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BainsBane

(53,001 posts)
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:29 AM Feb 2014

If you're a single woman on Valentine's Day

(a straight woman) all you need do is sign on to DU and have a look at GD. That will make you count your blessings in a hurry.

If you have a partner who is a good man or woman, not sexist or not an enabler of sexist men, GD will make you count your blessings in a hurry.

So let's all be grateful for friends, family members, and partners who love and actually like women, who don't reduce women to photoshopped commercial images or "steak and a BJ."

Let's be grateful for ourselves and other women with a political consciousness.

Happy Valentines Day to HOF members and our allies: female, male, straight, and LGBT alike.

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If you're a single woman on Valentine's Day (Original Post) BainsBane Feb 2014 OP
well, woman, there is a thought. i was going to suggest you buy yourself a box of chocs. seabeyond Feb 2014 #1
I'm not single Stargazer09 Feb 2014 #2
ha ha. good for you. seabeyond Feb 2014 #3
Yep, I adjusted the OP to account for that BainsBane Feb 2014 #4
Thank you Stargazer09 Feb 2014 #7
Those girls don't look like those girls BainsBane Feb 2014 #10
Oh, I know Stargazer09 Feb 2014 #32
hey.... kinda what the hearts below represent. love, connection, respect.... seabeyond Feb 2014 #5
Recommended. NYC_SKP Feb 2014 #6
IOKIYWP? BainsBane Feb 2014 #8
Some members enjoy greater latitude in what they post than others. NYC_SKP Feb 2014 #11
three of us are saying, .... wtf. at the moment, lol. happy valentines to you... seabeyond Feb 2014 #14
More coffee, please! NYC_SKP Feb 2014 #19
thank you. it is so beautiful here today. i bet it is where you are in a totally seabeyond Feb 2014 #21
No white here: I'm not in NYC anymore, not since '88. NYC_SKP Feb 2014 #24
ahhhhh... i want. lol. seabeyond Feb 2014 #25
ohh congrats! irisblue Feb 2014 #33
Then Happy Valentine's Day dipsydoodle Feb 2014 #9
ah, you.... lol seabeyond Feb 2014 #12
Happy Valentine's Day, Baines! Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #13
woman.... jumpin across the net, lol seabeyond Feb 2014 #17
Playing? Dar-ling. I am Playing - Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #20
lite/dark seabeyond Feb 2014 #22
had one of the worst shifts ever in my entire career on my job yesterday. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #23
you are so special. nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #26
I'm grateful irisblue Feb 2014 #15
I didn't mean to suggest you didn't count BainsBane Feb 2014 #16
dear Sister irisblue Feb 2014 #34
Anytime BainsBane Feb 2014 #35
. seabeyond Feb 2014 #18
valentine's day is corporate marketing to the brainwashed. what's love got to do with it? nt msongs Feb 2014 #27
Anything and everything you want it to... LanternWaste Feb 2014 #46
I'm bi, and to be honest I am glad I'm not in the 'dating scene' right now cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #28
Happy Valentines Day to us all! Hell Hath No Fury Feb 2014 #29
That looks good! JTFrog Feb 2014 #36
I found this last week... awoke_in_2003 Feb 2014 #39
OMG.... JTFrog Feb 2014 #42
Just last week? BainsBane Feb 2014 #44
I am not much of a sweet tooth awoke_in_2003 Feb 2014 #45
Are people advocating Steak and a BJ Day again?... awoke_in_2003 Feb 2014 #30
what was that ? JI7 Feb 2014 #37
I am not for S&BJ day... awoke_in_2003 Feb 2014 #38
yes, that's how i see it JI7 Feb 2014 #40
thanks BB.....I'm single realllllly single..... BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2014 #31
Single lonely here. Thanks. mucifer Feb 2014 #41
Happy Valentine's Day, Mucifer! BainsBane Feb 2014 #43
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
1. well, woman, there is a thought. i was going to suggest you buy yourself a box of chocs.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:32 AM
Feb 2014

but, get sees, not the cheap stuff.

Stargazer09

(2,131 posts)
7. Thank you
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:46 AM
Feb 2014

I have always hated that stupid swimsuit issue. Way back when, I had a really nice figure, but I could never look like those girls. It was depressing.

Hubby still looks, but he's loving and respectful most of the time, so I can't complain. At least he doesn't turn into a slobbering fool the way some men do.

Stargazer09

(2,131 posts)
32. Oh, I know
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 03:03 PM
Feb 2014

Photoshop wasn't in widespread use when I was younger, though. And at the time, I didn't know just how much the photos were manipulated.

All I knew was that I didn't look very good in comparison.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
5. hey.... kinda what the hearts below represent. love, connection, respect....
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:44 AM
Feb 2014

interesting that

thank you baines. always.

raINING HEARTS... done hunting images. THINGS to DO, lol

 

NYC_SKP

(68,644 posts)
6. Recommended.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:44 AM
Feb 2014

And always remember:

There's no accounting for taste, and liberal Americans are still products of their culture.

Take care!



 

NYC_SKP

(68,644 posts)
11. Some members enjoy greater latitude in what they post than others.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:51 AM
Feb 2014

I don't want to call anyone out, but I'm seeing the same posts as you.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
14. three of us are saying, .... wtf. at the moment, lol. happy valentines to you...
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:54 AM
Feb 2014


poor duers that are getting my reply, today. lol
 

NYC_SKP

(68,644 posts)
19. More coffee, please!
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:00 PM
Feb 2014

I know, I confused two different posts in the other forums....

In any event, happy day to you, too, seabeyond!

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
21. thank you. it is so beautiful here today. i bet it is where you are in a totally
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:12 PM
Feb 2014

opposite manner. mine is breezy, windows open enjoying the fresh air. lol

i betcha your is the awesome of white.

 

NYC_SKP

(68,644 posts)
24. No white here: I'm not in NYC anymore, not since '88.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:49 PM
Feb 2014

I'm in Northern California now.

It's overcast today- heading to the coast to get the keys for a place I've been saving up for for many years, always a dream to live in the same coastal community where we went every summer as children.

Today is "here are your keys" day!


 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
25. ahhhhh... i want. lol.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:56 PM
Feb 2014

good for you, all over the place. i hear ya. and am excited with you. too much fun.

thank you for letting us know.

yea.

irisblue

(32,828 posts)
33. ohh congrats!
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 06:43 PM
Feb 2014

may there be many joyful days, cuddly nights and never lose power, and your toilets ALWAYS work. So mote it be
and we need pictures!

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
13. Happy Valentine's Day, Baines!
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:54 AM
Feb 2014


Amazes me that some women are excited and willingly reduce their own self to a "Steak and a BJ" taking all comers. You know, they are all pals.

Of course, it is all just a joke. Fun and Games. Good times.

Lighten up, Francis.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
23. had one of the worst shifts ever in my entire career on my job yesterday.
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 12:33 PM
Feb 2014

very frustrating case ... so yeah, dark.

although, outside with sun bouncing off the snow, I must say, My Future is looking so bright I gotta wear shades

irisblue

(32,828 posts)
15. I'm grateful
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:54 AM
Feb 2014

and I'm a single Lesbian....we count too. Lesbians live under this culture as well, even if we are not sexually intimate with men.

BainsBane

(53,001 posts)
16. I didn't mean to suggest you didn't count
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 11:57 AM
Feb 2014

rather that what had me irked today is the heterosexism in GD.
If you have ideas on how I can edit my OP to be more inclusive, please let me know.

irisblue

(32,828 posts)
34. dear Sister
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 06:47 PM
Feb 2014

I know you wouldn't discount me and us.
I had a long tough day , can I think about it and get back to you on Sunday?

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
46. Anything and everything you want it to...
Mon Feb 17, 2014, 02:54 PM
Feb 2014

" what's love got to do with it..."

Anything and everything you want it to...

Though I imagine many people would rather wear the More-Cynical-Than-Thou t-shirts available at all the trendiest boutiques...

cinnabonbon

(860 posts)
28. I'm bi, and to be honest I am glad I'm not in the 'dating scene' right now
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 01:37 PM
Feb 2014

Not after seeing how certain people think here on DU. And these people are supposed to be on my side, as opposed to republicans. WELL.

I'm grateful for all you excellent ladies and for your eloquence. And now I'm going to celebrate v-day with my gf.

 

awoke_in_2003

(34,582 posts)
30. Are people advocating Steak and a BJ Day again?...
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 02:14 PM
Feb 2014

While I do enjoy both, I find the idea a bit disrespectful.

JI7

(89,173 posts)
37. what was that ?
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 08:09 PM
Feb 2014

i find most guys who laugh at these things to usually be losers and have sexist views .

 

awoke_in_2003

(34,582 posts)
38. I am not for S&BJ day...
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 08:14 PM
Feb 2014

I just happen to enjoy both. I think the joke about it is sexist. It seems to say that the wife is only there to please their husband. I do not agree with that feeling. My wife is my equal, not my sex object. Please do not misunderstand me, I am not laughing at it.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
31. thanks BB.....I'm single realllllly single.....
Fri Feb 14, 2014, 02:33 PM
Feb 2014

Like, no family, friends all busy......i like solitude, but too much of a good thing...... I love having a partner.
I really hate this.


Bleh. It's a growth experience. .... I've needed it. Just hate that it seems unending.

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