juror insisted.

Liberals do not exclude. Liberals are not male supremacists. Liberals are not white supremacists. That is what people do who are terrified to see their privilege evaporate and are desperate to create one little space of the internet that recreates a time when no one but they had rights.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
9. you are so smart. right on. and this needs desperately to be an OP.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:21 AM
Feb 2014
Is to claim DU as white male space only and make sure women who don't buy into photoshopped media images know they are not welcome here, and jurors who allow those posts to stand are reinforcing that claim.


on valentines day. people were having to much fun, feeling to good and being nice. lol

oh my

DURHAM D

(32,606 posts)
14. Yep. They are just marking territory.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:47 PM
Feb 2014

Given that their streams are getting weaker and weaker the leg lifts must be more frequent. Hopefully they will all pull a groin muscle.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
15. people were getting along too much. be respectful. appreciating. that is all. backlash to
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:59 PM
Feb 2014

nice

CrispyQ

(36,424 posts)
16. This:
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 01:21 PM
Feb 2014
That is what people do who are terrified to see their privilege evaporate and are desperate to create one little space of the internet that recreates a time when no one but they had rights.


I've come to love the "Hide Thread" button.
 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
29. You've been doing a fine damn job of taking words out of my mouth of late!
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:07 AM
Feb 2014

I hope you're washing them off before you use 'em, though!

I think the problem boils down to the plain fact that the admins will tolerate any level of any kind of bigotry that doesn't target whatever groups they themselves belong to.

cui bono

(19,926 posts)
54. Blow job thread?
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 06:52 AM
Feb 2014

Ugh.

Yeah, I can't believe that SI thread is out in GD. Doesn't even belong in the lounge if you ask me. This is supposed to be a board that understands and is against the objectification of women.

The men on this board could use a quarter at UCSC to learn a little bit about sexism.

Squinch

(50,919 posts)
57. Adding one more voice to say "beautifully stated."
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 09:09 AM
Feb 2014

This should give pause to all:

"There is no public space that would allow either of those threads, no Democratic Party office, no politicians office, no workplace that bothers with following the law in any way. The reason is that it creates a deliberately hostile environment. "

Yet, some DUers feel these types of threads to be perfectly acceptable, and the DU administration strongly supports that position by consistent accommodation.

I feel certain that, in supporting these threads, they are falling back on the mindset of bigots everywhere who have been called out: "Oh, lighten up. Take a joke." To those reading this who would respond that way, you should know: that is a "tell". It reveals the willful nature of the bigotry. It shows a part of you that you might even be unaware of. But you have revealed that part to everyone else.

 

YoungDemCA

(5,714 posts)
113. You make an important point here
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:41 PM
Feb 2014

Not to mention that by supporting these threads, the community is alienating more and more people from the Democratic Party and its supposedly "progressive" base.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
37. haha. as if we didn't already know. sheesh.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:02 AM
Feb 2014

This is better than reading the thread itself.

Learning to Love Trash Thread and Ignore.

DU3 has provided me with the tools to moderate and customize DU3 to my own personal satisfaction.

I take what I need and leave the rest.

I realize this narrows my jury pool some what.

Oh well.

UtahLib

(3,179 posts)
12. My thoughts, exactly.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:40 PM
Feb 2014

Same old, same old, with the objectification of women thrown in for maximum effect.

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
13. Wow, at 100+ posts, by now it's like a pissing contest to mark GD as "anti-feminist" territory.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:46 PM
Feb 2014

Pathetic.

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
17. Isn't it lovely
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 06:29 PM
Feb 2014

Last edited Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:55 PM - Edit history (1)

that on DU Valentine's Day an opportunity for some to demonstrate how desperate they are to turn the clock back a half century? Think you're an equal citizen with full rights? Not so fast little girls. You're not worth shit if you're over 18 and your ass isn't exposed for old men to gawk at.

They have effectively claimed DU as white male only space. They conduct witch hunts against more than one woman of color, make sure any thread having to do with equal rights for women, civil rights or human rights are denounced as "flame bait" in comparison to the far more important issues of legalizing their pot stash or belittling women to make sure they know they are not equal human beings with full rights. They argue that the law is irrelevant and they should be able to violate a woman drunk beyond the ability to consent. They willfully and purposefully ignore a legal record that shows an accused pedophile is indeed a lying sac of shit and instead repeat verbatim the lies out by his publicity machine. Some even denounce Black History month as giving special treatment to African Americans, while the "rest of us" (which sure the hell doesn't include me since I will not be included in any conception of their "us&quot have only a week. They insist black folk should be "honored" when they are served fried chicken and watermelon for Black History month, and that LGBT Americans need to keep their mouths shut about Russia because "it only backfires."

Their notion of "liberalism" is one produced by corporate capitalist culture. Porn is liberal. Rape porn is liberal. Big corporate media magazines that sell commodified images of women are liberal. Liberalism to them hinges on women as objects rather than citizens. They insist objections to a thread in GD of Sports Illustrated images is "conservative." In defining liberalism as they do, they reveal a conception of the term that includes men only. Women are not part of the body politic. Women exist as objects of commodity fetishism, not as political allies, not as presidential candidates, not as equal human beings. Women should not compete with them in the workplace. White men as college drop outs are entitled to earn more than women with advanced degrees, and the fact that a woman or person of color anywhere on earth makes more than them, they claim, shows they are not privileged---a comment that reveals they believe themselves entitled to more by virtue of being white and male.

If we object to women and people of color being treated like shit, we are "right-wing." So tell me, when did white male supremacy become "liberal"? When did telling LGBT Americans to keep their concerns about equality quiet become "liberal'? When did it become liberal to openly advocate returning to a time period before discrimination in the workplace was illegal, before LBGT Americans had the right to openly love, work, or marry anywhere? When did opposition to equal rights, like EEOC laws, become "liberal." When did promoting a hostile environment become "liberal." How is it liberal to work so diligently to align oneself with the rich and powerful--whether Woody Allen or corporate pornographers and media tycoons--over survivors of child abuse, rape, and women and people of color in general? Since when is it liberal to insist on maintaining an openly and deliberately hostile attitude to anyone who thinks like they are part of the 21st century instead of the past? When is it liberal to be so hostile to progress and try to restore a mid-20th century haven online, where women and people of color and told to shut up and keep in their place, where women are valued only as ornamental or enablers of misogyny?

And they claim we need to shut up because they are our "allies." What kind of ally defines the body politic as including only a small minority? What people post things that start to resemble Fox News, how is that liberal, progressive, or Democratic?

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
22. Yes, actually I have thought of that
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 01:04 AM
Feb 2014

I think I could be good at it. I don't have the connections to get such a job though.

Squinch

(50,919 posts)
58. Well, then at least make this an OP, would ya???
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 09:11 AM
Feb 2014

ESPECIALLY THIS PART which made me want to cheer:

Their notion of "liberalism" is one produced by corporate capitalist culture. Porn is liberal. Rape porn is liberal. Big corporate media magazines that sell commodified images of women are liberal. Liberalism to them hinges on women as objects rather than citizens. They insist objections to a thread in GD of Sports Illustrated images is "conservative." In defining liberalism as they do, they reveal a conception of the term that includes men only. Women are not part of the body politic. Women exist as objects of commodity fetishism, not as political allies, not as presidential candidates, not as equal human beings. Women should not compete with them in the workplace. White men as college drop outs are entitled to earn more than women with advanced degrees, and the fact that a woman or person of color anywhere on earth makes more than them, they claim, shows they are not privileged---a comment that reveals they believe themselves entitled to more by virtue of being white and male.

If we object to women and people of color being treated like shit, we are "right-wing." So tell me, when did white male supremacy become "liberal"? When did telling LGBT Americans to keep their concerns about equality quiet become "liberal'? When did it become liberal to openly advocate returning to a time period before discrimination in the workplace was illegal, before LBGT Americans had the right to openly love, work, or marry anywhere? When did opposition to equal rights, like EEOC laws, become "liberal." When did promoting a hostile environment become "liberal." How is it liberal to work so diligently to align oneself with the rich and powerful--whether Woody Allen or corporate pornographers and media tycoons--over survivors of child abuse, rape, and women and people of color in general? Since when is it liberal to insist on maintaining an openly and deliberately hostile attitude to anyone who thinks like they are part of the 21st century instead of the past? When is it liberal to be so hostile to progress and try to restore a mid-20th century haven online, where women and people of color and told to shut up and keep in their place, where women are valued only as ornamental or enablers of misogyny?

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
59. Indeed.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 09:24 AM
Feb 2014
And they claim we need to shut up because they are our "allies." What kind of ally defines the body politic as including only a small minority?

Allies don't tell those they are alliance with to sit down and shut up. And they certainly don't mock, belittle, and attack.

True allies LISTEN and EMPATHIZE and SUPPORT.

ismnotwasm

(41,967 posts)
137. Exactly and well said.
Sun Feb 16, 2014, 10:53 AM
Feb 2014

We have less a culture of liberalism and more about libertarianism and moderate to conservative , capitalistic democratic politics. Good 'ol boys alive and well.

BTW, that is the stupidest SI bathing suit cover I've ever seen. even one of the models has this to say

"The girls took turns posing in the middle for the shoot, but apparently their derrieres are the real cover stars.
"If I were to pick ... I would have to say our butts won it," Teigen, 28, who married singer John Legend in September, told SI.



http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/gossip/la-et-mg-chrissy-teigen-sports-illustrated-swimsuit-cover-lily-aldridge-nina-agdal-20140214,0,25428.story#ixzz2tUqPbdGB"

Nice. They are not young women--they get to be butts.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
19. CTyankee with all due respect
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:41 PM
Feb 2014

Why do you think it is lounge appropriate? Would you think it welcoming? Is that the type of establishment that you regularly attend in real life? Do you enjoy that type of post in the lounge on a daily basis?

CTyankee

(63,893 posts)
30. You know, you have a point there...rereading it, I can see it...
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:38 AM
Feb 2014

my initial response was too hasty...not thinking it through.

It's hostile anywhere...

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
32. thank you CTyankee.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:45 AM
Feb 2014

it is the predatory, hostile nature of these types of postings that I take issue.

Men are not the only misogynists in the world although, I think the correct terminology on DU3 is to call these types

MRAs = Men's Rights Activists

and

MRA sympathizers.

CTyankee

(63,893 posts)
33. that became clear to me after my initial response...I went out and started thinking about it
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:53 AM
Feb 2014

the motivation behind posting it was not to just ogle women, but to make a statement, plant a flag, see if they could get away with it.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
38. Self Moderating ... was the catalyst ... the culmination of society's degradation along with
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:05 AM
Feb 2014

the influx of the Libertarian influence and, as always ... not all are as they appear on the internet.

Truly, I am a gorgeous redhead with a huge bank account

CTyankee

(63,893 posts)
40. and I am Marie of Romania...like dorothy parker once wrote...
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:21 AM
Feb 2014

Also, the pernicious effect of the creation of the Men's Group...altho I now understand that the men who started that group were not intending it to become a beehive of misogyny, but it evolved that way. At first, I thought it had become a place of sad, bitter men who blamed women for every bad thing that had happened to them in their lives...it was never THEIR fault, THEIR responsibility to straighten out...but now I see it has become a place to exact their revenge on women at DU. So the poison has spread to GD.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
49. About intentions...
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:51 AM
Feb 2014

One of the people who was one of the earliest supporters is the one who linked to MRA shit in the fucking FAQ, so...

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
48. Yep, the MRA talking points are flying fast and freely in that thread.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:50 AM
Feb 2014

Sadly some seem not even to recognize what kind of shit they're spewing everywhere.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
61. I don't doubt it, redqueen -
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 09:37 AM
Feb 2014

Insert something here

about the First Amendment

and the right to be stupid

and unkind

and disrespectful

to half the human population.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
73. Just found out that one of the women who claimed she didn't know she was spewing MRA talking points
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 11:46 AM
Feb 2014

was also frothing at the mouth having fits about someone being called a "dog" yet was buddy buddy with the woman who started the OP, who called a woman on DU the c-word.

If that doesn't make their little bullshit game crystal fucking clear I don't know what will.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
76. haha ... nuance and subtlety ... some are better at it than others ... one more time:
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 11:49 AM
Feb 2014

I Never Called her a Dog ... just that her interaction with MG reminds me of how a hunter interacts with his favorite hunting dog ... slight difference, perhaps but, there it is ...

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
80. well, that would be interesting seeing how she caught the naked girls to put up the op for all the
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 11:57 AM
Feb 2014

guys to gather and play with as a chew toy or something. not sure who is getting their head rubbed on this one. but had all the guys from the mens group patting her on the back, anyway.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
84. well, you know sometimes
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:01 PM
Feb 2014

when getting petted ...

one likes to go ...

lower ...

and will toss up their head so that the hand automatically slides down to the back ...

I have seen this interaction between a hunter and his favorite pet hunting dog.

I have witnessed this.

I can testify.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
87. i am a pacifist and have never hung out with hunters, so i am totally clueless what you are talking
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:04 PM
Feb 2014

about....

lol

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
82. Doesn't matter. Intellectual honesty isn't something certain types care anything about.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:00 PM
Feb 2014

I called no one a "fucktoilet" but to hear some here you'd think I did.

I wish I'd archived that one thread from Meta when that shit was finally spelled out and the dishonest claims of a few were laid bare for all to see.

Seeing the same kind of bullshit still going on and so few calling it out... the dynamics here are intuitively obvious to even the most casual observer at this point. Like I said, DU is not a welcoming place for feminists. Bro-approved feminism is the only welcome kind.

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
86. That was one of the most epic misrepresentations in the history of misrepresentation.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:02 PM
Feb 2014

I am still in awe of the willful blindness exhibited during that incident.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
93. It's just faux-nooz style dishonesty. And when it's used to demonize the feminists here who dare
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:20 PM
Feb 2014

to try to raise awareness about the most popular and socially-acceptable forms of male privilege, it is willfully-ignored by most here. Because, well, duh.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
95. Ha but if you're still one of the few feminists desperately clinging to that 'sex positive' bullshit
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:23 PM
Feb 2014

then you're of course not going to have a problem with this environment at all.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
96. thing is, redqueen
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:26 PM
Feb 2014

I have had some very positive sexual experiences in my live.

I don't even like that term for what is happening.

I do not think they are sex positive at all.

It is whack.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
98. of course sex positive was meant as an insult to other women.... that is the whole purpose and how
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:29 PM
Feb 2014

they use it. they use it to attack other women in our sexuality. no different than slut shaming, just the other side of the scale.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
99. Just about everyone has. Sex is fun for the vast majority of people. But that movement stopped being
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:29 PM
Feb 2014

about actual fun and empowering sexual choices long ago. It's now about commerce, shaming anyone who thinks critically about sexual issues or criticizes the sex industry, and protecting male privilege

As it was originally intended, it made sense.

But of course it was hijacked by capitalist white libertarian type feminists (and brogressives) and turned into a hot steaming load of shit.

And all but the most naive feminists already know this. The "male feminists" and MRAs who still pretend it's valid do so for their own very obvious reasons.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
101. as a movement, they have been left behind and need to catch up
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:33 PM
Feb 2014

because. damn ... dragging them into the 21st century kicking and screaming is -such- a drag. yanno.

leave 'em lay, I say.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
100. biggest couple decade fail, except the recognition and acknowledgement of diversity.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:30 PM
Feb 2014

it was such a huge ass fail in laziness of feminism, to allow the backlash that has us fighting the battles of the 60's and 70's all over again.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
102. And this is one of the reasons tumblr is amazing. On DU there is little participation from WOC.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:39 PM
Feb 2014

On tumblr there are MANY women of color, radical feminists, womanists... being exposed to their ideas and concerns is VITAL to progress for feminists.

Plus, it makes it really fucking obvious just how many feminists and womanists see right through the charade of the so-called "sex positive" movement as it exists in this century.

cinnabonbon

(860 posts)
119. We really do need a womanist presence here on DU.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 06:35 PM
Feb 2014

I miss that a lot.

I am glad we have a radfem presence, though.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
91. hey, a thread where someone died, the boys giggln and playing with milf. i got a post hid for sayin
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:14 PM
Feb 2014

the words out loud. keep it quiet. we all know what the words are all about. that is why the boys have an over 100 post thread of gggles and jokes about milf. but i dare to say

mothers boys like to fuck?

too far

dontcha know.

and ya. that was what that thread was all about, and the discussion. them treating women like cum receptors. now. i am assuming that is ok because carlin said it and has been posted by those very duers, some recommending carlin saying this, with no outrage.

again, pure hypocrisy

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
94. some of my hides ... just blew my mind ...
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:22 PM
Feb 2014

you can post pictures of very offensive things but,

if you post the words that describe the offensive picture that is the post that is hidden.

really?

Kangaroo Court and Mickey Mouse Jurors.

whatevs.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
97. yup. a fuckin game with men having a huge advantage on the courts. any other game and they would
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:27 PM
Feb 2014

call foul.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
81. yes it is. and htat would be about the point the poster of the OP cries out... it has been posted
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 11:59 AM
Feb 2014

here in the past.....

ya.

that validates it.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
85. Yeah, that's super double plus good logic
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:01 PM
Feb 2014

If something has been done in the past, that means it's totally right and just and nothing should ever change BECUZ FREEDUMB!

JI7

(89,241 posts)
24. the women on the cover and who do similar things do it for the money
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 01:08 AM
Feb 2014

and they make fun of the guy fans and think they are mostly pathetic. especially the older guys .

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
26. that is the problem, the lack of respect all the way around.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 01:12 AM
Feb 2014

It is a human dignity issue.

Neither side is being kind.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
25. You know --
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 01:11 AM
Feb 2014

my thoughts about all this ... not much.

Only that Three Pretty half (well, more than half) naked young girls. Beautiful.

but, the IDOLIZATION and the PEDESTOOL on which they are placed in today's society is just whack.

Kali

(55,004 posts)
27. no, not really
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 01:27 AM
Feb 2014

I can't understand the need of a woman to post an image aimed at men for the sole purpose of objectifying female bodies in the General Discussion area of a political website. I mean, really.


sure it might slip by in the Lounge, but no - it really does not belong on DU. AT ALL. Never knew that poster to be a shit stirrer, but can't see any other reason for posting that.


fucking weird.

oh and 400 + replies with only 13 recs? let's just copy and paste those for posterity:

13 members have recommended this thread (displayed in chronological order):
onehandle TheMathieu opiate69 PCIntern Upton appal_jack Warren DeMontague In_The_Wind LittleBlue pintobean lumberjack_jef fBoudica the Lyonessablamj


damn, pretty disappointed in at least one of those.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
31. thank you, Kali ... I trashed the thread early this morning, first thing.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:41 AM
Feb 2014

None of those names surprise me though. well, maybe one.

CTyankee

(63,893 posts)
35. it is clear to me now that the motivation for posting this is marking territory and
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:57 AM
Feb 2014

probably aimed largely at feminists. It is an old game. Men spit on suffragists marching under their banners for the vote. They lost, didn't they?

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
39. Please, take note that the thread was started by a woman.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:17 AM
Feb 2014

Some women appreciate and, have thrived under a benevolent patriarchal system. They also fear the change that is coming.

They do not want to change the status quo and, are happy with their current station/lot in life.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
43. Point taken - but, this one has posted pictures and, iirc has been to DU meet ups.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:27 AM
Feb 2014

Iow, there are those who vouch for her/him and, I tend to believe them.

CTyankee

(63,893 posts)
44. heh, history has shown that those women opposing women's suffrage have been largely FORGOTTEN...
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:30 AM
Feb 2014

history is SO unkind, isn't it?

Maybe she could join up with the Men's Right's organization...there's a thought!

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
50. Really? Not a single one of those names surprises me. At all.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 03:55 AM
Feb 2014

And the person who started the OP? Check out her favorite group. Says it all, really.

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
51. I see two I know to be skin-waste bigots.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 04:26 AM
Feb 2014


I wonder if there might ever be a case for the unrec feature to return, without tying it to "greatest page" appearance. Probably not, but it'd be nice to see how much spit a thread collects.

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
52. It wouldn't matter
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 04:36 AM
Feb 2014

It's just a popularity contest, and the fact is that retrograde world view is popular on this site. It's like entering a time warp back to 1962.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
67. i think it was a little bit to get some hidden posts and a little bit of people getting along too
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 10:13 AM
Feb 2014

well.... still carrying a battle from three years ago.

a couple of those names only come up in battle of three years ago. they do not use the board often, only when they can stick a toe in that.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
69. up to Eighteen now ...
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 11:02 AM
Feb 2014

Recommendations
18 members have recommended this thread (displayed in chronological order):

onehandle TheMathieu opiate69 PCIntern Upton appal_jack Warren DeMontague In_The_Wind LittleBlue pintobean lumberjack_jeff Boudica the Lyonessa blamj Union Scribe egduj Skeeter Barnes hwmnbn Doctor_J










MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
70. I suspect many of those 18 recs are basically a virtual middle finger flipping off this group.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 11:38 AM
Feb 2014

So cute (in the two-year-old throwing a passive aggressive tantrum sort of way).

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
83. the whole Op, rec and many of the posts is all about flipping us off, yes. lol. duh....
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:00 PM
Feb 2014

and not duh to you but those that think they are subtle.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
107. well, sea
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 01:48 PM
Feb 2014

this is cathartic for me.

a lot of this is directed toward me personally.

why deny it.

I know that we know but,

isn't it time for all of DU to know.

It is like the dirty little family secret.

the skeleton in the closet.

the elephant in the middle of the room.

So tired of it all.

cui bono

(19,926 posts)
55. Not even in the lounge please.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 07:00 AM
Feb 2014

It's still sexist for lounge material.

I requested it be deleted in the Ask the Administrators forum. I suggest we all do it.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
111. so TIRED of our new and improved LockerRoom Lounge
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:36 PM
Feb 2014

years of Hope Hoops destroyed what was left of the Lounge camaraderie that was once enjoyed by people of all persuasions.

The predators that freely roam the Lounge and make it such a hostile environment.

One of the worst ones is a Host and while serving on MIRt knew that HH had returned as a Zombie and hid it from the rest of MIRt and then defended the action pleading ignorance.

Sickening.

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
56. Lordy... 600+ posts now
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 08:53 AM
Feb 2014

It's like a virtual locker room, complete with congratulatory backslapping and high fiving and a crew of simpering cheerleaders collecting their "woo hoo, you go girl" accolades.

Amazing to watch the myriad of ways objections are twisted and mischaracterized. The ones that are most funny to me are the ones that try to make out that objections are somehow anti-feminist and in some way slamming on the "choice" of the 3 women in the photo.

That is some funny ass shit right there... objecting to objectification is "anti-feminist".

Dear lurkers and HOF spies -- any choice any woman somewhere makes is not a "feminist" choice, just because a woman chose it.

In real life, when I criticize women's choices, I frequently hear "but isn't feminism about women's freedom of CHOICE???"

Sure it is, as long as we are clear that EVERY SINGLE CHOICE IS NOT A FEMINIST CHOICE JUST BECAUSE A WOMAN CHOSE IT.

sufrommich

(22,871 posts)
62. This. If women making choices regardless of
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 09:41 AM
Feb 2014

their outcome is going to be described as feminist then Ann Coulter,Phyllis Schlafly,Micelle Malkin and Sarah Palin are feminist icons.Is that the way it works now?

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
65. virtual locker room, complete with congratulatory backslapping and high fiving...simpering cheerlea
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 10:08 AM
Feb 2014
It's like a virtual locker room, complete with congratulatory backslapping and high fiving and a crew of simpering cheerleaders collecting their "woo hoo, you go girl" accolades.


that about says it.
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
66. again, hypocrisy, i have a huge problem. each of these posters are all over the coulters, palns,
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 10:11 AM
Feb 2014

Last edited Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:03 PM - Edit history (1)

bachmanns, the religious rw wing women calling them out with sexist slurs and demolishing them for their women issue views.

so no. they do not accept all womens choice. they do not even do it in consistency, but the consistency that if we do not honor the objectification of women, demeaning manner we treat women, then it is time to speak out on womens issues.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
79. Yes, that "I choose my choice" dubmassery is fucking laughable.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 11:56 AM
Feb 2014

That it even still has to be explained is a testament to how few self-described feminists actually bother educating themselves about feminist issues. But then when it's popularized that all you have to do to be a feminist is think men and women should be equal, that's pretty much what you're gonna get.

cinnabonbon

(860 posts)
106. A women can make many choices that goes against feminism
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 01:46 PM
Feb 2014

I mean, just look at these people who are pro-life and call themselves feminists.

KitSileya

(4,035 posts)
63. I was tempted to spam the thread with Hawkeye Initiative cover mock-ups.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 09:45 AM
Feb 2014

All those disingenuous 'But if you condemn the cover, you're blaming the models' and 'We're just celebrating natural(!) beauty' and 'I'm a feminist and I like it, so it's ok' comments make me want to throw up. Anyone with a modicum of awareness of media presentation of women knows that the pose, the lack of agency, the lack of actual swimsuits, the airbrushing is all to appeal to heterosexual men, and to put women in their 'proper' places, as objects of male lust. The 'butt out, torsos twisted so you see boob as well'-pose is straight out of comics, and has been thoroughly condemned and ridiculed.

This isn't the DU I started reading in 2001, and joined in 2002, that's for sure.

CTyankee

(63,893 posts)
64. Nor mine when I signed up in fall, 2004!
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 09:53 AM
Feb 2014

Progressive Democrats were assumed to be feminist or pro-feminist. It would have been unthinkable otherwise. Feminism brought extraordinary change to the country. Feminism was a strong, solid part of the Progressive project.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
68. i often wonder, what would happen if your husband was so invested in his porn life? the man you love
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 10:16 AM
Feb 2014

the man you are stuck living with for life, the man you are raising your children with. what would a woman have to do to adjust her thinking, in order to daily live with a man who is so heavily invested in his porn.

that is how i see it.

one would have to accept porn totally. deny and refuse any discussions of the demeaning nature to the women. refuse any acknowledgment that it is hurtful to all.

and be a part... in order to gain even the littlest of attention from your man

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
89. Very well stated. Succinct and accurate.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 12:07 PM
Feb 2014

From the amount of anti-feminist comprehension fail going on in that thread you'd think it was fucking rocket science.

But then I don't believe that even a small fraction of those feigning ignorance are actually that clueless.

That OP is pure shit-stirring and many of those posting are simply joining in.

cinnabonbon

(860 posts)
108. It also reminds me of the post where men where asked
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 01:51 PM
Feb 2014

"how do you feel when a sale representative is dressed in a certain way and flirts with you in order to sell her product? Do you feel uncomfortable?" post. A lost of men and women thought it was a cheap shot and said they didn't like to be manipulated that way.

AND YET

look at that SI cover. That is the most blatant attempt to sell a magazine by appealing to men's smaller heads. I wonder, do they feel manipulated and condescended to now?

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
117. interesting angle there, cinnabonbon
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 05:50 PM
Feb 2014

I never could tell if the OP of the Sales Rep thread was being Ironic or what...

I just got the vibe of Being Played

but,

I couldn't decide Who was Being Played, yanno.

Smaller heads prevail ...

lol.

cinnabonbon

(860 posts)
120. My problem is that I read posts like that as if
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 07:02 PM
Feb 2014

they're written in good faith. I didn't really get what the OP was trying to do, despite it being close to being ironic. They were too subtle for me.

I still think that the men's got to be aware that they SI cover post makes others, well.... Let me just say that the OP made me aware that the post was full of asses.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
121. i had the host of the mens group specifically tell me that Op was to get back at a small vocal group
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 07:10 PM
Feb 2014

of bullies on du.

damn straight ti was. as we all knew. what we wimminz did to piss off the men, god only knows.

cinnabonbon

(860 posts)
122. At least they admit it.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 07:14 PM
Feb 2014

Petty behaviour all around from them, just because we're saying that half of DU is supposed to be ours.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
133. how abotu that. makes us bullies. someone says... "she'll do". like a thing he owns.
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 08:20 PM
Feb 2014

dare to challenge the man, call that garbage out and they are affronted.

you know what the disgusting pic who deleted his post had posted to men? something about ... me being angry about my DAMAGED womb producing two rapists.

this is what the scum thought he could get away with saying on du, to me. then self deleted. this is how angry the scum is at me for what... pointing out an obvious on a post. what man would say that shit to a woman, about two friggin boys.

this is how angry they are.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
134. Well when you criticize objectification, and male entitlement to female bodies,
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 08:22 PM
Feb 2014

you're threatening something they obviously hold very dear.

This is one of the few vestiges of male privilege which most liberal men still boldly revel in, and they do not want to give it up.

 

YoungDemCA

(5,714 posts)
115. Horrible
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 02:45 PM
Feb 2014

And of course, the Usual Suspects are whining when feminists dare call them out on their douchery.

cinnabonbon

(860 posts)
129. I'm glad to hear it. I've been
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 07:50 PM
Feb 2014

reading the lounge a bit because it looks like a nice place to get to know people, but I wouldn't feel really welcome if they post stuff like that there.

Texasgal

(17,041 posts)
135. You'd have to have a pea size
Sat Feb 15, 2014, 09:25 PM
Feb 2014

brain to not understand that thread as nothing but pure flame bait.

The whole " i was just posting a picture" crap is so transparent it's not even funny.

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