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Tue Jan 13, 2015, 04:56 PM

Damned if you do

Damned if you don't.

Gweneth Bateman had a problem that many girls and women experience online. If a boy messaged her with a compliment – on Twitter, Tinder, or elsewhere – and she didn’t reply, they’d criticise her for not replying.

The 18-year-old said most of the boys who criticised her felt they were owed a response and that she should be grateful for the compliment.

So she decided to run an experiment she’d seen on Tumblr: If a boy messaged her with a compliment, she would reply with a warmer, nicer answer, agreeing with and accepting the comment

http://www.buzzfeed.com/rossalynwarren/this-is-what-happens-when-women-actually-accept-a-compliment?bffb&utm_term=4ldqpgp#.bgLznQR5Gv

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mercuryblues Jan 2015 OP
arcane1 Jan 2015 #1
1StrongBlackMan Jan 2015 #2
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Response to mercuryblues (Original post)

Tue Jan 13, 2015, 05:21 PM

1. So, feeling attractive or confident is only valid if it's a gift from someone else

 

That way, THEY get full ownership of it, and the only correct response is to give gratitude in return.

Who is raising these idots?

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Response to arcane1 (Reply #1)

Tue Jan 13, 2015, 05:35 PM

2. The internutz ...

 

Who is raising these idots?

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Response to 1StrongBlackMan (Reply #2)

Tue Jan 13, 2015, 05:38 PM

3. I was afraid of that answer. Fuckin' screens raising the future :(

 

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Response to arcane1 (Reply #3)

Tue Jan 13, 2015, 06:23 PM

4. makes you

long for the days when the TV was the babysitter.

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